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Ndibeka olunye uphawu lokutshekisha kwiphedi encinci etyheli yamanqaku anamathele kwidesika yam. Umhla weshumi elinesine wosuku. Ngu-6: 45 emva kwemini. Ndijonge phezulu, ndiphefumlela phezulu kwaye ndibone iinqanawa zesiselo ezine ezahlukeneyo zijinga kwindawo ejikeleze idesika yam-enye isetyenziselwa amanzi, enye isetyenziselwa i-Athletic Greens, imagi yekofu, kunye neyokugqibela kunye nentsalela yesmoothie yale ntsasa.

Amaxesha alishumi elinesine, Ndacinga ngaphakathi. Luninzi uhambo oluya ekhitshini.

Ibe yinyanga enomdla yokuphambuka kwezentlalo kwigumbi lam elincinci lomgangatho wesine eNew York. Ndiziva ndinombulelo kakhulu, zonke izinto ziqwalaselwe. Ndinempilo yam, ukukhanya okukhulu kwendalo okungena ngefestile ntsasa nganye, umthombo wengeniso njengentatheli ezizimeleyo, kunye nekhalenda exineneyo noxanduva lwasentlalweni-konke oko kunxibe iblukhwe esofeni yam.

Nangona kunjalo, akukho nanye kuloo nto eyenza la mava azive enzima. Ayisiyiyo kuphela ngenxa yokwenza yonke into-kuyo-jikelele-ubhubhane-ngokwasemzimbeni-yedwa, kodwa kuba ndiziva ndityibilika.

Ndilahle iiponti ezingama-70 malunga neminyaka eli-10 eyadlulayo. Ukuphulukana nobo bunzima bukhulu kwathatha malunga neminyaka emithathu yomzamo, kwaye ndandingumfundi ophezulu kwikholeji xa yonke into yayithethwa kwaye yenziwe. Kwenzekile kum ngezigaba: Isigaba sokuqala sasifunda indlela yokutya ngcono kunye nokumodareyitha. Inqanaba lesibini lalifunda ukuthanda ukubaleka.

Njengokuba ndifundile ukubaleka, ukuziqhelanisa nendlela yokutya esempilweni kufuna nje oko: ukuziqhelisa. Kwaye ngaphandle kokuba neminyaka elishumi okanye ngaphezulu yokwenza izigqibo ezikrelekrele phantsi kwebhanti lam — ukwenza njalo ngoku kunganzima kakhulu.

Ngaba uva enye into ibhloko yombhali isiza? Betha ifriji.

Akukho namnye kumbhalo weqela ondiphendulayo? Vula i-pantry.

Ngaba unokudandatheka ngenxa yentlungu yomlenze? Ibhotolo yamandongomane, ndiza kuwe.

Hlala ummelwane wam ixesha lama-31 ndimamele "eNew York, eNew York" ngo-7pm ndizibuza ukuba kuzode kubenini ndidityaniswe ngaphakathi kwaye ukuba izinto ziyakuze zivakale njengakuqala? Isiselo somdiliya. Iwayini eninzi.

Phambi kokuba ndiqhubeke, makhe ndicacise into ibenye: andinaxhala malunga nobunzima bam okanye inani elikwisikali ngoku — hayi nelinye. Ndipholile ndiphuma kwesi sithuba endaweni eyahlukileyo, inzima kunakuqala. Ndiyazi ukuba kubalulekile ukuba nobabalo nam ngeli xesha lokuphambana, kwaye ubomi buya kulunga ukuba kubandakanya iiglasi ezimbalwa zewayini okanye iicokies zetshokholethi.

Into endinexhala ngayo, nangona kunjalo, kukuba okokuqala emva kwexesha elide, izinto ziziva zingalawuleki. Ndivakalelwa ngokungathi ndiza kufutshane nokutya, yonke ingqiqo iyaphuma ngefestile. Ndiziva ndibiza rhoqo ekhitshini, kanye leyo ndandiyiva xa ndandikwishumi elivisayo.

Kuvakala nje izolo ukuba bendihlala ekhaya phantsi kophahla lwabazali bam, ndisiva ucango lwegaraji luvaleka ezantsi, ndibona imoto kaMama ishiya indlela. Okokugqibela ndedwa, ndenza idash ekhitshini ngokukhawuleza ukuze ndibone ukuba ndingatya ntoni. Xa ndindedwa ekhaya, akukho mntu wayenokundigweba ngenxa yezinto "endizifunayo" phaya.

Emazantsi entliziyo, into “ebendiyifuna” yayikukuziva ngathi ndiyakwazi ukulawula izinto, ezifana nezo zobomi bam bobuqu. Kunoko, ndathembela ekutyeni njengendlela yokuhlangabezana nale meko. Ukufakwa kwekhalori eyongezelelweyo (ngelixa ungakhathaleli ukuba yintoni ngokwenene Ukuqhubeka) kukhokelele ekuzuzeni ubunzima obuye babangela ukuba ndicaphuke emzimbeni wam.

Ngoku, ngaphezu kweminyaka eli-16 emva kwezo ntsuku ndihleli ndedwa ndigqogqa isikhenkcezisi, yaye ndilapha kwakhona. Ndiqala ukuqonda ukuba ngaphambi kokuvalelwa, bendingachithi iiyure ezininzi ngaphakathi kwindlu enegumbi elinye lokulala-mhlawumbi ngabom nangona ndingazi. Ndilapha, ekhaya ndedwa, ndicinga ngomnqweno oqhubekayo wokuya efrijini, kwaye ndijongene (kwakhona kwakhona) ubomi obuzaliswe zizinto ezininzi endingenabo tu ukuzibamba. Kodwa iichipselethi zetshokholethi? Iicocktails? Iibhloko zeshizi? uPretzel uyajija? Ipitsa? Ewe. Ndiyibambe kakuhle le nto. (Idibeneyo: Indlela iCoronavirus Lockdown enokuchaphazela ngayo ukuPhazamiseka kokutya-kunye nento onokuyenza ngayo)

"Eli lelona xesha linzima kuye wonke umntu," utshilo uMelissa Gerson, L.C.S.W., umseki kunye nomlawuli weklinikhi waseColumbus Park, oliziko eliphambili kwiziko lonyango lokunyanga ukungalali kwesiXeko saseNew York. (Okwangoku, uGerson okunene ubambe imihla ngemihla "Dibana kwaye Utye Ndawonye" iiseshoni zenkxaso yokutya ebonakalayo, enikezela ngamava okutya onyango ngexesha langempela, abanye ngeendwendwe ezikhethekileyo babelana ngamabali afanelekileyo.) kwaye unokuqaphela ukuba uswele izixhobo zangaphakathi onokuthi uqhele ukuthembela kuzo ukuze uhlale ulungelelene. "

Ibhalansi yinto endisebenza kuyo njengoko ndiphethe ubomi kule mihla intsha yemihla ngemihla. Kum, ukulawula amaxhala am ngokutya kakhulu kukuziqhelanisa nemihla ngemihla. Ngokwabelana ngento endiziva ngayo nabahlobo, ukuvula i-intanethi, kunye nokubhala izinto, sele ndikwindawo engcono evakalelwa kukuba iyalawuleka kwaye ayinamntu wedwa.Ngokukhuthaza, uGerson undixelele ukuba ndiqale kakuhle.

Eli asiloxesha lokwenza ukuba uzive njengawe isidingo ukwenza nantoni na. Ukuba unxaniwe, sela. Ukuba ulambile, yitya. Yondla. Kodwa, ukuba ubunzima bam ngokutya, okanye kwanoluvo nje lokuziva ungalawuleki, isandi esiqhelekileyo, yazi ukuba awuwedwa. Ukuba u yenza uzive ukhula kancinci kwaye ufuna ukubuyela emgceni nasekulawuleni i-snacking engapheliyo, uGerson unikezela ngeendlela zakhe ezilungileyo kuye nakubani na oziva engalawuleki ngokutya kwabo, naye:

1. Cinga ngezahlulo zakho: Ufuna ukuzondla ngokungathi uza kondla umntu omkhathaleleyo, utshilo uGerson. Oku kuthetha ukuba ulungisa isidlo ngasinye ngokungathi uza kukhonza omnye umntu. Ukuziqhelanisa, kum, oku kuthetha ukwenza ipitsa ngolwesiHlanu ebusuku (ndijonge phambili kuyo yonke iveki), ndiziphakela isiqingatha sayo, emva koko ndongeze esinye isiqingatha kwisidlo sangokuhlwa sangeCawa. Ngale ndlela, andizibandezi eyona nto ndiyifunayo kwaye ndiyenza ngendlela eyanelisayo ngokupheleleyo.

2. Yiba nendawo ekhayeni lakho elungiselelwe ukutya: Nangona kunokuba kukulingwa ukuba uhlale phantsi kwidesika yakho kwaye udibanise emva kwemini yakho ukwenza uluhlu kunye nesidlo sakho sasemini kwi-tow, akusiyo inzala yakho. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba wenza izinto ezininzi ngexesha elinye, awunikeli ngqalelo kukutya okutyayo. Kunokuba ukhuphe ukutya kwakho, hlala phantsi etafileni. Yiba nendawo ekhayeni lakho elizinikele ekutyeni. Oku kuyakunceda ukuba ube namava okutya anomdla okhuthaza ukuqonda kwaye ikuvumela ukuba uchonge indlala yokwenene evela kumnqweno wokutya.

3. Ngaphambi kokuba ufikelele, phefumla. Amaxesha amaninzi sifikelela ekufumaneni ukutya njengesicwangciso sokumelana phambi kokuzama enye into enokuba ngcono kwimizimba yethu. Ngaphambi kokuba abalekele ekhitshini, uGerson ucebisa ukuba uzame umsebenzi wokuphefumla, kubandakanya nenombolo yesibhozo yeendlela. "Khawufane ucinge inani lesibhozo. Cinga ngokulandela umkhondo ophezulu njengoko uphefumla," utshilo. "Emva koko ujikeleze iluphu engezantsi, kwaye uphefumle. Ngokukhawuleza isebenze inkqubo yemithambo-luvo kwaye ikunike ukuzola, ukuze ufikelele kwingqondo yakho enobulumko kwaye ucinge kancinci ngalo mzuzu."

Ndiphelele ekuchitheni ixesha elininzi ndibhaka (ndenze iikeyiki zebhotolo yamandongomane phezolo), kodwa ukutya "ukutya okulula okwesibini" kwezinto ezingapheliyo ezibhakiweyo kuza ngentsimbi yesi-3. uyenza mna ingozi ngaphezu kokulungileyo. Ukuziqhelanisa, ubuchule benani lesibhozo bundincedile. Namhlanje, ndiye ndahlala phantsi emva kwesidlo sam sasemva kwemini, kwaye ndacinga ngokungena ekhitshini ukuze ndifumane enye. Emva koko, ndiye ndacinga ngenombolo yesibhozo.

Ndiphefumle. Oko kuphefumla kwandinceda ukuba ndizole kwinto evakala ngathi kukuxhalaba okukhoyo. Ngesiquphe, bendingasafuni nokutya okutyiwayo. Ndiyifumene eyona nto bendiyifuna: Ukuziva ndinolawulo ngakumbi.

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