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Umxholo

• Iziphumo ezigqwesileyo: Kutheni le nto amadoda evakalelwa ngoxinzelelo lokujonga ngendlela ethile?
• Ukunyuka #ukuqina
• Ingaphezulu kokumila kwemizimba yethu
• Singajongana njani nemicimbi yomzimba womntu?
• Inyathelo lokuqala elilula kukwamkela umzimba wakho ukuba uyintoni

Ayisiyonto nje malunga nobunzima kunye nesihlunu, umfanekiso womzimba wamadoda uchaphazela umntu opheleleyo - kodwa kukho iindlela zokukunceda ulawule.

Malunga neebhloko ezingama-40 kumantla eStudiyo saseNtwasahlobo, apho iicic, iimodeli ezincinci zityhutyha indlela enkulu yeNew York Fashion Week, kukho olunye uhlobo lomsitho wefashoni owenzekayo.

I-Curvy Con yingqondo yeebhlogi ezimbini zefashoni ezazifuna ukwenza indawo apho "iimveliso ezinobungakanani obudibeneyo, iifashoni, iivenkile, iibhlog, kunye ne-YouTubers" ezinokuthi zamkele inani labasetyhini eligobileyo.

Umnyhadala ngomnye wemizekelo emininzi yemizamo yakutshanje yokuphakamisa ibala ekudala lihamba elinxulunyaniswa nokuba nomzimba "ongafezekanga". Intshukumo yokuqina komzimba yabasetyhini yomelele kunakuqala: Iibhanti ezinje ngehobe kunye noKhozi lwaseMelika zisungule imikhankaso yokunceda abasetyhini bafunde ukuyixabisa imizimba yabo, nokuba bayithelekisa njani nemigangatho yemidiya.

Iinjongo zentshukumo zibonakala zineenjongo ezintle, kodwa iphakamisa umbuzo: Ngaba kukho ukuhamba komzimba okuqinisekileyo kwamadoda? Ngelixa kukho ubungqina obuninzi bokuba abasetyhini bagwetywa ngakumbi ngokwembonakalo yabo kunamadoda, uphando lubonisa ukuba imiba yomzimba ejongene namadoda inzima ngokufanayo.

Abantu abadumileyo abanjengo Sam Smith no Robert Pattinson bavule ngemizabalazo yabo ngendlela abajonga ngayo kule minyaka idlulileyo, ukubonelela ngesiqinisekiso esingaphezulu sokuba umfanekiso womzimba uyingxaki emadodeni- nditsho adumileyo kwaye aphumeleleyo. Kwaye ngokufanayo nabasetyhini, uphando lubonisa ukuba amadoda ahlala ebanjwa evakalelwa kukuba acekeceke kakhulu okanye anzima kakhulu ukuhlangabezana nenqobo yamadoda.

Kodwa yintoni ebangela ukuba amadoda namhlanje azive exineke kangaka malunga nokubonakala kwawo? Yintoni kanye abangonwabi ngayo kwaye bangamelana njani nayo?

Inye into eqinisekileyo: Kanye njengemiceli mngeni abajamelene nayo abantu basetyhini, imiba yomfanekiso womzimba wamadoda anzulu kunobunzima nje.

Iziphumo ezigqwesileyo: Kutheni le nto amadoda evakalelwa ngoxinzelelo lokujonga ngendlela ethile?

Uphando olwenziwe ngoochwephesha bezengqondo kwi-UCLA lubonisa ukuba ngokubanzi, malunga nendlela abajongeka ngayo kunokuba babenjalo kwiminyaka yee-1970. Ingxaki idlulela ngaphaya komntu wasekholejini obetha indawo yokwenza umthambo ukuzama ukufumana usuku: iipesenti ezingama-90 zamakhwenkwe asezikolweni eziphakathi nasesikolweni esincinci, ngamanye amaxesha ngenjongo ezithile "yokukhutshwa."

Uninzi lwabantu abadumileyo, oososayensi, kunye nabafana abaqhelekileyo bayavuma ukuba kukho into enye enegalelo elikhulu esinokuthi senze ityala ngokunyuka komzimba ongathandekiyo kumadoda namakhwenkwe: isikrini sesilivere. Iinkwenkwezi ezinjengoHugh Jackman kunye noChris Pratt bapakisha kwimisipha ukuze batshintshe babe ngamaqhawe amakhulu ukujoyina izinto ezifana noDwayne Johnson kunye noMark Wahlberg. Oku kunyusa umdla woluntu kumadoda ekufumaneni iiresiphi zabo ze-abs ezikhethiweyo kunye ne-biceps. Kuqhubeka umjikelo okhohlakeleyo.

Inqaku lika-2014 malunga nehlabathi lanamhlanje elihlazisayo laseHollywood livula amehlo ngokukhethekileyo. Xa umqeqeshi owaziwayo we-celeb uGunnar Peterson ebuzwa ukuba uzokuphendula njani kumdlali oyindoda ozama ukuphumelela ekwenzeni italente eyedwa ngaphandle kokubonakala emhle, uphendule wathi:

Kule minyaka mithathu idlulileyo, ubuncinci i-4 kwezona bhanyabhanya zibalaseleyo zilishumi e-US ibingamabali amakhulu, ngokweedatha ezibonwe kwi-Box Office Mojo. Kwezi bhanyabhanya, imizimba yamadoda “efanelekileyo” iboniswa rhoqo, ithumela umyalezo: Ukuze ube nesibindi, uthembeke, kwaye ubekeke, kufuneka izihlunu ezikhulu.

"Le mizimba ifikeleleka kwinani elincinci labantu-mhlawumbi isiqingatha sepesenti yoluntu lwamadoda," utshilo u-Aaron Flores, ingcali yezondlo ebhalisiweyo evela eCalabasas egxile kwimifanekiso yomzimba womntu. "Kodwa ke zinxulunyaniswa nombono wobudoda - umbono wokuba njengendoda, kufuneka ndijonge ngendlela ethile, ndenze ngendlela ethile."

Ukunyuka #ukuqina

Iscreen esikhulu ayisiyiyo kuphela indawo abafana abatyhilwa kuyo yimizimba engekhoyo. Inqaku lakutshanje le-GQ malunga nefuthe le-Instagram kwimo yomzimba ichaze ukuba iipesenti ezingama-43 zabantu bathatha iifoto okanye iividiyo kwindawo yokuzivocavoca.

Ke enkosi ngokuxhaphaka kwe-Facebook kunye ne-Instagram, inani labo elidityanisiweyo lenyanga libonisa ngaphezulu kweepesenti ezingama-43 zabemi behlabathi, abancinci bethu- kwaye kungekudala bazakuba ngabakhulu - izizukulwana ziyavezwa kwimifanekiso nakwividiyo zabanye abasebenza yonke imihla.

Abanye bafumanisa ukuphakama komxholo wentlalontle yokukhuthaza, kodwa kukho inqanaba lokoyikisa elibandakanyekayo-ngakumbi abo batsha ukuzilolonga.

"Imithombo yeendaba zentlalo isibonisa bonke aba bantu bebetha indawo yokuzivocavoca, bephulukana nobunzima, bekrazuka… ucinga ukuba kungandikhuthaza, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi kundenza ndifune ukufihla ekoneni," undixelele umhlobo.

Kuqikelelwa ukuba umntu omdala oqhelekileyo waseMelika ngoku uchitha ngaphezulu kwe- $ 110,000 ngalo lonke ixesha lokuphila kwabo kwiindleko zempilo kunye nezempilo. Naliphi na ixesha uFitness franchise kuphela wongeze ii-gyms ezingama-3,000 kwihlabathi liphela kule minyaka ili-10 idlulileyo.

Phakathi kokutya kwethu kwe-Instagram, iinkqubo zeTV, kunye neemovie, kunzima kubafana ukuphepha imifanekiso yamadoda anezihlunu, ezakhiwe. Kodwa kangakanani ibhentshi ikude nomfanekiso womzimba kuphela oxhalabisayo-umfanekiso womzimba wamadoda unzima ngakumbi kunomsipha nje.

Ingaphezulu kokumila kwemizimba yethu

Imithombo yeendaba ixelela amadoda ukuba kufanelekile, somelele, kwaye sibe yimisipha. Kodwa umzabalazo womzimba womntu wesilisa ungaphezulu kobume bemizimba yethu. Phakathi kwezinye izinto ezixhalabisayo, amadoda acinga ngendlela yokujongana nokulahleka kweenwele, ukuqonda ukuphakama, kunye nokhathalelo lolusu.

Icandelo lokulahleka kweenwele lilodwa liqikelelwa ukuba lixabisa i-1.5 yezigidigidi zeedola. Hayi enkosi kwihlazo, amadoda anezinwele okanye angenazo iinwele anokujongana nenkolelo yokuba ayinamtsalane, ayathandeka, kwaye ayazimela. Uphando lufumanise ukuba ukulahleka kweenwele kunxulunyaniswa neemvakalelo zokungoneliseki, uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi.

Ngokubhekisele ekuphakameni, idatha ibonisa ukuba abantu banxulumana namadoda amade anamanqanaba aphezulu e-charisma, imfundo okanye ubunkokeli, ukwanda kwempumelelo yomsebenzi, kunye nobomi obomeleleyo bokuthandana.

Kodwa kwindawo entsha, iimveliso zolusu ezijolise kwindoda ziyanda iimveliso zentengiso ezijolise kwinkxalabo efanayo neempawu ezijolise kwabasetyhini:

• imibimbi
• ukujika kwesikhumba
• ulingano lobuso, imilo, kunye nobungakanani

Iinkqubo zokuthambisa zamadoda zonyuke ngeepesenti ezingama-325 ukusukela ngo-1997.

• imithambo
• utyando lwempumlo
• utyando lweenkophe
• ukunciphisa amabele emadodeni
• Ubuso

Enye indawo ebuthathaka yomgwebo kumzimba wamadoda obandakanya konke oku kungasentla? Igumbi lokulala. Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2008 lwabonisa ubungakanani bepenisi njengenye yezona zinto zintathu ziphambili kumfanekiso womzimba wabantu abathandanayo, kunye nobunzima nokuphakama.

"Yinto engathethwayo, kodwa ukuba awukhangeli ngandlela ithile okanye wenze indlela ethile [ngokwesondo], kunokuba ngumceli mngeni kubudoda bakho," utshilo uFlores.

Uphando lubonisa ukuba uninzi lwamadoda luva ngathi ubudoda babo buncinci kunomndilili. Ezi mvakalelo zingalunganga malunga nobungakanani besini kunokukhokelela kukuzithemba okuphantsi, iintloni kunye neentloni malunga nokwabelana ngesondo.

Kwaye ayothusi into yokuba ii-brand sele zibanjiwe. I-Hims, uphawu olutsha lwentlalontle yamadoda, luzithengisa kakhulu njengevenkile yokumisa-ukusuka kukhathalelo lolusu ukuya kwizilonda ezibandayo ukuya kukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile. Ngokuka-Hims, kuphela li-1 kumadoda ali-10 azive ekhululekile ukuthetha nogqirha wawo ngenkangeleko yawo kunye nempilo.

Singajongana njani nemicimbi yomzimba womntu?

Icala elimnyama lokwanda kutshanje kotyando lwezithambiso lwamadoda, izithuba zosasazo zasekuhlaleni malunga nokuqina, kunye nosaziwayo "iinguqu" ngumbono osisiseko wokuba abafana kufuneka baphucule imizimba yabo. Umdyarho wentengiso ngokudibeneyo ukuze wamkele ukonwaba komzimba ungakhokelela kukuzijonga okungalunganga kwaye unokukhawuleza ube yinyani kwaye ungafuneki.

Nokuba uyazi iingxaki, umfanekiso womzimba unzima ukujongana nawo. Owona mceli mngeni uphambili ulula - abonelanga abantu abathetha ngemicimbi yokuzibona ejongene namadoda.

"Ngelixa umba [womzimba womntu] awusothusi, akukabikho mntu uthetha ngawo okanye owenza umsebenzi ukuze ubengcono," utsho uFlores. Undixelele ukuba uhlala ethatha izithuba zosasazo lwentlalo ezimalunga nabasetyhini malunga nokuzithemba komzimba kwaye azenze zibe ziinguqulelo ezinobuhlobo emadodeni.

Inyathelo lokuqala elilula kukwamkela umzimba wakho ukuba uyintoni

UFlores uthe ukuthatha isigqibo sokonwaba nomzimba wakho kwaye ungazinikeli ubomi bakho bonke “ekuwulungiseni” kukodwa sisenzo semvukelo, kuba uluntu lwethu lujolise ekufezekiseni umzimba ofanelekileyo.

Kukwaluncedo ukuhlengahlengisa iisayithi zakho zemidiya yoluntu ukubonisa umxholo kuphela oya kuvuselela iimvakalelo ezintle ngomzimba wakho.

UFlores uthi: "Ndibona kakhulu malunga nento engena kwisondlo sam." "Ndiza kuthula okanye ndingalandeli abantu ababonisa ukutya okuninzi okanye intetho yomzimba, ngenxa yokuba ayisiyondlela endinxibelelana ngayo. Andikhathali nokuba abahlobo bam benza i-keto okanye i-Whole30, okanye ukuba bangaphina kangaphi - ayisiyiyo le nto ichaza ubuhlobo bethu. "

Ezinye iindlela abafana abanokujamelana nemicimbi yomzimba:

• Thetha ngayo kwilizwe lokwenyani. Ukunxibelelana nomhlobo oyindoda kunokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo ukujonga ngendlela ethile. Amaqela akwi-Intanethi okhuthaza umzimba alungile, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ubaleke kwimidiya yoluntu kwaye uchithe ixesha kwiindawo ezinemifanekiso yokwenyani yabantu, njengevenkile yokutya yekofu okanye indawo yokutyela.
• Wamkele umzimba wakho. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba uyimbaleki okanye awuphelelanga kwaphela-zama ukonwaba ngendlela okhangeleka ngayo. Ukuba uthatha amanyathelo asebenzayo ukuze ube sempilweni ngokwenza umthambo okanye ukutya, yamkela uhambo. Endaweni yokugxila kwinto ongayithandiyo, ziqhenye ngokuzama ukutshintsha into onokuyilawula.
• Musa ukoyika ukuba sesichengeni. "Ayisiyongxaki kubudoda bakho," utsho uFlores malunga nokuvuleka nokunyaniseka malunga nomzabalazo womzimba. "Ukuba singafunda ukwabelana ngamava ethu, zombini ezibi kunye nezintle, kulapho kuvela khona ukuphilisa."
• Zikhumbuze ukuba imifanekiso yomzimba eboniswa yimidiya ayisiyonyani. Imithombo yeendaba ilungile ngokwenene ekuboniseni imizimba engekho ngqiqweni kunye nokuchaza kakubi umzimba ophakathi- kwaye oko kubandakanya imizimba yamadoda. Amaziko oLawulo lweNtsholongwane kunye noThintelo (CDC) axele ukuba akukho mahluko ubonakalayo ekufumaneni ukutyeba phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini. Kulungile ukucela umngeni kwimifanekiso oyibonayo. Ukuzithemba kufanele kwakhiwe kuwe nakwimizamo yakho, hayi oko kuthethwa ngabanye abantu.

Ngaphezu kwako konke, khumbula ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive ungakhuselekanga malunga nendlela okhangeleka ngayo. Yiba nobubele kuwe, uhlakulele imikhwa elungileyo, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukwamkela oko ungenakukutshintsha ukuze uzinike imbonakalo esempilweni emzimbeni wakho.