UKristen Bell "Ukhumbula ngentloko" ezi ngcebiso zonxibelelwano olusempilweni

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Ngelixa abanye abadumileyo babanjwa ziingxabano, uKristen Bell ujolise ekufundeni indlela yokuguqula ungquzulwano lube yimfesane.

Ekuqaleni kwale veki, TheVeronica Mars Umdlali weqonga wabelane nge-Instagram post evela kuprofesa wophando u-Brené Brown malunga "nolwimi olungavakaliyo," olubhekisa kubaqhekezi bomkhenkce kunye nabaqala incoko abanokutshintsha ingxoxo engathandekiyo ukusuka kwindawo yobutshaba ukuya ekuthandeni ukwazi. Iposti ibandakanya iingcebiso athe uBell uceba ukukhumbula nge-ASAP kwaye, TBH, uya kubafumana beluncedo nazo. (Inxulumene: UKristen Bell usixelela ukuba kunjani ukuhlala noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo)

Kwiposti yebhlog yamva nje, uBrown-omsebenzi wakhe uhlola isibindi, ukuba semngciphekweni, ihlazo, kunye novelwano -lichaze igama "rumble" njengeyona nto intle kwaye incinciIbali laseNtshona. "Ingxolo yingxoxo, incoko, okanye intlanganiso echazwe kukuzibophelela ekuthembekeni ekubeni sesichengeni, ukuhlala unomdla kwaye unesisa, ukunamathela kumbindi ophazamisayo wokuchonga ingxaki nokusombulula, ukuthatha ikhefu kwaye ujikeleze umva xa kukho imfuneko, singoyiki ukuba namalungu ethu, kwaye, nanjengoko ugqirha wengqondo uHarriet Lerner efundisa, ukumamela ngothando olufanayo esifuna ukuviwa ngalo, "ucacisile.

Ngamanye amazwi, "i-rumble" ayisoloko iyingxabano engcolileyo, kwaye ayifuni ukuba isondele okanye ifakwe ngaphakathi njengohlaselo. Endaweni yoko, ukuduma lithuba lokufunda komnye umntu kwaye uvule ingqondo kunye nentliziyo yakho ukuze uqonde enye imbono, nokuba awuvumelani nayo.

Ingxolo, ngokwenkcazo kaBrown, lithuba lokufundisa nokufunda. Oku kuqala ngokuqonda ukuba uloyiko kunye nesibindi azidibani; Ngexesha loloyiko, soloko ukhetha isibindi, wacebisa. (Idibeneyo: 9 Uloyiko lokuyeka namhlanje)

"Xa sitsalwa phakathi koloyiko lwethu kunye nekhwelo lethu lokuba sibe nesibindi, sidinga ulwimi ekwabelwana ngalo, izakhono, izixhobo, kunye nezinto esizenza mihla le ezinokusixhasa kwingxolo," kubhala uBrown. "Khumbula, ayiluloyiko olungena endleleni yesibindi- sisixhobo. Yindlela esizikhusela ngayo, sivale, kwaye siqale ukuthumela xa sisoyika."

UBrown ucebise "ngomsindo" ngamagama akhethwe ngononophelo kunye namabinzana, anje ngo "Ndinomdla woku," "ndihambe kule nto," "ndixelele ngakumbi," okanye "undixelele ukuba kutheni le nto ingakulungeli / ingakusebenzeli."

Ngokusondela kule ncoko ngale ndlela, ngentshisakalo kunenzondo, ubeka ithoni kuye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo, utshilo uVinay Saranga, MD, ugqirha wezifo zengqondo kunye nomsunguli weSaranga Comprehensive Psychiatry.

"Xa umntu othetha naye ebona ithoni yakho enoburharha kunye nolwimi lomzimba, sele ibenza bangayamkeli into oyithethayo kuba ithumela umyalezo wokuba sele uzenzile izigqibo zakho ngaphandle kwegalelo labo," utshilo uSaranga. Ubume. Ngenxa yoko, omnye umntu akafane ayimamele into oyithethayo kuba uxakeke kakhulu ulungiselela ukuzikhusela. Ngokusebenzisa ulwimi oluqhuqhekileyo, umntu othetha naye "kunokwenzeka ukuba asebenze nawe kunokukuchasa," wongeza uSaranga.

Omnye umzekelo webinzana elixokozelayo yile: "Sobabini siyinxalenye yengxaki kwaye siyinxalenye yesisombululo," utshilo uMichael Alcee, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo osebenza eTarrytown, eNew York. (Idibeneyo: 8 Iingxaki zonxibelelwano eziqhelekileyo kubudlelwane)

"[Ibinzana] 'ukuba awuyonxalenye yesisombululo, uyinxalenye yengxaki' sisimo sokungakhathali, kwaye asiyithembi inkqubo yokungazi kunye nokufumana kunye. Kuthatha uvelwano olukhulu, umonde, kwaye ndiyakuthanda ukwenza into enamacala amathathu kwaye intsha kwezi ntlobo zeencoko, utshilo u-Alcee Ubume.

Ulwimi oluthethisayo lungaqala incoko, kodwa lunokuphelisa nengxoxo enokuthi iqale ngobundlongondlongo kwilog elula, nenqaku eliqinisekileyo. Ngokuthabatha ikhefu, uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uxoxe.

"Umdla wokufuna ukwazi umgangatho wentlonipho kunye nokulingana komntu onokuthi ungavumelani naye kwaye ugcine evulekile ithuba lokufunda kunye nokwenza into entsha kunye," utshilo u-Alcee. Ubume. "Yenza njalo ngokushumayela kuqala, kwaye uphendule okwesibini." (Izinto eziNxulumeneyo: Imithambo emi-3 yokuphefumla yokujongana noxinzelelo)

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