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Umxholo

• UTammy Carmona, 43
  Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2013
• Ukumangalela Maughan, 49
  Inqanaba 3, ichongiwe ngo-2016
• ULorraine Elmo, oneminyaka engama-45
  Inqanaba 1, ichongiwe ngo-2015
• URenee Sendelbach, 39
  Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2008
• UMary Gooze, 66
  Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2014
• UAnn Silberman, 59
  Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2009
• UShelley Warner, 47
  Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2015
• UNicole McLean, 48
  Inqanaba lesi-3, lachongwa ngo-2008

UTammy Carmona, 43
Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2013

Ingcebiso yam kumntu oye wafunyaniswa kutshanje iya kuba kukukhwaza, ukulila, kwaye uvumele yonke imvakalelo oziva ngayo. Ubomi bakho busandula ukwenza i-180. Unelungelo lokuba lusizi, ucaphukiswe, kwaye woyike. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubeke ubuso obukhaliphile. Yikhuphe. Emva koko, xa ubuqonda ubunyani bakho obutsha, zifundise kwaye ube nolwazi. Ungoyena mmeli wakho ubalaseleyo. Fumana iqela lenkxaso, njengoko kunceda ukuthetha nabanye abajongene nokuxilongwa okufanayo. Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, phila! Zisebenzise kakuhle iintsuku zakho "zokuziva ulungile". Phuma wenze iinkumbulo!

Ukumangalela Maughan, 49
Inqanaba 3, ichongiwe ngo-2016

Xa ndafunyaniswayo, ndazixelela ukuba ukuba nolunye lwezona ndidi zomhlaza zixhaphakileyo kuthetha eyona mbono ilungileyo yonyango kunye nokusinda. Ukulinda iziphumo zokuskena lelinye lawona macandelo anzima, kodwa ndakuba ndiyazi into endinayo, ndingagxila ekufumaneni unyango. Ndikhangele ulwazi oluninzi kunye neengcebiso ngangokunokwenzeka. Ndiqale ibhlog yokugcina usapho kunye nabahlobo bahlaziywa kwinkqubela phambili yam. Ngokwenene yaba yicathartic kwaye yandinceda ndagcina uburharha bam. Xa ndikhangela emva ngoku, malunga nonyaka emva kokuba ndifunyenwe, andikholelwa ukuba ndenze konke oku. Ndafumanisa amandla angaphakathi andizange ndazi ukuba akhona. Ingcebiso yam kuye nakubani na onesifo esandula ukwenzeka musa ukothuka, thatha yonke into inyathelo elinye ngexesha, kwaye ube nethemba njengoko kunokwenzeka. Mamela umzimba wakho kwaye ube nobubele kuwe. Yonke inokubonakala inzima kakhulu ekuqaleni, kodwa unako-kwaye uya kuyifumana.

ULorraine Elmo, oneminyaka engama-45
Inqanaba 1, ichongiwe ngo-2015

Ingcebiso ebaluleke kakhulu endinayo kwabanye abantu basetyhini kukufumana inkxaso kwamanye amajoni apinki. Kuphela sinokuthuthuzelana kwaye siqondane kunye nento esihamba kuyo. "Iphepha lam elipinki" kuFacebook (iLorraine's Big Pink Adventure) inenjongo ngqo. Cinga ngokuthatha inyathelo ubuye umva kwaye ube lingqina kuhambo lwakho. Vuleleka ekwamkeleni uthando kunye nokuphiliswa kwabanye, kwaye uvuleleke kwimimangaliso. Cinga ngendlela onokuthi "uyihlawule ngayo phambili" kwaye uncede abanye abaphumeleleyo kulo mlo. Yiba kwaye wenze yonke into ebomini ophuphe ukuba uyenze kwaye uyenze. Hlala ujonge okwangoku kwaye ubale iintsikelelo zakho. Hlonipha uloyiko lwakho, kodwa ungabavumeli balawule okanye bafumane okungcono kuwe. Yenza ukhetho olusempilweni kwaye uzikhathalele. Nokuba wenza ntoni, sukucinga ukuba ugwetyelwe okanye ukuba ufuna uncedo bubuthathaka okanye umthwalo. Ukucinga ngokulungileyo, ukuhlala ukhona, kwaye ukuyihlawula phambili kungasindisa ubomi bakho. Ndaguqukela kubuchule bam nakwinto yokomoya kula maxesha am amnyama, kwaye yandisindisa. Ingakusindisa nawe.

URenee Sendelbach, 39
Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2008

Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuyithatha yonke imini ibe nye ngexesha. Ukuba oko kubonakala kunzima, thatha iyure okanye imizuzu ngexesha. Njalo khumbula ukuba uphefumle indlela yakho ngalo lonke ixesha. Xa kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndinayo, ndayijonga yonke le nkqubo iphambi kwam, kwaye yandikhulula kwaphela. Kodwa emva kokuba ndiyophule ngokwamanqanaba, njengokufumana i-chemo, utyando, kunye nemitha, ndaziva ndilawula ngakumbi. Ndisasebenzisa le ndlela namhlanje ndihlala nomhlaza wenqanaba lesine kunye nomhlaza wesibini wee-myelodysplastic syndromes. Ngezinye iintsuku kuye kufuneke ukuba ndiyophule ngakumbi, ngeyure okanye ngaphantsi ngexesha, ukukhumbula ukuphefumla nokufumana imeko.

UMary Gooze, 66
Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2014

Ingcebiso yam kumfazi osandula kuvavanywa kukuba waziswe kwaye ube ngummeli wakho. Zifundise ngohlobo lomhlaza onawo kunye nonyango olukhoyo. Yiza nomnye umntu kwizikhundla zakho ukuze babhale phantsi yonke into. Buza imibuzo ngogqirha wakho kwaye ufumane iqela lenkxaso. Fumana ukuthanda ukwenza, njengokuzilolonga, ukubhala, okanye ukwenza nantoni na ukuze uzigcine ubandakanyekile kwaye ungagxili kumhlaza yonke imihla. Phila ubomi ngokuzeleyo!

UAnn Silberman, 59
Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2009

Vumela usizi kwaye uzive ilahleko, ezinje ngekamva lakho, impilo yakho, kunye nemali yakho. Kubuhlungu kakhulu, kodwa uya kuba nakho ukumelana nayo. Khumbula ukuba uninzi lwethu luphila ixesha elide ngoku. Umhlaza webele weMetastatic usondele ekubeni ube sisifo esingapheliyo, esinyangekayo. Soloko ukholelwa ukuba ungaphila iminyaka emininzi kunaleyo ithi amanani-nkcazo amadala. Sekuyiminyaka emithandathu ukusonjululwa kwam kunye neminyaka emibini ukusukela ekuqhubekeni kwam kokugqibela. Ndiqhuba kakuhle kungekho nto ibonisa ukuba izinto ziya kutshintsha zibe mandundu. Injongo yam ngelo xesha yayikukubona unyana wam omncinci ephumelela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. Kunyaka olandelayo, uzokuthweswa isidanga kwikholeji. Yiba sengqiqweni, kodwa gcina ithemba liphila.

UShelley Warner, 47
Inqanaba 4, lachongwa ngo-2015

Ungawuvumeli umhlaza uchaze wena. Umhlaza wamabele ayisosigwebo sentambo! Iphathwa njengesigulo esinganyangekiyo kwaye inokugcinwa iminyaka emininzi. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube nesimo sengqondo esihle. Phila yonke imihla ngokusemandleni akho. Ndiyasebenza, ndihamba, kwaye ndenza zonke izinto endizenzileyo ngaphambi kokuba ndifunyaniswe. Musa ukuzisizela, kwaye nceda ungabamameli abantu abaza kuwe neengcamango malunga nokunyanga komhlaza. Phila ubomi bakho. Ndandihlala ndisitya kamnandi kakhulu, ndisenza umthambo, ndingatshayi, kwaye ndisasifumana esi sifo. Phila ubomi bakho kwaye wonwabe!

UNicole McLean, 48
Inqanaba lesi-3, lachongwa ngo-2008

Ndafunyaniswa ndinomhlaza wamabele ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwam. Njengabantu abaninzi, bendicinga ukuba ndiyasazi esi sifo, kodwa ndiye ndafunda ukuba kuninzi okuninzi ekufuneka ndikuqonde, ungavumela oothixo ukuba bakuthothulele phantsi, okanye ungamkela enye indlela ocinga ngayo. Okwangoku asikabikho unyango, kodwa xa usaphila, kufuneka uphile ngoku. Umhlaza wamabele wandityhilela ukuba andiphili kwaye ndiyabonwabela ubomi bam. Ndichitha ixesha elininzi ndinqwenela ukuba izinto zahlukile okanye ndinqwenela ukuba ndohlukile. Enyanisweni, ndandilungile. Khange ndibangele umhlaza wamabele, kwaye andinakugqiba ukuba ndiza kuphinda ndiphinde na kwixesha elizayo. Kodwa okwangoku, ndingenza into ekufanele ndiyenze ukuzikhathalela kwaye ndifunde ukonwabela ubomi endinabo. Umhlaza webele unzima, kodwa unokutyhila womelele kunawe.