Isigqibo sam soNyaka oMtsha kukuGqibela ngokuba nee-Orgasms ezininzi kunye neQabane lam

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Phakamisa isandla sakho ukuba unesiqhelo (okanye, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, wakha wanamava) orgasms ngesondo elingena ngaphakathi? Lucky idada, wena. Phakamisa isandla ukuba wena neqabane lakho ninama-orgasms ngaxeshanye? Kulungile, ngoku uyaziqhayisa. Nangona mna ngokwam ndingenayo ingxaki yokuphuma ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kuphela i-18 pesenti yabasetyhini abanokufumana uvuthondaba ngesondo esingena ngaphakathi, ngokophando luka-2015 lwabasetyhini abayi-1,055 bapapashwa Ijenali yezesondo kunye noNyango lomtshato. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba zi ukwazi ukuphuma ngesondo lokungena, unokuzibandakanya "nomcimbi" oqhelekileyo wokungakwazi ukufikelela ngempumelelo kunye ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo. (Ezinxulumeneyo: Esona sizathu sokwenyani awukwazi ukwenza i-Orgasm ngexesha leSex)

Kutheni le nto ukuphumelela kunye kukoyikeka kangaka? Ukuba uyabuza, awukabinalo eli thuba lokuphazamiseka komhlaba okwangoku. Ukususela kunqabile kakhulu (isiseko, "inqanaba elinqabileyo elinobungozi" elinqabileyo) kunye nama-orgasms ngaxeshanye, ndibonile ukuba banokuthatha ubudlelwane bakho bomzimba ukuya kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Ikhupha entlokweni yakho kwaye ungene ngokupheleleyo kumzuzu wokufumana ulonwabo nomntu, kwaye kuxhomekeke kwimeko yakho, umntu omthandayo. Kubantu abaninzi, oku kuthatha ukuthembela okukhulu, ixesha elifanelekileyo, kunye nokwazi umzimba weqabane lakho njengasemva kwesandla sakho.

Ngelixa ndihlala ndiqinisekile ukuba ndinayo i-orgasm, sisihlandlo esinqabileyo kakhulu ukuba ndiye kuvuthondaba nge Myeni wam. Ihlala ihleli phambi okanye emva kwayo. Ke xa sithetha ngeenjongo zethu ze-2020, ndakhawuleza ndachaza iimpendulo eziqhelekileyo ukucamngca, ukuba sempilweni, okanye ukwenza isigidi seedola, ndakhangela umyeni wam oneminyaka elishumi ndaza ndathi: "Ndifuna ukuba ne-orgasms efanayo ixesha! "

Wancuma ngoko nangoko, esithi, "Um, ugqibile."

Kwaye ke, uvavanyo lwaqala. Ukulungiselela oku ngokwenene, siye saqonda ukuba kuza kufuneka kubekho iqhinga elithile elibandakanyekayo, kunye nokuzilolonga okuninzi. [qhwanyaza.]

Endaweni yemeko yethu eqhelekileyo "yokutshintshana-kwi-orgasm", siye sacotha kwaye sanxibelelana. Wandivulela kakuhle singekangeni. Nam ndenze njalo. Xa sisabelana ngesondo, sasijongana neempawu zomzimba zomnye. Emva kokuba sifumene ukuxhoma kwexesha (enokuba yeyona nto inzima), safumana iGrail eNgcwele ye-Os. Kanye. Emva koko kabini. Kwaye ngoku, semi-rhoqo. Njengokuba itshizi ivakala, isinyanzele ukuba sibe kunye ngalo mzuzu kwaye sinikezele nje kulonwabo.

Egameni lophando, nazi iingcebiso zam eziphezulu zokuhla ngaxeshanye neqabane lakho:

1. Qaphela zombini iipateni zakho. Izinto zokuqala kuqala: Ngubani odla ngokuvuthisa kuqala kwaye nini? Ngaba kwenzeka ngendlela efanayo ngalo lonke ixesha? Ngaba ukhe wasondela ekubeni ne-orgasms kunye? Ngaba uhlala uhlala kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela yokuhamba ngendlela enye kwaye yiyo loo nto? Qaphela kanye xa wena neqabane lakho ninama-orgasms (okanye ukuba aninjalo) ukuze nithathe isigqibo sendlela yokwenza isicwangciso esitsha sokufezekisa i-orgasm kunye.
2. Thatha ixesha lakho. Ngelixa kungekho mntu unexesha leseshoni yokwenza uthando yeeyure ezintathu, uninzi lwezinto ezilungileyo ziza ngaphambili ulala ngesondo. Ndithetha nge-foreplay, abantu-ukuqhula, ukuncanyiswa, kunye nenkqubo yokujika. Khumbula loo nto? Thatha ixesha lokuvuselelana ngaphambi kokwabelana ngesondo. Qhagamshela ngendlela enentsingiselo. Bagezelane. Yicelele. Ngomzimba nangengqondo zithungelana ngokupheleleyo phambi kokuba ude ungene. Isiqingatha somlo sidibanisa ngokwenene, kwaye uzive ufunwa kwaye unqweneleka.
3. Yizani omnye komnye. Sonke besikwiimeko xa sifuna nje ukuba ne-orgasm ngayo nayiphi na indlela eyimfuneko kunye ne-ASAP. Nangona kunjalo, ubugcisa bokuzisa omnye nomnye (okanye wena) elunxwemeni lovuthondaba kwaye emva koko ubuye umva sisenzo esihle sokwenza ixesha le-orgasm yakho. Ngelixa ungeke ukwazi ukulawula ngokupheleleyo i-orgasm yakho, unokufunda imiqondiso yomzimba wakho, ukuze wazi ukuba ungabuya nini ukuba iqabane lakho alikho kwiphepha elifanayo. Okanye, ukuba iqabane lakho lifumana naye Ndonwabile kwakamsinya, le yindlela entle yokwandisa umsebenzi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, injongo yakho kukufikelela kukhululo olumnandi kunokuba "ukhawuleze ungcolile" emva kwakho.
4. Fumana indawo yakho egqibeleleyo. Ukuba unokwenza i-orgasm kwisini sokungena wedwa, ngaba sikhona isikhundla esithile sesondo okanye umsebenzi we-foreplay okunceda ukuba ufike apho? Qala ngaloo nto, kwaye ubone ukuba ungasikhokela isantya kunye nesantya sokusondela kufutshane. Emva koko yenza ukuba iqabane lakho "lidibane apho" de nibe nobabini nisondele ngokulinganayo kwi-orgasm, emva koko niye kumgca wokugqibela kwi-tandem.
5. Fumana amazwi. Ukuba ukufutshane kuvuthondaba, khwaza uphahla (ukuba nje abamelwane bakho abayi kucinga, oko kukuthi). Okanye ukuba iqabane lakho lisondele, licothise de ube ulapho kunye nabo. Akukho nto ishushu kunokuba uxelele umntu ukuba uza kuba ne-orgasm kwaye ufuna ukuba babe nayo. Dlalani nijikeleze ngokuteketisa ngomlomo de niye kufikelela kuvuthondaba kunye.
6. Ziqhelanise, ziqhelanise, ziqhelanise. Njengazo zonke iinjongo, awuzukuyikhupha epakini kumzamo wokuqala. Kuthatha ukuziqhelanisa, umonde, kunye nokuzimisela ukonwaba. Musa ukukhathazeka kunye nebheyile. Zama izimvo ezintsha zangaphambili, ulinge iithoyi, okanye uzame izikhundla ezahlukeneyo zesini de ufumane iziphumo ozifunayo.

Ukukwazi ukwenza i-orgasm kunye ngamava asondeleyo kuwo onke amaqela abandakanyekayo. Mna, ndedwa, andizinzisi i-orgasm ephindwe kabini-okwexeshana. Ndiyaqhubeka nokufunda izinto ezintsha ngam (kunye neqabane lam) kwaye sonwabile kwinkqubo-sikunye.

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