Lo mfazi uyavuma ukuba ubuza ukuba kutheni isoka lakhe elinomzimba "ogqibeleleyo" latsaleleka kuye

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Jonga uRaeann Langas 'kwi-Instagram feed kwaye uya kukhawuleza uqaphele ukuba ibhlog yefashoni kunye nemodeli egobile yindawo ephambili yokuzithemba komzimba kunye nokuzithemba komzimba. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba akoyiki ukwabelana ngento emenza abe sesichengeni. Wayekhe wathetha malunga nokuba kutheni kulungile ukuba ungawuthandi umzimba wakho ngamanye amaxesha nokuba uyawuxhasa umzimba, kwaye wazi njani ukuba ulwazelelelo lomzimba alusoloko lukhangeleka ngendlela okhangeleka ngayo. Ngoku, uvula malunga nenye indlela alwa ngayo nomzimba: kubudlelwane bakhe.

'Kutheni unomdla kum?' Lo ngumbuzo endawubuza uBen malunga nonyaka emva kokuba siqale ukuthandana, ”ubhale kutshanje kwi-Instagram ecaleni komfanekiso wakhe kunye nesithandwa sakhe. "Bendingayiqondi indlela umntu onomzimba 'ogqibeleleyo' angatsala ngayo kum. Ngaba ebengayi konwaba ngakumbi nomntu obhityileyo kwaye eneembaleki njengaye?" (Idibeneyo: Kutheni lo Mfazi "Ulibale i-Bikini yakhe" Ngomhla oya elunxwemeni)

Xa ujonga ngasemva, uLangas uthi uyayiqonda indlela obabungcoliswe ngayo ubudlelwane bakhe nomzimba wakhe. "Ngelo xesha ndandingaqinisekanga ngokumangalisayo," uxelela Imilo. “Ndandingaziboni ndinomtsalane ngoko ndandingaqondi ukuba indoda ingandifumana njani enomtsalane, entloko ndandikholelwa ukuba umfazi obhityileyo okanye onembaleki kunam ungcono kunam kuba ekukhuleni kwethu siyafundiswa. yiyo oko kuthathwa njengokutsala nokunqwenelekayo. "

Isithandwa sakhe uBen Mullis, nangona kunjalo, samchazela ukuba ewe, wayenomdla kuhlobo lomzimba wakhe. "Andizange ndidibane nendoda efumanise ukuba abantu ababhinqileyo banomtsalane ngoko ke andinakuyiqonda," utshilo. "Undixelele nokuba akufuneki sibambane omnye nomnye, uyayonwabela loo nto yokuba sinomdla ohlukileyo ebomini-kwenzeka nje ukuba aphakamise kwaye asebenze." (Idibeneyo: UKatie Willcox Ufuna ukuba wazi ukuba ungaphezulu kakhulu kwinto oyibonayo kwisipili)

Ngokuyinxenye, uLangas ugxeka ukunqongophala kokumelwa kweentlobo ezahlukeneyo zemizimba kumajelo eendaba ngemiba yakhe ngembonakalo yomzimba. "Kwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, kwakungekho zimodeli zjika okanye iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zomzimba ezimelwe kwiimagazini eziqhelekileyo," utshilo. "Abafazi ababoniswe kwezo mpapasho yinto endandikholelwa ukuba amadoda ayeyinqwenela: Umntu owayebhityile enamaqhubu amakhulu. Kum, yayilula kakhulu: Ndandicinga ukuba uBen, njengawo onke amadoda, wayenokonwaba ngakumbi xa efumana ibhinqa elibhityileyo kunam ngenxa yokuba Yile nto bendicwangciselwe ukuba ndiyicinge. " (Idibeneyo: UKatie Willcox ufuna ukuba abafazi bayeke ukucinga ukuba bafuna ukunciphisa umzimba ukuze bathandwe)

Ngelixa uLangas esebenza rhoqo kwaye esenza ukutya okunempilo, uMullis ubeyimbaleki ubomi bakhe bonke, edlala intenetya ekholejini, kwaye ngoku ungumncedisi womqeqeshi kwiYunivesithi yasePepperdine. Ngoko, ewe, imizimba yabo zi eyakhiwe ngokwahlukileyo-kodwa kumthathe iminyaka ukuba azive ekhululekile ngalo mbono, utsho."Undincede ukuba ndiqonde ukuba ayisiyiyo indlela umzimba wakho ubonakala ngayo, imalunga nokuphila ubomi obunempilo- kwaye impilo ibukeka yahlukile kuwo wonke umntu."

Njengoko uLangas wafumana ukuzithemba kwakhe kwaye wakhuseleka ngomzimba wakhe ngomsebenzi wakhe njengemodeli egobileyo kunye nommeli okhuthaza umzimba, okukhona inkangeleko yesithandwa sakhe yayimenza azive ephantsi, wongezelela. Ndicinga ukuba xa wonwabile nesiqu sakho, kulula kuwe ukonwaba nabanye, utshilo. "KuBen, ukusebenza ngaphandle kumzisela uvuyo olukhulu, ke ndifuna ukumxhasa kuloo nto kwaye ndibhiyozele impumelelo yakhe kunye naye."

Kwamanye amanina anokubuza ngobudlelwane babo ngokusekelwe kuhlobo lwemizimba yawo, uLangas uthi: “Abafazi abaninzi baziva ngathi abamfanelanga umntu ngenxa yenkangeleko yabo kuba njengabafazi sijongene noxinzelelo olukhulu lokujonga ngendlela ethile. yiyo loo nto ndikholelwa ngokuqinileyo kubafazi abafumana ukuzithemba kwabo kwaye bavuleleke ekufumaneni konke okubafaneleyo ebomini. "

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