Yonke into ofuna ukuyifumana malunga nePhonografi 'Isiyobisi'

Umxholo

• Yintoni?
• Ngaba ngokwenene likhoboka?
• Ubonakala njani umlutha?
• Ibangelwa yintoni?
• Ngaba ungayeka ngokwakho okanye kufuneka ubone ingcali?
• Zeziphi iindlela zonyango ezikhoyo onokukhetha kuzo?
• Unyango
• Amaqela enkxaso
• Amayeza
• Kuthekani ukuba ayishiywanga inganyangwa?
• Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nomntu omthandayo
• Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni?

Imifanekiso engamanyala ibisoloko ikunye nathi, kwaye ihlala iphikisana.

Abanye abantu abanamdla kuyo, kwaye abanye bakhubeke ngokunzulu yiyo. Abanye bayayidla ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye abanye rhoqo.

Yonke into iyabila kukhetho lomntu kunye nokuzikhethela.

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba "umlutha we-porn" ayisiyiyo isifo esisemthethweni esaziwa yi-American Psychiatric Association (APA). Kodwa ukufumana ukunyanzelwa okungalawulekiyo ukujonga iphonografi kunokuba yingxaki kwabanye abantu njengezinye iindlela zokuziphatha.

Ukusukela ekubeni ubukho be "likhoboka leziyobisi ezingamanyala" abamkelwa yi-APA, akukho ndlela ichazayo yokuqonda isifo ekhokela iingcali kwezempilo yengqondo ekuchongeni isifo.

Siza kuvavanya umahluko phakathi kokunyanzelwa kunye nokulutha, kwaye siqwalasele ukuba:

• qaphela imikhwa enokuthi ithathelwe ingxaki
• ukunciphisa okanye ukuphelisa isimilo esingafunekiyo
• wazi ixesha lokuthetha nengcali yezempilo yengqondo

Ngaba ngokwenene likhoboka?

Kuba abantu banokuba madolw 'anzima ukuthetha ngayo, kunzima ukwazi ukuba bangaphi abantu abonwabela iphonografi rhoqo, okanye bangaphi abafumanisa kunzima ukumelana nayo.

Uvavanyo lweKinsey Institute lufumanise ukuba iipesenti ze-9 zabantu abajonga iphonografi abaphumelelanga ukuzama ukuyeka. Olu phando lwenziwe ngo-2002.

Ukusukela ngoko, kuye kwaba lula kakhulu ukufikelela kwi-intanethi nge-intanethi kunye neenkonzo zokusasaza.

Olu fikelelo lula lwenza kube nzima ukuyeka ukuba ukubukela iphonografi kuye kwaba yingxaki.

Incwadana yokuHlola kunye neNgcaciso yeMicimbi yokuPhazamiseka kwengqondo (DSM), upapasho lweAmerican Psychiatric Association, isetyenziswa ngoochwephesha bokunceda ekuchongeni ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

I-DSM ayamkeli ukuba likhoboka le-porn njengonyango olusemthethweni lokuqonda isifo.

Kodwa ucebisa ukuba iziyobisi ngokuziphatha zinobuzaza.

Inqaku elinye lokuphononongwa kwe-2015 laqukumbela ukuba iphonografi yabelana ngeendlela ezisisiseko kunye neziyobisi.

Uphando ngokuthelekisa ubuchopho babantu abanyanzelisa ukujonga iphonografi kubuchopho babantu abakhoboka leziyobisi okanye utywala kuvelise iziphumo ezixubeneyo.

Abanye abaphandi bacinga ukuba kunokuba kukunyanzelwa kunokuba likhoboka.

Kukho umahluko omncinci phakathi kokunyanzelwa kunye nokulutha. Ezi nkcazo ziya kuhlala zitshintsha njengoko sifunda ngakumbi, ngokuya Buza uAlice.

Ukunyanzelwa kukuziphatha okuphindaphindiweyo ngaphandle kwesizathu sokuqiqa, kodwa bahlala bebandakanyeka ukunciphisa uxinzelelo. Iziyobisi zibandakanya ukungakwazi ukuyeka isimilo, ngaphandle kweziphumo ezibi. Zombini zibandakanya ukungabikho kolawulo.

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ukuba ukubukela iphonografi kuyingxaki, kukho iindlela zokuzama ukubuyisela ulawulo.

Ubonakala njani umlutha?

Ukujonga nje okanye ukonwabela iphonografi akukwenzi ube likhoboka lalo, kwaye akufuneki nokuba kulungiswe.

Kwelinye icala, iziyobisi zimalunga nokusilela kolawulo- kwaye oko kunokubangela iingxaki ezinkulu.

Indlela ojonga ngayo inokuba ngunobangela wenkxalabo ukuba:

• fumana ukuba ixesha olichitha ubukele iphonografi liyaqhubeka nokukhula
• uzive ngathi ufuna iphonografi "lungisa" - kwaye oko kulungiswa kukunika "phezulu"
• Ndiziva ndinetyala malunga neziphumo zokubukela iphonografi
• chitha iiyure ekugqibeleni usebenzisa iisayithi ze-intanethi ezingamanyala, nokuba oko kuthetha ukungahoyi uxanduva okanye ukulala
• Gxininisa ukuba iqabane lakho elithandanayo okanye owabelana nalo ngesondo ujonge iphonografi okanye enze izinto ezingamanyala nangona bengafuni
• abakwazi ukonwabela isondo ngaphandle kokubukela iphonografi kuqala
• abakwazi ukumelana ne-porn nangona iphazamisa ubomi bakho

Ibangelwa yintoni?

Kunzima ukutsho ukuba kutheni ukubukela iphonografi ngamanye amaxesha kunokunyuka kwindlela yokuziphatha engalawulekiyo.

Ungaqala ukujonga iphonografi kuba uyayithanda, kwaye ukuyibuka akubonakali kuyingxaki.

Ungonwabela ukukhawuleza okukunika kwaye uzifumane ufuna ukukhawuleza rhoqo.

Okwangoku, akunakukhathaza ukuba le mikhwa yokubukela ibangela ingxaki okanye uziva ungonwabanga ngayo kamva. Kukuba phezulu ngomzuzwana awukwazi ukumelana nako.

Ukuba uzama ukuyeka, unokufumanisa ukuba awukwazi ukuyenza. Yiloo ndlela iindlela zokuziphatha ezikhohlisayo ebantwini.

ibonisa ukuba iziyobisi ezithile zokuziphatha, ezinje ngeziyobisi kwi-intanethi, zibandakanya iinkqubo ze-neural ezifanayo neziyobisi- kunye nokuba likhoboka le-intanethi eliyi-intanethi liyafana.

Inokuqala ngexesha lokuziva unesithukuthezi, ulilolo, unxunguphalo, okanye uxinezelekile. Njengolunye uhlobo lokuziphatha gwenxa, inokwenzeka nakubani na.

Ngaba ungayeka ngokwakho okanye kufuneka ubone ingcali?

Unokwazi ukufumana ulawulo ekubukeni kwakho kwe-porn ngokwakho.

Nazi izinto ezimbalwa onokuzama ngazo:

• Cima iphonografi kunye neebhukumaka kuzo zonke izixhobo zakho.
• Lahla yonke ikopi yakho engamanyala.
• Unomnye umntu ofaka isoftware echasene ne-porn kwizixhobo zakho ze-elektroniki ngaphandle kokukunika igama lokugqithisa.
• Yiba nesicwangciso-khetha omnye umsebenzi okanye emibini onokubhenela kuyo xa loo mnqweno unamandla uhlasela.
• Xa ufuna ukujonga iphonografi, zikhumbuze ukuba ibuchaphazele njani ubomi bakho-bhale phantsi ukuba kuyanceda.
• Cinga ukuba ngaba kukho naziphi na izinto ezibangela kwaye uzame ukuziphepha.
• Bambisana nomnye umntu oza kubuza malunga nomkhwa wakho woononophala kwaye akubambe uxanduva.
• Gcina ijenali ukulandelela ukusilela, izikhumbuzo, kunye neminye imisebenzi esebenzayo.

Zeziphi iindlela zonyango ezikhoyo onokukhetha kuzo?

Ukuba unako, cinga ukubona ugqirha ukuze uxoxe ngezinto ezikuxhalabisayo. Banokuza nesicwangciso sonyango esenzelwe wena ukukunceda usebenze ngazo.

Unyango

Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba unyanzelekile okanye ulikhoboka, kufanelekile ukubona ugqirha wezempilo yengqondo kuvavanyo. Oku kunokuba luncedo ngakumbi ukuba unoxinzelelo, iimpawu zoxinzelelo, okanye ukuphazamiseka okungafunekiyo (OCD).

Kuxhomekeka kwindlela iphonografi ebuchaphazela ngayo ubomi bakho, ugqirha wakho unokucebisa umntu ngamnye, iqela, okanye iingcebiso kusapho.

Lumkela abanyangi abathi "bagxile" ekuchongeni nasekunyangeni iphonografi. Kunzima "ukugxila" kwisifo esingenayo inkcazo ekuvunyelwene ngayo ngokufanelekileyo okanye imigaqo echaziweyo yokuchonga.

Iiseshoni zokucebisa ziya kukunceda uqonde ukuba yintoni ebangele ukunyanzelwa kwasekuqaleni. Ingcali yakho inokukunceda uphuhle iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuhlangabezana nokutshintsha ubudlelwane bakho nezinto ezingamanyala.

Amaqela enkxaso

Uninzi lwabantu lufumana amandla ekuthetheni nabanye abanamava okuzibonela kuloo ngxaki inye.

Buza ugqirha wokhathalelo oluphambili, ugqirha wezempilo yengqondo, okanye isibhedlele sasekhaya ngolwazi malunga nephonografi okanye amaqela enkxaso kwezesondo.

Nantsi eminye imithombo onokuyifumana iluncedo:

• I-DailyStrength.org: Iqela leNkxaso yezeSondo / yezeManyala
• Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunye noLawulo lweeNkonzo zeMpilo yeNgqondo (SAMHSA): Inombolo yoNcedo yeSizwe 1-800-662-4357
• Umbutho wezengqondo zaseMelika: Isazi seengqondo

Amayeza

Unyango lweziyobisi ngokuziphatha lubandakanya unyango lwentetho kunye nonyango lokuziphatha. Kodwa ugqirha wakho unokucebisa amayeza ukuba uneemeko esele zikho, ezinje ngoxinzelelo okanye i-OCD.

Kuthekani ukuba ayishiywanga inganyangwa?

Ukunganyangwa, ukunyanzelwa okanye ukuba likhoboka kunokuba yinto eyonakalisayo ebomini bakho. Ubudlelwane, ngakumbi obothando kunye nobudlelwane bezesondo, bunokuchaphazeleka.

Umlutha wezobisi ungakhokelela ku:

• umgangatho wobudlelwane obuhlwempuzekileyo
• ukwaneliseka ngokwesini
• ukuzithemba okuphantsi

Inokukhokelela nakwingxaki yomsebenzi okanye yezemali ukuba awukhathaleli uxanduva okanye uxanduva, okanye ukubukela iphonografi apho ungafumana amanyathelo oluleko.

Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nomntu omthandayo

Ukujonga iphonografi akusoloko kubangela inkxalabo.

Inokuba yimeko yokufuna ukwazi, okanye umntu angonwaba ngokwenene kwi-porn ngaphandle kwemiphumo emibi.

Isenokuba yingxaki xa uqaphela ukuba umntu omthandayo:

• iiwotshi ngelixa usemsebenzini okanye kwezinye iindawo nakumaxesha angafanelekanga
• ichitha ixesha elonyukayo lokubukela iphonografi
• ayikwazi ukugcina uxanduva lwazo kwezentlalo, emsebenzini, okanye kwezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo
• ufumana ubunzima kubudlelwane
• izamile ukunciphisa okanye ukuyeka, kodwa ayinako ukuzigcina kude nayo

Ukuba umntu omkhathaleleyo ubonisa iimpawu zokunyanzelwa okanye umlutha, kunokuba lixesha lokuba uvule imizila yonxibelelwano olungagwebanga.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukujonga iphonografi kwakanye okwexeshana- okanye nokuziqhelanisa- akuthethi ukuba unengxaki.

Kodwa ukuba uzame ukuyeka kwaye awukwazi, cinga ukunxibelelana nengcali yezempilo yengqondo enamava ekunyangeni ukunyanzelwa, iziyobisi, kunye nokungasebenzi ngokwesondo.

Ugqirha oqeqeshiweyo unokukunceda woyise isimilo esingenampilo kwaye uphucule umgangatho wobomi bakho.