Ukukhubazeka Kwam Kundifundise Ukuba Ihlabathi Liyafikeleleka

Umxholo

• Kwiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo, ngendisibonile isakhiwo ukuba siyafikeleleka. Emva koko umbono wam utshintshile ngomzimba wam.
• Ngendlela yokuthetha, ukufumana ukukhubazeka kwam kundinike ezi 'glasi.' Oko kwakukhangeleka njengendawo efikelelekayo kum xa ndandinomzimba ngoku oqaqambileyo umi ngokungafikeleleki.
• Kukho umba wokuhlala. Ukwenza nje indawo apho isitulo esinamavili okanye esinye isixhobo sokuhamba esilinganayo asonelanga.
• Nokuba isakhiwo okanye indawo ifikeleleka kakhulu, kuluncedo kuphela ukuba ezi zixhobo zigcinwa zilungile.
• Ukuba womelele kwaye ufunda le nto, ndifuna ukuba ujonge kwezi ndawo. Nokuba kubonakala ngathi 'kuyafikeleleka' ngokufuthi akunjalo. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo? Thetha uviwe.

Ndingene kwesi sakhiwo, ndinamehlo amabi, ndikulungele ukuhamba ngendlela efanayo yesiqhelo endiyenze yonke imihla kangangeenyanga. Xa ndiphakamisa isandla sam kwimemori yezihlunu ukutyhala iqhosha "phezulu", into entsha yanditsala.

Ndijonge uphawu "olungaphandle komyalelo" oluncamathiselwe kwilifti kwiziko endilithandayo. Kwiminyaka emithathu eyadlulayo, ngendingazange ndithathele ngqalelo kwaye ndimane ndinyathela isinyuko esisecaleni kwayo, ndiyithatha njengebhonasi ye-cardio.

Kodwa ngeli xesha, oko kwakuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka nditshintshe izicwangciso zam zosuku.

Indlela yam yemihla ngemihla yokubetha echibini (ekuphela kwendawo endinokuhamba ngokukhululekileyo kuyo) kabini ngemini kunye nokubhala kwindawo ethe cwaka kumgangatho ongaphezulu kuye kwaphazanyiswa kukungakwazi kwam ukukhupha i-walker, ibhegi yeelaptop, kunye nomzimba okhubazekileyo ukunyuka izinyuko

Into endakha ndayibona njengengxaki yayisisithintelo, indikhupha kwindawo endandisoloko ndifikelela kuyo ngaphambili.

Kwiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo, ngendisibonile isakhiwo ukuba siyafikeleleka. Emva koko umbono wam utshintshile ngomzimba wam.

Ndandineminyaka engama-30 ubudala xa imeko eguqukayo yomqolo ekugqibeleni yandiphakamisa ukusuka kwintlungu ukuya kwimo yokukhubazeka.

Ngelixa bendihlala ndibhadula esixekweni kangangeyure ngexesha, ndiwuthatha kancinci umzimba wam, ndaqala ukuba nengxaki yokuhamba umgama omde.

Emva kwexesha elingangeenyanga ezimbalwa, ndayeka ukubanakho ukuhamba epakini, emva kwendlu, emva koko ndirhangqe indlu yam, kude kube yinto yokuma ndedwa ixesha elingaphezulu komzuzu okanye iintlungu ezinganyamezelekiyo.

Ndayilwa nayo ekuqaleni. Ndabona iingcali kwaye ndinazo zonke iimvavanyo. Ekugqibeleni kuye kwafuneka ndiyamkele into yokuba andinakuze ndiphinde ndomelele.

Ndiginye ikratshi lam, nokoyika kwam ukuba imeko yam iya kuhlala ihleli, kwaye ndikhusele imvume yokupaka enabantu abakhubazekileyo kunye nokuhambahamba okundivumela ukuba ndihambe imizuzu eliqela ngexesha phambi kokuba ndifune ukuphumla.

Ngexesha kunye nokuphanda komphefumlo, ndaqala ukwamkela isazisi sam esitsha sokukhubazeka.

Umhlaba wonke, ndafunda ngokukhawuleza, andizange.

Kukho imovie eyoyikekayo yama-80s ebizwa ngokuba “Bayaphila,” apho iiglasi ezikhethekileyo zinika umlingiswa kaRoddy Piper uNada ukubanako ukubona oko abanye bangakwaziyo.

Kwilizwe liphela, yonke into ijongeka inje ngoku, kodwa ngezi glasi, uNada unokubona ukubhala "okwenyani" kwimiqondiso nakwezinye izinto ezingalunganga kwihlabathi elibonakala liqhelekile kwaye lamkelekile kuninzi.

Ngendlela yokuthetha, ukufumana ukukhubazeka kwam kundinike ezi 'glasi.' Oko kwakukhangeleka njengendawo efikelelekayo kum xa ndandinomzimba ngoku oqaqambileyo umi ngokungafikeleleki.

Andithethi nje ngeendawo ezingakhange zenze mzamo wokuphumeza izixhobo ezifikelelekayo kwimeko-bume yazo (ngumxholo wenye ingxoxo leyo), kodwa iindawo ezibonakala zifikeleleka- {textend} ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukufikelela.

Bendihlala ndibona uphawu olukhubazekileyo kwaye ndicinga ukuba indawo yenzelwe abantu abakhubazekileyo. Ndacinga ukuba ingcinga ethile ibekwe kwindlela abantu abakhubazekileyo abaya kuyisebenzisa ngayo indawo, hayi nje ukufaka i-ramp okanye ucango lwamandla kwaye ubize ukuba ufikeleleke.

Ngoku, ndiyaqaphela iiramps ezixineneyo kakhulu ekusebenziseni kakuhle isitulo esinamavili. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndisebenzisa isihamba sam kwindawo yemidlalo bhanyabhanya endiyithandayo kunye nomzabalazo wokutyhiliza ukuthambeka kwerampu, ndicinga ngendlela ekunokuba nzima ngayo ukulawula isitulo esinamavili kule thambeka. Mhlawumbi yiloo nto ndingazange ndibone umntu osebenzisa isitulo esinamavili kule ndawo.

Ngapha koko, kukho iirampu ezinee-curbs emazantsi, zoyisa yonke injongo yazo. Ndinelungelo lokuhamba ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndiphakamise isihamba sam phezu kwebhampu, kodwa ayinguye wonke umntu okhubazekileyo onobuchule.

Ngamanye amaxesha ukufikeleleka kuyaphela ngokufikelela kwisakhiwo.

"Ndingangena ngaphakathi kwesi sakhiwo, kodwa indlu yangasese inyuke okanye yehla," utsho umbhali uClouds Haberberg malunga nalo mbandela. "Okanye ndingangena ngaphakathi kwesi sakhiwo, kodwa ipaseji ayonelanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba isitulo esinamavili esisikhokelo sihambe ngokwaso."

Amagumbi okuphumla anokukhohlisa ngakumbi. Uhambo lwam lungena ngaphakathi kwiindawo ezininzi zokuphumla ezichongiweyo. Kodwa eneneni ukungena etafileni lelinye ibali ngokupheleleyo.

Ndiyakwazi ukuma okomzuzwana ngexesha, nto leyo ethetha ukuba ndiyakwazi ukuvula umnyango ngesandla sam ngelixa ndityhala umntu endihamba naye esitratweni nomnye. Ukuphuma, ndingacinezela umzimba wam omileyo uphume ngomnyango ukuze uphume kunye nesihamba sam.

Abantu abaninzi abanalo eli nqanaba lokuhamba kunye / okanye bafuna uncedo kumgcini womntu ongena ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwetafile.

U-Aimee Christian, onentombi esebenzisa isitulo esinamavili, uthi: “Ngamanye amaxesha baphosa nje ithambeka lokuthobela i-ADA balibize ngosuku, kodwa akangeni apho okanye ahambe kamnandi.

Kananjalo ucango lwestall efikelelekayo ludla ngokuba yingxaki kuba akukho maqhosha, utshilo. "Ukuba ivula ngaphandle, kunzima ukuba ingene, kwaye ukuba ivula ngaphakathi, phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba aphume."

I-Aimee ikwabonisa ukuba amaxesha amaninzi iqhosha lamandla lomnyango kwigumbi langasese liphela ngaphandle. Ithetha ukuba abo bayifunayo banokungena ngokuzimela - {textend} kodwa kufuneka balinde uncedo ukuze baphume, bababambe ngokufanelekileyo kwigumbi langasese.

Kukho umba wokuhlala. Ukwenza nje indawo apho isitulo esinamavili okanye esinye isixhobo sokuhamba esilinganayo asonelanga.

Umbhali uCharis Hill ngamava abo akutshanje kwiikonsathi ezimbini uthi: “Zombini iindawo‘ zokuhlala isitulo esinamavili ’zazisemva kwabantu ababemi.

"Andiboni nto ngaphandle kwamanqina kunye nomqolo, kwaye kwakungekho ndlela ikhuselekileyo yokuba ndiphume phakathi kwesihlwele ukuba ndifuna ukusebenzisa indlu yangasese, kuba bekukho abantu abandingqongileyo," utsho uCharis.

UCharis ukwafumene imiba yokubonakala kumngcelele wabasetyhini balapha, apho indawo efikelelekayo yokukhubazeka yayingenawo umbono ocacileyo wenqanaba kunye netoliki ye-ASL, eyayimi emva kwezithethi.

Itoliki yayivalwe ngexesha lokuhamba okungagungqiyo- {textend} elinye ityala lokunika inkohliso yamanyathelo okufikelela ngaphandle kwesicelo esisebenzayo.

Kwi-Sacramento Pride, uCharis kwafuneka athembele abantu angabaziyo ukuba bahlawulele kwaye abanike ibhiya yabo, kuba intente yebhiya yayiphezulu. Bajongane nomqobo omnye nesikhululo soncedo sokuqala.

Kwikonsathi yomnyhadala wepaki, ibango elifikelelekayo lembiza lalikhona - {textend} kodwa lalibekwe kwingca kwaye lifakwe kwikona ethi uCharis waphantse watyibilika eludongeni lwangasemva ngesitulo esinamavili.

Ngamanye amaxesha ukufumana naphi na ukuhlala kuyo yonke ingxaki. Kwincwadi yakhe ethi "Omuhle," uKeah Brown ubhala ileta yothando kwizitulo ebomini bakhe. Ndadibana nale nto kakhulu; Ndinothando olunzulu ngabo bakum.

Kumntu ohamba ngenqwelomoya kodwa enesithintelo sokuhamba, ukubona isitulo kungafana ne-oasis entlango.

Nokuba ndihambahamba, andinakuma okanye ndihambe ixesha elide, nto leyo enokwenza kube buhlungu ukuma kwimigca emide okanye ukuhamba kwiindawo ezingenamabala wokumisa nokuhlala.

Kwakhe kwenzeka oku xa ndandiseofisini ukuze ndifumane imvume yam yokupaka abakhubazekileyo!

Nokuba isakhiwo okanye indawo ifikeleleka kakhulu, kuluncedo kuphela ukuba ezi zixhobo zigcinwa zilungile.

Amaxesha amaninzi ndicofe iqhosha lomnyango kwaye akukho nto yenzekayo. Iingcango zamandla ezingenamandla azifikeleleki njengeengcango zemanyuwali - {textend} kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zinzima!

Kukwanjalo nangelifti. Sele kungxaki kubantu abakhubazekileyo ukuba bafune ilifti edla ngokubekwa ngaphaya kwalapho bazama ukuya khona.

Ukufumanisa ukuba ilifti ayisebenzi kakuhle ayisiyongxaki nje; yenza nantoni na ngaphezulu komgangatho womhlaba ingafikeleleki.

Kwakundicaphukisa ukufumana indawo entsha yokusebenzela kwiziko le-rec. Kodwa ukuba ibiyi-ofisi kagqirha wam okanye indawo yengqesho, ibinokuba nefuthe elikhulu.

Andilindelanga ukuba izinto ezinjengeengcango zamandla kunye neelifti zilungiswe kwangoko. Kodwa oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo xa kusakhiwa. Ukuba unelifti enye, abantu abakhubazekileyo baya kungena njani kwamanye imigangatho xa yaphukile? Ngaba inkampani iya kuyilungisa ngokukhawuleza kangakanani? Ngolunye usuku? Iveki enye?

Le yimizekelo nje yezinto endicinga ukuba ziyafikeleleka ngaphambi kokuba ndikhubazeke kwaye ndixhomekeke kuzo.

Ndingachitha amanye amagama aliwaka ndixoxa ngakumbi: iindawo zokupaka ezikhubazekileyo ezingashiyi ndawo yoncedo lokuhamba, iirampu ezingenazimbambo, iindawo ezilungele isitulo esinamavili kodwa zingashiyi sithuba saneleyo sokuba zijike. Uluhlu luyaqhubeka.

Kwaye ndijolise ikakhulu ekukhubazekeni kokuhamba apha. Khange ndichukumise nakwiindawo apho "zifikelelekayo" iindawo ezingafikelelekiyo kubantu abaneentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokukhubazeka.

Ukuba womelele kwaye ufunda le nto, ndifuna ukuba ujonge kwezi ndawo. Nokuba kubonakala ngathi 'kuyafikeleleka' ngokufuthi akunjalo. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo? Thetha uviwe.

Ukuba ungumnini weshishini okanye unesithuba esamkela uluntu, ndiyakubongoza ukuba ugqithe ngaphaya kokufikelela nje ubuncinci ekufumaneni iimfuno. Cinga ukuqesha umcebisi okhubazekileyo ukuvavanya indawo yakho yokufikeleleka kobomi bokwenyani.

Thetha nabantu abakhubazeke ngokwenyani, ungakhi nje abayili, malunga nokuba ziyasebenziseka na okanye hayi. Phumeza amanyathelo anokusebenziseka.

Nje ukuba indawo yakho ifikeleleke ngokwenyani, gcina unjalo ngolondolozo olufanelekileyo.

Abantu abakhubazekileyo bafanele ukufikelela ngokufanayo kwiindawo ezinabantu abomeleleyo. Sifuna ukujoyina. Kwaye usithembe, ufuna nathi phaya, nathi. Sizisa okuninzi etafileni.

Kunye nolungelelwaniso olubonakala ngathi lincinci njengokuqhekezwa komgaqo kunye nezitulo ezibekwa manqaphanqapha, ungenza umahluko omkhulu kubantu abakhubazekileyo.

Khumbula ukuba naphi na apho kufikeleleka khona kubantu abakhubazekileyo kuyafikeleleka, kwaye kuhlala kulunge nangakumbi kubantu abomeleleyo.

Kuyafana, nangona kunjalo, akuyonyani ukubuyela umva. Ikhosi yesenzo icacile.

UHeather M. Jones ngumbhali eToronto. Ubhala malunga nokuba ngumzali, ukukhubazeka, ukubonwa komzimba, impilo yengqondo kunye nobulungisa kwezentlalo. Umsebenzi wakhe omninzi unokufunyanwa kuye iwebhusayithi.