Iingcebiso ezi-8 zokujongana nokukhulelwa kwaye wedwa

Umxholo

• 1. Yakha inkqubo yakho yenkxaso
• 2. Nxibelelana nabanye abazali abangenamaqabane
• 3. Cinga ngeqabane lokuzala
• 4. Ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso sokukhulelwa nokuba ngumzali
• 5. Fikelela kwiindawo ezingenzi nzuzo zasekuhlaleni
• 6. Beka amakhadi akho phezu kwetafile
• 7. Wazi umthetho
• 8. Zihoye
• Amanyathelo alandelayo
• Q:
• A:

Nawuphi na umama oza kubakho uya kukuxelela ukuba ukukhulelwa kuyaphikisana. Kwiinyanga ezilithoba ezizayo, uyakube usenza umntu omncinci. Inkqubo iya kuba yomlingo kwaye yoyike, kwaye intle kwaye yoyike. Uya kuba:

• wonwabile
• Uxinzelelo
• kukhanya
• ngokweemvakalelo

Kodwa ukukhulelwa kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ngakumbi ukuba awunalo iqabane lokukuxhasa, nokuba kukuqhubela kutyelelo lwaphambi kokubeleka okanye kukunceda ukhululeke ebusuku.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ukhulelwe kwaye uwedwa, Nazi iingcebiso ezisibhozo zokunceda ukwenza inkqubo ibe lula.

1. Yakha inkqubo yakho yenkxaso

Fikelela kubathandekayo onokuthi uthembele kubo ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakho nangaphaya. Kuya kufuneka ubhenele kwaba bahlobo okanye izalamane ukuze ufumane inkxaso. Abantu obathandayo banokuhamba nawe ukuya kwindawo yokuqeshwa ngugqirha, bakuncede ngayo nayiphi na imiba yezonyango okanye yobuqu, kwaye basebenze njengemfihlo xa ufuna ukukhupha nokukhupha uxinzelelo.

2. Nxibelelana nabanye abazali abangenamaqabane

Ngelixa kubalulekile ukuba nenkqubo engundoqo yenkxaso, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo ukufikelela kwabanye abazali abaza kuba kukukhulelwa kuphela. Fumana iqela lendawo leentsapho ezinomzali omnye. Unokudibana nabo kwaye wabelane ngamabali ahambelana nokukhulelwa.

3. Cinga ngeqabane lokuzala

Abanye abaza kuba ngoomama banokufuna ukufumana ukuzalwa ngaphandle komlingane okanye othandekayo kwigumbi. Kodwa ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokuhamba nomsebenzi ngaphandle kwenkxaso, cinga ukucela umhlobo okanye isihlobo ukuba senze njengeqabane lakho lokuzalwa, kokubini kubasebenzi nakulo lonke ixesha lokukhulelwa.

Unokubandakanya iqabane lakho lokuzalwa kutyelelo lwakho lwangaphambi kokubeleka kunye neminye imisebenzi egxile ekukhulelweni, njengeeklasi zokuphefumla. Ukuphonononga isicwangciso sakho sokubeleka kunye nabo ukuze bazi iminqweno yakho.

4. Ukuphuhlisa isicwangciso sokukhulelwa nokuba ngumzali

Akukho khosi enye yokukhulelwa nokuba ngumzali. Kodwa ukuba ucwangcisa kwangaphambili, unokukwazi ukuyeka nayiphi na imiceli mngeni onokuhlangabezana nayo. Isicwangciso sakho sinokubandakanya ukuba uza kukulawula njani ukukhulelwa kwakho, ukusuka kutyelelo lukagqirha ukuya kuthenga evenkileni. Oku kuya kukunceda ufumane naluphi na uhlengahlengiso oya kuthi ulwenze.

Unokuphuhlisa uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lweminyaka emibini- unyaka wokukhulelwa kunye nonyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntwana wakho. Oku kunokukunceda uhlale ungaphezulu kwemali yakho.

5. Fikelela kwiindawo ezingenzi nzuzo zasekuhlaleni

Abanye oomama abaza kuba bengenabo abantu ababangqongileyo ukuba babonelele ngenkxaso abayifunayo. Cinga ngokufikelela kwinto engenzi nzuzo ejongene nokuzala okanye ukukhulelwa.

Ukungenzi nzuzo kunokuba nakho ukukuqhagamshela nonontlalontle onokuthi akukhokele okanye akuncede ufake isicelo kwiinkonzo, ezinje ngezibonelelo zaBantwana abaNtsana ngaBantwana okanye inkxaso yezindlu.

6. Beka amakhadi akho phezu kwetafile

Nyaniseka kubo bonke abantu abakungqongileyo malunga neemfuno zakho, iimfuno kunye nemiba. Thetha kumphathi wakho malunga nendawo yokuhlala oyifunayo. Xelela usapho lwakho xa bexhasa kwaye xa benyanzelekile. Yazisa abahlobo bakho ukuba ufuna uncedo olongezelelekileyo.

7. Wazi umthetho

Akusiyo imfihlo ukuba iUnited States iwa ngasemva xa kufikwa kumba wokuxhasa abazali kwaye kungekudala babe ngabazali. Kukho iimeko ezininzi apho umqeshi agxothe umsebenzi okhulelweyo ngenxa yokuba efuna indawo yokuhlala ekhuselweyo phantsi komthetho womdibaniso.

Phanda umthetho wengqesho, waseburhulumenteni, kunye nowaseburhulumenteni ukuze wazi ukuba yintoni na kwaye ayikhuselwanga ngokusemthethweni. Uya kudinga ukwaziswa xa uthetha nomqeshi wakho okanye ufuna indawo yokuhlala kwindawo kawonke-wonke.

8. Zihoye

Soloko ufumana ixesha lakho. Kungekudala -kuza kubakho abazali kufuneka babenakho ukuphumla kunye nokuphefumla ngexesha eliyakuba ziinyanga ezilithoba zemvakalelo.

Fumana iklasi yaphambi kokubeleka. Ukuba ukuhamba akukho buhlungu, hambahamba epakini. Zinike ukukhuselwa ngokukhuselekileyo kokukhulelwa. Bhukisha idinga le-spa. Funda incwadi busuku ngabunye. Ulahleke kwiimuvi zakho ozithandayo. Thenga ngokulahla. Bhala. Bukela imidlalo nabahlobo bakho. Nantoni na ekwenza wonwabe, yenze.

Amanyathelo alandelayo

Ukukhulelwa kwaye uwedwa akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uziphathe wedwa kwezi nyanga zilithoba. Zijikeleze nabahlobo kunye nabantu obathandayo abanokukunceda ngokwakho, kwezonyango nangokweemvakalelo. Fikelela kwabanye oomama abangabodwa ukuze ube nenkxaso ngamaxesha omabini obumnandi nanzima.

Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, qiniseka ukuba uyazikhathalela.

Q:

Zeziphi iindlela zokhetho kubantwana emva kokuba ndihambisile?

Isigulana esingaziwayo

A:

Ukujonga phambili kukhathalelo lwabantwana yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yocwangciso ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Abanye abaqeshi banikezela ngezinto abanokukhetha kuzo kubaqeshwa babo kwaye banikezela ngesaphulelo. Hlola nesebe lakho lezabasebenzi ukuze ufumanise ukuba ngaba kukho naziphi na izibonelelo emsebenzini. Ikliniki okanye ikliniki exhaswa ngurhulumente iya kuba nakho ukukunika izibonelelo ngokuxhomekeke kwindawo okuyo. ISebe lezeMpilo laseMelika kunye neNkonzo zoLuntu linokubonelela ngolwazi.

UKimberly Dishman, MSN, WHNP-BC, RNC-OBAIimpendulo zimele uluvo lweengcali zethu zonyango. Yonke imixholo inolwazi ngokungqongqo kwaye akufuneki ukuba ithathelwe ingqalelo njengengcebiso yezonyango.