Thatha uxanduva lwempilo yakho yengqondo ngezi Ngcebiso ziyi-5 zokuBhengeza

Umxholo

• 1. Yiza noluhlu lwemibuzo uze uxoxe ngayo ekuqaleni kokuqeshwa kwakho
• 2. Gcina ixesha
• 3. Yiza nomhlobo osondeleyo okanye ilungu losapho
• 4. Ziqhelanise nokuzikhuthaza kunye nomntu omthembileyo
• 5. Gxininisa ubukrakra bento ohlangabezana nayo
• Ukukhuthaza impilo yakho yengqondo kunokuba nzima - kodwa akufuneki kube njalo

Ukusuka ekubeni noluhlu lwemibuzo elungiselelwe ukufika ngexesha lokudibana kwakho

Ukuzikhuthaza kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo xa kuziwa ekufumaneni unyango olufanelekileyo olulungele wena. Ukwenza njalo, nangona kunjalo, kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi xa kufikwa kumba wokuxoxa ngemiba enxulumene nempilo yakho yengqondo.

Njengogqirha wezifo zengqondo, ndiye ndanezigulana ezininzi ezibonisa uloyiko ngokundixelela ukuba baziva njani ngenene ngamayeza, ukuxilongwa, kunye nesicwangciso sonyango. Baye babelana ngamava amabi abanawo xa bexoxa ngonyango lwabo lwempilo yengqondo nabanye ababoneleli ngezempilo.

Ke umbuzo ngulo: Ungazikhuthaza ngokwaneleyo njani, njengesigulana, ukuze ufumane olona nyango lubalaseleyo lwentlalo-ntle yakho yengqondo?

Kukho ezimbalwa, iingcebiso ezisisiseko ezinokukunceda ukuba uqalise lo mkhuba, ukusuka ekubhaleni phantsi iinkxalabo zakho kunye nemibuzo ukuza nommeli kwiiseshoni zakho.

Ke nokuba kuyafuneka ukuba ufunde indlela yokuzikhethela, okanye usapho olusondeleyo okanye umhlobo ozifumana ekule meko, jonga ezi ngcebiso zintlanu zilandelayo.

1. Yiza noluhlu lwemibuzo uze uxoxe ngayo ekuqaleni kokuqeshwa kwakho

Kuba uhlala ungenalo ixesha elininzi nogqirha wakho, kubalulekile ukuseta ithoni ekuqaleni kokuqeshwa kwakho: Qala ngokuchaza ukuba unemibuzo ongathanda ukuyiphendula.

Kodwa kutheni le nto kufuneka uzise kwasekuqaleni?

Njengoogqirha, enye yezinto zokuqala esizenzayo kukuthathela ingqalelo "isikhalazo esiyintloko," okanye ingxaki ephambili kunye nesizathu sokundwendwela. Ke ukuba unenkxalabo ethile, masazise kwasekuqaleni kwaye siza kuyibeka phambili.

Ngapha koko, ukwenza uluhlu lunokukunceda ukuba ungalibali imibuzo onayo kwaye unokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho ngokubuza imibuzo kwindawo yokuqala.

Kwaye ukuba, ekupheleni kokudibana kwakho, ugqirha wakho akakayiphenduli imibuzo yakho, ungaphazamisa i-doc yakho kwaye ubuze ngokulula, "Ngaba singaqinisekisa ukuba siyayiphendula le mibuzo bendize nayo phambi kokuba ndihambe?"

2. Gcina ixesha

Ukuxoxa ngenkxalabo yezempilo yengqondo kuthatha ixesha elingaphezulu kwezinye iintlobo zemicimbi yezonyango. Nangona ukufika ngexesha kunokuvakala njengengcebiso ecacileyo, andinakugxininisa ngokwaneleyo ukubaluleka kokufumana ixesha elininzi nogqirha wakho ukuze sikwazi ukulungisa iingxaki zakho.

Ndikhe ndanezigulana ezifika emva kwexesha emhlanganweni kwaye, ngenxa yoku, oko kwathetha ukubeka phambili ezona nkxalabo zicinezelayo zisebenzisa kuphela ixesha eliseleyo. Oku kwakuthetha ukuba eminye yemibuzo yesigulana sam kwakufuneka ilinde de kube kuqeshwa kwam okulandelayo.

3. Yiza nomhlobo osondeleyo okanye ilungu losapho

Ngamanye amaxesha thina zigulana asizizo ezona mbali zibalaseleyo. Sivame ukulibala izinto ezithile ezenzekileyo kwixesha lethu elidlulileyo, okanye nokuba zenzeke njani, ngakumbi ngokunxulumene nempilo yethu.

Ngenxa yesi sizathu kunokuba luncedo ukuzisa umntu othile kwidinga lakho njengendlela yokubonelela ngombono wesibini, kokubini malunga noko kwenzekileyo nokuba kwenzeke njani. Ukuba nomthetheleli kunokuba luncedo ngakumbi ukomeleza inkxalabo yesigulana xa bengaziva ukuba imicimbi yabo iyaviwa okanye iyaqondwa.

Umzekelo, ukuba isigulana sinika ingxelo yokuzama amayeza amaninzi ngaphandle kokukhululeka kweempawu, igqwetha linokubonelela ngenkxaso ngokubuza ngeendlela ezintsha zonyango ukujongana neempawu zesigulana.

4. Ziqhelanise nokuzikhuthaza kunye nomntu omthembileyo

Ukuzithethela akuthethi ukuba kuza kuba lula kuye wonke umntu - kwabanye, kusenokuthatha ukuziqhelanisa, oko kulungile. Ngapha koko, ukuziqhelanisa nendlela yokuzithethelela kunokuba luncedo kuwo nawuphi na umceli mngeni esinokudibana nawo ebomini.

Indlela elungileyo yokwenza oku kukusebenza nonyango lwakho, okanye ilungu losapho elisondeleyo okanye umhlobo, apho badlala khona indima yomboneleli wakho wezempilo kwaye uphawule inkxalabo yakho. Oku kunokukunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo onokuziva ngalo ngexesha lokuqeshwa kwakho.

5. Gxininisa ubukrakra bento ohlangabezana nayo

Uninzi lwethu luthanda ukunciphisa amava ethu, ngakumbi ukuba iimvakalelo zethu zibangcono ngexesha lokuqeshwa. Kunokuba nzima ukuvuma ukuba siyasokola.

Nangona kunjalo, ukunyaniseka kwaye uvule kangangoko malunga nobukrakra beempawu kunokuchaphazela izinto ezahlukeneyo zesicwangciso sakho sonyango. Oku kunokubandakanya inqanaba lokhathalelo olufunekayo (cinga ukuhanjiswa kweengcali okanye kunyango lwangaphandle olunamandla), amayeza kunye nohlengahlengiso kumthamo, nangamaxesha angaphambili otyelelo olulandelayo.

Ukukhuthaza impilo yakho yengqondo kunokuba nzima - kodwa akufuneki kube njalo

Ukuzikhuthaza kunye nempilo yethu yengqondo kunokuziva kungonwabanga kunye noxinzelelo olunokubangela, kodwa akufuneki kube njalo. Ukwazi ukuba ungakulungiselela njani ngokufanelekileyo ukuqeshwa okuzayo kunye nokuxoxa ngezinto ezikuxhalabisayo ngempilo yengqondo kunokunceda ekwenzeni inkqubo ibelula kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uphendulwa imibuzo yakho kunye nezinto ezixhalabisayo.

Iindlela ezinje ngokulungiselela uluhlu lwemibuzo, ukwazi indlela yokuzisa ezi zinto zixhalabisayo ngexesha lokuqeshwa kwakho, kunye nokuziqhelanisa nendlela onokuzimela ngayo nomntu omthembileyo, zinokwenza ukuba inkqubo ingabi luxinzelelo kwaye ikuncede ukonyuse ukuzithemba kwakho ekuphathweni kwengqondo yakho ntle-ntle.

UVania Manipod, DO, ngugqirha wezifo zengqondo oqinisekisiweyo, uncedisayo ngunjingalwazi wezonyango kwiYunivesithi yaseNtshona yezeMpilo, kwaye okwangoku e-Ventura, California. Ukholelwa kwindlela epheleleyo yokunyanga ngengqondo ebandakanya iindlela zokwenza unyango ngengqondo, ukutya, kunye nendlela yokuphila, ukongeza kulawulo lwamayeza xa kubonisiwe. Ugqirha Manipod uye wakha oku kulandelayo kwilizwe liphela kwimithombo yeendaba ezisekwe kwimisebenzi yakhe yokunciphisa ibala lempilo yengqondo, ngakumbi nge-Instagram kunye nebhlog yakhe, uFreud kunye neFashoni. Ngapha koko, uthethe kwilizwe lonke ngezihloko ezinjengokudinwa, ukonzakala kwengqondo ebuhlungu, kunye nemidiya yoluntu.