Ukuphazamiseka kubuNtu kwiNtlalo: Iimpawu kunye nonyango

Umxholo

• Zithini iimpawu?
• Uxilongo lwenziwa njani
• Wazi njani ukuba umntu akathandi ukuhlala nabantu?
• Unyango lwenziwa njani
• Izizathu ezinokubangela

Ukungahambelani nobuntu kukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, okwaziwa ngokuba sisifo sengqondo, esibonakaliswa ngumzekelo wokuziphatha kokungakhathali kunye nokunyhashwa kwamalungelo abanye abantu. Ngokubanzi, aba bantu banengcwangu, abanaluvelwano kwaye banobunzima obukhulu ekuziqhelaniseni nemithetho yoluntu, bengayihloniphi kwaye beyaphula.

Unobangela oyintloko unokuba lilifa, unxulunyaniswe nokusilela kubume bengqondo yomntu okanye nokuba uphenjelelwe yimeko-bume.

Zithini iimpawu?

I-antisocial or psychopath ngumntu oswele uvelwano kwaye angakhathali kwiimvakalelo zabanye, ophula amalungelo abo kwaye engakwazi ukuthobela imigaqo ebekwe luluntu, kuba abakwazi ukubona ukubandezeleka kwabanye, kwaye banokuthi baneendlela zokuziphatha zolwaphulo-mthetho, kuba aba bantu abazisoli ngezenzo zobundlobongela ezenziweyo, ezenza ukuba ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kube yingozi kakhulu. Nantsi indlela yokuchonga i-psychopath.

Aba bantu babonakala ngathi abayiqondi okanye abayikhathalelanga into uluntu oluyibona ilungile okanye ingalunganga, iziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga, ngaphandle kokubonisa naluphi na uhlobo lokuzisola ngezenzo zabo. Banobunzima ekulandeleni isicwangciso sobomi, ukutshintsha imisebenzi rhoqo kwaye bengazi ukuba balawula njani iindleko zabo.

Iimpawu zokuqala zokungahambelani nabantu zibonakala ebuntwaneni okanye kwinqanaba lokufikisa, apho abantwana baqala ukubonisa isimilo esingafanelekanga, besaphula amalungelo abanye abantu asisiseko kunye nemigaqo efanelekileyo kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo lokuhlala. Ukuba esi sifo sihlala sisemdala, kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu lowo afunyaniswe enengxaki yokungafani noluntu.

Izenzo ezinje ngobusela, ubusela, ukonakaliswa kwempahla, ukungabi nantlonelo ngabantu, ukuxoka okunyanzelekileyo, ukunyanzelwa, ubundlongondlongo kunye nokukhohlisa ziqhelekile, kwaye aba bantu banakho ukwenza nantoni na ukuze bafumane into abayifunayo.

Ukungahambelani nobuntu kukuphazamiseka okungapheliyo, nangona kunjalo kunokwenzeka ukuba uqaphele ukuphucuka kokuziphatha kwabanye abantu njengoko bekhula, kodwa kuqhelekile ukuba babanjwe ngaphambi koko, nokuba bebancinci ngenxa yolwaphulo-mthetho olwenziweyo.

Uxilongo lwenziwa njani

Ukuphazamiseka kobuntu okuchasene nentlalo kunzima ukufunyanwa, kuba kukho ubunzima obukhulu bokusahlula kwezinye iingxaki zengqondo ezineempawu ezifanayo, ezinje ngesifo sengqondo, isifo sokuwa, ubukho bezilonda kunye nezidumba ebuchotsheni, okanye ukusetyenziswa izinto ezisebenza ngengqondo, kwaye ke, zonke ezi zinto kufuneka zingabandakanywa ngaphambi kokuba kuqinisekiswe isifo.

Udliwanondlebe luhlala luqhutywa, kuthathelwa ingqalelo yonke imbali yomntu, enokuthi yenziwe ngoncedo lweengxelo ezivela kwisigulana kunye nakumalungu osapho asondeleyo, kunye nokuqokelelwa kolwazi malunga nembali yosapho ngenxa yemfuza.

Wazi njani ukuba umntu akathandi ukuhlala nabantu?

Incwadana yemigaqo yokuchonga isifo kunye neenkcukacha-manani zokuphazamiseka kwengqondo zidwelisa ezi ndlela zilandelayo zokuchonga isifo:

1. Ukungahoyi nokunyhashwa kwamalungelo abanye abantu, okwenzeka ukusukela kwiminyaka eli-15 ubudala, okuboniswe ngesi-3 nangaphezulu koku kulandelayo:

• Kunzima ukuthobela imigaqo yentlalo, ukuba nokuziphatha okuyizizathu zokuvalelwa;
• Ukuthambekela ebuxokini, ukusebenzisa ubuxoki obuphindaphindiweyo, amagama obuxoki okanye isimilo sokukhohlisa ngokuzonwabisa;
• Ukunyanzelwa okanye ukusilela ukwenza izicwangciso ngekamva;
• Ukucaphuka kunye nokuhlaselwa, okukhokelela kwimilo kunye nokuhlaselwa ngokwasemzimbeni;
• Ukungakhathali kukhuseleko lomntu okanye kolwabanye;
• Ukungabinaxanduva lokuhlala ungaguquguquki emsebenzini okanye ukuhlonipha uxanduva lwezezimali;
• Akukho kuzisola ngokwenzakalisa, ukuphatha kakubi okanye ukweba abanye abantu.

2. Umntu ubuncinane uneminyaka eli-18 ubudala;

3. Ubungqina bokungaziphathi kakuhle okuvele ngaphambi kweminyaka eyi-15;

4. Ukuziphatha okungafaniyo noluntu okungenzeki ngokukodwa ngexesha le-schizophrenia okanye i-bipolar disorder.

Unyango lwenziwa njani

Ukutyhila imvelaphi yengxaki linyathelo lokuqala lokuthintela. Enye into enegalelo ekuphuculeni indlela aziphethe ngayo umntu onesifo esihambelana nokunxulunyaniswa nezibophelelo ezinje ngomtshato, umzekelo.

Unyango lwesi sifo kunzima ukwenza kwaye luxhomekeke kubukrakra beempawu, ukuvuma komntu ukunyangwa kunye nokusebenzisana kwabo kunyango kwaye kunokwenziwa ngonyango lwengqondo kunye namayeza.

Okwangoku akukho machiza athile okuchaphazeleka kobuntu, kodwa ugqirha unokuyalela iziyobisi ezisetyenziselwa ukunyanga uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, okanye ezilawula isimilo esiqatha, nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ulumke kakhulu kuba abanye abantu banokuzisebenzisa gwenxa ezi ziyobisi.

Izizathu ezinokubangela

Izizathu zolu phazamiso azikaziwa ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kucingelwa ukuba ingxaki yokuchasana noluntu inokuba lilifa, kwaye abantwana babantu abanengxaki yokuchasana noluntu banomngcipheko omkhulu wokukhula nayo. Ukongeza, kunokubakho ukusilela kubume bengqondo baba bantu, kwaye imeko-bume ikwadlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuboniseni le ndlela yokuziphatha.

Ukuphazamiseka kunokuba sisiphumo sezinto ngexesha lokukhulelwa, ezinokuthi ziguqule ukukhula kwengqondo yomntwana, njengokusebenzisa icuba, iziselo ezinxilisayo okanye izinto ezingekho mthethweni ngumfazi okhulelweyo, ezinefuthe elibi kwimveku, kunye nokungonelanga Ukutya izondlo ezinje ngeeproteni, i-iron, i-zinc, i-omega-3. Funda ngendlela yokukhulelwa okusempilweni.

Ngexesha lokukhula komntwana, imeko yosapho efakwe kuyo ikwa negalelo kuphuhliso lwabo lweemvakalelo, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubudlelwane obulungileyo phakathi komama nomntwana busekwe kwasebusaneni, ukusukela ukohlukana, ukuphathwa gadalala kunye nokungakhathalelwa koku inqaku kubomi bomntwana, zinokubonakaliswa kamva ebudaleni, ezinokubenza babe ndlongondlongo kwaye bandise amathuba okuphuhliswa kokungahambelani nobuntu.