Ukuqonda iPistanthrophobia, okanye uloyiko lwabantu abathembekileyo

Umxholo

• Yintoni ipistanthrophobia?
• Ziintoni iimpawu?
• Ibangelwa yintoni?
• Kufunyaniswa njani?
• Iphathwa njani i-phobia?
• Uncedo lwe-phobia
• Yintoni umbono wabantu abane-pistanthrophobia?
• Umgca wezantsi

Sonke sihamba ngesantya esahlukileyo xa kufikwa kumba wokuthemba omnye umntu, ngakumbi kubudlelwane bezothando.

Kwabanye, ukuthembana kuza ngokulula kwaye ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kunokuthatha ixesha elide ukuthembela emntwini. Kwaye kwelinye iqela labantu, ukukwazi ukuthembela komnye umntu ngothando kungabonakala kungumsebenzi ongenakwenzeka.

Yintoni ipistanthrophobia?

I-Pistanthrophobia yi-phobia yokwenzakaliswa ngumntu othandana naye.

I-phobia luhlobo lokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo olunikezela ngokuqhubekayo, okungenangqondo, kunye noloyiko olugqithisileyo ngomntu, umsebenzi, imeko, isilwanyana, okanye into.

Rhoqo, akukho soyikiso sokwenyani okanye ingozi, kodwa ukunqanda nakuphi na ukuxhalaba kunye noxinzelelo, umntu onesifo phobia uyakuphepha umntu odala into, into, okanye umsebenzi ngazo zonke iindleko.

I-Phobias, nokuba luhlobo luni na, inokuphazamisa iindlela zemihla ngemihla, uxinzelelo kubudlelwane, ukunciphisa amandla okusebenza, kunye nokunciphisa ukuzithemba.

Akukho phando lukhulu ngokukodwa kwi-pistanthrophobia. Kunoko, ithathwa njenge-phobia ethile: i-phobia ekhethekileyo ehambelana nemeko ethile okanye into.

Ii-phobias ezithile ziqhelekile. Ngokutsho kweZiko leSizwe lezeMpilo yeNgqondo, kuqikelelwa ukuba iipesenti ezili-12.5 zabantu baseMelika baya kuba namava athile ebomini babo.

"I-Pistanthrophobia luloyiko lokuthemba abanye kwaye kuhlala kusisiphumo sokufumana ukuphoxeka okunzulu okanye ukuphela kobuhlungu kubudlelwane bangaphambili," utshilo uDana McNeil, umtshato onelayisensi kunye nonyango losapho.

Njengomphumo wentlungu, uMcNeil uthi umntu onolu phobia unoloyiko lokuphinda enzakale kwaye uyakuthintela ukuba kolunye ubudlelwane njengendlela yokuzikhusela kumava abuhlungu afanayo.

Kodwa xa uphepha ubudlelwane, uya kugcina ukuzigcina ungafumani zinto zilungileyo.

Xa oku kusenzeka, uMcNeil uthi awukwazi ukuba nolwalamano lwexesha elizayo olunokukunceda ufumane umbono okanye ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ubudlelwane bangaphambili bungakhange bulunge ukuqala.

Ziintoni iimpawu?

Iimpawu zepistanthrophobia ziya kufana nezinye ze-phobias, kodwa ziya kuba ngakumbi ngakumbi kubudlelwane nabantu. Ngokubanzi, iimpawu ze-phobia zingabandakanya:

• uloyiko kunye noloyiko, oluhlala lugqithisile, luyaqhubeka, kwaye alunangqondo kwinqanaba lesoyikiso
• Isikhuthazo okanye umnqweno onamandla wokubaleka kwinto ebangela umntu, umntu, okanye into
• ukuqhawukelwa ngumphefumlo
• ukubetha kwentliziyo ngokukhawuleza
• ndingcangcazela

Umntu onale phobia, uMcNeil uthi kuqhelekile ukubona ezi mpawu zilandelayo:

• ukunqanda iincoko okanye unxibelelwano olunzulu nomntu onokuba ngumdla wothando onokubakho
• ukugadwa okanye ukurhoxiswa
• ayamkeli iinzame zomnye umntu zokuba babandakanyeke ekuthandeni, ukuthandana, okanye ukuthandana
• ixhala okanye imbonakalo yokufuna ukuphuma okanye ukuphuma kwiincoko ezingathandekiyo, ngakumbi njengoko zinxulumene nokusondelelana, ukuthandana, okanye umntu oza kuba liqabane lakho

"Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zithathwa njengezingakhuselekanga kwi-pisanthrophobe, kwaye banomdla wokuzivumela bathathe inxaxheba kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezinokubangela ukuba babe sesichengeni ngenxa yokoyika ukuba unxibelelwano lunokukhokelela kubudlelwane obunzulu," utshilo uMcNeil.

Ibangelwa yintoni?

Njengazo ezinye i-phobias, i-pistanthrophobia iqhutywa ngumntu okanye isiganeko.

"Abantu abaninzi baye banamava amabi kubudlelwane obudlulileyo apho baziva benzakele kakhulu, bengcatshiwe, okanye belahliwe," utshilo uGqirha Gail Saltz, unjingalwazi onxulumene nezifo zengqondo kwisibhedlele i-NY Presbyterian Weill-Cornell School of Medicine.

Ngenxa yoko, bahlala kuloyiko lwamava afanayo, athi uSaltz abangela ukuba baphephe lonke ubudlelwane.

USaltz ukwathi abanye abantu abanolu phobia abanakuba namava kubudlelwane obubi. Okwangoku, banalo ixhala elingathethekiyo, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kunye noloyiko lokuba ukuba nabani na uza kubazi, bayakulahlwa okanye bangcatshwe.

Ekugqibeleni, iimvakalelo ezithi zivele ngenxa yamava amabi okanye ubudlelwane obenzakalisayo bukhokelela ekubeni ubethwe ziingcinga zokulahlwa, ukungcatshwa, ukwenzakala, ukudana kunye nomsindo.

Okanye, njengoko uSaltz esitsho, ngenene naziphi na iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezinokuvela ngokuzibandakanya nomnye umntu.

Kufunyaniswa njani?

I-Pistanthrophobia, okanye nayiphi na i-phobia, kufuneka ichongiwe yingcali yezempilo yengqondo.

Oko kwathiwa, ipistanthrophobia ayifakwanga kuhlobo lwamva nje lweDiagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) njengesifo esisemthethweni.

Ke ngoko, ugqirha wakho uya kuthi aqwalasele i-DSM-5's diagnostic criteria ye-phobia ethile, edwelisa iintlobo ezintlanu ezahlukeneyo ze-phobias ezithile:

• uhlobo lwesilwanyana
• uhlobo lwendalo yendalo
• uhlobo lokulimala ngenaliti yegazi
• uhlobo lobume
• ezinye iintlobo

Ugqirha wakho okanye ugqirha unokukubuza imibuzo eliqela enxulumene neempawu zakho zangoku, kubandakanya nokuba unexesha elingakanani unazo kwaye zinzima kangakanani. Baza kuphinda babuze malunga nembali yosapho, ezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo, kunye noxinzelelo lwangaphambili olunokuthi lubeke uloyiko.

"Nantoni na ethathwa njenge-phobia kwihlabathi lezengqondo lihlangabezana nenkcazo yemeko yezempilo yengqondo xa ichaphazela ukuphazamiseka komthengi ekuthatheni inxaxheba ngokupheleleyo kwinkalo enye okanye ezingakumbi zobomi," utshilo uMcNeil.

Xa umhlaba wakho wobuntu, oqeqeshiweyo, okanye wezifundo uchatshazelwa kukungakwazi ukugxila, ukusebenza, okanye ukuvelisa iziphumo ezilindelweyo ngokwesiqhelo, uMcNeil uthi uthathwa njengongenangxaki yi-phobia.

I-phobia ifunyaniswa xa ihlale ngaphezulu kweenyanga ezi-6 kwaye ikuchaphazela kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi bakho; I-pistanthrophobia ayibalulekanga kulwalamano olunye, kodwa lonke ubudlelwane bakho bothando.

Iphathwa njani i-phobia?

Unyango, ngakumbi, lunokunceda ukunyanga zonke iintlobo ze-phobias. Unyango lungaqala kunyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (CBT), njengokuvezwa kunye nokuthintela ukuphendula, ukuya kunyango lwengqondo, ngokukaSaltz.

"Njengokuba sisenza kubaxhasi aboyika izigcawu okanye iindawo eziphakamileyo, sisebenza nomxhasi we-pistanthrophobic ukukhulisa kancinci ukubonakalisa nokunyamezelana noloyiko abaloyikayo," utshilo uMcNeil.

Xa oogqirha basebenza nabantu abane-phobias, uMcNeil uchaza ukuba bahlala bejolise ekuguqulweni kokuziphatha njengendlela yokubuyisela indlela umntu ajonga ngayo okanye acinge ngayo malunga nemeko ethile okanye into enxulumene noloyiko okanye intlekele.

"Ugqirha osebenza nomxhasi we-pistanthrophobic uya kuqala ngokuncinci ngokubacela ukuba babone ngeso lengqondo ukuba kuya kuba njani kubudlelwane bezothando kunye nokubakhuthaza ukuba bathethe ngamava kunye nogqirha okhoyo," ucacisa uMcNeil.

Ngokwenza oku, ugqirha unokunceda umxhasi ukuba aphuhlise izakhono zokulwa okanye iindlela zokuzonwabisa xa uxinzelelo okanye uloyiko lukhaba.

Ezinye iindlela zokunyanga i-phobia zingabandakanya amayeza ukuba unezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo, ezinje ngoxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo.

Uncedo lwe-phobia

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omthandayo ujongene ne-pistanthrophobia, inkxaso iyafumaneka.

Zininzi iingcali zonyango, iingcali zengqondo, kunye noogqirha bengqondo abanobuchule kwi-phobias, ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo kunye nemicimbi yobudlelwane. Banokusebenzisana nawe ukwenza isicwangciso sonyango esilungele wena, esinokubandakanya unyango lwengqondo, amayeza, okanye amaqela enkxaso.

Andiqinisekanga ukuba ungaqala ngaphi? Nazi izixhumanisi ezimbalwa zokukunceda ufumane ugqirha kwindawo yakho onokunyanga i-phobias:

• Umbutho wezoNyango zokuziphatha kunye nokuqonda
• Ixhala kunye noxinzelelo loMbutho waseMelika
• Psychology Namhlanje

Yintoni umbono wabantu abane-pistanthrophobia?

Unyango lwale phobia lunokuphumelela ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye nomsebenzi. Ukufumana unyango olululo kunye nenkxaso ye-phobia ethile efana ne-pistanthrophobia ayikuncedisi nje ukuba ufunde ukuthembela kwakhona, kodwa ikwabalulekile nakwimpilo yakho iyonke.

Uphononongo luka-2016 lufumanise ukuba abantu abane-phobia ethile banokwanda kwezifo ezithile, ezinje:

• isifo sokuphefumla
• isifo sentliziyo
• isifo semithambo

Oko kwathiwa, umbono we-phobia njenge-pistanthrophobia ulungile, ukuba nje uzimisele ukuzibophelela kunyango oluqhelekileyo kwaye usebenze nabanikezeli bakho bezempilo ukunyanga nayiphi na eminye imiqathango enokuhamba nesi sifo.

Umgca wezantsi

I-Phobias efana ne-pistanthrophobia inokuphazamisa ukukwazi kwakho ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu.

Ngelixa ujongana nemicimbi esisiseko ebangela ukuba abantu bangoyiki, ekuhambeni kwexesha ungafunda iindlela ezintsha zokuthemba abantu kwaye ungene kubudlelwane obusempilweni.