Kutheni Ndinomsindo Kangaka?

Umxholo

• Yintoni ebangela umsindo nengxaki yomsindo?
• Zithini iimpawu zengxaki yomsindo?
• Zithini iindlela zokuqonda ingxaki yengqumbo?
• Yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba ingxaki yomsindo ayinyangwa?
• Ungawulawula njani umsindo ekhaya?
• Iindlela zokuphumla
• Uhlengahlengiso kwengqondo
• Ukulungisa ingxaki
• Unxibelelwano
• Ingcali yezonyango inokukunceda njani ukulawula umsindo?
• Ithini imbonakalo yengxaki yomsindo?

Ngaba umsindo usempilweni?

Wonke umntu unamava omsindo. Ubunzulu bomsindo wakho buya kusuka ekucaphukeni kakhulu ukuya kumsindo ogqithisileyo. Yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye isempilweni ukuziva unomsindo amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuphendula kwiimeko ezithile.

Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha abantu bafumana umsindo ongalawulekiyo osoloko unyuka, ngakumbi xa ukucaphukiswa kuyinto encinci. Kule meko, umsindo ayisiyonto iqhelekileyo kodwa yingxaki enkulu.

Yintoni ebangela umsindo nengxaki yomsindo?

Umsindo uvela kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo kwaye unokwahluka kakhulu. Ezinye zezinto ezibangela umsindo zibandakanya:

• iingxaki zakho, njengokuphoswa yinyuselo emsebenzini okanye ubunzima bobudlelwane
• ingxaki ebangelwe ngomnye umntu njengokucima izicwangciso
• isiganeko esifana nesithuthi esibi okanye ukufumana ingozi yemoto
• iinkumbulo zesehlo esibuhlungu okanye esibuhlungu

Ngamanye amaxesha, ingxaki yomsindo inokubangelwa kukuqaqanjelwa kwangoko okanye izehlo ebomini bomntu ezibumbe ubuntu babo. Ngamanye amaxesha, utshintsho lwehomoni nalo lunokubangela umsindo, njengoko kunjalo nangezinye iingxaki zengqondo.

Zithini iimpawu zengxaki yomsindo?

Ezinye zeempawu zokuba umsindo wakho awuqhelekanga kubandakanya:

• umsindo ochaphazela ubudlelwane bakho kunye nobomi boluntu
• uziva ukuba kufuneka ufihle okanye ubambe kumsindo wakho
• Ukucinga okungalunganga rhoqo kunye nokugxila kumava amabi
• bahlala beziva bephelelwe ngumonde, becaphuka, kwaye benobutshaba
• ukuphikisana nabanye rhoqo, kwaye ukuba nomsindo kwinkqubo
• ukuba nobundlobongela emzimbeni xa unomsindo
• esongela ubundlobongela ebantwini okanye kwimpahla yabo
• ukungakwazi ukulawula umsindo wakho
• uziva unyanzelekile ukuba wenze, okanye wenze, izinto ezinobundlobongela okanye ezingxamisekileyo ngenxa yokuba uziva unomsindo, njengokuqhuba ngokungakhathali okanye ukutshabalalisa izinto
• ukuhlala kude neemeko ezithile kuba unxunguphele okanye uxinezelekile ngomsindo wakho

Zithini iindlela zokuqonda ingxaki yengqumbo?

Umsindo ngokwawo awubandakanyi ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ngenxa yoko akukho sifo sisetwe kwingxaki yomsindo kuhlelo olutsha lweDiagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5).

Nangona kunjalo, idwelisa ngaphezulu kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okungama-32- njengokuphazamiseka komda wobuntu kunye nokuphazamiseka kwesiqhushumbisi-kubandakanya umsindo njengophawu. Kungenzeka ukuba ingxaki yakho yomsindo ibangelwe sisifo sengqondo.

Yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba ingxaki yomsindo ayinyangwa?

Ukuba awujongani nengxaki yakho yomsindo, inokuthi ngenye imini inyukele kwinqanaba apho wenze into egqithisileyo kwaye uzisole. Ubundlobongela sisinye seziphumo ezinokubakho. Unokuba nomsindo kangangokuba ekugqibeleni uzenzakalise wena okanye umntu omkhathaleleyo ngaphandle kokuzimisela ukwenza njalo.

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba unengxaki yomsindo, kubalulekile ukuba ufune uncedo lobuchwephesha. Thetha nogqirha wakho ukuze ugqithiselwe kumboneleli wezempilo yengqondo oya kuba nakho ukunceda.

Ungawulawula njani umsindo ekhaya?

Zininzi iindlela eziluncedo zokulawula umsindo ekhaya.

Iindlela zokuphumla

Oku kubandakanya ukuphefumla ngokunzulu kunye nokubonisa izinto eziphumlayo engqondweni yakho. Xa uzama ukuphumla, phefumla ukusuka ngaphakathi kwimiphunga yakho, uphefumle kwaye uphefumle kancinci ngendlela elawulwayo. Phinda igama elizolileyo okanye ibinzana elifana nelithi, "khululeka" okanye "yehlisa umoya."

Unokufuna ukubona ngeso sihlandlo amava apholileyo, nokuba kukwimemori yakho okanye umbono wakho. Ukuhamba kancinci, ukuzilolonga okufana neyoga kunokukunceda uphumle umzimba wakho kwaye kukwenze uzive uzolile.

Uhlengahlengiso kwengqondo

Ukutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo kunokutshintsha indlela obonakalisa ngayo umsindo wakho. Xa umntu eziva enomsindo, kuhlala kulula ukuba bacinge ngokuphawulekayo. Kubalulekile ukugxila ekuvakaliseni ubungqiqo, endaweni yokungaqiqi, iingcinga.

Kuphephe ukusebenzisa amagama athi “soloko” kwaye “soze” kwiingcinga nakwintetho yakho. Amagama anjalo awachanekanga kwaye anokukwenza uzive ngathi umsindo wakho kufanelekile, nto leyo eyenza mandundu. La magama anokuphazamisa nabanye abanokuzama ukukunceda ufikelele kwisisombululo kwingxaki yakho.

Ukulungisa ingxaki

Umsindo unokubangelwa ziingxaki zokwenyani. Ngelixa umsindo othile uthetheleleka xa into ingahambi njengoko bekucwangcisiwe, ayisiyiyo ingqumbo eya kukunceda ukulungisa ingxaki. Eyona ndlela yokujongana nemeko ekucaphukisayo kukungajongi kwisisombululo kodwa ufumane indlela yokusombulula ingxaki.

Unokwenza oko ngokwenza isicwangciso kwaye ujonge kuso rhoqo ukuze ujonge inkqubela yakho rhoqo. Sukuba nomsindo ukuba indlela ingxaki ephela ekusombululeni ayisiyiyo le ndlela ubucwangcise ngayo. Yenza nje umzamo wakho.

Unxibelelwano

Xa abantu beziva benomsindo, bathambekele ekugxileni kwizigqibo, ezingachanekanga. Xa unengxabano enomsindo, yehlisa isantya kwaye ucinge ngeempendulo zakho ngaphambi kokuba uphume. Khumbula ukumamela omnye umntu kwincoko. Unxibelelwano olulungileyo lunokukunceda ukuba usombulule iingxaki ngaphambi kokuba umsindo wakho wande.

Ingcali yezonyango inokukunceda njani ukulawula umsindo?

Ingcali yezonyango efana nogqirha wengqondo okanye ugqirha wengqondo unokucebisa ngongenelelo lokulawula umsindo wakho. Unyango lokuthetha lunokuba luncedo, kunye neeklasi zolawulo lomsindo.

Iiseshoni zokulawula umsindo zinokuthathwa buqu okanye kwi-Intanethi. Banokufunda nencwadi.Ulawulo lomsindo luya kukufundisa indlela yokuchonga ukukhathazeka kwangaphambili kwaye emva koko ukusombulule. Oku kunokubandakanya ukuxelela abanye, okanye wena ngokwakho, into oyifunayo, ngelixa uhlala uzolile kwaye ulawula imeko (ngokuchasene nokuba nomsindo).

Ezi seshoni zinokuthathwa zodwa kunye nomcebisi okanye nomcebisi okhatshwa liqabane lakho okanye iqela. Uhlobo, ubude, kunye nenani leeseshoni ziya kuxhomekeka kwinkqubo kunye neemfuno zakho. Olu hlobo lokucebisa lunokuba lufutshane okanye lungahlala iiveki okanye iinyanga ezininzi.

Xa uqala iiseshoni, umcebisi wakho uya kukunceda uqaphele izinto ezibangela umsindo kwaye ufunde umzimba wakho kunye neemvakalelo zempawu zomsindo. Ukuqaphela kunye nokungena kwezi mpawu zezilumkiso linyathelo lokuqala elifunekayo ukukunceda ukulawula umsindo. Emva kwexesha, uya kufunda izakhono zokuziphatha kunye neendlela zokucinga eziya kukunceda umelane nomsindo wakho. Ukuba uneemeko zempilo yengqondo, umcebisi wakho uya kukunceda uzilawule, zihlala zenza kube lula ukulawula umsindo wakho.

Ithini imbonakalo yengxaki yomsindo?

Umsindo akufuneki ungene endleleni yakho yokuba wonwabe, ubomi obupheleleyo. Ukuba ufumana umsindo ogqithisileyo, jonga ugqirha wakho okanye umboneleli wezempilo yengqondo. Baza kukunceda uchonge ukuba zeziphi iindlela zonyango ezinokukunceda uhlangabezane nazo.

Ngaphezulu, zininzi iindlela onokufunda ngazo ukulawula umsindo ekhaya. Ngexesha kunye nokuzama ukuqhubeka, uya kuba nakho ukulawula ngokulula umsindo wakho kwaye uphucule umgangatho wobomi bakho.