Ithetha Ntoni I-Polysexual?

Umxholo

• Ithetha ntoni i-Polysexual?
• Polysexual vs. Pansexual, Omnisexual, kunye Bisexual
• IPolyamory vs Polysexual
• Ukuphonononga Polysexuality
• Uphengululo lwe

Kwabo bangabambeleliyo kwi-heteronormative, ubudlelwane bomfazi omnye, lixesha elimnandi lokuphila. Umbono wesini oqhuba i-gamut ayonto intsha, ukwenzile oko okoko abantu bebesemhlabeni, kodwa uluntu lwangoku luye lwafikelela kwindawo apho, ukuba uyafuna, ungabeka igama elichanekileyo nakweyiphi na inkanuko yesini okanye isazisi.

Izizukulwana zangaphambili zazingenabunewunewu bunye. Nangona esi sigama besikhe sahlala okwexeshana, iilebhile ezininzi azifumananga kubonakaliswa okanye imbeko ebafaneleyo ngokupheleleyo- thatha ipansexual, umzekelo, ebingaziwa kuluntu ngokubanzi de uMiley Cyrus wachongwa njenge-pansexual ngo-2015. Kungatshiwo okufanayo kwi-polysexual, igama elaqala ukusetyenziswa ngo-1920s, kodwa alizange lenze ukuba libe yinto eqhelekileyo de kwangowe-1974, xa uNoel Coppage wabhala inqaku. Uphengululo lweStereo apho abhekisa khona uDavid Bowie, phakathi kwabanye, njenge-polysexual. Ngelo xesha, uCoppage wafaka eli gama nge-asexual, bisexual, kunye ne-pansexual, engachanekanga ncam.

Ngoko kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ne-polysexual, ngokwenene? Nantsi yonke into ekufuneka uyazi.

Ithetha ntoni i-Polysexual?

Ukuba uqhelene ngakumbi - okanye kuphela eyaziwayo-ngegama elithi "polyamory," kunokubonakala ngathi lihamba kunye ne-polysexuality, kodwa akunjalo. Ixesha langaphambili luhlobo lokuziqhelanisa nolwalamano olungatshatanga nolunye umntu athe wabandakanyeka kulwalamano olungaphezulu kwesinye, ngelixa lokugqibela kukuziqhelanisa nokwabelana ngesondo.

"Njengakulo lonke ulwazelelelo ngokwesini kunye nemigaqo yesazisi, eyona nkcazo [yesini esiniweyo] inokwahluka ngokujonga ukuba ngubani owenza inkcazo kunye / okanye ukuzazisa, utshilo umhlohli wesini sobundlobongela uGabrielle Kassel, obambisene neBad In Bed: Le Queer Sex Education Podcast. "Isiqalo 'se-poly' sithetha ezininzi okanye ezininzi.

Kukwakho iflegi ye-polysexual, enemigca emithathu ethe tyaba yombala: ipinki, eluhlaza, kunye nebhlowu, ukusuka phezulu ukuya ezantsi.

Indlela i-polysexual ejongeka ngayo ayisetwanga ematyeni. Yahlukile kumntu kumntu, ngokubhekisele kubani onomdla kuye, ekwayinto enokutshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha. "Umntu omnye one-polysexual unokutsalwa ngamadoda, abantu abangengabo-binary, kunye nabantu besini," utshilo uKassel. "Ngelixa omnye umntu enokutsalwa ngamadoda, abafazi, kunye nabantu abangengabo-binary." (Bona: Ithetha ukuthini ngenene ukuba ungeyo-Bhinary)

Ngamanye amazwi, akukho ndlela enye yokuba ne-polysexual.

Polysexual vs. Pansexual, Omnisexual, kunye Bisexual

Kunganzima ukuqonda umahluko phakathi kwala magama. Ngelixa zonke zizinto ezithandwa ngokwesondo kwaye zinokwabelana ngokufana- oko kukuthi, zonke zichaza ulwalamano oluchaza ukuba umntu utsala ubuncinci isini esini- bahlala bohlukene omnye komnye.

Isini esibini: Abantu abathandanayo ngokwesini ngokubanzi babeka inkcubeko yabo kwezesini ngaphakathi kwesini kunye nesini esinye, utshilo uTiana GlittersaurusRex, utitshala we-polyamorous kunye ne-activist, kunye nomseki-mbumbulu weSikhokelo soMsebenzi wokuSinda soSondo. Ukuziphatha ngokwesini kunokubonwa njengefom yesini esahlukileyo kuba ichaza umtsalane kwisini esinye.

Ubungqingili: Okwangoku, "i-pansexual ithetha ukutsala umdla wesini kuye nakubani na ngaphandle kwesini sabo ngaphaya kokungafani kwendoda nebhinqa." Lo mtsalane, uchaza uKassel, "ngowabantu kuzo zonke iinkalo zesini." Kulabo abathandanayo ngokwesini, isini asidlali ndawo ekutsaleni kwabo emntwini. Endaweni yoko, bajonge ngaphaya kwesini, bafumanisa ukuba umtsalane wabo usekwe kubuntu babo, ubukrelekrele babo, indlela abalibona ngayo ilizwe, uburharha babo, indlela ababaphatha ngayo abantu, kunye nezinye izinto zobuntu ezabelana noMhlaba nabanye abantu. izidalwa. Ubufanasini bohlukile kwi-polysexuality kuba abantu abachonga njenge-polysexual banokutsala abanye-kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke-intetho yesini, kwaye inokubangela ukuba loo mabinzana abe nomtsalane kubo ngokuchasene nokutsala umntu ngaphandle kwesini. (Idibeneyo: Umzuzu 'weSchitt's Creek' owenza uEmily Hampshire aqonde ukuba wayePansexual)

Ukwabelana ngesondo: Nangona yahlukile, i-omnisexual (isimaphambili "omni" esithetha "zonke"), isafana nokuba pansexual. Apho iyantlukwano ikhoyo kwezi zimbini zokuziphatha ngokwesondo "kungenxa yolwazi olupheleleyo lwesini seqabane, ngokuchasene nokuba nobumfama besini," utshilo uGlittersaurusRex. Yile cognizance of gender eyahlula i-pansexuality kunye ne-omnisexuality kakhulu kuzo zonke. Kwaye i-omnisexuality yahlukile kwi-polysexuality kuba abantu abachonga njenge-polysexual banokutsalwa kuninzi - kodwa kungekhona bonke - ngokwesini.

IPolyamory vs Polysexual

Ewe isimaphambili esithi "poly" sigcina intsingiselo yaso xa sisithi "uninzi" nokuba uthetha nge-polyamory okanye i-polysexuality, kodwa umahluko omkhulu phakathi kwezi zinto zimbini kukuba i-polyamory luhlobo lokuqhelana nolwalamano, kunye ne-polysexual luqhelwano ngokwesondo. Ukuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo ngumntu otsaleleke kuye ngokwesondo, kanti ukuziqhelanisa nobudlelwane luhlobo lobudlelwane okhetha ukubandakanyeka kubo.

"Umntu one-polyamorous unamandla okuthanda abantu abaninzi ngexesha elinye, kwaye ukhetha ukubandakanya ukuziphatha, ubudlelwane obunyanisekileyo apho ukubandakanya, ukuhlakulela, kunye nokuthanda abantu abaninzi ngexesha elinye kuvunyelwe (kwaye kukhuthazwa!)," kusho uKassel. . Nabani na, nokuba bathini ngokwesini- kubandakanya, kodwa kungaphelelanga apho kubantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye-unokuba yipolamorous. (Eyeleleneyo: Nantsi into eyiNxulumano yePolyamorous eneneni-kwaye ayiyiyo)

Kwelinye icala, abo bangama-polysexual banokuzifumana bekulo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane, njengoko ukuziqhelanisa nesondo kunye nobudlelwane bobudlelwane akukho nto yakwenza nomnye, nokuba bayadlulana amaxesha ngamaxesha.

"Abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandana nabathandanayo banokuthi bathandane bodwa, babe neqabane elinye, babe yipolamous, okanye naluphi na olunye ulwalamano," utshilo uKassel. (Eyeleleneyo: Yintoni iEthical Non-Monogamy, kwaye ingakusebenzela?)

Ukuphonononga Polysexuality

Njengoko nayiphi na ingcali yezokwabelana ngesondo iya kukuxelela, ukubonwa kwesimo sokuziphatha ngokwesondo asikokude nje, kodwa ungasilayida kwaye usihla ezantsi kubomi bakho bonke. (Le ngcamango yinto encinci ebizwa ngokuba yi-sexual fluidity.) Yiyiphi i-orientation okhoyo kwi-20s yethu isenokungafani naleyo oyichongayo kwi-30s yethu - kwaye kunokuthiwa okufanayo malunga nokuqhelaniswa nobudlelwane. Njengoko ukhula njengomntu, unokuba nomdla wokwazi, izinto ozikhethayo zinokuvela, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha oko kunokukhokelela kweminye iminqweno, kubudlelwane kunye nakwinqanaba lezesondo. Ke, ukuba ubukhe wachonga njengenye into, kodwa uzive ubizwa ngegama "polysexual," emva koko uzive ukhululekile ukuphonononga.

Njengazo naziphi na iindlela zokuziqhelanisa ngokwesondo, ukuvuseleleka kwakho kunye nomnqweno wakho umisela ukuba ungumntu onesini esithandanayo na, utshilo uGlittersaurusRex. Cinga ngokujonga kwiincwadi ezinxulumene nesini kunye neepodcast, kunye nokulandela ootitshala abathandekayo kwimidiya yoluntu, ukuze ufunde ngakumbi kwaye ubone ukuba ijongeka kanjani kwimeko.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho lunye uqhelaniso ngokwesondo okanye ukuziqhelanisa nobudlelwane obungcono kunayo nayiphi na enye. Kuyavunywa ukuba, ubani unokumsebenzela bhetele umntu othile, kodwa oko kunokuthethwa ngezinto ezininzi zobomi. Yinto nje yokuba, apha kwaye ngoku, ukuqonda ukuba yintoni efanelekileyo kwiminqweno yakho yezesondo kunye nobudlelwane, kwaye uthembele kuyo. (Funda kwakhona: Kutheni le nto ndinqabileyo ukuba ndingayibhali ileyibhile yam)

Ubumnandi obuninzi ebomini buvela kulwabelana ngesondo kunye / okanye ubudlelwane, kunye nolwazelelo olwahlukeneyo lunokubonelela ngeendlela ezintsha zokufumana uthando kunye nokwoneliseka ngokwesondo. Konke malunga nokuvavanya ukuba yintoni ekwenza wonwabe kwaye uzivumele ukuba uhambe kulo lonwabo nokuba kumanzi amatsha nangenawo.

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