Yintoni elawulwayo ekhalayo kwaye ingamnceda umntwana wakho alale?

Umxholo

• Yintoni elawulayo ukulila?
• Usebenzisa njani ukukhala okulawulwayo?
• Ugqiba njani ukuba ukulila okulawulwayo kukulungele?
• Ngaba iyasebenza?
• Iingcebiso
• Yise kude

Emva kweenyanga ngaphandle kokulala ngokuqhubekayo, uqala ukuziva ungaziva. Uyazibuza ukuba uza kuqhubeka ixesha elingakanani ngale ndlela kwaye uqala ukoyikisa isandi somntwana wakho ekhala ebhedini yakhe. Uyazi into efuna ukutshintsha.

Abanye babahlobo bakho bakhankanye uqeqesho lokulala besebenzisa indlela ekhalayo yokulawula ukunceda abantwana babo balale ixesha elide. Awunalo nofifi lokuba ukukhala kulawulwa yintoni kwaye ukuba kwenzelwe usapho lwakho (kodwa ulungele utshintsho!). Masincede sigcwalise iinkcukacha…

Yintoni elawulayo ukulila?

Ngamanye amaxesha kubhekiswa kuye njengokuthuthuzela okulawulwayo, ukukhala okulawulwayo yindlela yoqeqesho lokulala apho abanonopheli bavumela umntwana omncinci ukuba aphikisane okanye akhale ngokunyuka okwandayo kwexesha ngaphambi kokuba abuyele ukuzobathuthuzela, ukuze akhuthaze omncinci ukuba afunde ukuzonwabisa kunye balale bodwa. (Okanye ukuyibeka ngenye indlela… indlela yoqeqesho lokulala ewela kwindawo ethile phakathi kokuncamathisela ukuba ngumzali nokumemeza.)

Ukukhala okulawulwayo akufuneki kuphazanyiswe kukukhala, okanye indlela yokuphela, apho abantwana bashiyeka belila bade balale, njengenxalenye ebalulekileyo yokukhala okulawulwayo kungena ukuba ukukhala kuyaqhubeka ngaphezulu kwemizuzu embalwa ngexesha.

Ukulila okulawulwayo kwahlukile kwindlela zokungalali xa ulele ezithandwayo ngabazali bencamathiselo njengenxalenye yenjongo yokulawula ukukhala kukuba umntwana afunde ukulala eyedwa kwaye azithobise, endaweni yokujonga kumgcini wabo ukuze amthuthuzele.

Usebenzisa njani ukukhala okulawulwayo?

Ngoku ukuba uyazi ukuba yintoni ukukhala okulawulwayo, umbuzo olandelayo uyenza njani?

1. Yenza umntwana wakho alungele ukulala usebenzisa indlela yokulala njengokuhlamba, ukufunda incwadi, okanye ukufumana ezinye izinto xa ucula i-lullaby. Qinisekisa ukuba usana lwakho lwanazo zonke iimfuno zalo (luyondliwa, lutshintshiwe, lufudumele ngokwaneleyo) kwaye lukhululekile.
2. Usana lwakho kufuneka lubekwe ebhedini yabo, emqolo, ngelixa bevukile, kodwa bayozela. Ngaphambi kokushiya umntwana wakho yedwa, indawo leyo kufuneka ihlolwe ukuqinisekisa ukuba ikhuselekile. (Qiniseka ukuba ujonge ngaphezulu nangaphandle kwebhedi ukongeza ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwesibeleko ngazo naziphi na iingozi ezinje ngee-mobiles okanye ubugcisa abanokubudiliza.)
3. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala emva kokuba umkile kuloo ndawo, buyela emntwaneni wakho kuphela ngamaxesha amiselweyo. Ngokwesiqhelo oku kuqala kwimizuzu emi-2 ukuya kwemi-3, inyuka nge-2 ukuya kwimizuzu emi-3 ngalo lonke ixesha ubuya. Oku kunokujongeka njengokubuya emva kwemizuzu emi-3, ulinde imizuzu emi-5, ulinde imizuzu emi-7, njl.
4. Xa ubuyela kumntwana wakho omncinci, thuthuzela / uthule umntwana wakho okomzuzu okanye ukuze ubazolise, kodwa zama ukungabakhuphi esibhedlele ngaphandle kokuba kunyanzelekile.
5. Nje ukuba umntwana wakho azole, okanye emva kwemizuzu emi-2 ukuya kwemi-3, yishiye loo ndawo uze uvumele umntwana wakho ukuba azame ukulala yedwa kwakhona.
6. Qhubeka nokumthuthuzela ngokufutshane umntwana wakho emva koko ushiye loo ndawo ixesha elimiselweyo de kube umntwana wakho elele yoyi.
7. Qhubeka usebenzise inkqubo yokukhala elawulwayo ngokungaguquguqukiyo. Umntwana wakho kufuneka afunde izakhono zokuzithoba kwaye aqale ukulala ngokuzimela ngokukhawuleza njengoko ixesha liqhubeka.

Ukukhala okulawulwayo kunokusetyenziswa emva kokuba umntwana wakho eneenyanga ezintandathu ubuncinci okanye kwiintsana ezindala okanye iintsana. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuzama ukukhala okulawulwayo, ungayiphumeza ngokungalali, ixesha lokulala, kunye naphakathi kobusuku bokuvuka.

Ugqiba njani ukuba ukulila okulawulwayo kukulungele?

Ekugqibeleni, isigqibo sokusebenzisa ukukhala okulawulwayo (okanye naluphi na uhlobo loqeqesho lokulala) yinto yobuqu. Kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwizimbo zabazali kunye nefilosofi.

Ukulila okulawulwayo akulunganga kuzo zonke iimeko, kwaye kukho iimeko apho ngokuqinisekileyo kungacetyiswayo. Umzekelo, ngabantwana abangaphantsi kweenyanga ezi-6 zobudala kwaye isenokungasebenzi ukuba umntwana ufumana ukugula okanye olunye utshintsho olukhulu njengokukhathazeka okanye ukuxhuma ekukhuleni.

Kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba ukukhala okulawulwayo kuyaxhaswa ngawo onke amanani obuzali ngaphambi kokuqala. Kukwabalulekile ukuxoxa nogqirha wakho ukuba unemibuzo okanye inkxalabo. Ukuba awuboni iziphumo ezincumisayo ekulawuleni okulawulwayo kwiiveki ezimbalwa, kusenokuba lixesha lokujonga indlela eyahlukileyo yoqeqesho lokulala okanye nokuba uqeqesho lokulala luyindlela elungileyo yomntwana wakho.

Ngaba iyasebenza?

Yikholwe okanye ungakholelwa, ukukhala kunokunceda ekuzonwabiseni. Isebenzisa inkqubo ye-parasympathetic system, enceda umzimba wakho uphumle kwaye wetyise. Nangona kungenakwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, emva kwemizuzu emininzi yokukhala umntwana wakho unokuziva ekulungele ukulala.

Ngokutsho, uninzi lwabantwana abancinci aba-4 baxhamla ngokulila okulawulwayo xa kuthelekiswa abo bangenalo uqeqesho lokulala. Olu hlaziyo lufumene iimood zabazali nazo zonyuke kakhulu kwaye akukho ziphumo zibi zichazwe kwiminyaka emi-5.

Uphononongo oluncinci luka-2016 olubandakanya iintsana ezingama-43 zafumana izibonelelo zokukhala okulawulwayo, kubandakanya nokuhla kwexesha elithatha abantwana abancinci ukuba balale nokuba bavuka kangaphi ebusuku. Uphononongo ngokufanayo lubonise ukuba kwakungekho zimpendulo zoxinzelelo zingalunganga okanye imiba yokuncamathisela yexesha elide.

Kukho ke (kwaye uqeqesho lokulala ngokubanzi) kufanelekile. Kukho uphando lokuba abantwana abangaphantsi kweenyanga ezintandathu ubudala (kunye nabazali babo) abayi kuzuza kuqeqesho lokulala. Ngenxa yokondla okuntsonkothileyo kunye nophuhliso / utshintsho lweeurological olwenzeka kwisiqingatha sokuqala sonyaka wokuqala wobomi, kubalulekile ukuba abazali babe noqwalaselo olukhulu kusana lwabo ngeli xesha.

Kwangokunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba abazali babe nokuphendula ngakumbi xa umntwana wabo egula, enamazinyo, okanye efikelela kwinqanaba elitsha. Ke, ukukhala okulawulwayo (okanye enye indlela yoqeqesho lokulala) akunakulunga ukuba umntwana ufuna ukuqinisekiswa ngakumbi okanye ukufunwa kwezi meko.

Iingcebiso

Ukuba ujonge ukufumana umntwana wakho kwishedyuli yokulala usebenzisa ukukhala okulawulwayo okanye ufuna ukufaka ukukhala okulawulwayo njengenxalenye yesicwangciso sakho soqeqesho lokulala, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezinokwenza ukuba inkqubo ibe lula.

• Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana ukutya okwaneleyo emini. Ukuba ujonga umgama omde wokulala usana lwakho, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho athathe iikhalori ezininzi ngexesha lokuvuka kwabo.
• Qinisekisa ukuba indawo alele kuyo umntwana wakho ikhuselekile, ikhululekile kwaye ilungele ukulala. Oko kuthetha ukugcina indawo emnyama ebusuku (amakhethini amnyama okuphumelela!), Ukushiya imiqamelo / iingubo / izilwanyana ezifakiweyo / i-crib bumpers ngaphandle kwebhedi ukunqanda ukufuthaniseka okanye umngcipheko wesifo sokufa kweentsana ngesiquphe (SIDS), kunye nokwenza ukulala okuhle ubushushu ngokusebenzisa iingxowa zokulala, iifeni, izifudumezi, njl.
• Sebenzisa inkqubo ehambelanayo ukubonisa ukuba ixesha lokulala lifikile. Iindlela ezilula zokulala zingabandakanya ukucula iingoma ezizolileyo okanye ukufunda iincwadi. Ixesha lokulala lingabandakanya ukuhlamba, iingoma, iincwadi, okanye ukukhanya kwesibane sasebusuku.
• Kulumkele olunye utshintsho olukhulu kwinkqubo yesiqhelo yomntwana wakho xa usazisa ukukhala okulawulwayo. Cinga ukulinda ukuphumeza ukukhala okulawulwayo ukuba umntwana wakho unamazinyo, ufumana isiganeko esibalulekileyo, uyagula, okanye kungenjalo unokufuna i-TLC encinci ukuze ulale.

Yise kude

Ukukhala okulawulwayo (okanye ukuqeqeshwa ukulala) akunakuba lukhetho olufanelekileyo kuwo wonke umntwana, kodwa ukwazi malunga nezinto onokukhetha kuzo kunye neendlela ezikhoyo zokunceda umntwana wakho alale kunokuba luncedo ekufumaneni into esebenzayo usapho lwakho.

Ukuba unemibuzo okanye unenkxalabo malunga noqeqesho lokulala, qiniseka ukuba uxoxa ngazo nodokotela wabantwana kumntwana wakho kutyelelo lwabo olulandelayo. Ukulala ubusuku obuhle kungenza umahluko kwaye sinethemba kwikamva lakho elisondeleyo!