Umzuzu ofanelekileyo: Ndiyeka njani ukucingela eyona nto imbi?

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Ngokungafaniyo Pharrell, wena musa ndizive ndiqhwaba. Enyanisweni, umlinganiselo wolonwabo lwakhe unokukucaphukisa. Akunjalo nje ukuba unomdla-onenhlanhla-udla ngokuba unokuba nethemba. Ivakala iqhelekile? Ukucinga okungalunganga kwenzeka kuthi sonke, kodwa xa kusiba ngumzekelo, kuba yingxaki. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ulindele okubi kakhulu, awusoze wothuke xa kusenzeka intlekele. Kodwa, ngaba uyafuna nyani ukuphila ngaloo ndlela?

Kukho umahluko phakathi kokuba sisiphukuphuku esempilweni kunye nokuthintela impendulo yakho ukuze uhlale ucinga eyona imbi kakhulu-kwaye umgca ulungile. Ke uyazi njani ukuba ithemba lakho lokufuna ithemba lifanele liphinde linikezelwe? Iiflegi ezimbalwa ezibomvu:

1. Indlela ophendula ngayo kuqala kukubona icala. Yintoni engahambi kakuhle? Yintoni engekhoyo? Yintoni ethandabuzekayo?

2. Ufumanisa ukuba nguwe owalatha into enokuthi ingalunganga kwaye iyingozi ngayo yonke imeko. Uziva unebhongo elingaqhelekanga lokuba uyagxeka kwaye abahlobo bakho bangamaPollyannaish.

3. Uzithatha njengommeli kasathana, kodwa abahlobo bakho bakubiza ngokuba nguDebbie Downer, okanye ukwahluka okudandathekisayo.

4. Nokuba imeko / isipho / imini igqibelele, usalumkile kwaye ungaze ube nemincili kakhulu ngayo.

5. Ubusoloko "ungumntu okruqulayo", umntu othanda ipati, umntu othandabuzayo. Njengomntwana, iglasi ayizange ijonge ingaze ibe nesiqingatha kuwe.

Ke umzuzu ufikile apho uqaphela ukuba umgangatho wobomi uyabandezeleka-uyavuma ukuba unomona awungekhe uhleke ngokulula njengaye wonke umntu, kwaye isimo sakho sengqondo siziva ngathi yibhola nekhonkco kunesipho. Apha, iindlela ezintlanu zokuqala ukufumana ubomi njengokukhanya okuncinci. [Twitha esi sicwangciso!]

1. Umdaniso... nabantwana (okanye abantu abadala abasebenza njengabantwana). Awazi ukuba kukho abantwana abafumanekayo ukuba bangadanisa nabo? Tshixa iingcango kuqhushumbe umculo kwaye ujikeleze imizuzu emihlanu. Uphando lubonisa isingqisho, ukudanisa okufana ne-pogo kuyayinceda imo yakho. Sukuba nexhala malunga nendlela obukeka ngayo, neyona nkukhu imnandi kakhulu iyakwenza.

2. Yemba nzulu ukuze ubone apho "ufunde" khona ukuba ungathandeki. Amathuba okuba unomzali ongumzekelo wokuziphatha okufanayo okanye wathetha phandle ngayo yonke into enokonakala kuyo yonke imeko. Ukuqonda ukuba uyithathe phi le nto kunokukunceda uyikhulule.

3. Hleka ngakumbi. Qala uluhlu lokudlala lwee-vids ze-YouTube eziza kukuqhekeza. Iintsana ezisileyo, iikati ezingalungelelananga, iipranks okanye umdlalo ohlekisayo-yenza oku njengomsebenzi wasekhaya kunye nokuziqhelanisa (ewe, ziqhelanise) ukuhleka. Ndincoma A Smile, a Grin, A laugh, That's Life by Victoria and John Galasso.

4. Zibuze, "Ngaba ndinokuba yi-dysthymic?" Abantu abanesifo sokudakumba esinganyangekiyo bahlala bengafumaneki, babizwa ngokuba "ngabangonwabanga," endaweni yokuba babe sezantsi kwii-neurotransmitters ezibanceda bazive belungelelene kwaye benethemba.

5. Yandisa amaxesha olonwabo. Emva koko qalisa ukuzidibanisa ukuze wenze imizuzwana eyonwabileyo ibe yimizuzu yolonwabo kunye neeyure!

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