Uphononongo lufumanisa ukuba uMtshato kunye noqhawulo-mtshato lunokubangela ukutyeba

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Mhlawumbi kungenxa yoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo olukhokelela emtshatweni ukuze ujongeke ngcono, kodwa isifundo esitsha sifumanise ukuba xa kufikwa kuthando nasemtshatweni, ayisiyiyo imeko yakho yokugcwalisa irhafu kuphela etshintshiweyo-linjalo nenani isikali. Ngokutsho kophando lobudlelwane olwenziwa kwintlanganiso yonyaka yeAmerican Sociological Association eLas Vegas, amabhinqa adla ngokupakisha iikhilogram xa etshata, yaye amadoda atyeba ngakumbi xa eqhawula umtshato.

Ithuba lokufumana ubunzima emva kokutshintsha kobudlelwane kunokwenzeka emva kweminyaka ye-30, abaphandi bafumanisa. Umtshato wangaphambili wachaphazela ubunzima, njengoko abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba amadoda kunye nabasetyhini ababesele betshatile okanye baqhawule umtshato babenokubakho kunabantu abangazange batshate bafumane ubunzima obuncinci kwiminyaka emibini elandela inguqu yabo yomtshato.

Ngelixa ezinye izifundo zibonise ukuba uninzi lutyeba emva komtshato, olu luphononongo lokuqala ukubonisa ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato lusenokubangela ukutyeba. Izifundo zangaphambili zafumanisa ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato luhlala lukhokelela ekwehliseni umzimba, nangona kunjalo olu yayisisifundo sokuqala sobudlelwane esasijonga ukutyeba kumadoda nabasetyhini ngokwahlukeneyo. Ngelixa abaphandi bengaqinisekanga ukuba kutheni amadoda nabafazi bezuza ubunzima ngokwahlukileyo ngala maxesha, bacinga ukuba kungenxa yokuba abantu abatshatileyo banokuba nenxaxheba enkulu endlwini kwaye babe nexesha elinzima lokuzilolonga. Bacebisa ukuba amadoda afumane isibonelelo sempilo emtshatweni, kwaye aphulukane naloo mtshato.

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