Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ngoomama malunga nokuphazamiseka kokutya emva kokubeleka

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unengxaki, kukho uncedo.

Xa ndandineminyaka eli-15 ubudala, ndaba nengxaki yokutya. Ewe, imikhwa yokuphazamiseka yaqala kwiinyanga (nokuba yiminyaka) ngaphambili.

Nge-6, ndandityibilika kwi-spandex kwaye ndisebenza kunye nomama. Izitshixo zam ezi-blonde zangqubeka njengoko sasidanisa, siphucula, kwaye senza i-crunches noJane Fonda. Ngelo xesha, ndandingacingi kangako ngayo. Bendidlala. Sasizonwabisa nje.

Kodwa yayisisifundo sam sokuqala kwinto yokuba imizimba yabasetyhini "bekucingelwa" ukuba ibanjani.

Ezo teyiphu zeVHS zindifundisile ukuba ibhityile intle kwaye inqweneleka. Ndifundile ukuba ubunzima bam bunako (kwaye buza) kumisela ubungakanani bam.

Ndiqale ukusebenza ngaphezulu - {textend} ndisitya kancinci. Ndasebenzisa iimpahla ukufihla ukungafezeki kwam. Ukuzifihla ehlabathini.

Ngexesha endandiqala ngalo ukubala iikhalori, ndandisele ndibhonyile emadolweni koko oogqirha babezakubiza i-EDNOS kamva (ingxaki yokutya, engachazwanga ngenye indlela - {textend} ngoku eyaziwa ngokuba yi-OSFED, okunye ukutya okuchaziweyo okanye ukuphazamiseka kokutya) kunye nokuphazamiseka komzimba .

Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ndifumene uncedo kwaye “ndachacha.” Ngama-30, iinyonga zam zazisele zivulekile, amathanga am sele eqingqekile, kwaye ngeli lixa ndandingawuthandi umzimba wam, ndandingawucaphuki nawo. Ndisebenzise ukutya nokuzilolonga ngendlela esempilweni.

Kodwa emva koko ndakhulelwa, kwaza kwathi gqi ingxaki endandinayo.

I-Biweekly ye-weight-ins ibuyisele ingqalelo yam kwinqanaba elibi.

Ewe kunjalo, unxibelelwano phakathi kokukhulelwa kunye nokuphazamiseka kokutya kuyaziwa ngokufanelekileyo. NgokweMpilo yeNgqondo yaseMelika, malunga nezigidi ezingama-20 zabasetyhini baseMelika abanengxaki yokutya, kwaye iNational Eating Disorder Association (NEDA) ithi ezinye zezi ngxaki zibangelwa kukukhulelwa.

"Ukubala okungapheliyo, ukuthelekisa, kunye nokulinganisa okwenzeka kwezi nyanga zisithoba nangaphaya kunokungena kwezinye zezinto ezisemngciphekweni ezinxulunyaniswa nokuphazamiseka kukutya kunye nokutya kunye nokutya okutyebileyo," icacisa iNEDA. Ukufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo, ukungakwazi ukuzilawula, ukuziva ulilolo, kunye neenkumbulo zobuntwana zidla ngokubonakala ...

Ezi zinto, xa zidityaniswe ne - {textend} kwaye ngokukhawuleza - {textend} ukutshintsha umzimba, kunokuba yityhefu.

Ngokwendawo yokunyanga ukuphazamiseka ekutyeni, iZiko lokuFumanisa, kukho umngcipheko ophezulu wokuphinda ubuye ngexesha lokukhulelwa nasemva kokubeleka ukuba umntu unengxaki okanye unengxaki yokutya.

Ngokumangalisayo, ukukhulelwa kwam kokuqala kwahamba kakuhle. Amava ayemilingo kwaye exhobisa. Ndaziva ndithembekile, ndinomtsalane, kwaye ndinamandla, kwaye okokuqala ngqa kumashumi amathathu eminyaka, ndazithanda - {textend} kunye nefom yam entsha, egqibeleleyo.

Kodwa ukukhulelwa kwam okwesibini kwahlukile. Andikwazi ukucofa ibhlukhwe yam ngeeveki ezi-6. Ndabonisa ngeeveki ezisi-8, kwaye abantu babephawula rhoqo ngenkangeleko yam.

“Wow, unenyanga ezintlanu kuphela ?! Uphethe amawele? ”

(Ewe, ngokwenene.)

Ndasipopola isisu esandayo. Ndinexhala lokuba ukwanda ngokukhawuleza kuthetha ntoni kum kunye nasemva komzimba womntwana, kwaye ndenze konke endinako ukukulawula.

Ndahamba, ndadada, ndenza iyoga, kwaye ndabaleka. Ndigcine iikhalori zam zilinganiselwe - {textend} hayi kakhulu kodwa ndonele. Andizange ndizivumele ukuba ndidle ngaphezu kwe-1 800 leekhalori suku ngalunye, kwaye ndaqala ukukujonga ukutya "njengokulungileyo" okanye "okubi".

Emva kokuziswa, izinto ziye zanda kakhulu.

Ukuncancisa kwaba sisizathu sokuthintela zombini iikhalori kunye nokutya. (Umntwana wam ubebotshelelwe kum, kwaye - {textend} enjalo - {textend} bendibotshelelwe esofeni.) Kwaye ugqirha wam ulungile ukuba asebenzise iiveki ezi-2 emva kokubeleka ethethelela ukusebenza kwam komzimba.

Bendiphila kwaye ndisempilweni.

Musa ukwenza impazamo: Ndingumsebenzi oqhubekayo. Ukuchacha kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezingalunganga yinkqubo yobomi bonke. Kodwa ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unengxaki nomzimba wakho kukho uncedo.

Nazi izinto ezininzi onokuzenza ukuxhasa ukubuyiswa kwakho ngexesha nasemva kokuzalwa.

• Xelela umntu onengxaki, kukhethwa ugqirha, umntu osindileyo, okanye ilungu losapho elixhasayo okanye umhlobo. Awunakho ukufumana uncedo ukuba uzifihla iimpawu zakho, kwaye ukuvuma ukuba unengxaki linyathelo lokuqala ekubuyiseni.
• Cwangcisa utyelelo lokubeleka nje ukuba ufunde ukuba ukhulelwe, kwaye wazise umboneleli wakho wezempilo ukuba unengxaki (okanye uye wazabalaza) ngengxaki yokutya. Ukuba abasebenzisani, abanakunceda, okanye bangazenzi iimvakalelo zakho kunye noloyiko, fumana ugqirha omtsha ngokukhawuleza. Udinga i-OB-GYN eya kusebenza kunye nawe.
• Ukuba awunaye ugqirha wezifo zengqondo, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wezonyango, okanye ugqirha wezondlo oqinisekisiweyo, fumana enye. Uninzi luqeqeshelwe ukuphatha ngokuthe ngqo ukuphazamiseka kokutya, kwaye ugqirha olungileyo unokukunceda wenze "isicwangciso" sokukhulelwa. Oku kufuneka kubandakanya isicwangciso esibonakalayo nesisempilweni sokufumana ubunzima kwaye indlela yokujamelana nokufumana ngesiquphe ubunzima obuthethiweyo.
• Zimasa ukukhulelwa, ukukhulelwa, kunye neeklasi zokubeleka.
• Fumana amaqela enkxaso yendawo okanye izingxoxo ezikwi-Intanethi. Uninzi oluchacha kwingxaki yokutya lufumanisa uncedo lweengcebiso kumaqela.
• Fumana indlela yokubonisa imbeko kwaye ziphathe ngaphandle komzimba okanye ukutya.

Ewe kunjalo, ayithethi, kodwa inyanzelekile ukuba ufumane uncedo- {textend} ayisiyompilo-ntle yakho kuphela kodwa neyomntwana wakho.

Ngokwe-Eating Disorder Hope - {textend} umbutho obonelela ngolwazi kunye nezixhobo, kwaye ujolise ekupheliseni ukutya okungalunganga - {textend} "abasetyhini abakhulelweyo abanengxaki yokutya abakusemngciphekweni omkhulu wokuzala ngaphambi kwexesha kunye [/ okanye] ukuzalwa okuphantsi iintsana ezityebileyo ... [basemngciphekweni] wokufumana isitopu okanye [/ okanye] bafumane ukudakumba emva kokubeleka. ”

Iingxaki zokutya zasemva kokubeleka zinokwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuncancisa. Ixhala, uloyiko, imibono yokuzibulala, kunye nezinye iimpembelelo zengqondo ziqhelekile.

Kodwa lukhona uncedo.

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