Nceda! Ngaba usana lwam luya kulala nini ebusuku?

Umxholo

• Inqaku malunga nokwahluka
• ‘Sleeping through the night’ - yintoni, kwaye ayisiyiyo
• Iinyanga ze-0 ukuya kwi-3 zeenyanga: 'I-trimester yesine'
• Ukuncancisa ibele xa uthelekiswa neentsana ezincancisiweyo
• Ukulala kumyinge weentsana, iinyanga ezi-0-3
• Ages iinyanga ezi-3-6
• Ukulala kumyinge weentsana, iinyanga ezi-3-6
• Ages iinyanga ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-9
• Ukwahlukana koxinzelelo
• Ukulala kumyinge weentsana, iinyanga ezi-6-9
• Ages 9-12 iinyanga
• Ukulala kumyinge weentsana, iinyanga ezili-9-12
• Iingcebiso kunye namaqhinga okulala okungcono ebusuku - kusapho lonke
• Ukulala hacks
• Iinkxalabo eziqhelekileyo
• Umbuzo kunye noKaren Gill, MD
• Ukuthatha

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Uyamthanda umntwana wakho omncinci kwaye uyayixabisa yonke into ebalulekileyo. Ukusuka ekucingeni umnwe wakho ukuncuma kuqala, umntwana wakho uye wafikelela kwikhamera kwaye wabelana ngekratshi ngala maxesha nabahlobo kunye nosapho.

Inye into onokuthi ungakulangazeleli ukuyabelana nayo? Uziva ubuthongo njaniIindaba ezimnandi zezokuba, iintsana zihlala ziqala ukulala ubusuku zijikeleze iinyanga ezintandathu ubudala.

Ke xhathisa isilingo sokuya endle ngezihluzi zeSnapchat ukulungisa ezo zangqa zimnyama- kwaye uyazi ukuba awuwedwa ulinde le ntlekele.

Inqaku malunga nokwahluka

Kangangoko sinokufuna ukucwangcisa ubomi bethu, malunga neenyanga ezi-6 zokuqala zobomi babo, iintsana zinemibono eyahlukeneyo. Baneendlela zokulala ezenziwa manqaphanqapha ezinokudida kwaye zitshintshe kwiveki enye ukuya kwenye. Banokulala ukuya kuthi ga kwiiyure ezili-17 ngosuku, ngokuqinisekileyo-kodwa mhlawumbi kuphela iiyure ezi-1-2 ngexesha ngamanye amaxesha. Oku kunokubadimaza abazali abatsha.

Kodwa gcinani engqondweni ukuba usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa lusenesisu esincinci. Ba (ngesiqhelo) bavuka ubusuku bonke kuba balambile. Kwaye njengawe, banelizwi xa befuna ukutya. (Kwaye ngokungafaniyo nawe, abanakuzinceda.)

Akukho sixa-silinganisiweyo-lonke ixesha elibekiweyo xa usana lwakho luya kulala ubusuku bonke-luyadanisa, akunjalo? - kodwa kuya kwenzeka. Ngelixa ezinye iintsana zilala ubusuku bonke kwiinyanga ezi-6 kwaye oku kungathathwa "njengesiqhelo," abanye abayi kude kube li-1 unyaka- kodwa nokuba kunjalo, kukho ukulala okungaguquguqukiyo kwikamva lakho nobabini.

Bonke abantwana bahlukile, ke zama ukungathelekisi imikhwa yokulala komntwana wakho neyomnye umntu. (Kwaye ungaze, ngonaphakade thelekisa i-selfie yakho engacocwanga kunye ne-Snapchat yomnye umzali okanye ifoto ye-Instagram. Ukuba ngumzali kuhle, nawe unjalo.)

Masikhe singene nzulu kwinto esinokuyilindela.

‘Sleeping through the night’ - yintoni, kwaye ayisiyiyo

Iingcali ngokubanzi zithathela "ukulala ubusuku" njengokulala iiyure ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-9 ngexesha labantwana nabantu abadala. Kodwa kwiintsana, ukulala ubusuku bonke kunokuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho usafuna ukuncancisa okanye athathe ibhotile- khumbula, isisu esincinci sithetha ukubiza indlala rhoqo - kodwa sikwazi ukulala emva koko.

Ke umntwana wakho oneenyanga ezi-3 "ulele ubusuku" akuthethi kuthi nguwe ukulala ungaphazanyiswa. Kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana umgangatho ovaliweyo iliso ukunceda kuphuhliso kunye nokukhula.

Phantse ezibini kwisithathu seentsana zilala zingaphazanyiswa - ngenxa yolonwabo kwiiyure ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-9 - xa zineenyanga ezi-6 ubudala.

Iinyanga ze-0 ukuya kwi-3 zeenyanga: 'I-trimester yesine'

Mhlawumbi uye waxelelwa ukuba ukukhulelwa kunezi trimesters ezintathu. Ke ithini na le yesine?

Ikota yesine, okanye ixesha elisandul 'ukuzalwa, lixesha elibekiweyo xa umntwana wakho eneenyanga ezi-0 ukuya kwezi-3. Iyaziwa njenge-trimester yesine kuba umntwana wakho uhlengahlengisa ixesha elingaphandle kwesibeleko-kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ngokunyanisekileyo, uyaphoswa kwaye unqwenela ukubuyela kuso!

Olunye usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa luba nobusuku kunye nobusuku obudidekileyo, ke balala emini kwaye bahlala bevukile ebusuku. Izisu zabo zincinci, ke kufuneka batye rhoqo emva kweeyure eziyi-2-3. Umntwana wakho uhlala esenza le mfuno ngokuvakalayo nangokucacileyo, kodwa thetha nogqirha wabantwana.

Kwezi veki zokuqala, kunokwenzeka ukuba kuya kufuneka uvuse umntwana wakho ngee-feedings ukuba akavuki wedwa ngezi zithuba, ngakumbi ukuba abakabuyeli kubukhulu babo bokuzalwa okwangoku.

Uphuhliso oluninzi luyenzeka kwezi nyanga, ke ukungalali kwakho kuya kuhlawula- ngomdla.

Ukuncancisa ibele xa uthelekiswa neentsana ezincancisiweyo

Iintsana ezisancancisayo zinokuba neeshedyuli zokulala ezahlukeneyo kunalezo zifunxwayo kubisi olungumgubo ngeli xesha. Ubisi lwebele ludla ngokuhamba ngenkqubo yokwetyisa yosana lwakho ngokukhawuleza kunefomula. Ke xa uncancisa, umntwana wakho unokulamba rhoqo.

Kuya kufuneka uphinde uncancise ubuncinci ama-8 ukuya kwali-12 amaxesha rhoqo emva kweeyure ezingama-24 de ubisi lwakho lufike kwiveki yokuqala okanye ezimbini. Emva koko usana lwakho lusenokufuna ukuncancisa rhoqo ngeyure eziyi-1.5 ukuya kwezi-3 kwiinyanga zokuqala ezi-1-2, kodwa usenokukwazi ukulala ixesha elide ebusuku.

Iintsana ezityiswe ubisi olungumgubo zingafuna ukufumana ibhotile qho emva kweeyure ezingama-2-3. Thetha kugqirha wabantwana bomntwana wakho ngemiyalelo ethile yokuba kuya kufuneka bondle kangaphi. Kwaye khumbula - ibele okanye ifomula, usana olondlisiweyo lolona lusana lubalaseleyo.

Ukulala kumyinge weentsana, iinyanga ezi-0-3

Ages iinyanga ezi-3-6

Ukuqala kwiinyanga ezi-3, usana lwakho lungaqala ukulala ixesha elide ngexesha. Haleluya! Ukuba unomdla wokuqiqa-kwaye ayisiyiyo nje umgca ongezantsi (ukulala ngakumbi!) - nantsi:

• Ukutya okuncinci ebusuku. Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, ukondliwa ebusuku kuya kuncipha. Kwiinyanga ezi-3, umntwana wakho usenokuhamba ekondla rhoqo emva kweeyure eziyi-2-3 ukuya kwiiyure ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-4. Ngeenyanga ezi-6, umntwana wakho uya kuba sele esitya zonke iiyure ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-5 kwaye angakwazi ukulala kude nokuba kude ebusuku. Thetha nomntwana wakho malunga neengcebiso ezichanekileyo malunga nokuba kufuneka adle kangaphi umntwana wakho.
• Ukuncipha kweMoro reflex. I-Moro yomntwana wakho, okanye ukothuka, i-reflex iyancipha ngobudala beenyanga ezi-3-6. Le ngcamango-ngelixa iyakuthandeka ngokumangalisayo-inokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho avuke, ke oko kuyacaca ukuba oku kuncipha kunceda ukwandisa ukulala. Okwangoku, baya kuba nolawulo ngakumbi kwiintshukumo zabo kunye nengqondo.
• Ukuzihlaziya. Uya kuqala ukuqaphela indlela oziphethe ngayo ezinyangeni ezi-4, kodwa uninzi lweentsana ludinga uncedo ngokuthomalalisa de zibe malunga neenyanga ezi-6. Ukusukela kwangoko, ungalunceda usana lwakho ngokuthi (ngononophelo nangokuthe cwaka!) Ulubeke phantsi xa lisozela, kodwa luvuke. Kwakhona, qala ukunceda umntwana wakho omncinci ukuba ahlule phakathi kobusuku nemini ngokubabeka phantsi ukuze balale kwigumbi elimnyama kunye nokulala kwabo kuphela.

Ukulala kumyinge weentsana, iinyanga ezi-3-6

Ages iinyanga ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-9

Emva kweenyanga ezi-6, usana lwakho luyakwazi ukuzithoba ngakumbi ebusuku.

Inqaku eliya kubazali abatsha apha: Ukuba usana lwakho lusekwinqanaba lokuzalwa, unokulangazelela inqanaba elizimeleyo esiza kulichaza. Kodwa ngokumangalisayo, siyathembisa ukuba xa ufika kweli nqanaba, uya kuzifumana ukhumbula malunga nosana lwakho olusanda kuzalwa kwaye unqwenela ukuba ixesha linciphise. Ingcebiso yethu? Yonwabela inqanaba ngalinye elixabisekileyo njengoko lisiza.

Ngexesha lezi nyanga, unokukwazi ukunamathela kwiseti yokulala kunye neshedyuli yokulala. Umncinci wakho unokuhamba ukusuka ekunqamleni i-3-4 ngosuku ukuya kwisibini kuphela ngosuku. Kwaye… ukubhalwa kwegubu, nceda… banokulala ukuya kuthi ga kwiiyure ezili-10 ukuya kwezi-11 ngobusuku ngeli xesha.

Emva kweenyanga ezi-6, unokukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba afunde iindlela ezintsha zokuzihlaziya. Zama ukubajonga ukuba bayakhala na ukuze baqiniseke ukuba abashushu kakhulu okanye abandayo, kodwa musa ukubakhetha ebhedini yabo ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Usenokubabetha emabunzini okanye uthethe nabo ngobumnene ubazise ukuba ukhona.

Ukwahlukana koxinzelelo

Malunga neenyanga ezi-6, usana lwakho lunokufumana uxinzelelo lokwahlula okokuqala. Nkqu neentsana ezazilele kakuhle ngaphambili zinako “ukubuyela umva” xa kusenzeka oku.

Banokukhala okanye benqabe ukulala ngaphandle kwakho egumbini, kwaye unokuhendeka ukuba unikezele- nokuba kungenxa yokuba kumnandi ngendlela emangalisayo, okanye ngenxa yokuba unqwenela ukulila kuyeke.

Ukwahlula uxinzelelo yinxalenye eqhelekileyo yophuhliso. Ukuba ukhathazekile ngayo, thetha nogqirha wabantwana bomntwana wakho ngeendlela onokuthi uncede ufumane umntwana wakho oxabisekileyo ukuba alale yedwa (ukuze ukwazi ukuphuma uye kwelinye igumbi lokuzinkcinkca ngeNetflix).

Ukuba umntwana wakho akakafundi ukulala engatyiswanga okanye ebanjiwe, eli isenokuba lixesha elinzima lokuqala le nkqubo.

Ukulala kumyinge weentsana, iinyanga ezi-6-9

Ages 9-12 iinyanga

Ngeli nqanaba, kuya kufuneka ube neseti yesiqhelo yokulala. Ukuqhawuka kufuneka kube semini xa kukhanya ngaphandle. Ebusuku, unokuhlamba umntwana wakho, ufunde incwadi, kwaye uzibeke phantsi ebusuku. Okanye, unokukhetha inkqubo eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo! Isitshixo apha kukuba a iyahambelana Isiqhelo siya kubanceda bazi ukuba lixesha lokulala.

Emva kweenyanga ezili-9, umntwana wakho kufuneka alale ixesha elide. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba babe noxinzelelo lokwahlulahlula, okwenza kube nzima kuwe ukuba uphume kwigumbi emva kokubabeka ebhedini yabo.

Siyazi ukuba kunzima, kodwa zama ukugcina utyelelo lwakho lokulala kwisibhedlele esifutshane ngokuhamba kwexesha. Yiya kukhangela umntwana wakho kwaye uqiniseke ukuba bayaphila. Bacule ngengoma okanye uthambise umqolo wabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazukufuna ukondla okanye ukuthathwa.

Njengamaxesha onke, thetha nogqirha wakho ukuba unomdla malunga nokukwazi ukulala ubusuku bonke ngeli xesha.

Ukulala kumyinge weentsana, iinyanga ezili-9-12

Iingcebiso kunye namaqhinga okulala okungcono ebusuku - kusapho lonke

Khumbula, kwiveki yokuqala okanye ezimbini, iintsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa kufuneka zondle rhoqo emva kweeyure ezimbalwa, kungangabikho kukhuseleka kubo ukulala ixesha elide, kwanasebusuku.

Ukulala hacks

Beka umntwana wakho ebhedini xa ezozela, kodwa engalali. Funda ukufunda imikhondo yosana lwakho njengencwadi. Banokuzamla okanye bathambise amehlo xa belele, njengawe! Ukubeka phantsi emqolo ebhedini xa bekunika ezi zinto kuya kubanceda balale ngokulula. Into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza kukunyanzela umntwana owonwabileyo, odlala umntwana ukuba ayokulala, ke jonga umoya-phantsi ezantsi epokothweni yakho yangasemva.

Yenza ishedyuli yokulala. Inkqubo yesiqhelo yokulala iluncedo kuwe - iyavakala ukuba iluncedo nakum mini-kum. Oko kunokuthetha ukuba uhlambe umntwana wakho, ufunde incwadi kunye, emva koko uzibeke kwindawo yokulala xa bekunika ezo zimpawu zokulala. Ukuseta le mikhwa kwangethuba kunokuthetha ukuba uya kuba nempumelelo ngakumbi kamva.

Ziqhelise ukulala ngokukhuselekileyo. Soloko ubeka umntwana wakho emqolo ebhedini yakhe ukuze alale. Susa zonke izinto-iingozi, ngokwenene-ukusuka kwindawo yabo yokulala okanye kwindawo yokulala.

Yenza indawo efanelekileyo yokulala. Akukho mntu ufuna ukulala xa kushushu kakhulu okanye kubanda kakhulu, ke jonga ubushushu bendawo yomntwana wakho. Unokufuna ukutyala imali kumakhethini amnyama ukuba kusakhanya xa ubabeka ebuthongweni. Ngelixa bengakhange baboniswe ngokuthembekileyo ukuba bancede bonke abantwana (kwaye abanye babonakala bengabathandi), cinga ukuyothenga umatshini wengxolo emhlophe okanye umatshini opholileyo wesandi somntwana ukunceda umntwana wakho aphumle.

Hlala ungaguquguquki. Xa wonke umntu endlwini yakho ekwiishedyuli ezahlukeneyo zobusuku, kunokuba nzima ukubambelela kwinkqubo. Zama ukuhlala ungaguquguquki. Oku kuya kumisela umntwana wakho ukuba abe ngumntu olalayo kamva.

Iinkxalabo eziqhelekileyo

Umbuzo kunye noKaren Gill, MD

Nceda! Umntwana wam uneenyanga ezi-6 kwaye akalali ebusuku. Ngaba kufuneka ndithethe nengcali yokulala?

Okuninzi kuxhomekeke ekubeni umntwana wakho ulala njani kwindawo yokuqala kwaye kuthatha ntoni ukubenza balale kwakhona xa bevuka. Qala ngokuthetha nodokotela wabantwana bomntwana wakho onokukunceda ukuba ubone ukuba kutheni umntwana wakho evuka kwaye akuncede uphuhlise isicwangciso sokulala okungcono.

Umntwana wam oneenyanga ezi-2 ubonakala elala kamnandi, kodwa ndixhalabile ukuba balala ixesha elide ngaphandle kwebhotile ebusuku. Ngaba ndimele ndibavuse?

Ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana ubunzima kakuhle kwaye akanazo iimeko zonyango ezifuna ukondliwa rhoqo awudingi ukuvusa usana lwakho ebusuku ukuba londle.

Ndazi njani xa usana lwam lushushu nje okanye luyandifuna ebusuku? Ngaba kulungile ukuba bayeke "bakhale" ebhedini yabo?

Umntwana owondlileyo kwaye oleleyo unokukwazi ukufunda ukulala yedwa kwiinyanga ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-6, okanye nangaphambi koko. Ukuvuka ebusuku kuqhelekile emva koku, kodwa ukuba abakafundi ukulala bodwa, baya kufuna umntu oza kubathuthuzela xa bevukile, nokuba abalambile. Izifundo zibonise ukuba iintsapho kwiintsapho ezisebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo "zoqeqesho lokulala" azinakuphinda zibe nazo iingxaki zokuncamathisela, zomoya, okanye zokuziphatha kamva ebuntwaneni.

Iimpendulo zimele uluvo lweengcali zethu zonyango. Yonke imixholo inolwazi ngokungqongqo kwaye akufuneki ukuba ithathelwe ingqalelo njengengcebiso yezonyango.

Ukuthatha

Unyaka wokuqala wobomi bosana lwakho kunokuba ngumceli mngeni kubazali abangenako ukulala. Kodwa uza kuyigqiba, siyathembisa.

Gcina ukhumbula, uyakwenza konke oku ukunceda umntwana wakho omncinci ukuba akhule kwaye akhule ngendlela esempilweni- nokuba uphulukana nokulala, nawe. Kwaye njengokuba umntwana wakho ekhula, baya kuqala ukulala ixesha elide, phumla ngokuqinisekileyo (ngokoqobo).

Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokulala komntwana wakho omncinci, ungathandabuzi ukuya kugqirha wabantwana ukuze ufumane iingcebiso. Amathuba kukuba, uya kuva ukuba wena nosana lwakho niyenza nje ndilungile.