Bendingoyiki Ngokuba Nosapho. Ndandisoyika Ukuphulukana noMntu omnye

Umxholo

• Ukujongana noloyiko ngaphandle kwelahleko
• Ukuzama ukukhulelwa kukukhwela ngokukhawuleza
• Ukufunda ukuhlala ngoloyiko novuyo-ngaxeshanye

Emva kokubandezeleka kwilahleko ezininzi, ndandingaqinisekanga ukuba ndikulungele ukuba ngumama. Emva koko ndaphulukana nomntwana. Nantsi into endiyifundileyo.

Ukuqala kwethu ukukhulelwa kwakumangalisiwe. Besine nje “Ndatsala igoli,” kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo kwaye sikwiholide yethu yasemva komtshato xa ndaqala ukuba neempawu. Ndibabulisile ngomxube wokungavumi nokungakholelwa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndandinesicaphucaphu kwaye ndinesiyezi, kodwa ndacinga ukuba yi-jet lag.

Xa ixesha lam lalisele emva kweentsuku ezimbini kwaye amabele am aqala ukuba buhlungu, sazi. Besingekabikho ngokupheleleyo emnyango ebuya kuhambo lwethu ngaphambi kokuba sibambe uvavanyo lokukhulelwa oludala.

Umgca wesibini wawungahlukanga ekuqaleni, kodwa umyeni wam waqala kuGoogle. "Kuyabonakala ukuba, umgca ngumgca!" uqinisekisile ukukhanya. Sabaleka saya kwiiWalgreens kwaye emva kweemvavanyo ezintathu kamva kwakucacile - besikhulelwe!

Ukujongana noloyiko ngaphandle kwelahleko

Andizange ndifune abantwana ubomi bam bonke. Ngokunyanisekileyo, ndade ndadibana nomyeni wam ndade ndacinga ukuba kunokwenzeka. Ndazixelela ukuba kungenxa yokuba ndizimele. Ndandiqhula ndisithi andibathandi abantwana. Ndenza ngathi umsebenzi wam kunye nenja yam kwanele.

Into ebendingayivumeli ukuba ndiyivume kukuba bendisoyika. Uyabona, bendikhe ndalahleka kakhulu ebomini bam, ukusuka kumama nomntakwethu ukuya kubahlobo abambalwa kunye nosapho olusondeleyo ngakumbi. Ungaze ucinge ngeentlobo zelahleko esinokujamelana nazo rhoqo, njengokuhamba rhoqo okanye ukuhlala ubomi obuhlala butshintsha.

Umyeni wam wayeqinisekile ukuba ufuna abantwana, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba ndifuna ukuba naye, kwandinyanzela ukuba ndijongane noloyiko lwam. Ngokwenza njalo, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ayingoba andifuni sapho. Ndandisoyika ukuphulukana nabo.

Ke, xa le mizila mibini yavela, yayingengovuyo olusulungekileyo endandiluva. Yayisoyikeka nyhani. Ngesiquphe ndandifuna olu sana kunayo nantoni na ebomini bam bonke, kwaye oko kwakuthetha ukuba ndinento eza kulahleka.

Kungekudala emva kovavanyo lwethu oluqinisekileyo, uloyiko lwethu ngelishwa lwazaliseka, kwaye saphunyelwa sisisu.

Ukuzama ukukhulelwa kukukhwela ngokukhawuleza

Babeqhele ukukucebisa ukuba ulinde imijikelezo yexesha elipheleleyo ngaphambi kokuzama kwakhona. Ngoku ndiyazibuza ukuba ingaba oku bekungananto ingako yokwenza ukuba umzimba uphinde uchache kwaye nangakumbi ngengqondo yomntu, kodwa bendihleli ndisiva ukuba ukuzama kwangoko ngumbono olungileyo. Ukuba umzimba uchume ngakumbi emva kokulahleka.

Ewe iimeko zonke zahlukile, kwaye kuya kufuneka ubonane nogqirha wakho malunga nokukhetha ixesha elifanelekileyo, kodwa bendikulungele. Kwaye bendisazi ukuba ndifuna ntoni ngoku. Eli xesha laliza kwahluka kakhulu. Ndiza kwenza yonke into ngokufanelekileyo. Andizukushiya nantoni na ukuba yenzeke.

Ndaqala ukufunda iincwadi ndenza uphando. Ndifunde "Ukuthatha uxanduva lokuchuma kwakho" nguToni Wechsler ukusuka kwiphepha ukuya kwiphepha leentsuku. Ndathenga ithemometha ndaza ndasondelelana kakhulu nomlomo wam wesibeleko kunye nencindi yomlomo wesibeleko. Kwakungathi kukulawula xa ndandisandula ukufumana ilahleko epheleleyo yolawulo. Andikayiqondi into yokuba ukuphulukana nolawulo kukungcamla kokuqala kokuba ngumama.

Kusithathe umjikelo omnye ukubetha inkunzi yenkomo. Xa ndingazange ndiyeke ukulila emva kokubukela imovie malunga nenkwenkwe nenja yakhe, mna nomyeni wam sabelana ngamehlo. Bendifuna ukulinda ukuvavanya eli xesha. Ukufumana iveki epheleleyo emva kwexesha, ukuze uqiniseke.

Ndiqhubeke nokuthatha ubushushu bam rhoqo kusasa. Ubushushu bakho bunyuka nge-ovulation, kwaye ukuba ihlala iphezulu endaweni yokuhla ngokuthe chu ngexesha lesigaba sakho esiqhelekileyo se-luteal (kwiintsuku emva kokuba uphume de kube lixesha lakho), sisalathiso esomeleleyo sokuba ungakhulelwa. Okwam bekuphakame ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa bekukho needipsi ezimbalwa.

Ntsasa nganye kwakubakho i-roller coaster. Ukuba iqondo lobushushu beliphezulu, bendivuya; xa ibidipha, bendisoyika. Ngenye intsasa yangena ngaphakathi ezantsi kwesiseko sam kwaye ndandiqinisekile ukuba ndiphinda ndilahla isisu. Ndindedwa kwaye ndilila, ndaleqa kwigumbi lokuhlambela novavanyo.

Iziphumo zindothusile.

Imigca emibini eyahlukileyo. Ngaba kungenzeka ukuba oku?

Nditsalele umnxeba kum ukhathalelo lwempilo. Iofisi ivaliwe. Nditsalele umyeni wam emsebenzini. "Ndicinga ukuba ndiphunyelwa sisisu" yayingeyondlela endandifuna ukukhokelela ngayo kwesi simemezelo sokukhulelwa.

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Oh nkosi yam, besikhulelwe.

Kwaye xa uvuyo luvelayo, ngokunjalo uloyiko. I-roller coaster icinyiwe kwaye ibalekile kwakhona.

Ukufunda ukuhlala ngoloyiko novuyo-ngaxeshanye

Xa ndeva ukubetha kwentliziyo yosana, ndandikwigumbi likaxakeka leNew York City. Ndandinentlungu engathethekiyo kwaye ndandicinga ukuba ndiphunyelwa sisisu. Usana lwaluphilile.

Xa safumanisa ukuba yinkwenkwana, saxhuma luvuyo.

Xa ndinosuku olungenampawu kwikota yokuqala yokuqala, bendilila ndisoyika ukuba ndilahlekelwe nguye.

Xa ndandiva ukuba uyakhaba okokuqala, indithathe umphefumlo kwaye sayithiya igama.

Xa isisu sam sithathe phantse iinyanga ezisi-7 ukubonisa, ndandiqinisekile ukuba usengozini.

Ngoku ndiyabonisa, kwaye ukhaba okomdlali ohamba phambili, ngesiquphe ndibuyele eluvuyweni.

Ndinqwenela ukuba ngendikuxelele ukuba uloyiko lomlingo luphelile lokukhulelwa kwesibini. Kodwa andisaqinisekanga ukuba singathanda ngaphandle koloyiko lwelahleko. Endaweni yoko, ndifunda ukuba ukuba ngumzali malunga nokufunda ukuhlala novuyo kunye noloyiko ngaxeshanye.

Ndiyaqonda ukuba into exabiseke ngakumbi yile, kokukhona sisoyika ukuba ihambe. Yintoni enokubaluleka ngaphezu kobomi esibudalayo ngaphakathi kwethu?

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