Ndiqhubekile ngeentsuku zokuQala ngeNcoko yeVidiyo ngexesha lokuvalelwa kwe-COVID-19-Nantsi indlela eyahamba ngayo

Umxholo

• Ukuseta
• Iividiyo zam zokuqala Imihla
• Umhla 1: I-Stateside Baker
• Umhla wesi-2: waseMelika waseKhaya
• Umhla wesi-3: I-London yangokuzenzekelayo
• Iindlela zokuthatha
• Umhla wokuQala oKwenziwayo kunye noMakwenziwe
• Uphengululo lwe

Andizukuthi ndinobomi obusebenzayo bokuthandana. Ngokwendlela yokuphuma kunye uzama ukuthandana nabantu, kulungile, ndiyanya kuloo nxalenye. Naxa ndichithe iiyure ndiswayipha kwi-apps yokuthandana, ndihlala ndisokola ukuvuma ukudibana nomntu. Kuninzi kakhulu ingxolo kwiiapps zokuthandana. (Kwaye, ibali eliyinyani: Banokukuonakalisa ukuzithemba kwakho.) Ngaphandle koko, bendihlala ndingumntu othi ngephanyazo athande — awele umhlobo, adibane nomntu kuhambo, athabathe uthando kumhlobo yomhlobo owenzekayo edolophini. Yonke le nto yenziwe, indlela yokuthandana yomgaqo kubonakala ngathi ithatha ulonwabo kunye nokuzithemba kuyo, ubuncinci kum.

Okwangoku, njengabantu abaninzi, ndiyayithanda i- umbono yokuthandana. Ndiyathanda ukuba ukhetho lukhona. Ke xa isiXeko saseMexico-apho ndihlala khona ngoku-safumana iiodolo zaso ezisemthethweni zokuhlala ekhaya ngoMatshi, andizange ndikhathazeke kakhulu malunga nokuphela kobomi bam bokuthandana. Kuzo zonke iziphene zabo, emva koko, ii-apps zokuthandana ziyindlela efanelekileyo yokuphuma endlwini kwaye udibane nabantu abanokuthi babe ngabahlobo (nto leyo yayibalulekile kum, njengomntu owayeneeveki ezintathu ehlala kwisixeko esitsha kwaye wayengazi mntu). Ndandisoyika ukuba isangqa sam sentlalo esandayo siza kubanda, okona kulungileyo, kwaye siphume kakubi. (Jonga: ICoronavirus iyitshintsha njani indawo yokuDibana)

Ke, ndicwangcise icebo: Ukuzinyanzela ukuba ndiphume ndiye phaya (ngokomfuziselo, kunjalo), ndazicel 'umngeni ndaya kwividiyo kwimihla yokuqala, emva koko ndabeka ibali ngayo (molo, uyayifunda), undibambe uxanduva lokuyenza ngokwenene.

Ngelixa amava, ewonke, ibe yingxowa exubeneyo, ngokumangalisayo ndifumene ukuba ndilikholwa.

Ukuseta

Ndifumana yonke intshayelelo yokuseta i-FaceTime inzima kakhulu. Akukho mntu, mna ngokwam ndibandakanyiwe, kubonakala ngathi unolwazi lokubodwa bodwa. Ii-apps zokuthandana zinzima phantsi kwezona meko ziqhelekileyo, kodwa ngokwesiqhelo, intetho encinci ebuhlungu ithatha kuphela imiyalezo embalwa ngaphambi kokuba uvume ukudibana ngesidlo sangokuhlwa, isiselo, okanye-nceda ubambe isigwebo-itheko lokubukela eliPhezulu ngoLwesibini kunye Isahluko saseMexico City seDemokhrasi phesheya (umbono wokuqala wokuqala womhla, ndiyazi. Andina sizathu. Bendingafuni ukubukela ukoyiswa kukaElizabeth Warren eyedwa, Kulungile?).

Umbono wokuqhekeka kuyo yonke loo miyalezo yoyikekayo yokuhlangana kuphela ngokuthatha konke ukuthandana nam. Ke ngelixa ndidibene nenqwaba yabafana kwi-Hinge kunye ne-Bumble, inkqubo yokufika kwindawo ethi "masincokole ngevidiyo" ayithandeki kum kangangokuba ndihambe ngeentsuku ezintathu zokuqala zevidiyo. Kwaye inye kuphela kwezo yayinomntu endimdibanise nokuvalelwa emva kwexesha. Okwangoku, nanku umonakalisi: Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kubonakala kufanelekile ukuba ubekho. (Idibeneyo: UkuSebenza kweeNkqubo zezeMpilo kunye nabaNomdla boBuchule)

Iividiyo zam zokuqala Imihla

Umhla 1: I-Stateside Baker

Umhla wokuqala wawunomhlobo womhlobo. Masimbize ngokuba nguDave. Uhlala eMaryland. Kodwa i-quarantine, akunjalo? Asifanelanga nokuba sibone abantu abasezixekweni zethu, nokuba bahlala ngaphaya kwesitrato, singasathethi ke ngokuthandana nabo. Oko kuthetha ngokoqobo wonke umntu ayinqweneleki ngokwejografi.

Ndijongene neTimed Dave kwi-iPad yam eluphahleni lwendlu yokuhlala yam, endicinga ukuba iya kuba yimvelaphi enomdla ngakumbi kunodonga olumhlophe olucacileyo kwigumbi lam lokulala. Kodwa njengoko kuvela, mna noDave siyakuthanda ukubhaka, nanjengoko wayengumntu wasemthethweni kwaye ndichithe iminyaka embalwa njengentatheli yolwaphulo-mthetho, besinokuninzi esithetha ngako. Incoko yayihamba ngokulula. Andazi ukuba ndilindele ukuba umhla wokuqala wevidiyo uza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo khange ndiqwalasele ukutshona kwelanga ngokukhawuleza xa ndicinga ukuba ukukhanya kwendalo kungandenza ndibonakale ngcono kwividiyo. Njengoko ndandiye ndaphelelwa ngumfanekiso womntu ongaziwayo kwinkqubo yolwaphulo-mthetho lokwenyani, ndiyinqumle ngokungafanelekanga ndaza ndathi ndlela ntle. Ngelixa asikhange sibeke umhla wesibini, uDave wabonakala emkhulu, umntu endingathanda ukuba ndihlale naye ebomini bokwenene. Siqhubekile nokuthumelelana imiyalezo malunga neeprojekthi zethu zokubhaka ezizodwa, endikonwabeleyo.

Umhla wesi-2: waseMelika waseKhaya

Umhla wam wesibini wokuqala ndandinomfana ovela e-US owayehlala eMexico City. Siza kumbiza ngokuba nguBrad. Iprofayile yakhe yeHinge ithi ufuna "intombazana engaqhelekanga" ngubani "ongayi kuyibaleka ingxoxo esempilweni." Ngokwendalo, umgca wam wokuvula we-nerdy wawusithi, "Hola! Owayengumphathi-mpikiswano kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo enika ingxelo ngomsebenzi." Wathatha isiyeyelo, kwaye xa savuma ukuncokola ngevidiyo kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kamva, wathumela isimemo sokwenyani kwidilesi yam ye-imeyile ngekhonkco le-Zoom-kunye nexesha lokuphela. Le yayiza kuba yimizuzu engama-30. Kungekudala ngaphambi kokuba angene, wathumela umyalezo esithi masiyeke ukuchitha ixesha silungiselela umnxeba. "Yiza njengokuba unjalo," watsho, "kwaye siza kunika omnye nomnye inzuzo yokungathandabuzeki ukuba sihlala sijonga ngcono iipesenti ezingama-20 ukuya kuma-30 kumazwe ethu angenayo i-apocalypse kunye neenwele eziqhelekileyo, izimonyo, njl." Ndavuma — kodwa ngoko nangoko ndatshintsha ndanxiba impahla yasendlwini endandiyinxibile, ndanxiba iimpahla ezimnyama, ezimnyama zetanki.

Sincokole ngomsebenzi wethu, ukuhamba kwethu, iiklasi azenzayo ngoku. Umhla wethu osemthethweni uphele ngesishwankathelo somnxeba: Ndinomdla, uBrad uxele, okanye ubuncinci ndilungile ngokuzenza njalo. Undifumanisa ndimhle (enkosi, Zoom uphawu lokuchukumisa). Kufuneka senze umhla wentlalo-kude, umntu-mntu, wathi (ndalile ngenxa yokoyika ukusasazeka), kwaye savumelana ukuba sincokole kwakhona kungekudala. UBrad wayelungile. Wayenomdla. Uye wacebisa ukuba sizame iziyobisi zengqondo kunye, ngokwahlukeneyo, eZoom, njengenye indlela yokuthatha uhambo epakini. . umntu oqaqambisa ukuba iZoom ayinakudlulisa. Kodwa iitekisi zethu bezingafane zenzeke ukusukela kumnxeba wethu, endiya kuzibek 'ityala kum, kwaye incoko yethu ubukhulu becala ibile.

Umhla wesi-3: I-London yangokuzenzekelayo

Umhla wesithathu, ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ubonakala ngathi ngumtsalane. Yeyona nto yayiyeyokuzenzekela, eyona yendalo, ethembisayo, kwaye engenakulindeleka: Ayikuko nje ukwahlulwa ngokuvalelwa, kodwa nolwandlekazi lweAtlantic. Sitshatise iHinge emva ngoFebruwari, kwiiveki ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba acwangcise ukutyelela iSixeko saseMexico esivela eLondon. Kodwa mhla wafika apha yayilusuku endandiqala ngalo ukukhathazeka kakhulu malunga ne-COVID-19, ngemini emva kokuba ndigqibe kwelokuba ndiza kuphuma ndiyokuhlala nomntu wam wokugqibela kunye nabahlobo (Qaphela: kule veki, amatyala aqinisekisiweyo eMexico kuphela kumanani amabini kwilizwe jikelele). Ukuya kumhla nomntu osandula ukufika evela kwilizwe elichaphazelekayo kwabonakala ngathi ngumbono ombi, ngenxa yoko andivumanga ukudibana. Wabuya wabuyela e-UK ngesiquphe, njengabahambi abaninzi ngeveki, kwaye ndacinga ukuba yile nto. Kodwa ke umhla wam wokugqibela kweli bali usondele ngokukhawuleza kwaye bendisengumhla omfutshane kunjongo yam, kwaye ndiye ndacinga, kutheni kungenjalo. Mhlawumbi le iya kuba yeyona nto intle bendikade ndiyithemba.

Ngaphandle kokuba ndimhlalise yedwa ngemiyalezo ye-Instagram, wavuma, kwaye ngokuzenzekelayo saqala incoko yevidiyo ye-Instagram phakathi evekini. Incoko yahamba ngathi sele sidibene, kwaye imizuzu engama-45 yadlula. Sathetha ngeentsapho zethu, ukuhamba, ezopolitiko, ukupheka, kunye nesizungu ngexesha lokuvalelwa. Wayephethe ifowuni yakhe ngefestile xa iLondon iqala ukonwaba ebusuku kubasebenzi bezempilo ukuze nam ndiyive, kwaye kwakumnandi ukubona indlela avuya ngayo xa engena. Ibhetri yefowuni indikhumbuze ukuba kufuneka ndibuyele emsebenzini. Ngaphezu nje kweveki kamva, umnxeba wethu wesibini wevidiyo (naye wazenzekela), wathatha iiyure ezintathu. Kubekho eyesithathu neyesine okoko. 'Andinangxaki ngokutyelela eLondon xa yonke le nto iphelile,' ndihlala ndicinga. 'Singxengxezo esinjani endinokuza kuso kuloo nto?' Yiyo i hayi apho bendilindele ukuba le vidiyo yokuthandana nomngeni indithathe.

Iindlela zokuthatha

Ukuba iintlanganiso zethu zokuqala bezikwimpilo yokwenyani, kufanelekile ukuba bendiye kwimihla eliqela kunye naba bafana. Kodwa kubonakala kum kucacile kum ngoku ukuba indlela elula yokujonga amathumbu yeyona ndlela yokuthatha isigqibo sokuqhubela phambili xa uthandana phantse. Ngaba uyaziva ukuba imizuzu iyadlula, okanye ngaba umthungo utshintsha izihloko zencoko kwimeko yokuhamba kwaye wothukile ukufumanisa ukuba lingakanani ixesha elidlulileyo? Ngaba unomdla wokucwangcisa umnxeba wesibini, okanye ngaba uzifumana uyibeka phantsi? Uya funa ukubabona kwakhona? Ngaba kuvakala kulula? Ukuba impendulo kuyo yonke le mibuzo nguewe, yiya kumjikelo wesibini. (Idibeneyo: Izinto ezi-5 Wonke umntu kufuneka azi malunga nezesondo kunye nokuthandana, ngokweNzululwazi yezoBudlelwane)

Andinakutsho okwangoku ukuba ukuvalelwa yedwa ukuthandana kuya kukhokelela kuyo nantoni na ebomini bokwenyani. Kodwa mhlawumbi isibonelelo "sokuthandana" kukuvalelwa yedwa kukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ufezekise ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba isondo longeze umaleko wobunzima. Ngubani owaziyo-mhlawumbi, xa yonke le nto igqityiwe, iya kuba sengqiqweni ukugcina imihla yevidiyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuphuma kwimihla emininzi yesidlo sangokuhlwa kuthatha ixesha elininzi, amandla, kunye nemali (kwaye mhlawumbi kunye ne-wax). Kutheni ungavavanyi amanzi kuqala ngaphambi kokuba uchebe iinyawo zakho?

Umhla wokuQala oKwenziwayo kunye noMakwenziwe

Andililo ingcali, kodwa ndiyakuxelela ukuba ezi ngxoxo zincinci zentsuku zokuqala zandifundisa okuninzi malunga nendlela (kwaye njani hayi)ukwenza oku kube ngamava afanelekileyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba, izifundo zam zinokukunceda weqe uye phambili kwizinto ezilungileyo.

1. Yenza fumana indawo ethe cwaka, eyimfihlo ukuze nithethe. Ukuvula ifeni kwigumbi lakho kunokudala ingxolo emhlophe enika imfihlo ethe kratya, kwaye ukuphuma uye kwinyathelo lakho langaphambili, ibhalkoni, ngasemva kwendlu, ukubaleka komlilo, okanye ikona ezolileyo ebumelwaneni bakho nako kunokukunika olo xolo lwengqondo.
2. Musa thumela isimemo sekhalenda ngexesha lokuphela. Cwangcisa kwangaphambili ngexesha kunye "nendawo," okt FaceTime vs. Zoom vs. Google Hangouts vs. HouseParty (qiniseka ukuba igumbi lakho "litshixiwe" ukuze abahlobo abangahleliyo bangabhengezi), kodwa zama ukuthembana Ungafumana indlela yokubonisa ngaphandle kokufuna ukubetha "ukwamkela" kwisimemo se-iCal.
3. Yenza yithathele ingqalelo into yokuba xa uhleli phandle, nincokole ngorhatya, lisenokutshona ilanga.
4. Yenza Cinga ngemicimbi ekude ekuhlaleni onokuyenza kunye phantse. I-Airbnb inamava amatsha akwi-Intanethi akuvumela ukuba uthathe iklasi yeyoga ngeOlimpiki okanye iklasi yokupheka nosapho olukumawaka eekhilomitha. UBugcisa neNkcubeko kuGoogle unamawakawaka emyuziyam onokuthi "undwendwele" ingqokelela yazo ngokujonga okuphezulu kweyona mizobo idumileyo yehlabathi kunye nokhenketho oluyi-360 lweegalari.Ukuba uhlala kwizixeko ezahlukeneyo okanye ubumelwane, cinga ukwenza uhambo lokuhamba olukude lweFaceTime.
5. Musa gcina ividiyo uthandana nomntu ngaphandle kokukruquka. Ukuba ufumanisa kunzima ukugcina incoko okanye ukoyikisa umhla owubekileyo, mhlawumbi luphawu lokuba lixesha lokuhamba.
6. Yenza landelana kumajelo asekuhlaleni phambi kokuba nincokole, ukuba nobabini nisebenza kwiqonga elinikiweyo. Oku kunokukunika ifestile kubomi bomnye nomnye ukuba ukuthumela imiyalezo kusilela ukuhambisa. Inokukunceda ukuba nobabini nizive nikhululeke kancinci, ngokungathi niyifumene indlela esele nidibene ngayo kunokuba ninokubanda ngokupheleleyo.
7. Yenza Qiniseka ukuba uziva ukhululekile kule nto uyinxibileyo. Ngelixa abantu abaninzi bonwabele ukusondeza ibhulukhwe engenamikhono, mna ngokobuqu andinako ukuzithatha ngokungathí sina ukuba ndiziva ngathi ndinxibe isinxibo, yile nto ibonakala ngathi xa ndinxibe izinto ezingathandekiyo phezulu nangaphezulu. Ngelixa ndingacebisa ukuba uye enkathazweni yokucheba imilenze yakho kwi-FaceTime esifubeni, ndiyakucebisa ukuba unxibe ngendlela obuya kwenza ngayo ukuba uya kuphuma ngomhla, ukukunceda ukuba ungene kuloo ngqondo.

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