USia Cooper uvala ngokupheleleyo uMama Shamers ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo

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Kwiveki ephelileyo uSia Cooper weDayari kaMama oLungekileyo wabelane ngefoto yakhe yokuphosa ebhikini ngelixa eseholideyini eBahamas. I-blogger yathi phantse akazange abelane ngefoto ye-vacay kuba "wayenexhala" malunga ne-cellulite ngasemva kwemilenze yakhe.

"Ndiyabelana ngoku ngoku kuba ndifuna nina manenekazi ukuba niziva nixhotyisiwe kwaye nibe nemizimba yenu," utshilo uCooper ecaleni komfanekiso. "Ningaphezulu kwezibambiso zenu. Nxiba isuti yokuqubha ngoba ubomi bufutshane kakhulu! Ndiyanithanda nonke."

Ngaphezulu kwama-20 000 abantu abayithandayo iposti kaCooper, kodwa omnye umsebenzisi wayeziva ngathi ibhloggi ngekhe yabelana ngefoto kuba yayityhila kakhulu. "Ukubonisa iinzuzo zakho awunyanzelekanga ukuba ubonise ngasemva kwakho ngoluhlobo," utshilo u-troll. "Ungumama, cinga [xa] abantwana bakho beza kubona emva kwakho kwizithuba zakho kwixesha elizayo."

Endaweni yokuvumela isilayidi siphawule, u-Cooper uthathe isigqibo sokunikezela yonke iposti ye-Instagram ukubiza umama nge-shamer kwaye wabelana ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kutheni izimvo ezinje ziyingxaki. (Uyalikhumbula elaa xesha waqhwaba umva e-Troll Ngubani owamgxeka 'ngeFlat Chest'?)

"Kusukela nini oomama bekumele bafihle imizimba yabo?" UCooper wabhala ecaleni komnye umfanekiso wakhe enxibe ibhikini efanayo. "Ukusukela nini oomama bengasavunyelwa ukuba bazive benomdla? Ucinga ukuba iintsana zifike njani kwasekuqaleni?"

Uqhube wathi ufuna abantwana bakhe babone umama oziva ekhululekile kwaye ezithembile eluswini lwakhe-ingakumbi kuba engazange akhule engumntu ongumzekelo omhle ngomzimba. (Eyeleleneyo: USia Cooper ukwiMishini yokungqina ukuba WONKE UMNTU uyajija kwiBikini)

"Ndikhule ndinomama owathiyileyo umzimba wakhe," ubhale watsho uCooper. "Ngapha koko, undenze ndayithiya eyam ngokuyikhupha ngaphandle kwaye ebonakalisa ngalo lonke ixesha kubonakala ngathi ndifumene ubunzima njengomntu ofikisayo."

Ngelixa ndithetha noUbume, uCooper wachaza ngakumbi indlela isimo sengqondo sikanina ngomzimba wakhe esamchaphazela ngayo umntwana.

"Wayehlala esikalini, ethetha kakubi ngomzimba wakhe kwaye ndandicinga ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha yayiqhelekile," utshilo uCooper. "Ekugqibeleni, waqala ukukhetha wam Umzimba nam ke ndaye ndaziva ndiziva ndizihlonela kakhulu, [ukuya kuthi ga] ukuba ndiyekile ukunxiba iibhulukhwe ezimfutshane. "

Ngapha koko, u-Cooper uthi wayengakhululekanga ukunxiba iibhulukhwe ezimfutshane kude kube yiminyaka yakhe yobudala kwaye wayenengxaki yokutya xa wayefikisa, usixelele. "Oku kungoneliseki ngumzimba wam kwenziwa kwiminyaka yam yobudala, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuye kufuneke ndizinyanzele ukuba ndingagxeki umzimba wam esipilini," utshilo.

La mava obuqu aye aphefumlela uCooper ukuba akhokele ngomzekelo kwaye abe nempembelelo enamandla nelungileyo kubantwana bakhe. “Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa nokufundisa abantwana indlela yokuthanda imizimba yabo kuba uluntu luya kuhlala lusabelana ngezimvo zabo ezirhabaxa,” utshilo. Ubume. "Siphila kwilizwe elibonakala kakhulu kwaye abantwana kufuneka bafunde besebancinci ukuba bazithembe ngaphakathi nangaphandle. Andifuni abantwana bam bakhule beyithiyile imizimba yabo njengoko ndenzile." (Eyeleleneyo: Imbaleki ye-CrossFit uEmily Breeze Kutheni i-Workout-Shaming abafazi abakhulelweyo kufuneka bayeke)

Kodwa ngelixa ukubanomzimba oqinisekileyo wabantwana bakho kuyinto enye, u-Cooper ukwathi uziva ukuba akukho mfazi ufanelwe kukugwetywa okanye ahlaziswe xa eziva eluswini. "Ukuba ngumama kunokusenza sizive singaphantsi kwesini," uqhubeke nokwabelana nge-Instagram. "Isishiya simanzi, sidandathekile, sidiniwe, kwaye sijonge esipilini, sijonga iqokobhe lethu ebesingasalazi." (Eyeleleneyo: Kutheni ukuhlamba umzimba kuyingxaki enkulu kangaka-kwaye yintoni onokuyenza ukuyiyeka)

Yiyo loo nto uCooper esithi uvakalelwa kukuba kubalulekile ukuba oomama baqhubeke benxibe nantoni na efunwa yintliziyo yabo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba abanye bacinga ntoni. "Ke mamas, nxiba i-bikinis yakho. Uyifumene," wabhala u-Cooper ephetha umyalezo wakhe. "Wonke umntu wasetyhini ufanelwe ukuziva ekhululekile eluswini lwakhe ngaphandle kwezimvo zoluntu. Akukho mgaqo apho uthi awukwazi ukugungqisa i-bikini ngenxa yokuba utyhale usana ngaphandle kwelungu lakho lobufazi ngaxa lithile ebomini bakho. Oko kuya kukwenza ufaneleke kokunye nangaphezulu. "

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