Ukukhulisa abantwana xa une-HIV: Into ekufuneka uyazi

Umxholo

• Isileyiti esicocekileyo sokufundisa
• Ukuthetha ngesondo kunzima
• Ukwabelana ngemeko yakho esidlangalaleni
• Yintsholongwane nje
• Intsholongwane kaGawulayo kunye nokukhulelwa
• Yise kude

Emva kokufunda ndine-HIV ndineminyaka engama-45, kwafuneka ndenze isigqibo sokuba ndizokumxelela bani. Xa kufikwa ekwabelaneni nabanye abantwana ngesifo sam, bendisazi ukuba ndinokhetho olunye kuphela.

Ngelo xesha, abantwana bam babeneminyaka eli-15, eli-12, nenesi-8, kwaye yayiyindlela yokwenyani edolweni ukubaxelela ukuba ndine-HIV. Bendigula esofeni iiveki kwaye sonke besinexhala lokwazi unobangela wokugula kwam.

Ngaphakathi kwimizuzu engama-30 yomnxeba otshintshe ubomi bam, umntwana wam oneminyaka eli-15 wayesefowunini ekhangela iimpendulo kwi-intanethi. Ndikhumbula esithi, "Mama, awuyi kufa kule nto." Ndacinga ukuba ndiyazi nge-HIV, kodwa ngequbuliso ukufumanisa ukuba kumzimba wakho kutshintsha imbono yakho kakhulu.

Okumangalisayo kukuba, yayikukuziphatha okuzolileyo komntwana wam ukuba ndibambelele kwintuthuzelo kuloo maxesha okuqala okufunda ndandine-HIV.

Nantsi indlela endathetha ngayo nabantwana bam malunga nokuchongwa kwam, kwaye kufuneka uyazi ntoni ngokuba nabantwana xa une-HIV.

Isileyiti esicocekileyo sokufundisa

Kwintombi yam eneminyaka eli-12 ubudala nonyana oneminyaka esi-8 ubudala, i-HIV yayingeyonto kodwa iileta ezintathu. Ukubafundisa ngaphandle kombutho wehlazo yayingalindelwanga, kodwa yayilithuba elinethamsanqa.

Ndacacisa ukuba i-HIV yintsholongwane ehlasela iiseli ezilungileyo emzimbeni wam, kwaye ndiza kuqala ukuthatha amayeza kungekudala ukubuyisela umva loo nkqubo. Ngokwemvelo, ndasebenzisa isifaniso sePac-Man ukubanceda babone indima yonyango ngokuchasene nentsholongwane. Ukuthetha phandle kwandinika ukukhululeka ndisazi ukuba ndenza into entsha xa ndithetha nge-HIV.

Icandelo elikhohlisayo lalicacisa ukuba umama uyifumene njani le nto emzimbeni wakhe.

Ukuthetha ngesondo kunzima

Oko ndakhumbula, bendisazi ukuba ndiza kuvuleleka kakhulu kubantwana bam bexesha elizayo ngesondo. Kodwa ke ndandinabantwana kwaye loo nto yaphuma ngqo ngefestile.

Ukuthetha ngesondo kunye nabantwana bakho kunzima. Yinxalenye yakho ozigcina uzifihlile njengomama. Xa kuziwa kwimizimba yabo, uluhlobo lwethemba lokuba bayayiqonda bodwa. Ngoku, bendijongene nokuchaza ukuba ndiyifumana njani i-HIV.

Ngamantombazana am, ndabelana ngokuba ndafumana i-HIV ngokwabelana ngesondo nomntu endandithandana naye kwaye ndayeka kuloo nto. Unyana wam wayesazi ukuba ivela kulowo uthandana naye, kodwa ndakhetha ukugcina “njani” kungacaci. Kule minyaka mine idlulileyo, uvile nge-gamut malunga nokusasazeka kwe-HIV ngenxa yokundazisa kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ubeke ezimbini kunye nezibini.

Ukwabelana ngemeko yakho esidlangalaleni

Ukuba bendigcina imeko yam iyimfihlo kwaye ndingenayo inkxaso yabantwana bam, andicingi ukuba ndingaba esidlangalaleni njenganamhlanje.

Abantu abaninzi abaphila nentsholongwane kaGawulayo kufuneka baxhathise umnqweno wokwabelana ngolwazi lwabo kunye nokunciphisa ukubekwa amabala kubahlobo babo, usapho, abantu abasebenza nabo, okanye nakumajelo onxibelelwano. Oku kunokuba ngenxa yokuba abantwana babo bengazi okanye badala ngokwaneleyo ukuba baqonde ukubekwa amabala kwaye bacele ukuba abazali babo bathule ukuze baphile qete. Abazali banokukhetha ukuhlala bucala ukukhusela abantwana babo kwiziphumo ezibi zebala.

Ndinethamsanqa lokuba abantwana bam bazi besebancinci ukuba i-HIV ayisiyiyo le nto ibiku-80s nakuma-90s. Asisebenzisi isigwebo sentambo namhlanje. INTSHOLONGWANE KAGAWULAYO ​​iyimeko engalawulekiyo engapheliyo.

Ngokunxibelelana kwam nolutsha esikolweni apho ndisebenza khona, ndiye ndaqaphela ukuba uninzi lwabo alunalo nofifi lokuba yintoni i-HIV. Ngokuchaseneyo, uninzi lwabantu abancinci abafuna iingcebiso kwimithombo yam yeendaba zentlalo banexhala lokuba baya "kuyifumana" i-HIV ekuncamiseni kwaye bangafa. Ngokucacileyo, oku akuyonyani.

Iminyaka engamashumi amathathu anesihlanu yokubekwa amabala kunzima ukuyishukumisa, kwaye i-intanethi ayisoloko isenza i-HIV. Abantwana kufuneka bafunde kwizikolo zabo malunga nokuba yintoni i-HIV namhlanje.

Abantwana bethu bafanele ulwazi lwangoku ukuze batshintshe incoko malunga ne-HIV. Oku kungasiqhubela kwicala lothintelo kunye nolondolozo njengeendlela zokuphelisa le ntsholongwane.

Yintsholongwane nje

Ukuthi unenkukhu, umkhuhlane, okanye ingqele eqhelekileyo ayinabumba. Singabelana ngokulula ngolu lwazi ngaphandle kokukhathazeka malunga nokuba abanye bazakucinga ntoni okanye bazothini.

Kwelinye icala, intsholongwane kaGawulayo yenye yeentsholongwane ezithwala awona mabala - ubukhulu becala kungenxa yokuba inokudluliselwa ngokudibana ngokwesondo okanye ngenaliti ekwabelwana ngayo. Kodwa ngamayeza anamhlanje, unxibelelwano alunasiseko, luyonakalisa, kwaye lusenokuba yingozi.

Abantwana bam babona i-HIV njengepilisi endiyisebenzisayo hayi enye into. Bayakwazi ukulungisa izihlobo zabo xa abazali babahlobo babo bedlulise ulwazi oluphosakeleyo noluyingozi.

Endlwini yethu, siyigcina ilula kwaye siqhula ngayo. Unyana wam uya kuthi andinakukhotha i-ice cream yakhe kuba akafuni ukufumana i-HIV kum. Emva koko siyahleka, ndize ndibambe i-ice cream yakhe phofu.

Ukwenza ukukhanya kobubhanxa baloo mava yindlela yethu yokuhlekisa ngentsholongwane engasakwazi ukuhlekisa ngam.

Intsholongwane kaGawulayo kunye nokukhulelwa

Into abantu abaninzi abangayaziyo kukuba kunokukhuseleka kakhulu ukuba nabantwana xa une-HIV. Ngelixa ibingelilo amava am, ndiyazi uninzi lwabasetyhini abane-HIV abaye bakhulelwa ngempumelelo ngaphandle kwemicimbi.

Xa kunyango kwaye kungabonakali, abasetyhini banokuba nokuzala okukhuselekileyo kwilungu lobufazi kunye neentsana ezingenayo i-HIV esempilweni. Abanye abantu basetyhini abazi ukuba banentsholongwane ye-HIV de bakhulelwe, ngelixa abanye befumana intsholongwane ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ukuba indoda iphila neNTSHOLONGWANE KAGAWULAYO, mancinci amathuba okuba iyosulela le ntombazana kwiqabane elingumfazi nakwintsana.

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, kukho inkxalabo encinci malunga nomngcipheko wokuhambisa xa kunyango.

Yise kude

Ukutshintsha indlela ihlabathi elibona ngayo i-HIV kuqala kwisizukulwana ngasinye esitsha. Ukuba asenzi nzame zokufundisa abantwana bethu ngale ntsholongwane, ibala alisoze liphele.

UJennifer Vaughan ngummeli we-HIV + kunye ne-vlogger. Ngolwazi oluthe kratya kwibali lakhe le-HIV kunye ne-vlogs zemihla ngemihla ngobomi bakhe abane-HIV, unokumlandela kwiYouTube naku-Instagram, kwaye uxhase ukuxhasa kwakhe apha