Ewe, Thetha nge-COVID-19 kunye neTherapist yakho-Nokuba Banoxinzelelo

Umxholo

• Awunaxanduva lwenkqubo yokuphilisa yabanye abantu
• Yintoni eyenziwa ngabanyangi ngeemfuno zabo zempilo yengqondo ngexesha le-COVID-19?
• Umbono wakho: Kulungile ukuba ungalungi. Okwethu sonke.
• Abanyangi bethu kunye neengcali zempilo yengqondo basebenza nzima-yile nto bayifundeleyo, njengabanye abasebenzi abaphambili.

Yile nto bakuqeqeshele yona, njengabanye abasebenzi abaphambili.

Njengokuba umhlaba usebenza ekuphiliseni ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasentlalweni, nangokwezoqoqosho emva kwesibetho se-COVID-19, uninzi lwethu lushiyeke lusilwa nobunzima beemeko zempilo yengqondo.

Kwaye zibonakala zinamandla ngakumbi kunaphambi kokuqhambuka.

Imvakalelo yoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo olunxulumene ne-COVID-19 zinje ngobhubhane usasazeka kwilizwe liphela nakwikona nganye yehlabathi.

Uninzi lwethu lujamelene nentlungu yokudibana njengoko sihlangabezana nenyani yokuba umhlaba wethu awusokuze uphinde ufane.

Iingcali zempilo yezengqondo ezathetha noHealthline zikuphawulile oku kunyuka koxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, usizi, kunye neempendulo zoxinzelelo.

"Ngokubanzi, iiseshoni ezininzi zijolise ekulawuleni uxinzelelo, uloyiko, umsindo, unxunguphalo, uxinzelelo, usizi, kunye noxinzelelo olunxulumene nobhubhane," unontlalontle onelayisensi yeklinikhi uxelela iHealthline.

Ngenxa yokukhusela ubumfihlo babathengi bakhe, siya kumbiza njengoNkskz.

Inkqubo yabucala apho uSmith esebenza khona kutshanje itshintshele kwiinkonzo zeteletherapy kubo bonke abathengi.

Wayekwazi ukwabelana ngamava akhe kunye nolu tshintsho, esithi kuye kwaba noxinzelelo, kwaye nokuqeshwa kwabantu ngokwabo kudla ngokukhethwa, kodwa abathengi bakhe banombulelo ngeli thuba lokufumana iingcebiso ngexesha lokungaqiniseki okunjalo.

USmith uthi: "Nokuba abathengi bayazimela bodwa ekhaya okanye yinxalenye yabasebenzi ababalulekileyo, bafumana uxinzelelo.

Iyavakala ukuba kutheni sonke sinoxinzelelo kakhulu, akunjalo? Iyavakala into yokuba kutheni kunzima ukuba sizikhuthaze kwaye sisebenzise iindlela zonyango zokujongana neenkxalabo zethu zempilo yengqondo.

Kodwa ukuba yile nto wonke umntu evakalelwa ngayo, kuya kulandela ukuba iingcali zethu zisengozini kwabaxinzelelo, nazo. Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba asifanele sithethe nabo ngako?

Ngokweengcali zempilo yezengqondo, ukungathethi ngoxinzelelo lwe-COVID-19 kukuchasene noko kufuneka sikwenze ukusebenzela ukuphilisa.

Awunaxanduva lwenkqubo yokuphilisa yabanye abantu

Funda kwakhona. Kanye kwakhona.

Uninzi lwabantu luziva lungakhululekanga xa luthetha ngoxinzelelo olunxulumene nobhubhane kunye nonyango lwabo kuba bayazi ukuba abanyangi babo banexinzelelo, nabo.

Khumbula ukuba inkqubo yakho yokuphilisa yeyakho kwaye usebenzisa izixhobo ezinje ngeeseshoni zeteleferapy ziluncedo ekwenzeni inkqubela-phambili kwimpilo yakho yengqondo.

Ubudlelwane bempilo kunye nomxhasi abukho kwaye akufuneki bugxile kwimpilo yengqondo yonyango kunye nokuphilisa. Umgqirha wakho unoxanduva lokuba yingcali, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ebomini babo.

Isazi ngengqondo sesikolo esinamava esisebenza kumantla eNew York - esiya kuthi nguNks.Jones ukukhusela ubumfihlo babafundi bakhe - ucacisa ukuba ingaba ubuchwephesha bungabonakala njani ngokwembono yonyango ngexesha lobhubhane.

"Ndivakalelwa kukuba ukuba uchaphazelekile ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba awukwazi ukuthetha nomthengi ngezihloko ezithile, kuya kuba bubulumko (kunye neyona ndlela ilungileyo) ukuyithumela kugxa wakho okanye umntu onakho ukwenza njalo," utshilo uJones Unyango lwezempilo.

UJones ukholelwa ekubeni bonke abanyangi “banyanzelekile ukuba babekho kulo mgangatho wolondolozo ngokokuziphatha nangobungcali.”

Oku akuthethi ukuba abanyangi bakho abafumani mizabalazo njengawe, ewe. Abanyangi bakho banokuziva iimpawu zempilo yengqondo kwaye ngokufanayo kufuneka bafumane unyango olubasebenzelayo.

"Ndiye ndafumana amaxesha oxinzelelo, kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba okukhulu ngenxa yobhubhane kunye nemo yezopolitiko yangoku," utshilo uSmith.

UJones wabelana ngezinto ezifanayo: “Ndiqaphele utshintsho ebuthongweni bam, kwindlela enditya ngayo, nakwimo yesiqhelo / kuchaphazele. Kubonakala ngathi itshintsha rhoqo - ngenye imini, ndizakuziva ndikhuthazekile kwaye ndinamandla, ngelixa elilandelayo ndizakudinwa engqondweni nasemzimbeni. ”

"Ndivakalelwa kukuba imeko yam yempilo yengqondo kulo bhubhane phantse ibe yinto encinci ukuba ibukeka njani, okanye inokubonakala ngathi, ukuba ibingalawulwa ngamayeza nangonyango," utshilo uJones.

Kodwa ukuba uziva unovalo okanye "umbi" malunga nokuxoxa ngeenkxalabo zakho kunye neengcali zakho, khumbula ukuba umsebenzi wakho kukuba ngumguli kwaye uphilise. Umsebenzi wempilo yakho kukunceda kolo hambo.

"Akusoze kube ngumsebenzi ukuba isiguli sinakekele i-therapist," uSmith ugxininisa. "Ngumsebenzi wethu noxanduva lwethu ukukhathalela iziqu zethu ukuze sikwazi ukubakho kubaxhasi bethu."

Kwaye ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungahamba njani ngeencoko malunga ne-COVID-19 kwiiseshoni zakho zokucebisa, uJones uthi, "Ndingabakhuthaza abafundi bam (okanye nawuphina umthengi) ukuba baxele, ukubathuthuzela, naziphi na izihloko abasokolayo ngazo."

Ukuvula olu nxibelelwano linyathelo lokuqala kwinkqubo yakho yokuphilisa.

Yintoni eyenziwa ngabanyangi ngeemfuno zabo zempilo yengqondo ngexesha le-COVID-19?

Ngamafutshane, uninzi lwazo lusebenzisa kwaezi ngcebiso ziya kukunika.

"Ndithatha ingcebiso endiyinika abathengi ... ukunciphisa umda ekusetyenzisweni kweendaba, ukugcina ukutya okusempilweni, ukuzilolonga yonke imihla, ukuya kwishedyuli yokulala rhoqo, nokunxibelelana ngobuchule nabahlobo / nosapho," utshilo uSmith.

Xa sibuza ukuba wenza ntoni na ngobungcali ukunqanda ukudinwa okunxulumene nobhubhane, uSmith wacebisa, "Ukuthatha ikhefu phakathi kweeseshoni kunye nokucwangcisa ixesha lekhefu njengezenzo zokuthintela ubhubhane ukuba lutye."

"Nangona abathengi banokuthi baxoxe ngoxinzelelo olufanayo (okt ubhubhane), besebenza kunye nabo ukwenza / ukucela umngeni amabali abo malunga nokulawula / ukusinda kubhubhane kunika imibono eyahlukileyo ethembeni nasekuphiliseni, oko kunceda ukufakela isicatshulwa kulo bhubhane," uthi.

Kwaye iingcebiso zikaSmith kwabanye abanyangi?

“Ndingabakhuthaza abanyangi ukuba bakhumbule inkqubo yabo yokuzikhathalela. Sebenzisa oogxa bakho kwaye kukho intabalala yenkxaso kwi-Intanethi phaya-sikunye oku! Siza kuyiphumelela le nto! "

Umbono wakho: Kulungile ukuba ungalungi. Okwethu sonke.

Ukusukela eyunivesithi yaqhubeka nokutshixeka ngenxa yokuqhambuka kwe-COVID-19, ndibenethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndithethe nomcebisi wam veki nganye.

Iiseshoni zethu ze-teletherapy zahlukile kunaleyo yokuqeshwa kwabantu ngeendlela ezininzi. Kwelinye, ndihlala ndinxibe ibhulukhwe ye-pajama ngengubo, okanye ikati, okanye zombini zigqunywe emathangeni am. Kodwa umahluko ophawuleka kakhulu yindlela eziqala ngayo ezi seshoni zeteleferapy.

Veki nganye, umcebisi wam ujongana nam- into elula "Unjani?"

Ngaphambili, iimpendulo zam bezihlala zinje, "uxinzelelo malunga nesikolo," "uxakwe ngumsebenzi," okanye "ukuba neveki ebuhlungu."

Ngoku, lo mbuzo unzima kakhulu ukuwuphendula.

Ndingumbhali okhubazekileyo kwisemester yokugqibela yenkqubo yam ye-MFA, inyanga kude ndibuyele ekhaya ndiye kumantla eNew York, kunye neenyanga ezimbalwa ukusuka (mhlawumbi, ngethemba) ukuba nomtshato esasiwucwangcisile nomyeni wam iminyaka emibini.

Khange ndiyishiye indlu yam yokulala estudiyo kwiiveki. Andikwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle kuba abamelwane bam abanxibi iimaski, kwaye ngokukhohlisayo bakhohlela emoyeni.

Ndizibuza okuninzi malunga nesigulo sam sokuphefumla inyanga yonke ngoJanuwari, kanye ngaphambi kokuba i-United States ibethwe ngamatyala aqinisekisiweyo, kwaye bangaphi oogqirha abandixelele ukuba abanakukwazi ukunceda. Ukuba yintsholongwane ethile abangayiqondiyo. Andikhuselekanga, kwaye ndisachacha.

Ndiqhuba njani?

Inyaniso kukuba ndiyoyika. Ndinexhala elimangalisayo. Ndidandathekile. Xa ndixelela umcebisi wam ngale nto, uyanqwala, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba uziva ngendlela efanayo.

Into engaqhelekanga malunga nokukhathalela impilo yethu yengqondo ngexesha lobhubhane wehlabathi kukuba amava ethu amaninzi kwabelwana ngawo ngequbuliso.

"Ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba 'ndidibanisa' nabaxumi rhoqo ngenxa yenkqubo efana nayo sonke," kusho uSmith.

Sikwinkqubo efanayo ekuphiliseni. Iingcali zempilo yengqondo, abasebenzi ababalulekileyo, abafundi - sonke sizama ukujamelana "nokungaqiniseki kwento 'yesiqhelo' eya kubonakala ngayo, utshilo uJones.

Umcebisi wam kwaye sihlala kwigama elithi "kulungile" kakhulu. Ndilungile. Siyaphila. Yonke into izakulunga.

Sithengisa ngokujonga kwizikrini, ukuqonda okuzolileyo. Ukuncwina.

Kodwa akukho nto malunga noku ilungile, kwaye yiyo loo nto kubalulekile kum (kunye nawe, nawe) ukuba uqhubeke nokhathalelo lwempilo yam yengqondo nangona ndisazi ukuba wonke umntu ondingqongileyo unoloyiko olufanayo.

Sonke sidinga izixhobo ezinje ngonyango, kunye nokuzikhathalela, kunye nenkxaso kunanini na kumaxesha anje. Yonke into esinokuyenza kukulawula. Konke esinokukwenza kukusinda.

Abanyangi bethu kunye neengcali zempilo yengqondo basebenza nzima-yile nto bayifundeleyo, njengabanye abasebenzi abaphambili.

Ewe ewe, unokuqonda ukudinwa kwengqondo yakho. Unokuthengisa ukujonga, ukuqonda. Usenokubona ukuba niyalila kwaye niyasinda ngeendlela ezifanayo.

Kodwa kholelwa kunyango lwakho kwaye umamele ngononophelo njengoko bekuxelela: Kulungile ukuba ungalungi kwaye ndilapha ukukunceda.

UAryanna Falkner ngumbhali okhubazekileyo ovela eBuffalo, eNew York. Ungumgqatswa we-MFA kwiintsomi e-Bowling Green State University e-Ohio, apho ahlala khona nesithandwa sakhe kunye nekati yabo emnyama emnyama. Ukubhalwa kwakhe kuvele okanye kuza kuLwandle lweBlanket kunye noPhononongo lweTule. Mfumane kunye nemifanekiso yekati yakhe kwi-Twitter.