Kutheni Ukuchitha ixesha kwizinto ezingenamsebenzi kubalulekile kwiMpilo yakho

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Kodwa nantsi into ekufuneka ucinge ngayo: Ngaba ukucandwa kwemida kunezibonelelo, nako?

Iingcali zithi Ewe, kwaye babiza la maxesha xa usenza ngokungazi indawo ingqondo ibhadula. "Kukho ixabiso lokuyiyeka ingqondo yakho ngamaxesha athile ... uzivumele ukuba ube naloo maxesha xa uphumla kwaye uvumele ingqondo ukuba ikhe ihambe apha kwaye ngoku," utshilo uJonathan Schooler, Ph.D., unjingalwazi. kwisayensi yengqondo kunye nengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia, eSanta Barbara. Yhuu! Ngoku unokungabinazintloni zokuba ubukhangela i-emoji efanelekileyo oyithumela kumhlobo wakho kule mizuzu mihlanu idlulileyo, hayi ukukhangela ukucamngca kwi-Headspace.

Ke kutheni le nto ukwahlukana kuluncedo kangaka?

Ikunika ukuhlaziya.

Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba ukuvuselelwa kwengqondo sisixhobo esingenamda, utshilo uSchooler. "Kodwa kukho uphando olubonisa ukuba unomsebenzi, kwaye endaweni yokwenza ngokuqhubekayo, uthatha ikhefu, uyafunda ngakumbi. Ke ndiyakholelwa ukuba kukho isibonelelo sokuvumela ingqondo idlale kwaye ibhadule, nokuba yeyesihlanu kuphela. imizuzu. Uza kubuya nembono entsha."

Kodwa hlala nathi umzuzwana. Ukunika ingqondo yakho ukuphefumla akuthethi ukuba uchithe veki nganye ukubukela ukuzinkcinkca ngotywala Abafazi Basekhaya Bokwenene okanye ujonge ngokungakhathali imithombo yeendaba zentlalo umzuzwana ngamnye. "Nokuba ikhefu nje lemizuzu emihlanu liluncedo, utshilo uSchooler. Ngokufanelekileyo, ungavumela ubuchopho bakho bungasebenzi ngelixa uhamba ngendalo okanye umamele umculo ophumlayo, kodwa nawuphi na umsebenzi oncomekayo wokungathobeli ulungile, wongeza.

Ikhuthaza ubuchule.

Ukusila kwemihla ngemihla akukuniki thuba lokuthetha ngeengxaki, okanye ithuba lokubuyela umva kwaye ufumane umbono, utshilo u-Schooler. Ubomi bunokuphindaphindeka. Cinga ngako: Ukuba umphathi wakho ucela ukuba uze nesisombululo kwingxaki, uya kuhamba nayo nayiphi na impendulo efika engqondweni. Kodwa ixesha elincinci lokuphola linika ingqondo yakho ithuba lokusebenzisa imimandla eyahlukeneyo, kwaye inokukhaba izimvo ezintsha kunye neengcinga.

Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ukhukuliseke kwiphupha lasemini phakathi kwentlanganiso yokuthengisa-yiyo ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nengqondo encinci.

Ibeka iinjongo zakho ekugxilwe kuzo.

Olunye uphando lupapashwe kwi Imida kwiPsychology ifumanise ukuba xa ingqondo yakho ingekho "on" kwaye unika ingqondo yakho ikhefu, ngokwendalo iqala ukucinga ngekamva. Apha ubucinga ukuba uchitha ixesha, kodwa nakwimeko yakho enamehlo e-zombie, ingqondo yakho ibithatha isitokhwe sesicwangciso sakho seminyaka emihlanu.

Inciphisa ukukruquka.

Ukuba yinyani, ezinye iimeko azikho mnandi kangako kwaye ziyonwabisa ngakumbi xa ukwilizwe lakho. Ukubhadula kwengqondo kunokuba yinto entle ngexesha lokuhamba kwakho emsebenzini, xa ulinde emgceni okanye ucoce indlu yangasese, utshilo u-Ellen Hendrikson, Ph.D., ugqirha wengqondo eCambridge, MA. "Ukuvumela ingqondo yakho ukuba ingahlali ixakekile ngalo lonke ixesha sisipho. Ingqondo inakho ukujonga phambili okanye ukubuya ngexesha, esivumela ukuba sikhumbule, sicwangcise, kwaye sijonge phambili ngolindelo olonwabileyo."

Enye yeevidiyo zekati.

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