Kuqhelekile ngokupheleleyo (kwaye usempilweni) ukuthetha nawe

Umxholo

• Kutheni kungeyonto imbi
• Inokukunceda ufumane izinto
• Inokukunceda uhlale ugxile
• Inokukunceda ukukhuthaza
• Inokukunceda ukuba uqhubekeke neemvakalelo ezinzima
• Uyenza njani uninzi lwayo
• Amagama aqinisekileyo kuphela
• Zibuze
• Qwalasela
• Gwema umntu wokuqala
• Ukuba uzama ukuyilawula
• Gcina ingxelo
• Buza abanye abantu imibuzo endaweni yoko
• Phazamisa umlomo wakho
• Khumbula ukuba kuqheleke kakhulu
• Kuxhalaba nini
• Umgca wezantsi

Ngaba uthetha wedwa? Sithetha ngokuvakalayo, hayi phantsi nje komphefumlo wakho okanye entlokweni yakho - kakhulu wonke umntu uyayenza loo nto.

Lo mkhwa uhlala uqala ebuntwaneni, kwaye unokuba yinto yesibini ngokulula. Nokuba awuboni nto iphosakeleyo ngokuthetha ngokwakho (kwaye akufuneki!), Usenokuzibuza ukuba abanye bacinga ntoni, ngakumbi ukuba uhlala uzibhaqa ngokukhwaza emsebenzini okanye kwivenkile yokutya.

Ukuba ukhathazekile lo mkhwa uyinto engaqhelekanga, unokuphumla ngokulula. Ukuthetha ngokwakho kuyinto eqhelekileyo, nokuba uyenza rhoqo. Ukuba ungathanda ukuba nengqondo ngakumbi xa uthetha wedwa ukuze uphephe ukuyenza kwiimeko ezithile, sineengcebiso ezinokukunceda.

Kutheni kungeyonto imbi

Ngaphandle kokuba ngumkhwa oqhelekileyo oqhelekileyo, intetho yabucala okanye eqondiswa nguwe (imigaqo yesayensi yokuthetha nawe) inokukunceda ngeendlela ezininzi.

Inokukunceda ufumane izinto

Ugqibile uluhlu olunomdla lokuthenga. Ukuzonwabisa ngoku khumbula yonke into oyifunayo kwiveki ezayo okanye njalo, ulungele ukuphuma uye evenkileni. Kodwa ulushiye phi uluhlu? Uyazula zula indlu ukhangela, ungxola, "uluhlu lokuthenga, uluhlu lokuthenga."

Ewe, uluhlu lwakho alunakuphendula. Kodwa ngophando luka-2012, ukuthi igama layo nantoni na oyikhwaza ngokuvakalayo kunokukunceda ukuyifumana ngokulula kunokucinga nje ngento leyo.

Ababhali bacebisa ukuba oku kuyasebenza kuba ukuva igama lento kukhumbuza ingqondo yakho into oyifunayo. Oku kukunceda ukuba uyibone ngamehlo kwaye uyiqaphele ngokulula.

Inokukunceda uhlale ugxile

Cinga emva kwexesha lokugqibela wenze into enzima.

Mhlawumbi uzakhele ibhedi yakho wedwa, nangona imiyalelo icacile ukuba ngumsebenzi wabantu ababini. Okanye mhlawumbi kuye kwafuneka uthathe umsebenzi wobuchwephesha wokulungisa ikhompyuter yakho.

Usenokuba ukhuphe uxinzelelo ngezikhalazo ezimbalwa (nkqu nokugxeka). Ukhe wazithetha ngokwakho ngezona ndawo zinzima, mhlawumbi uzikhumbuze ngenkqubela phambili yakho xa uziva ufuna ukunikezela. Ekugqibeleni, uphumelele, kwaye ukuthetha nawe kunokuba luncedo.

Ukucacisela iinkqubo kuwe ngokuvakalayo kunokukunceda ubone izisombululo kwaye usebenze kwiingxaki, kuba oko kukunceda ugxile kwinyathelo ngalinye.

Ukuzibuza imibuzo, nokuba ilula okanye ibuza - - "Ukuba ndibeka esi siqwenga apha, kwenzeka ntoni?" inokukunceda ujolise kulomsebenzi ukuwo.

Inokukunceda ukukhuthaza

Xa uziva ubambekile okanye uceliwe umngeni ngenye indlela, intetho encinci yokuzithemba inokwenza imimangaliso yenkuthazo yakho.

La magama enkuthazo ahlala enobunzima ngakumbi xa uwatsho ngokuvakalayo kunokuba ucinge nje ngawo. Ukuva into ihlala inceda ukuyiqinisa, emva kwayo yonke loo nto.

Inye into enkulu ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni, nangona. Uphando oluvela ku-2014 lubonisa ukuba olu hlobo lokuzixhasa lusebenza kakuhle xa uthetha nawe kumntu wesibini okanye wesithathu.

Ngamanye amagama, awutsho, "Ndingayenza le nto." Endaweni yoko, ubhekisa kuwe ngegama okanye uthi into enje, “Wenza kakuhle. Sele ugqibile kakhulu. Kancinci kancinci. ”

Xa ubhekisa kuwe nezimelabizo zomntu wesibini okanye wesithathu, kunokubonakala ngathi uthetha nomnye umntu. Oku kunokubonelela umgama weemvakalelo kwiimeko apho uziva uxinezelekile kwaye uncede ukukhulula uxinzelelo olunxulumene nomsebenzi.

Inokukunceda ukuba uqhubekeke neemvakalelo ezinzima

Ukuba ujongana neemvakalelo ezinzima, ukuthetha ngazo kunokukunceda ukuba uziqwalasele ngononophelo.

Ezinye iimvakalelo kunye namava enzonzulu ngokobuqu kangangokuba usenokuziva ungazabelani naye nabani na, nditsho nothando oluthembekileyo, de ube wenze umsebenzi omncinci kunye nabo kuqala.

Ukuthatha ixesha lokuhlala kunye nezi mvakalelo kunokukunceda uzikhuphe kwaye wahlule amaxhala anokubakho kwezona zinto zixhalabisayo. Ngelixa ungayenza le nto entlokweni yakho okanye ephepheni, ukuthetha izinto ngokuvakalayo kunokunceda ukubabeka ngokwenyani.

Kananjalo kunokubenza bangonwabi. Ukunika nje ilizwi kwiingcinga ezingafunekiyo kuzikhupha ekukhanyeni kwemini, apho zihlala zibonakala zilawuleka ngakumbi. Ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo kuyanceda ekuqinisekiseni kwaye uze kwimigaqo kunye nabo. Oku kunokuthi, kunciphise ifuthe labo.

Uyenza njani uninzi lwayo

Okwangoku, mhlawumbi uziva ungcono ngokuthetha wedwa. Kwaye ukuthetha ngokwakho kunokuba sisixhobo esinamandla sokunyusa impilo yengqondo kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo.

Njengazo zonke izixhobo, nangona kunjalo, uya kufuna ukuyisebenzisa ngokuchanekileyo. Ezi ngcebiso zinokukunceda wandise izibonelelo zokuthetha ngokwakho.

Amagama aqinisekileyo kuphela

Nangona ukuzigxeka kungabonakala kuyindlela elungileyo yokuzibophelela kunye nokuhlala endleleni, ihlala ingasebenzi njengoko bekucwangcisiwe.

Ukuzibek 'ityala ngeziphumo ezingafunekiyo okanye ukuthetha ngokwakho kabuhlungu kunokuchaphazela inkuthazo kunye nokuzithemba kwakho, okungayi kukunceda.

Kukho iindaba ezimnandi, nangona: Ukuphinda uthethe into ongayithethiyo kunokunceda. Nokuba awukaphumeleli kwinjongo yakho, yamkele umsebenzi osele uwenzile kwaye uncome imizamo yakho.

Endaweni yokuthi: “Awuzami ngokwaneleyo. Soze uyenze le nto. ”

Zama: “Ubeke umgudu omkhulu kulento. Kuthatha ixesha elide, kuyinyani, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo unokuyenza. Qhubeka nje ithutyana. ”

Zibuze

Xa ufuna ukufunda ngakumbi ngento ethile, wenza ntoni?

Ubuza imibuzo, akunjalo?

Ukuzibuza umbuzo ongenakuwuphendula ngekhe kukuncede ngomlingo ufumane impendulo echanekileyo, ewe. Inokukunceda ukuba ujonge okwesibini kuyo yonke into ozama ukuyenza okanye ofuna ukuyiqonda. Oku kunokukunceda ufumane inyathelo lakho elilandelayo.

Ngamanye amaxesha, unokuyazi impendulo, nokuba awuyiqondi. Xa uzibuza ukuba "Yintoni enokunceda apha?" okanye "Ithetha ukuthini le nto?" zama ukuphendula owakho umbuzo (oku kunokuba nesibonelelo esithile ukuba uzama ukuqonda izinto ezintsha).

Ukuba unokuzinika inkcazo eyanelisayo, mhlawumbi yenza qonda ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni.

Qwalasela

Ukuthetha nawe, ngakumbi xa uxinezelekile okanye uzama ukufumana into, kunokukunceda uvavanye iimvakalelo zakho kunye nolwazi lwemeko. Kodwa oku ngekhe kuyenze into elungileyo ukuba awuyenzi mamela kwinto omele ukuyithetha.

Uyazi bhetele kunaye nawuphi na umntu, ngoko zama ukuthobela olu lwazi xa uziva unamathele, ucaphukile, okanye ungaqinisekanga. Oku kunokukunceda uqaphele nayiphi na iipateni ezibangela uxinzelelo.

Musa ukoyika ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo ezinzima okanye ezingafunekiyo. Banokubonakala besoyikisa, kodwa khumbula, uhlala ukhuselekile nakuwe.

Gwema umntu wokuqala

Ukuqinisekiswa kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokuzikhuthaza kunye nokwandisa ubume, kodwa ungalibali ukunamathela kumntu wesibini.

AmaMantra anjengokuthi “Ndomelele,” “Ndiyathandwa,” kwaye “Ndiyakwazi ukujongana noloyiko lwam namhlanje” zonke zinokukunceda uzive uzithembile.

Xa ubabiza ngokungathi uthetha nomnye umntu, unokuba nexesha elilula lokukholelwa kubo. Ngokwenene oku kunokwenza umahluko xa usilwa nokuzizwela kwaye ufuna ukuphucula ukuzithemba.

Zama ke endaweni yoko: "Unamandla," "Uyathandwa," okanye "Unako ukujongana noloyiko lwakho namhlanje."

Ukuba uzama ukuyilawula

Kwakhona, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ekuthetheni wedwa. Ukuba uyenza rhoqo emsebenzini okanye kwezinye iindawo apho inokuphazamisa abanye, unokuzibuza ukuba ungawophula njani lo mkhuba okanye ubuncinci ukubuyisa umva kancinci.

Gcina ingxelo

Ukuthetha nawe kunokukunceda usebenze kwiingxaki, kodwa ke unokushicilela.

Ukubhala phantsi iingcinga, iimvakalelo, okanye nantoni na ofuna ukuyihlola kunokukunceda uqikelele izisombululo ezinokubakho kwaye ugcine umkhondo wento osele uzame ngayo.

Ngaphezulu, ukubhala izinto phantsi kukuvumela ukuba uphinde uzijonge kamva.

Gcina ijenali yakho uze uyikhuphe xa uneengcinga ekufuneka uzijongile.

Buza abanye abantu imibuzo endaweni yoko

Mhlawumbi uhlala uthetha ngokwakho kwimiceli mngeni xa unamathela esikolweni okanye emsebenzini. Abantu abakungqongileyo banokukunceda.

Endaweni yokuzama ukuziphazamisa into ngokwakho, cinga ukuncokola nomntu osebenza naye okanye ofunda naye endaweni yoko. Iintloko ezimbini zibhetele kunenye, okanye intetho iyahamba. Unokude wenze umhlobo omtsha.

Phazamisa umlomo wakho

Ukuba ngenene kufuneka uthule (yithi ukwithala leencwadi okanye indawo yokusebenzela ethe cwaka), unokuzama ukuhlafuna itshungama okanye ukuncanca ilekese enzima. Ukuthetha malunga nento esemlonyeni wakho kunokukukhumbuza ukuba ungathethi nantoni na ngokuvakalayo, ukuze ube nokuphumelela ngakumbi ukugcina intetho yakho ngokwakho kwiingcinga zakho.

Olunye ukhetho olulungileyo kukuthatha into ephungwayo kunye nokusela xa uvula umlomo ukuze uthethe into kuwe.

Khumbula ukuba kuqheleke kakhulu

Ukuba uyatyibilika, zama ukuba ungaziva uneentloni. Nokuba awuqapheli, uninzi lwabantu luyazithetha, ubuncinci ngamanye amaxesha.

Ukuhlikihla incoko yakho kunye nomntu oqhelekileyo, "Owu, ukuzama ukuhlala emsebenzini," okanye "Ukukhangela amanqaku am!" inokukunceda ukuba uyiqhele.

Kuxhalaba nini

Abanye abantu bayazibuza ukuba ngaba bahlala bethetha ngokwabo bacebisa ukuba banesimo sempilo yengqondo, kodwa oku kuhlala kungenjalo.

Ngelixa abantu abaneemeko ezichaphazela isifo sengqondo esifana neschizophrenia ukuvela Ukuthetha bodwa, oku kwenzeka ngokubanzi ngenxa yemibono ephicothayo. Ngamanye amagama, bahlala bengathethi bodwa, kodwa ukuphendula ilizwi kuphela abanokuliva.

Ukuba uva amazwi okanye uhlangabezana neminye imibono, kungcono ufumane inkxaso yobungcali kwangoko. Ugqirha oqeqeshiweyo unokubonelela ngesikhokelo esinovelwano kwaye akuncede uphonononge izizathu ezinokubangela ezi mpawu.

Umgqirha unokubonelela ngenkxaso ukuba:

• ufuna ukuyeka ukuthetha wedwa kodwa awukwazi ukwahlukana nalo mkhwa uwedwa
• Uziva ukhathazekile okanye ungakhululeki xa uthetha wedwa
• Amava okuxhatshazwa okanye elinye ibala kuba uthetha wedwa
• uqaphele ukuba uthethe wedwa

Umgca wezantsi

Ngaba unomkhwa wokubaleka ngezicwangciso zakho zangokuhlwa ngokuvakalayo ngelixa uhamba nenja yakho? Zive ukhululekile ukuqhubeka! Akukho nto ingaqhelekanga okanye ingaqhelekanga ngokuthetha ngokwakho.

Ukuba ukuthetha ngokwakho kukuphazamisa okanye kubangela ezinye iingxaki, ugqirha unokukunceda uphonononge iindlela zokuzonwabisa ngakumbi okanye uphule umkhwa, ukuba ukhetha njalo.

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