Ngaba abantwana baqala nini ukuziqengqa?

Umxholo

• Ziqala nini ukuziqengqa iintsana?
• Bafunda njani ukuziqengqa?
• Ungalugcina njani usana lwakho oluqengqelekileyo lukhuselekile
• Yise kude

Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho mhle, unobuqhetseba, kwaye uyithiyile ixesha lesisu. Baneenyanga ezi-3 ubudala kwaye bengabonisi nayiphi na imiqondiso yentshukumo ezimeleyo xa ibekwe phantsi (okanye kwanomnqweno wokuhamba).

Abahlobo okanye usapho lwakho bahlala bebuza ukuba umntwana wakho uqalile ukuziqengqa okwangoku, kwaye ngenxa yoko, uqale ukuzibuza ukuba ingaba umntwana wakho uqhelekile na okanye kukho into engalunganga.

Kwelinye icala, mhlawumbi emva kweenyanga zobusuku kunye nasekuseni kakhulu, imithwalo yokuhlamba impahla engapheliyo, kunye notshintsho oluninzi lwe-diaper ekugqibeleni lwenzekile. Umntwana wakho sele ehamba-kwaye ngoku abayi kuyeka ukuziqengqa! Unomdla wokufunda okungakumbi ngale nqanaba kwaye ufuna ukuqiniseka ukugcina umntwana wakho ekhuselekile.

Ewe, sukujonga phambili, kuba nokuba ulungiselela loo msongo wokuqala okanye ujonge nje ukufunda ngakumbi emva kokuba yenzekile, sifumene iimpendulo kwimibuzo yakho engezantsi!

Ziqala nini ukuziqengqa iintsana?

Malunga neenyanga ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-4 ubudala, unokuqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uyakwazi ukuqengqeleka kancinci, ukusuka kumqolo ukuya kwicala labo. Kungekudala emva koku - malunga neenyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-5 kubomi bomntwana wakho - ukubanakho ukuziqengqa, rhoqo ukusuka esiswini ukuya emqolo, kunokubonakala.

Kuqhelekile ukuba iintsana ziqale ngokuqengqeleka zisuka ngaphambili ziye ngasemva, kodwa kungathatha iiveki ezimbalwa ukuba umntwana wakho akwazi ukuqengqeleka ukusuka emqolo ukuya esiswini.

Phambi kokuba bagqibezele umqulu kunokwenzeka ukuba ubabone besebenzisa iingalo zabo ukunyusa isifuba sabo nokuphakamisa iintloko zabo nentamo. Utshintsho oluncinci kwimali eseleyo lunokubathumela ukuba basuke kwisisu ukuya ngasemva.

Usana lwakho lunokuba ngumqengqeleki kwangethuba, lwenza phambi kweenyanga ezi-4, okanye banokukhetha ukusonga ukusuka emqolo ukuya esiswini kwaye bayazi kakuhle le nto ngaphambi kokubuyela ngaphambili!

Njengawo onke amanqanaba ophuhliso, kukho uluhlu lobudala xa ukuqengqeleka kunokubonakala kuqala kwaye loluphi ulwalathiso olunokwenzeka kuqala. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ngexesha umntwana wakho eneenyanga ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-7 engagungqi kwaphela okanye abonise umdla wokuhlala, jonga kugqirha wabantwana.

Xa umntwana wakho eqala ukuziqengqa kunokuba yinto emangalisayo kuni nobabini! Akuqhelekanga kwimigqaliselo yokuqala ukuba yinto enomdla kubazali kwaye iyatshisa kwiintsana. Zilungiselele ukuthuthuzela umntwana wakho omncinci ukuba bayakhala ngokumangaliswa okanye ngokothuka emva kokufezekisa isakhono esitsha. (Zama ukuba nekhamera ekufuphi ukuze ubambe ubungqina bosapho kunye nezihlobo ezandisiweyo, nazo!)

Bafunda njani ukuziqengqa?

Ukuziqengqa, iintsana kufuneka zikhulise izihlunu zazo (kubandakanya amandla entloko nentamo), zifumane ulawulo lwezihlunu, kwaye zinendawo kunye nenkululeko yokuhamba-hamba. Konke oku kunokufezekiswa ngokunika umntwana wakho ixesha lesisu lemihla ngemihla.

Ixesha lesisu lifanelekile kwiintsana ukusukela kwiintsuku zabo zokuqala kwaye kubandakanya ukubeka usana esiswini sabo ixesha elifutshane. Qala ngemizuzu emi-1 ukuya kwemi-2 kwaye uqhubele phambili ukuya kwimizuzu eli-10 ukuya kweli-15 njengoko amandla omntwana wakho esanda.

Ngokwesiqhelo ixesha lesisu lenzeka ngengubo okanye kwindawo yokudlala ethe tyaba phantsi, kwaye uninzi lwezicoceko ezicocekileyo, ezingaphakanyiswanga ziyakusebenza. Ngenxa yezizathu zokhuseleko, kubalulekile ukunqanda ukwenza ixesha lesisu kwiindawo eziphakamileyo xa kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana aqengqele, awe, okanye ashiyeke.

Ixesha lesisu kufuneka linikwe amaxesha ngamaxesha emini kwaye linokunika ithuba elihle lokuzibandakanya nomntwana wakho.

Ngelixa ezinye iintsana zikonwabile ukunyamezela ixesha lesisu, abanye bakufumanisa kuyinto yoxinzelelo.

Ukwenza ixesha lesisu libe mnandi ngakumbi, nikeza umntwana wakho imifanekiso emnyama nomhlophe ukuba ajonge, abaphazamise ngeethoyi kunye neengoma, okanye wehle kwinqanaba labo lokuzibandakanya nabo. Kwiiseshoni zexesha elide lesisu, kunokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale egxile ukuba iithoyi zitshintshiwe kwiseshoni yonke.

Kubantwana abancinci abangathandi ixesha lesisu, ukuyenza rhoqo kodwa amaxesha amafutshane kunokunceda ukuthintela ukunyibilika kunye nokwakha amandla kunye nokunyamezelana kwiiseshoni ezinde kwixesha elizayo.

Enye into onokuyenza kukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba onwabele ixesha lesisu kunye, uhlale phantsi emgangathweni kwaye umntwana wakho ebekwe esifubeni sakho.

Ungalugcina njani usana lwakho oluqengqelekileyo lukhuselekile

Nje ukuba usana lwakho luqalise ukuziqengqa, kuvulelwa kulo lonke ilizwe elitsha, kwaye lihlabathi elitsha nelibandakanya iingozi!

Ihlala iyindlela elungileyo yokhuseleko ukugcina isandla esinye emntwaneni wakho ngelixa uzitshintsha kwitafile yokutshintsha ephezulu. Nangona kunjalo xa umntwana wakho eqala ukuqengqeleka yimfuneko engagungqiyo yokuba angaze abe ngaphandle komntu omdala emi ecaleni kwabo ukuba bakweyiphi na indawo ephezulu.

Uyakufuna kwakhona ukubeka iliso kubo nokuba ubekwe phantsi, njengoko iintsana ezincinci zikwazi ukuziqengqa kwiindawo nakwizikhundla ezingakhuselekanga xa sele zihambile.

Ukuba awukaqalisi ukukhusela abantwana, umntwana wakho ojikelezayo angabonisa ukuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqala.

Indawo enye yokuhlawula ngokukodwa ukukhusela abantwana yindawo apho umntwana wakho alala khona. Kubalulekile ukuba nayiphi na indawo yokulala umntwana wakho alala kuyo ayinazo ii-bumpers, iingubo, iipilo, okanye naziphi na izinto zokudlala ezinokuba yingozi yokufuthaniselwa. (Ngokufanelekileyo, ii-cribs kufuneka zibe nephepha lokulala elilelweyo eligudileyo nelithe tyaba ngaphezulu komatrasi.)

Ukongeza ekujongeni indawo engqonge ukhuseleko, kubalulekile ukuba ucinge ngendlela olaliswa ngayo umntwana wakho.

Iintsana kufuneka zihlale zilaliswe ngomqolo kwaye kufuneka uyeke ukusongela iintsana zakho xa sele ziqalile ukuzama ukuziqengqa. Asikuko kuphela ukusongelwa kokuthintela ukubanakho komntwana ekusebenziseni izandla zakhe ukuphuma esiswini, kodwa ukuphithizela kunye nomzamo obandakanyekayo ekuqengqeleni kunokuzikhulula izambatho okanye iingubo zokudala iingozi zokuphelelwa ngamandla.

Akuqhelekanga ukuba umntwana wakho afumane ukulala ngokukhawuleza ngexesha eliqala ukuhamba. Unokufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho uzigcina ejikeleza ngeenxa zonke kwisibhedi, onwabile malunga nesakhono sakhe esitsha, okanye umntwana wakho anokuvuka phakathi kobusuku ezijikeleze kwindawo engakhululekanga kwaye engakwazi ukubuyela umva.

Ngethamsanqa, uninzi lwabantwana, esi sisigaba nje esifutshane esihlala kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezizayo. Ngenxa yendalo yethutyana, esona sisombululo silula kubazali abaninzi kukubeka umntwana emqolo kunye nokubonelela ngengxolo encinci yokunceda ukuba baphinde balale.

Ngokwengcebiso ezivela kwiSebe lezeMpilo laseMelika kunye neenkonzo zoLuntu, nje ukuba umntwana abe nakho ukuziqengqa, akuyomfuneko ukuba babuyele emqolo ukuba bayakwazi ukulala kamnandi nakwesiphi na isikhundla abakhetha ukungena kuso.

Kusacetyiswa ukuba ekuqaleni ubeke umntwana emqolo xa ubabeka ebhedini yabo ukuze balale ukunceda ukuthintela isifo sokufa kweentsana ngesiquphe (SIDS).

Yise kude

Nokuba umntwana wakho uqalile ukuhamba ngokuzimeleyo okanye usafuna uncedo lwakho, zininzi izihlandlo ezizayo. Amanqanaba amaninzi azakuza phakathi kwenyanga yesi-4 neye-8.

Ukukwazi ukuhlala ngokwakho, ukuvela kwamazinyo, kunye nokukhasa komkhosi kuya kuba lapha ngaphambi kokuba wazi. Unokufuna ukuqala ukulungiselela izinto ezizayo, kodwa uthathe ixesha ukonwabela onke amaxesha akhethekileyo ohambo lokukhula komntwana wakho!