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Sifumana: I-Rom-coms ayinakuze ibe yinyani. Kodwa ayisiyongcamango encinci engenabungozi kuyo yonke inqaku lokuzibukela? Ewe, basenokungabi nabungozi, ngokutsho kwesifundo esitsha esivela kwiYunivesithi yaseMichigan.

Kulula kakhulu ukuqaphela ukuba indlela yokuziphatha esihlala siyibona kumadoda kwiimuvi ayiyondlela yokuziphatha esiyibona kubo kubomi bokwenyani (sisabambe izijekulo zethu ezinkulu apha...). Kodwa eli nqaku lakutshanje lophando livavanya iindlela apho ezo ziqheleke kakhulu-andisoze ndiyeke ukuthanda-wena-kwaye-awusoze unikezele-kude kube-kukuphumelela-ukubuyela umva imigca yeplani eneneni ukuketula iintlobo zokuziphatha esizibona "ziqhelekileyo." (Ngaba uMfana wakho uQhelekile xa kusenziwa isini?)

Abaphandi bajonge ngokuthe gca kwimithombo yeendaba "zokuqhubeka nokuzingisa" kunye neenkolelo ezilandelayo malunga nokulandela. Bacele abantu basetyhini ukuba babukele iifilimu ezintandathu, zonke ezo zibonisa uhlobo "lothando olunqoba konke" ekuziphatheni kwabalinganiswa abangamadoda. Ezinye zeefilimu, ezifana Kukho into malunga noMariya, ibonakalise oku kuziphatha ngendlela emnandi, ehlekisayo (uBen Stiller unyamezele ukuthotywa isidima ukuphumelela uCameron Diaz? Awww ...), ngelixa abanye, Ukulala noTshaba, yabonisa indlela yokuziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga, nesengqiqweni ngakumbi (uJulia Roberts elandelwa ngumyeni wakhe owayemxhaphaza engavumi ukumkhulula? Ahhh!). Bafumanise ukuba abafazi ababukele ii-rom-coms ezibonisa indlela yokuziphatha enamadoda ngendlela efanelekileyo banokukwazi ukujonga indlela yokuziphatha eyamkelekileyo.

Ingxaki isehlabathini lokwenene, ngokupheleleyo hayi eyamkelekileyo. Abaphandi banenkxalabo yokuba yonke imiboniso emihle yokuziphatha ndlongondlongo, engapheliyo inokusenza ukuba sithenge "intsomi ye-stalker," ebangela ukuba sithathe iziganeko ezinzulu okanye ukuziphatha okusongelayo xa kusenzeka kubomi bokwenyani. (Fumanisa ukuba wonke umntu wasetyhini kufuneka azi ntoni ngokuzikhusela.)

"[Ezi bhanyabhanya] zinokukhuthaza abantu basetyhini ukuba bathathe amanyathelo abo," umbhali ofundayo uJulia R. Lippman uxelele iGlobal News yaseKhanada. "Le yingxaki kuba uphando lubonisa ukuba ithuku linokusebenza njengeempawu ezinamandla zokusinceda sihlale sikhuselekile. Eyona nto iphambili, zonke ezi filimu zithengisa "uthando lunqoba yonke into." Nangona kunjalo, akunjalo. "

Ngokuqinisekileyo, sinokutyhafa xa umntu othanda uKiera Knightly efika emnyango wakhe namakhadi akhe athi "kum ugqibelele", kodwa ukuba umhlobo wakho osenyongweni weza efowuna ngezijeziso ezinkulu zothando IRL? Ngoko. Hayi. Kulungile. Qiniseka nje ukuba uyawazi umahluko.

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