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• Yabelana ngokuJongwa kweNjongo
• Cinezela i-To-Dos yakho
• Yenza isithuba seNgqondo esingakumbi
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Kule minyaka yangoku yokudinwa, kukhuselekile ukuthi uninzi lwabantu luziva luxinezelekile kubuninzi be-24 / 7- kwaye oomama abadluli. Ngokomndilili, oomama bathatha iipesenti ezingama-65 zokukhathalela abantwana kwizibini ezitshatileyo abangabanini bobabini abafumana imali, utshilo ugqirha wezengqondo uDarcy Lockman, Ph.D., umbhali we Yonke Ingqumbo: Oomama, ootata, kunye neNtsomi yoBudlelwane obulinganayo (Thenga, $27, bookshop.org).

Oko kuyinxalenye ebangelwe ziipateni ezendeleyo ebomini. "Amantombazana ayanconywa ngokucinga ngabanye kunye nokunceda - okanye ukuhlala kunye. Amakhwenkwe ayavuzwa ngokucinga ngeenjongo zawo kunye nezinto eziphambili - ukuba 'ne-agency,' utshilo u-Lockman. Bakhawuleza ukuba nabantwana babo, kwaye “umama uthwaliswe umthwalo wengqondo ngokupheleleyo,” wongezelela.

Ke ayimangalisi into yokuba ungakudinga kakhulu ukuphefumla. Ukuba kunjalo, zama ezi ndlela zintathu zokujongana nako nakuphi na ukudinwa komama osenokuba ukuva. (Idibeneyo: Iindlela ezi-6 zokuFunda ukuLawula uxinzelelo njengoMama oMtsha)

Yabelana ngokuJongwa kweNjongo

Oomama banikwe umsebenzi "wokukhumbula inkumbulo" -oko kukuthi, ukukhumbula ukukhumbula, utshilo u-Elizabeth Haines, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo kunye nonjingalwazi kwiYunivesithi yaseWilliam Paterson eNew Jersey. "Kwaye siyazi ukuba xa abantu berhafiswa ngokukhumbula iinjongo, ivala umsebenzi wobuchopho - yipad yakho yengqondo."

Ukuba uhlangabezana nokudinwa ngumama, iHaines icebisa ukuba kusetyenziswe iikhalenda zedijithali ekwabelwana ngazo kunye nezicwangciso ezikhuthazayo zokuxhobisa abantwana kunye namaqabane ukuba bathambekele kwiinjongo zabo. Ngaloo ndlela, uphinda ufumane i-mindshare kwaye "bafumana izakhono ezibalulekileyo ekusebenzeni kunye neemvakalelo zobuchule - wonke umntu uyaphumelela," kusho uHaines.

Cinezela i-To-Dos yakho

"Musa ukuyipepeta usuku lwakho noluhlu lwezinto ozenzela usapho," utsho Ubume Ilungu leBrain Trust uChristine Carter, Ph.D., umbhali we Ukufikisa okutsha (Yithenge, $ 16, bookshop.org). Endaweni yoko, vala ixesha elivelweyo usuku olunye ngeveki ngenxa yento uCarter ayibiza ngokuba "ngumlawuli wosapho." Yenza ifolda kwi-imeyile yakho ukuze ufake izaziso ezingenayo ezivela ezikolweni kunye nokunye, kwaye ube nebhokisi yebhokisi ye-in-box ukuze ujongane nayo ngexesha leyure ekhethiweyo yamandla. Ukwenza njalo kuya kuyibonisa ingqondo yakho ukuba ipholile ngoku kwaye kunceda ukuthintela ukudinwa komama. “Amaxesha amaninzi, sikhathazwa ziingcinga eziphazamisayo ezifana, kufuneka ndikhumbule ukwenza leya naleya naleyo,” utshilo. “Kodwa kukho inkqubo encinci yobuchopho esikhupha kwezi ngcinga zikhathazayo ngokuthatha isigqibo nini uya kuwugqiba umsebenzi. ” (Ukusebenzisa ezi ngcebiso ukuyeka ukuzibekela amangomso kuya kunceda.)

Yenza isithuba seNgqondo esingakumbi

Xa uludwe lwengqondo luziva lusiva kwaye lusenza mandundu ngakumbi ukudinwa kukamama wakho, zama ukuqalisa kwakhona. "Ukuzilolonga nge-Aerobic yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokudala isithuba kwakhona kwiphepha lakho lengqondo," utshilo uHaines. “Xa usenza umthambo, unciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye uphefumle zonke iiseli ezikwinkqubo yakho. Inokudala ukuseta kwakhona kubhayoloji kwaye itshintshe indlela ocinga ngayo ibengcono. ”

Shape Magazine, Okthobha 2020 umba

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