Narcissism: yintoni, iimpawu kunye nendlela yokuphila kunye

Umxholo

• Iimpawu zomntu we-narcissistic
• Ungaphila njani nge-narcissism

I-Narcissism yimeko yengqondo ebonakaliswa kukuzithanda ngokugqithiseleyo okanye umfanekiso wakho, isidingo sokuhoywa kunye nomnqweno wokulawula abanye. Le meko inokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kubantwana ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka emibini ubudala ngokomzekelo, nangona kunjalo iqala ukuba nexhala xa abantu abadala benezi mpawu, zibizwa ngokuba kukungalungelelani kobuntu.

Umntu othanda ukunxaxha uhlala ethoba isidima somnye umntu ukuze abenze bazive bonwabile, nto leyo eyenza ukuba ubudlelwane bemihla ngemihla bube nzima. Ngaphandle koku, ukuzithemba kwe-narcissists kunye nokuzithemba, xa kungagqithanga, kunokuba yinto yokukhuthaza abanye abantu kunye nokukhuthaza ukuzithemba.

Ngokuka-Freud, i-narcissism inezigaba ezibini:

• Isigaba sokuqala, ephawuleka ngokuzithanda kunye nokuzixabisa okungaphezulu kwesiqu sakho;
• Inqanaba lesibini, apho kukho ukukhula kobuntu kunye neempawu akholelwa ukuba zamenza wahluka kwabanye abantu.

Iimpawu zomntu we-narcissistic

Umntu othanda ukukholisa uhlala enezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Imfuno yokuqwalaselwa kunye nokunconywa;
• Ufuna ukuvunywa;
• Uvakalelo lokuba umhlaba ujikeleze kuwe;
• Bakholelwa ekubeni abanasiphako, abasileli kwaye abazenzi iimpazamo;
• Ukunganyamezelani;
• Ndiziva ndingabanini benyaniso;
• Bakholelwa ukuba akukho mntu unokubalinganisa;
• Baziva bengaphezulu;
• Ukuxhalaba okugqithisileyo ngezinto eziphathekayo;
• Ukuxabiseka komnye;
• Ukusilela kokuqonda iimvakalelo zomnye;
• Ababamameli abanye;
• Ukufuna kunye nokuxabisa ngaphezulu kwenqanaba;
• Ukuxhalaba rhoqo ngobuhle, amandla kunye nempumelelo;
• Amabhongo kakhulu;
• Bakholelwa ukuba bayamonelwa;
• Ukungabikho kovelwano;
• Ukungathobeki;
• Ukudelela abanye;
• Utyekelo lokuba nekratshi.

Rhoqo ezi mpawu ziyaphakanyiswa nkqu nangamalungu osapho okanye abantu abasondeleyo kwi-narcissist, ethi iphele ivuselela oku kuphazamiseka kubuntu.

I-Narcissists ihlala ingangabo abona bantu bafanelekileyo ukuba babe nabo, kuba baziva bonwabile ngokubona omnye umntu edeliwe. Nangona kunjalo, xa ezi mpawu zinganyanzelekanga kangako, kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile kakuhle kwaye ufunde amaxabiso athile njengokuzixabisa, ukuzithemba nokuzithemba.

Ungaphila njani nge-narcissism

Ngokwesiqhelo abantu abaphethwe kukungaziphathi kakuhle abazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, bayithatha njengesiqhelo yonke le meko. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba abahlobo kunye nosapho bayakuqaphela ukwenzeka kweempawu eziqhelekileyo zomntu othanda ukulala, kubalulekile ukuba kubekho ukubekwa esweni kwengqondo okanye kwengqondo, kuxhomekeke kwiimpawu ezibonakalisiweyo.

Abantu abahlala ne-narcissists mihla le kufuneka babeneengcebiso ngokwengqondo, njengoko ubuntu babo bunokuthotywa isidima kakhulu kangangokuba bunokubangela uxinzelelo. Yazi ukuba yintoni enokubangela uxinzelelo.