Ukuthetha ngokuGwenxa: Into ekuyo kunye nendlela yokujongana

Umxholo

• Qaphela: Yibize ngokuba yintoni
• Lumka
• Chaza umgxeki wakho
• Idilesi: Yiyeke kwiindlela zayo
• Beka ngendlela efanelekileyo
• Thetha phandle
• Cinga ‘mhlawumbi’
• Thintela: Yigcine ingabuyi
• Yiba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni
• Yiba 'ngumntu' omkhulu

Ke yintoni engathandekiyo yokuthetha ngokwakho? Ngokusisiseko, uthetha inkunkuma. Kuhlala kulungile ukuqaphela iindlela ekufuneka siziphucule. Kodwa kukho umahluko phakathi kokuzibonakalisa nokuzithetha okungalunganga. Ukuthetha kakubi kukungazakhi, kwaye kunqabile kusikhuthaza ukuba senze naluphi na utshintsho: "Andinakwenza nto ilungileyo" xa kuthelekiswa "Ndifuna ukufumana iindlela zokulawula ixesha lam ngcono."

Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ingaqala incinci, njengokukhetha izinto ezincinci esingazithandiyo ngathi. Kodwa ukuba asazi njani qaphela,idilesi, okanye thintelaukuthetha okungalunganga, kunokujika kube kukuxhalaba kwaye, kwiimeko ezigabadeleyo, ukuzonda.

Nantsi indlela onokuwulahla ngayo umthamo kugxeki lwakho lwangaphakathi kwaye ukhwele ebhodini ukuzithanda qeqesha kule nyanga.

Qaphela: Yibize ngokuba yintoni

Lumka

Sineetoni zeengcinga ezibaleka ezingqondweni zethu mzuzu ngamnye. Kwaye uninzi lweengcinga zethu zenzeka ngaphandle kwethu nokuba sizamkele ngokupheleleyo ngaphambi kokuba siye kwelinye elilandelayo.

Ukuba awuqinisekanga okanye ufuna into eqinisekisayo ukuba uyasokola nokuthetha kakubi, zama ukubhala phantsi izinto ezingalunganga ozithetha kuwe ngalo lonke usuku njengoko zisenzeka. Ingabonakala ngathi igqithile, kodwa ukuze ulahle ukuzithetha okungalunganga, kufuneka sazi ukuba iyenzeka nyani.

Chaza umgxeki wakho

Abanye oochwephesha bezengqondo bacebisa ukubiza umgxeki wakho. Ukunika elo lizwi lingathandekiyo igama elihlekisayo kunokusinceda silibone ukuba liyintoni kanye kanye. Isinqanda ekubeni sizijonge njengengxaki. Kwaye yenza eyona ngxaki icace gca: Sihlala sikholelwa koko kuthethwa lilizwi.

Ke ixesha elizayo xa uthethe kakubi, musa ukuyiyeka njengenye yeengcinga ezixhalabisayo. Biza uFelicia, ugqibelele, uNancy ongalunganga (okanye naliphi na igama olikhethileyo) ukuba liyintoni na. Kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, yeka ukumamela!

Idilesi: Yiyeke kwiindlela zayo

Beka ngendlela efanelekileyo

Ukuthetha okungathandekiyo kubangelwa kukuhla kwezinto esikuvumela ukuba iingcinga zethu zingene kuzo. Ukukhubeka ngenxa yamagama akho kudliwanondlebe kujika kube: "Ndiyisidenge, ngekhe ndifumane msebenzi." Kodwa ukubeka ezi ngcinga zingalunganga ngendlela efanelekileyo kunokusinceda sifumanise eyona nto iphosakeleyo. Ngokwesiqhelo ingxaki eneneni isombululeka, besifuna nje ukuyaphula kwaye siyicwangcise kancinci.

Thetha phandle

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuthetha nomhlobo kunokusinceda ukuba boyise ukuzithetha okungalunganga ngalo mzuzu. Ngexesha elizayo xa uneentloni okanye into ingahambanga ngendlela ofuna ngayo, fowunela umntu. Iintloni kunye netyala zikhula emfihlakalweni. Musa ukuhlala wedwa ngeengcinga zakho.

Cinga ‘mhlawumbi’

Ngamanye amaxesha, eyona nto imbi esinokuyenza xa sicinga kakubi kukuzinyanzela ukuba sithethe izinto ezintle nezintle kuthi.

Endaweni yoko, qala ngokuthetha izinto ezingathathi hlangothi ezibonisa isisombululo. Endaweni yokucinga, "Ndiyasilela," khetha ukuthi, "Khange ndenze kakuhle kule projekthi. Ndiyazi ukuba ndenze ntoni ngokwahlukileyo kwixesha elizayo. ” Akunyanzelekanga ukuba sizixokise. Kodwa sinokuyinyani, ngaphandle kokuzicaphukela.

Thintela: Yigcine ingabuyi

Yiba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni

Asinakuze sibize umhlobo wethu osenyongweni njenge mpazamo, ukusilela, okanye isidenge. Ke kutheni sivakalelwa kukuba kulungile ukuthetha izinto ezinjalo kuthi? Enye indlela yokubetha umgxeki wethu wangaphakathi kukuba ngumhlobo wethu osenyongweni kwaye ukhethe ukugxila ngakumbi kwiimpawu zethu ezilungileyo.

Kufuneka sibhiyozele iimpumelelo ezincinci, izinto ezintle esizenzayo, kunye neenjongo esizifezekisayo. Kwaye, okubaluleke ngakumbi, kufuneka khumbulaukuze kwixesha elizayo uNigative azame ukusigxeka, sinobungqina bokuba kutheni ephosakele.

Yiba 'ngumntu' omkhulu

Xa sibeka ulindelo ngokungekho ngqiqweni kuthi, sivula umnyango wokuthetha kakubi. Inyani yile, asinakwenza yonke into ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye akukho nto injengomntu ogqibeleleyo. Kodwa isazi ngengqondo uChrista Smith uyibeka kakuhle le nto: "Xa sizibekele usukelo kunye nobomi bethu obubaluleke ukodlula ukuba ngolungileyo, siba sikhulu kunalowo ugxekayo."

Nokuba injongo esiyikhethayo kukuba noxolo ngakumbi okanye kungumsebenzi oqhubekayo, xa sichaza ngokutsha ukuba yintoni "ubomi" obulungileyo kunye "neziphumo" ezilungileyo ezibonakala ngathi senza ukuba sikwazi ukufumana uvuyo kunye nolwaneliseko ngaphandle kwemfezeko.

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