Kutheni Lixesha Lokuchitha Intsomi Yomama Ogqibeleleyo

Akukho nto injengokugqibelela ebunzimeni. Akukho mama ugqibeleleyo ngokungathi akukho mntwana ugqibeleleyo okanye umyeni ogqibeleleyo okanye usapho olugqibeleleyo okanye umtshato ogqibeleleyo.

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

Uluntu lwethu luzele yimiyalezo, zombini ezifihlakeleyo nezisitheleyo, ezenza ukuba umama azive engonelanga- {textend} nokuba sisebenza nzima kangakanani. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kwimeko yanamhlanje yedijithali apho sihlala sihlaselwa yimifanekiso evusa "ukugqibelela" kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi- {textend} ikhaya, umsebenzi, umzimba.

Ndinoxanduva lweminye yale mifanekiso. Njengeblogi yexesha elizeleyo kunye nomdali womxholo, ndiyinxalenye yesizukulwana esidala imifanekiso eyonwabisayo ebonisa kuphela iireels zobomi bethu. Nangona kunjalo ndiya kuba ngowokuqala ukuvuma ukuba ngelixa amajelo eendaba ezentlalo angahlali eyinyani, ngokupheleleyo ikhethiwe. Kwaye uxinzelelo olukhulu oludalayo lokuba "ngumama ogqibeleleyo" luyingozi kwimpilo yethu kunye nolonwabo.

Akukho nto injengokugqibelela kubumama. Akukho mama ugqibeleleyo ngokungathi akukho mntwana ugqibeleleyo okanye umyeni ogqibeleleyo okanye usapho olugqibeleleyo okanye umtshato ogqibeleleyo. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba siyiqonde kwaye siyamkele le nyaniso ibaluleke kangaka, sikhawuleza sizikhulule kulindelo olungeyonyani olunokuthothisa uvuyo lwethu kwaye lususe uvakalelo lwethu lokuzixabisa.

Ukuqala kwam ukuba ngumama kwiminyaka eli-13 eyadlulayo, ndazama ukuba ngumama ogqibeleleyo endaye ndambona kumabonwakude ngelixa ndikhula kwii-80s kunye nee-90s. Ndandifuna ukuba ngumhle, onobabalo, onomonde onomonde owenza yonke into ngokufanelekileyo nangokufanelekileyo ngaphandle kokuncama ubufazi bakhe.

Ndijonge ukuba ngumama ofanelekileyo njengento oyiphumelelayo ngokusebenza nzima, njengokungena kwikholeji elungileyo okanye ukuqeshelwa umsebenzi wephupha.

Kodwa enyanisweni, ukuba ngumama kwakukude lee noko ndandikucinga ndisengumntwana oselula.

Iminyaka emibini ndingumama ndizifumene ndidandathekile, ndindodwa, ndililolo kwaye ndinqanyulwe kum nakwabanye. Ndaba nabantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emibini kwaye khange ndilale ngaphezulu kweeyure ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu ngobusuku ngeenyanga.

Intombi yam yokuqala yaqala ukubonisa iimpawu zolibaziseko lokukhula (kamva wafunyaniswa enesifo semfuza) kwaye intombi yam elusana yayindifuna imini nobusuku.

Ndandisoyika kakhulu ukucela uncedo kuba ndathethisa ngobudenge kwimbono yokuba ukucela uncedo kuthetha ukuba ndingumama ombi kwaye ndingonelanga. Ndizamile ukuba yinto yonke kuye wonke umntu kwaye ndazimela emva kwemaski kamama ogqibeleleyo onayo yonke kunye. Ekugqibeleni ndabetha ezantsi kwaye kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndinexinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka.

Okwangoku, ndanyanzelwa ukuba ndiqale phantsi kwaye ndifunde into yokuba ngumama kubandakanya ntoni. Kwaye kwafuneka ndiphinde ndibuyise njengomntu ongumama- {textend} hayi ngokokutsho kwabanye, kodwa ngokoko kulungileyo kwaye kuyinyani kum nakubantwana bam.

Ndibe nethamsanqa lokufumana unyango olukhawulezileyo kwaye ekugqibeleni ndoyisa esi sifo sidodobalayo ngoncedo lwezidambisi, inkxaso yosapho kunye nokuzinyamekela. Kuthathe iinyanga ezininzi zonyango lokuthetha, ukufunda, ukwenza uphando, ukubhala, ukucamngca kunye nokucamngca ekugqibeleni ukuqonda ukuba umbono womama ofezekileyo uyintsomi. Kwakufuneka ndiwuyeke lo mbono utshabalalisayo ukuba ndifuna ukuba ngumama ozalisekiswe ngokwenyani kwaye ebekhona kubantwana bam.

Ukuyeka ukufezekisa kungathatha ixesha elide kunabanye kunabanye. Kuxhomekeke kubuntu bethu, imvelaphi yosapho kunye nomnqweno wokutshintsha. Inye into ehlala iqinisekile, nangona kunjalo, kukuba xa uyeka ukufezekisa, uqala ukuxabisa isiphithiphithi kunye nobundlongondlongo bomama. Amehlo akho ekugqibeleni avulekele kubo bonke ubuhle obulele kukungafezeki kwaye uqala uhambo olutsha lokuba ngumzali onengqondo.

Ukuba ngumzali onengqondo kulula kakhulu kunokuba sicinga. Kuthetha nje ukuba siyazi ngokupheleleyo into esiyenzayo ngalo mzuzu. Siba khona ngoku kwaye siyazi ngokupheleleyo imizuzu yemihla ngemihla endaweni yokuziphazamisa naloo msebenzi okanye uxanduva olulandelayo. Oku kusinceda silixabise kwaye sizibandakanye kulonwabo olungumama olufana nokudlala imidlalo, ukubukela imovie, okanye ukupheka kunye njengentsapho endaweni yokuhlala ucoca okanye ulungiselela isidlo esifanelekileyo sePinterest.

Ukuba ngumzali onengqondo kuthetha ukuba asisayi kuchitha ixesha lethu sinoxinzelelo kwinto engenziwanga kwaye endaweni yoko sigxile kugxino esinokuzenzela lona kunye nabantu esibathandayo ngalo mzuzu, nokuba kunini na.

Njengabazali, kubaluleke kakhulu ekumiseleni okulindelweyo kunye neenjongo zethu nakubantwana bethu. Ukwamkela ukungcola kunye nesiphithiphithi sobomi kunceda lonke usapho lwethu ngokulufundisa ngenkqubo apho samkela thina kunye nabantu esibathandayo ngentliziyo iphela. Siba nothando ngakumbi, uvelwano, ukwamkela nokuxolela. Kubalulekile ukuba siphendule ngezenzo zethu zemihla ngemihla, kodwa kufuneka kuqala sikhumbule ukwamkela onke amacala omama, kubandakanya ababi nabangendawo.

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