Abantu babhidekile malunga nale Modeli yokuQinisekisa iBump yomntwana

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Ixesha lokugqibela elifanelekileyo kumama kunye no-Instagrammer uSarah Stage babelane ngeefoto zakhe zokukhulelwa, iipakethi zakhe ezibonakalayo ezintandathu zabangela isiphithiphithi. Ngoku, abantu banesimo se-simlar sokukhulelwa kwakhe kwesibini. (Idibeneyo: Ngaba i-Tight Abs iyakwandisa ngokwenene umngcipheko weC-Section?)

Imodeli yokomelela komzimba yathatha i-Instagram kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo ukubhengeza ukuba ukhulelwe nenombolo yomntwana, kwaye ngoku uneenyanga ezintlanu. Kuyachulumancisa! Ingxaki kuphela? Abalandeli bakhe babonakala bedidekile kakhulu malunga nokuba kunokwenzeka njani ukuba ube nesincinci esincinci somntwana. Kuyinyani-Inqanaba alibonisi "kakhulu", kwaye kubonakala ngathi abalandeli banomdla kwaye bayabhideka ngayo.

Amagqabantshintshi kwisithuba sakhe sokuqala asusela "Uphi umntwana?" ukuba "Andizange ndiyibone le nto ngaphambili. Kwenzeka njani ukuba ukhulelwe iiveki ezingama-22 kwaye isisu sakho sincinci? Andiyiqondi." Kukho amagqabantshintshi aqinisekileyo nawo, njengalowo abonisa ukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini alu * ngokucacileyo * lukhulelwe kude kube kamva kwikota yabo, nokuba banjani na emzimbeni okanye ubungakanani. “Ndityebile kwaye kusana lwam lwesibini akukho mntu wandiqaphelayo de ndaneenyanga ezisi-8 ndikhulelwe, emva koko ndaqhushumba,” utshilo omnye umntu. "Kuqhelekile. Masibe nethemba kwaye simnqwenelele ukukhulelwa okuhle."

Into kukuba, "eqhelekileyo" yahlukile kumntu wonke. Njengoko u-Alyssa Dweck, M.D., wasixelela ngexesha lokugqibela sangena kunye naye malunga nokuba nolu hlobo lwenkcazo yemisipha kunye ne-bump encinci ngelixa ekhulelwe: "Abanye abafazi ababonisi." Ilula ngoluhlobo.

Ingcali yokomelela komzimba nasemva kokubeleka uSara Haley wayenento efanayo ayithethayo. Ngokubhekiselele kwi-Stage ye-six-pack ngexesha lokugqibela wayekhulelwe, uHaley wathi: "Okunene andicingi ukuba ukhangeleka engafanelekanga. Ukuba ukhangele umfanekiso ngaphambi kokuba akhulelwe, wayeyincinci encinci. Ngokuqinisekileyo uzuze ubuncinci. I-20 pounds, oko oko oogqirha bancomela. Izihlunu endizibona kuye zizo ezincedisa ukuxhasa umntwana wakho okhulayo, ngoko ayisiyonto imbi. Oko kuyamangalisa-oko kuya kumnceda ukuba abuyele. " Ke ewe, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuba kwicala elincinci ngexesha lokukhulelwa, okoko nje ugqirha wakho evuma ukuba uzuze ubungakanani obufanelekileyo bobunzima.

Okokufaneleyo, iSigaba asibonakali ngathi sikhathazwa ngamagqabantshintshi. Ngapha koko, khange abaphendule kubo konke konke. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, nguye kuphela nogqirha wakhe onako * ngokwenene * ukwazi ukuba ukhulelwe ngendlela esempilweni. Ke into abanye abantu abayicingayo ayinamsebenzi kakhulu. Ngaphezu koko, zininzi ezinye izinto onokuzikhathaza ngazo ngexesha lokukhulelwa ngaphandle koko abanye abantu bakucingayo ngomzimba wakho-njengazo zonke iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zokukhulelwa ezingaqhelekanga ziqhelekile.

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