Qonda ukuba kutheni abanye abantwana bengenaluthando (kwaye ungazibopheleli)

Umxholo

• Yintoni ingxaki yokuncamathela okusebenzayo
• Unobangela wokuphazamiseka kwesiQinisekiso esiSebenzayo
• Iimpawu eziphambili kunye nendlela yokuchonga
• Unjani unyango

Abanye abantwana abathandwa kangako kwaye banobunzima ekunikezeni nasekufumaneni uthando, babonakala ngathi bayabanda kancinci, njengoko bekhula ukuzikhusela ngokwasemphefumlweni, okunokubangelwa ziimeko ezibuhlungu okanye ezinzima, njengokulahlwa ngabazali okanye ukubandezeleka kubundlobongela basekhaya. , umzekelo.

Olu khuselo lwengqondo sisifo esibizwa ngokuba yiReactive Attachment Disorder, esihlala sivela ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwaye ixhaphake kakhulu kubantwana abahlala kumakhaya eenkedama ngenxa yobudlelwane obubi beemvakalelo abanazo nabazali babo bokwenyama.

Yintoni ingxaki yokuncamathela okusebenzayo

Ukuphazamiseka kwesiQinisekiso esiSebenzayo ikakhulu kuchaphazela iintsana nabantwana, ukuphazamisa indlela ezenziwa ngayo izibophelelo kunye nobudlelwane, kwaye abantwana abanalesi sifo bayabanda, baneentloni, banxunguphele kwaye abanamdla ngokwasemoyeni.

Umntwana onesifo sokuncamathisela esisebenzayo akanakunyangeka ngokupheleleyo, kodwa xa kulandelwa ngokufanelekileyo unokukhula ngokwesiqhelo, aseke ubudlelwane bokuthembana ubomi bakhe bonke.

Unobangela wokuphazamiseka kwesiQinisekiso esiSebenzayo

Esi sifo sihlala sivela ebuntwaneni kwaye sinokubangela izizathu ezininzi ezibandakanya:

• Ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantwana okanye ukuphathwa gadalala ebuntwaneni;
• Ukulahlwa okanye ukulahleka kwabazali;
• Ukuziphatha gadalala okanye ubundlobongela ngabazali okanye ngabanonopheli;
• Utshintsho oluphindaphindiweyo lwabanonopheli, umzekelo, ukusuka kwikhaya leenkedama okanye usapho amatyeli aliqela;
• Ukukhula kwindawo ezibeka umda ithuba lokuseka ukunamathela, njengamaziko anabantwana abaninzi kunye nabanonopheli bambalwa.

Esi sifo siphakama ngakumbi xa abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emihlanu ubudala befumana ukwahlukana nosapho, okanye ukuba bangamaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala, ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukungahoywa ngexesha lobuntwana.

Iimpawu eziphambili kunye nendlela yokuchonga

Ezinye zeempawu ezinokubonisa ubukho besi sifo ebantwaneni, kulutsha okanye kubantu abadala kubandakanya:

• Ukuziva ulahliwe kwaye ulahliwe;
• Intlupheko echaphazelekayo, ebonisa ubunzima ekuboniseni uthando;
• Ukungabikho kovelwano;
• Ukungazithembi kunye nokuzahlula;
• Iintloni kunye nokurhoxa;
• Ubundlongondlongo kwabanye nakwilizwe;
• Ixhala kunye noxinzelelo.

Xa oku kuphazamiseka kwenzeka emntwaneni, kuqhelekile ukusela ulila, ukungonwabisi, ukuphepha uthando lwabazali, ukonwabela ukuba wedwa okanye ukunqanda ukudibana kwamehlo. Olunye lweempawu zokuqala zokulumkisa abazali kuxa umntwana engahlukanga phakathi kukanina okanye utata nabantu angabaziyo, akukho buhlobo buthile, njengoko bekulindelekile.

Unjani unyango

Ukuphazamiseka kwesiQinisekiso esiSebenzayo kufuna ukunyangwa ngugqirha oqeqeshiweyo okanye oqeqeshiweyo, njengoko kunjalo kugqirha wezifo zengqondo okanye ugqirha wezengqondo, oya kuthi ancede umntwana enze ubudlelwane kunye nosapho kunye noluntu.

Ukongeza, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abazali okanye abagcini bomntwana bafumane uqeqesho, ingcebiso okanye unyango, ukuze bafunde ukujongana nomntwana kunye nemeko.

Kubantwana abahlala kumakhaya eenkedama, ukubek'esweni koonontlalontle nako kunceda ekuqondeni esi sifo kunye neendlela ukuze zoyiswe, zenze umntwana akwazi ukunika nokwamkela uthando.