Izinto ezili-14 zabafazi abakuma-50 abo bathi bayakwenza ngokwahlukileyo

Umxholo

• "Ndingahlola imfundo yam ngakumbi"
• "Ndingazithemba kunye neetalente zam ngaphezulu"
• “Ndiza kuqonda ukuba ndifuna ntoni…”
• "Ndiza kuchitha ixesha elininzi nomntwana wam"
• "Ngendidanise ngaphezulu"
• "Bendingayi kuba naxhala ngenkangeleko yam"
• “Ndingathanda ukubabala ngakumbi kum”
• "Andizukuziva ndibonwa njalo ngabaqeshi bam"
• Ubulumko obuninzi kunye nentuthuzelo iza nexesha

Njengoko usiya ukhula, uya usiba nembono kwisipili esingasemva ebomini bakho.

Kukuthini ukwaluphala okwenza ukuba abantu basetyhini bonwabe ngakumbi njengoko bekhula, ngakumbi phakathi kweminyaka engama-50 ukuya kwengama-70?

Uphando lwakutsha nje olusuka e-Australia, nolwalulandela abantu ababhinqileyo kangangeminyaka engama-20, lubonisa ukuba amanye amabhinqa afumana ixesha elingakumbi lokuba “mna” njengokuba bekhula.

Kwaye ngelo xesha "mna" liza nezityhilelo ezininzi ezonelisayo.

Ndithethile nabasetyhini abali-14 abakwiminyaka yama-50s malunga noko ngebebekwenzile ngokwahlukileyo xa bebancinci - ukuba bayazi kuphela, yintoni abayaziyo ngoku:

“Ndinqwenela ukunxiba iihempe ezingenamikhono ... ” -Kelly J.

“Ndiza kuxelela umntu wam omncinci ukuba ayeke ukoyika ukuba lilolo. Ndenze izigqibo ezininzi kakhulu ukuqiniseka ukuba andinakuze ndibenaye umthandi kwimizuzwana eli-10.”- UBarbara S.

“Ngendingazange ndiqale ukutshaya. Ndicinga ukuba ipholile - ayinammpilo. ” -UJill S.

“Ngendiyamkele indawo yokwamkela iindwendwe-bendicinga ukuba-ndingaphezulu kokusebenzela i-senator yase-U.S. ” -U-Amy R.

“Ndinqwenela [ukuba] ndingavumanga uloyiko / ukungazi kwabanye abantu ukuba kundichaphazele ngokunzulu kangangokuba ndiza kuzenza gwenxa iinjongo zam / amaphupha am ukuze ndibakholise. Kuthathe iminyaka engamashumi ukuba ndiyiphelise indlela yokuziphatha 'kwentombazana elungileyo'."- uKecia L.

"Ndingahlola imfundo yam ngakumbi"

U-Linda G., ugqirha wamazinyo ophakathi kwiminyaka yakhe yama-50 uthi, “ngendandigxile ekufundeni nasekufundeni nasekufundeni kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. "Ndifuna ukufunda into kathathu, kwaye kufuneka ndiphinde ndithathe iiklasi zobungcali kwakhona, xa ndingaziqondi izinto."

U-Linda uziva ngathi abazali bakhe bebengajolisanga kwimfundo yakhe, ke oko kwawela kwintanda.

“Ndandingumntwana wesithathu. Ke, abazali bam babendithanda kodwa babengakhathali. Andizithembi kangako ekuqikeleleni ukuba ndenze ntoni na nezigulana zam kuba ndiyasokola ukwenza ulwazi. ”

Ngenxa yoku, uLinda ujongene nomzabalazo wangaphakathi.

“Ndivakalelwa kukuba kuye kwafuneka ndisebenze nzima kuyo yonke into endiyenzileyo. Oko kuye kwandenza ndenza okungqongqo ekusebenziseni igunya lam kuba ndihlala ndizama ukubonisa ukuthembeka kwam. ”

"Ndingazithemba kunye neetalente zam ngaphezulu"

UAndrea J., umbhali othengisa kakhulu phakathi kwiminyaka yakhe yama-50, uthi, “Ndiyabona ukuba ndingubani kunye nento endiyenzileyo indikhokelele kubomi obonelisayo, kodwa ukuba nditshintshe nantoni na ibiya kuba kukuzithemba iitalente zam kude ukuba mncinane. ”

UAndrea uziva ngathi ebengenamonde ngokwaneleyo nesiqu sakhe.

“Ndinqwenela ukuba ndingaqonda kwakamsinya ukuba ndinokuwufezekisa umnqweno wam wokubhala iincwadi ukuba ndithe ndanamathela kuyo ndaqhubeka nokuphucula. Bendiyekile ukuphumelela kangangokuba ndiye ndayeka kwaye ndatshintsha izifundo xa impumelelo ingakhange ikhawuleze. "

“Ndiza kuqonda ukuba ndifuna ntoni…”

UGena R., umgcini weenwele phakathi kweminyaka yama-50s uziva ukuba uthathe ixesha elide ukuzibona ukuba ungubani.

"Indlela endithanda ukuyichaza encinci kum kukuzithelekisa noJulia Roberts kumdlalo bhanyabhanya 'uMtshakazi obalekayo,' kwindawo apho wayengazi nokuba uwathanda njani amaqanda akhe ... uyithandile yakhe. ”

"Njengaye, nam bendifuna ukuqonda ukuba ndingubani ngaphandle kwendoda, kwaye ndiwathanda njani amaqanda am - nokuba uthanda kangakanani na."

UGena ukholelwa ekubeni abantu bamcinga "njengentombazana engemva kwesitulo" ohlala onwabile kwaye onako ukusombulula zonke iingxaki zawo.

Kodwa uguqukile.

“Andisazenzi izinto endingafuni kuzenza kwaye ndizinike imvume yokuba‘ hayi ’ndiphumle. Ukuba ndifuna ukuhlala ndibukele imovie yeHallmark yonke imini endiyenzayo. Ndizungeze nabantu endifuna ukubabakhona kwaye ndihlale kude nabantu abancanca ubomi kum. ”

Kwaye andisaziva ndineentloni ngeempazamo endizenzileyo. Bayinxalenye yebali lam kwaye indenze ndangumntu onovelwano ngakumbi. ”

"Ndiza kuchitha ixesha elininzi nomntwana wam"

UStacy J. umvelisi kwiminyaka yakhe yama-50s uthi elo xesha lalingekho kwicala lakhe.

“Akwaba ngendichithe ixesha elininzi ndidlala nomntwana wam xa wayesemncinci. Ndandisesikolweni ngokusisigxina ndisebenza kwaye ndihoye udade wethu ogulayo kwaye ndixakekile nokuba lihlwempu. ”

Uyaqonda ukuba abantwana bakhula ngokukhawuleza okukhulu, kodwa akazange aqonde ngoko.

"Ndinqwenela ukuba ngendibeke izinto ecaleni kwaye bendinamaqela etheko lokuzalwa ngakumbi izilwanyana zakhe ezihlohliweyo kunye naye."

"Ngendidanise ngaphezulu"

ULaurel V., owayekwiminyaka yakhe yokuqala yama-50 uthi: "Ndandihlala ndizicingela ndodwa ndaye ndagqiba ekubeni ngaphambi kokuba ndibethe ama-20 ukuba ndingadanisi." "Kwaye ngelixa bendihleli ecaleni emathendini, abanye abantu bazivakalisile bafudukela emculweni."

U-Laurel uziva ukuba bekungafanelekanga ukuba ukhathazekile.

"Ndiyabaxelela abantwana bam, ukuba bendinokuphinda ndibuyele umva, bendizokudanisa kakhulu, kwaye ndingakhathali nokuba abantu bacinga ntoni… mhlawumbi bebengandijonganga."

"Bendingayi kuba naxhala ngenkangeleko yam"

URajean B., umcebisi we-PR kwiminyaka yakhe yama-50s akasagxili kubuhombiso bakhe.

“Kwiminyaka yam engama-20 nama-30, umsebenzi wam njengesithethi senkampani wandibeka phambi kwekhamera kwaye kunqabile ukuba ndidlulise isipili ngaphandle kokulungisa iinwele zam, ndijonge amazinyo am, ndiphinde ndafaka ilipstick. Ndiye ndalala obubuthongo ngamanye amaxesha xa ndibona isilevu esiphindwe kabini xa ndithetha okanye ndihleka. ”

URajean uye waqonda ukuba zeziphi ezona zinto zibalulekileyo zihamba ngaphaya kwangaphandle.

“Umyeni wam nabahlobo bam bayandithanda kwaye bayandithanda ngale ndlela ndiyiyo hayi indlela endijonga ngayo nangawuphi na umzuzu. Ndiyakuthanda ukugxila kubuhle bam bangaphakathi namandla am. ”

“Ndingathanda ukubabala ngakumbi kum”

"Ndiya kuphefumula ngaphambi kokuba ndiphendule kwaye ndiqonde ukuba andinayo imbono kuyo yonke into," kusho uBeth W., ekupheleni kweminyaka engama-50, owayehlala ebambe umsebenzi oxinzelelekileyo kwintlangano enkulu yoqeqesho.

“Ukuba bendiziva ndisesichengeni sokushiywa, okanye ukungaqondwa kakuhle, bendizovala okanye ndilwele ukuviwa. Kwakundixhalabisa kangangokuba ndade ndagula, ndinamathambo endinyanzela ukuba ndijongane noloyiko lwam. ”

"Endikufundileyo kukuba ndingafaka ubabalo nakweyiphi na imeko ngokuthatha nje ukuphefumla, kwaye ndizimise ngokubeka iinyawo zam phantsi, ukuze icothise umdyarho weadrenaline kunye necortisol kwinkqubo yam."

UBeth uthi ukwenza oku kunciphise umdlalo weqonga, isiphithiphithi, kunye nengxabano ebomini bakhe kwaye kwandisa ubudlelwane bakhe.

"Andizukuziva ndibonwa njalo ngabaqeshi bam"

UNina A., xa egqiba iminyaka engama-50 kwiinyanga ezimbalwa uthi, “ndandilahlekile kubantu endandibasebenzela. Khange ndiyazi ngelo xesha, kodwa ndifuna abantu abancinci baqonde ukuze bangazenzi iimpazamo ezifanayo. "

“Ndandijola nonjingalwazi osele ekhulile xa ndandisekholejini. Wayenonxibelelwano oluninzi lokuthetha oluhlawulelweyo kwiiyunivesithi zamanye amazwe, kwaye bahlawulela ukuhlala kwakhe, naye. Uye wandimema ukuba ndimjoyine kuhambo olumangalisayo oluya e-Bali, Java, China, Thailand. Kodwa bendinomsebenzi, kwaye andikwazi kuhamba. ”

“Elinye lamaxesha endiye ndazibhokoxa ngokuba‘ ngumsebenzi olungileyo ’kuxa ndayeka emsebenzini ndaya kuvulo olukhulu lweRock and Roll Hall of Fame. Ndingene engxakini enkulu emsebenzini wam. Kodwa ucinga ntoni? Isebe lisaphumelele ukusebenza. ”

Ubulumko obuninzi kunye nentuthuzelo iza nexesha

Kuza kubakho amaxesha okufuna ngaphezulu kwengcebiso ukoyisa imizabalazo yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha, impendulo lixesha nje - ixesha elaneleyo lokudlula kwimizabalazo kwiminyaka engama-20 ukuya kwengama-30 ukuze uphuhlise indlela yokulinganisa imiceli mngeni eza kwi50 yakho nangaphaya.

Mhlawumbi, umpheki wodumo, uCat Cora, okwiminyaka yakhe yokuqala yama-50, uwushwankathela kakuhle umzabalazo wolutsha kunye nobulumko baloo mbono: Xa umncinci, i-angst yakho kunye nomnqweno wokuba nayo yonke into ibangela ukungalingani, utshilo kuthi.

Ngokukhula, ndikwazile ukuzola kunye nokuxhotyiswa ngoxolo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bam.