Ukuthetha nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuchongwa kwe-HIV

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• Guy Anthony
• Ubudala
• Ukuphila ne-HIV
• Izimelabizo zesini
• Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:
• Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?
• Yintoni etshintshileyo?
• UKahlib Barton-Garcon
• Ubudala
• Ukuphila ne-HIV
• Izimelabizo zesini
• Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:
• Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?
• Yintoni etshintshileyo?
• UJennifer Vaughan
• Ubudala
• Ukuphila ne-HIV
• Izimelabizo zesini
• Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:
• Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?
• Yintoni etshintshileyo?
• UDaniel G. Garza
• Ubudala
• Ukuphila ne-HIV
• Izimelabizo zesini
• Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:
• Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?
• Yintoni etshintshileyo?
• UDavina Conner
• Ubudala
• Ukuphila ne-HIV
• Izimelabizo zesini
• Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:
• Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?
• Yintoni etshintshileyo?

Akukho ncoko zimbini ziyafana. Xa kufikwa ekwabelaneni ngokuxilongwa kwe-HIV nosapho, izihlobo, kunye nabanye abantu obathandayo, wonke umntu uyiphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

Yincoko engenzeki kube kanye. Ukuphila ne-HIV kunokuzisa iingxoxo eziqhubekayo nosapho kunye nabahlobo. Abantu abasondeleyo kuwe banokufuna ukubuza iinkcukacha ezintsha malunga nokuba sempilweni kwakho nasengqondweni. Oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ujonge indlela ofuna ukwabelana ngayo.

Kwiphepha elisecaleni, ungafuna ukuthetha ngemiceli mngeni kunye nempumelelo ebomini bakho une-HIV. Ukuba abantu obathandayo ababuzi, uza kukhetha ukwabelana njalo? Kukuwe ukuba uthathe isigqibo malunga nendlela yokuvula kwaye wabelane ngezo zinto zobomi bakho. Into esebenzela omnye umntu inokuziva ingakulungelanga omnye.

Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, khumbula ukuba awuwedwa. Uninzi luhamba ngale ndlela yonke imihla, kubandakanya nam. Ndifikelele kubameli abane abamangalisayo endibaziyo ukuze ndifunde ngakumbi ngamava abo, nabo. Apha, ndibonisa amabali ethu ngokuthetha nosapho, izihlobo, kwanabantu esingabaziyo ngokuphila ne-HIV.

Guy Anthony

Ubudala

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Ukuphila ne-HIV

UGuy ebehlala ne-HIV kangangeminyaka eli-13, kwaye sele kuyiminyaka eli-11 ukususela ekufumanekeni kwakhe.

Izimelabizo zesini

Yena / yena / wakhe

Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:

Andisoze ndiyilibale imini endathi ekugqibeleni ndathetha amagama athi, "Ndiphila ne-HIV" kumama. Ixesha laqina, kodwa ngandlela thile imilebe yam yaqhubeka ihambisa. Sobabini sayibamba umnxeba sathi cwaka, kuba kwakunjani ukuba kube ngunaphakade, kodwa yayiyimizuzwana engama-30 kuphela. Impendulo yakhe, iinyembezi zazisithi, "Usengunyana wam, kwaye ndiyakuhlala ndikuthanda."

Oko bendibhala incwadi yam yokuqala malunga nokuphila ngokungcangcazelayo ndinentsholongwane kaGawulayo kwaye ndifuna ukumxelela kuqala ngaphambi kokuba incwadi ithunyelwe kumshicileli. Ndaziva kufanelekile ukuba ndive malunga nokufunyaniswa kwam ukuba une-HIV, ngokuchasene nelungu losapho okanye umntu othile endingamaziyo. Emva kolo suku, kunye nencoko leyo, andikaze ndoyike ukuba negunya kwimbali yam.

Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?

Ngokumangalisayo, mna nomama asifane sithethe nge serostatus yam. Ekuqaleni, ndikhumbula ndikhathazekile yinto yokuba yena, okanye omnye umntu kusapho lwam, zange andibuze malunga nokuba bunjani ubomi bam ngokuphila ne-HIV. Ndim ndedwa ophila ngokukhululekileyo ne-HIV kusapho lwethu. Ndandifuna ngamandla ukuthetha ngobomi bam obutsha. Ndaziva ndingunyana ongabonakaliyo.

Yintoni etshintshileyo?

Ngoku, andibilo ndinencoko kakhulu. Ndiqaphele ukuba eyona ndlela yokufundisa nabani na malunga nokuba uziva njani ngokuhlala nesi sifo kukuba uphile NGOKUQINISEKILEYO NGOKUQHELEKILEYO. Ndizikhusele kakhulu kunye nam nendlela endibuphila ngayo ubomi bam kangangokuba ndihlala ndikulungele ukukhokela ngomzekelo. Ukugqibelela lutshaba lwenkqubela kwaye andoyiki ukungafezeki.

UKahlib Barton-Garcon

Ubudala

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Ukuphila ne-HIV

UKahlib uhleli ne-HIV iminyaka emi-6.

Izimelabizo zesini

Yena / bona / bona

Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:

Ekuqaleni, ndakhetha ukungabelani ngobume bam nosapho lwam. Kwaku malunga neminyaka emithathu ngaphambi kokuba ndixelele nabani na. Ndikhulele eTexas, kwindawo engakhange ikhuthaze ngokwabelana olo hlobo lolwazi, ndiye ndacinga ukuba kungangcono ukuba ndijongane nenqanaba lam ndedwa.

Emva kokubamba imeko yam kufutshane kakhulu nentliziyo yam iminyaka emithathu, ndenze isigqibo sokuyabelana esidlangalaleni ngeFacebook. Ke usapho lwam okokuqala ndifunda malunga nenqanaba lam yayikukusebenzisa ividiyo ngexesha elichanekileyo elaziwa ngumntu wonke ebomini bam.

Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?

Ndivakalelwa kukuba usapho lwam lwenze ukhetho lokundamkela kwaye lashiya oko. Azange bandincome okanye bandibuze ukuba kunjani ukuphila ne-HIV. Kwelinye icala, ndiyabaxabisa ngokuqhubeka nokundiphatha ngokufanayo. Kwelinye icala, ndinqwenela ukuba bekuya kubakho utyalo-mali oluninzi ebomini bam, kodwa usapho lwam lundibona "njengomntu owomeleleyo."

Ndijonga imeko yam njengethuba kunye nesoyikiso. Lithuba kuba linike injongo entsha ebomini. Ndizimisele ukubona bonke abantu befumana ukufikelela kukhathalelo nakwimfundo ebanzi. Isimo sam sinokuba sisongelo kuba kufuneka ndizikhathalele; indlela endibuxabise ngayo ubomi bam namhlanje ingaphaya kwento ebendinayo ngaphambi kokuba ndifunyaniswe.

Yintoni etshintshileyo?

Ndiye ndavuleka ngakumbi ngexesha. Ngeli xesha ebomini bam, andinakukhathalela indlela abantu abavakalelwa ngayo ngam okanye isimo sam. Ndifuna ukuba ngumkhuthazi ukuze abantu bangene kunonophelo, kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ndivuleke kwaye ndinyaniseke.

UJennifer Vaughan

Ubudala

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Ukuphila ne-HIV

UJennifer uhleli ne-HIV iminyaka emihlanu. Wafunyaniswa ngo-2016, kodwa wafumanisa kamva ukuba wayenze isivumelwano ngo-2013.

Izimelabizo zesini

Yena / wakhe

Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:

Kuba amalungu osapho amaninzi ayesazi ukuba bendigula iiveki, bonke bebelindele ukuva ukuba yintoni, kanye xa ndifumene impendulo. Sasixhalabile ngumhlaza, i-lupus, i-meningitis, kunye ne-rheumatoid arthritis.

Xa iziphumo zabuya zine-HIV, nangona ndandothukile, andizange ndicinge kabini ngokuxelela wonke umntu ukuba yintoni. Kwakukho isiqabu ekuphenduleni nasekuqhubekeni phambili nonyango, xa kuthelekiswa nokungazi ukuba yintoni ebangela iimpawu zam.

Ngokunyaniseka, amagama aphume ngaphambi kokuba ndihlale phantsi kwaye ndawanika nayiphi na ingcinga. Xa ndijonga emva, ndiyavuya kuba ndingakhange ndiyifihle loo nto. Ngeyanditya nge-24/7.

Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?

Ndikhululekile xa ndisebenzisa igama elithi HIV xa ndilizisa kusapho lwam. Anditsho kwiitoni ezichuliweyo, nasesidlangalaleni.

Ndifuna abantu bandive kwaye bandimamele, kodwa ndikwalumkile ukuba ndingahlazisi amalungu osapho lwam. Amaxesha amaninzi oku kuya kuba ngabantwana bam. Ndiyakuhlonipha ukungaziwa kwabo nemeko yam. Ndiyazi ukuba abanantloni ngam, kodwa ibala akufuneki libe ngumthwalo wabo.

INTSHOLONGWANE KAGAWULAYO ​​ngoku ikhuliswe ngakumbi ngokomsebenzi wam wokukhuthaza kunokuba ndihlale kule meko nam. Amaxesha ngamaxesha ndizakubabona ababesebukhweni kwaye bazakuthi, "Ubukeka umhle ngokwenyani," kugxininiswa "kokulungileyo." Kwaye ndingatsho kwangoko ukuba abakaqondi ukuba yintoni.

Kwezo meko, kunokwenzeka ukuba ndiyeke ukubalungisa ngenxa yokoyika ukubenza bangakhululeki. Ndiziva ndonelisekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba bayaqhubeka bebona ukuba ndiphilile. Ndicinga ukuba ibamba ubunzima ngokwawo.

Yintoni etshintshileyo?

Ndiyazi ukuba amanye amalungu osapho am amadala awandibuzi ngawo. Andiqinisekanga ukuba oku kungenxa yokuba baziva bengakhululekanga ukuthetha nge-HIV okanye kungenxa yokuba abayicingi ngenene ngayo xa bendibona. Ndingathanda ukucinga ukuba amandla am okuthetha esidlangalaleni malunga nayo angayamkela nayiphi na imibuzo abanokuba nayo, ngoko ngamanye amaxesha ndiyazibuza ukuba abasacingi ngayo ngoku. Kulungile, nayo.

Ndiqinisekile abantwana bam, isoka, kwaye ndibhekisa kwi-HIV mihla le ngenxa yomsebenzi wam wokukhuthaza-kwakhona, hayi kuba ikum. Sithetha ngayo ngokungathi sithetha ngento esifuna ukuyifumana evenkileni.

Yinxalenye yobomi bethu ngoku. Siqhele ngesiqhelo kangangokuba igama uloyiko alisekho kwinxaki.

UDaniel G. Garza

Ubudala

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Ukuphila ne-HIV

UDaniel uhleli ne-HIV kangangeminyaka eli-18.

Izimelabizo zesini

Yena / yena / wakhe

Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:

NgoSeptemba 2000, ndaye ndalala esibhedlele ngenxa yeempawu ezininzi: i-bronchitis, isifo esiswini, kunye ne-TB, phakathi kweminye imiba. Usapho lwam lwalusesibhedlele kunye nam xa ugqirha wangena egumbini ezokundixelela ukuba ndine-HIV.

Ii-T-seli zam ngelo xesha zazingama-108, ngoko ke ukuxilongwa kwam yayinguGawulayo. Usapho lwam lwalungazi lukhulu ngalo, kwaye ngaloo nto, nam bendingazi.

Babecinga ukuba ndiza kufa. Khange ndicinge ukuba ndikulungele. Eyona nto indixhalabisayo yayikukuba, ngaba iinwele zam ziya kubuya zikhule kwaye ndiza kuba nakho ukuhamba? Iinwele zam bezisiya kuwa. Ndiyinto engento ngenwele zam.

Ngokuhamba kwexesha ndafunda banzi nge-HIV ne-AIDS, kwaye ndakwazi ukufundisa usapho lwam. Silapha namhlanje.

Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?

Malunga neenyanga ezi-6 emva kokufunyaniswa kwesifo sam, ndaqala ukusebenza ngokuzithandela kwiarhente yendawo. Ndiza kuya kugcwalisa iipakethi zekhondom. Sifumene isicelo kwikholeji yoluntu ukuba sibe yinxalenye yomgangatho wabo wezempilo. Besizakuseta itafile kwaye sinikezele ngeekhondom kunye nolwazi.

Iarhente iseMzantsi Texas, idolophu encinci ebizwa ngokuba yiMcAllen. Incoko malunga nokwabelana ngesondo, isini, kwaye ngakumbi i-HIV yinto engafunekiyo. Akukho namnye wabasebenzi owayekhona ukuzimasa, kodwa sasifuna ukubakho. Umphathi ubuzile ukuba ndinomdla wokuzimasa. Eli izakuba lixesha lam lokuqala ukuthetha esidlangalaleni nge-HIV.

Ndahamba, ndathetha ngesondo esikhuselekileyo, ukukhusela nokuvavanya. Kwakungelula njengoko ndandilindele, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, kwaba nzima ukuxubusha ukuthetha. Ndikwazile ukwabelana ngebali lam kwaye yaqala inkqubo yam yokuphilisa.

Namhlanje ndiya kwizikolo eziphakamileyo, iikholeji kunye neeyunivesithi, e-Orange County, eCalifornia. Ukuthetha nabafundi, ibali likhule ngokuhamba kweminyaka. Kubandakanya umhlaza, istomas, uxinzelelo kunye neminye imiceli mngeni. Kwakhona, silapha namhlanje.

Yintoni etshintshileyo?

Usapho lwam alusakhathazeki nge-HIV kwakhona. Bayazi ukuba ndiyayazi indlela yokuyilawula. Ndinomfana endithandana naye kule minyaka isixhenxe idlulileyo, kwaye unolwazi kakhulu ngesihloko.

Umhlaza weza ngoMeyi 2015, kunye necolostomy yam ngo-Epreli 2016. Emva kweminyaka eliqela ndisebenzisa amayeza okulwa uxinzelelo, ndiyalunyulwa kuwo.

Ndibe ngummeli wesizwe kunye nesithethi se-HIV ne-AIDS ejolise kwimfundo kunye nokuthintela abantu abatsha. Ndibe yinxalenye yeekomiti ezininzi, amabhunga, kunye neebhodi. Ndizithembile ngakumbi kunakuqala xa kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndinesi sifo.

Ndilahlekile iinwele zam kabini, ngexesha le-HIV kunye nomhlaza. Ndingumdlali we-SAG, uReiki Master, kunye nokuma okuhlekisayo. Kwaye, kwakhona, silapha namhlanje.

UDavina Conner

Ubudala

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Ukuphila ne-HIV

UDavina uhleli ne-HIV iminyaka engama-21.

Izimelabizo zesini

Yena / wakhe

Ukuqala incoko nabantu obathandayo malunga nokuphila ne-HIV:

Khange ndithandabuze kwaphela ukuxelela abantu endibathandayo. Ndandisoyika kwaye ndandidinga ukwazisa umntu, ndahamba ke ndaya endlwini yomnye udadewethu. Ndimbizele egumbini lakhe ndamxelela. Sobabini safowunela umama nabanye oodadewethu ababini ukubaxelela.

Oomakazi, oomalume, nabo bonke abazala bam bayasazi isimo sam. Andikaze ndive ukuba wonke umntu waziva engonwabanga kum emva kokwazi.

Ithini incoko nge-HIV namhlanje?

Ndithetha nge-HIV yonke imihla xa ndinako. Ndibe ngummeli iminyaka emine ngoku, kwaye ndiziva kunyanzelekile ukuba ndithethe ngayo. Ndithetha ngayo kwimidiya yoluntu mihla le. Ndisebenzisa ipodcast yam ukuthetha ngayo. Ndikwathetha nabantu ekuhlaleni nge-HIV.

Kubalulekile ukwazisa abanye ukuba i-HIV isekhona. Ukuba uninzi lwethu luthi singabameli bethu ke luxanduva lwethu ukwazisa abantu ukuba kufuneka basebenzise ukhuseleko, bavavanywe, kwaye bajonge wonke umntu ngokungathi bafunyanisiwe bade bazi ngenye indlela.

Yintoni etshintshileyo?

Izinto zitshintshe kakhulu ngokuhamba kwexesha. Okokuqala, amayeza- unyango lwe-antiretroviral - luvela kude kwiminyaka engama-21 eyadlulayo. Akusekho mfuneko yokuba ndisele iipilisi ezili-12 ukuya kwezili-14 kwakhona. Ngoku, ndithatha ibe nye. Kwaye andiziva ndigula ngenxa yamayeza.

Abasetyhini ngoku banako ukuba neentsana ezingazalwanga zine-HIV. Intshukumo UequalsU, okanye U = U, ngumdlalo otshintsha. Incedwe ngabantu abaninzi abafunyaniswa ukuba bazi ukuba abanasulelo, nto leyo ibakhulule ngengqondo.

Ndililizwi lokuphila ne-HIV. Kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ngokwenza oku, kuncede abanye ukuba bazi ukuba banokuphila ne-HIV, nabo.

Guy Anthony ihlonitshwa kakhulu Itshantliziyo le-HIV / AIDS, inkokheli yoluntu kunye nombhali. Echongwe ukuba une-HIV njengomntu okwishumi elivisayo, uGuy unikezele ngobomi bakhe obudala ekulandeleni ukubekwa amabala okunxulumene ne-HIV / AIDS. Ukhuphe i-Pos (+) entle ngobuhle: iziQinisekiso, ukuBhengeza kunye neNgcebiso ngoSuku lwe-AIDS kwiHlabathi liphela ngo-2012. Ngaphantsi kweminyaka engama-30 yi-POZ Magazine, enye yeenkokheli eziphezulu ezi-100 ze-LGBTQ / SGL eziPhakamileyo zokuBukela ngoMbutho weSizwe woBulungisa boMnyama, kunye ne-DBQ Magazine ye-LOUD 100 eyenzeka kuphela kweloluhlu lwe-LGBTQ lwabantu abali-100 abanemibala. Kutshanje, uGuy wabizwa njengelinye laBaphembeleli abaPhezulu beMillennial ngu-Next Big Thing Inc. nanjengomnye wabathandathu "weeNkampani eziMnyama ekufuneka uyazi" Ngu-Ebony Magazine.