Ukuvuma ukuba uya kufa inokuba yeyona nto ikhululayo uyenzayo

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• Malunga nabantu abangama-50 baya kwesi siganeko sithengiswayo eSan Francisco inyanga nenyanga. Kwaye namhlanje ibiyimini yam yokuzimasa.
• Emva koko uNed umsunguli weza eqongeni
• Iqale njani i-YG2D?
• Eli gama lavela njani?
• Izinto ziqale ukuba mandundu xa…
• Isebenza njani iYG2D?
• Bathini abantu xa ubabalisela ngesi siganeko?
• Ngaba kukho ubulumko ukuphepha incoko yokufa?
• Ungayidibanisa njani le dissonance: Xa isiza kuthi nabahlobo abasondeleyo, siyoyika ukufa, ukanti singaya kudlala umdlalo okanye sibukele imovie apho kufa khona abantu abaninzi?
• Umntu angaqala njani ukutshintsha ubudlelwane babo buye ekufeni?
• Ukuba sithetha ngento eninzi kakhulu, iya kuthi yenzeke kuthi, abanye abantu bathi
• Ngaba zikhona izicwangciso zokwandisa ukuya kwezinye izixeko?

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Malunga nabantu abangama-50 baya kwesi siganeko sithengiswayo eSan Francisco inyanga nenyanga. Kwaye namhlanje ibiyimini yam yokuzimasa.

"Intoni yenza unxiba isiganeko sokufa? ” Ndizibuze xa ndizilungiselela ukuya kumava asoloko ethengiswa eSan Francisco abizwa ngokuba Uya Kusweleka, akaYG2D.

Ukuqala kwam ukuva ngesi siganeko, ndaziva nditsalelekile kwaye ndothuka ngequbuliso. Ekugqibeleni umdla wam waphumelela kwaye, kwakamsinya nje ukuba i-imeyile ebhengeza umcimbi olandelayo ibethe ibhokisi yam engenayo, ndathenga itikiti.

Ndanxiba ezimnyama ndahlala kumqolo ongaphambili - isihlalo esasisele sodwa.

Emva koko uNed umsunguli weza eqongeni

Indoda enkulu yomntwana yindlela endithanda ukumchaza ngayo. Umntu onentliziyo epheleleyo. Wakhala, wahleka, wakhuthaza, kwaye wasibeka phantsi kwimizuzu embalwa.

Ndazifumana ndikhwaza kunye nabaphulaphuli, "Ndiza kufa!" Ukoyikwa kwegama "kufa" kushiye igumbi, kuthathwa njengokuhamba kwazo zonke iiyure ezintathu ezizayo.

Umfazi osuka kubaphulaphuli wabelane ngomnqweno wakhe wokufa ngokuzibulala kunye nendlela awayeyityelele ngayo rhoqo iGolden Gate Bridge. Omnye wabelana ngenkqubo yokuphulukana notata wakhe ogulayo ngeposi kuFacebook awayeziqokelele. Omnye wabelana ngengoma malunga nodadewabo, awayengazange eve kwiminyaka emininzi.

Nangona bendingacwangcisanga ukwabelana, ndaziva ndiphefumlelwe ukuba ndiye eqongeni ndithethe ngelahleko. Ndifunde umbongo malunga nokulwa kwam nokuphelelwa lithemba. Ukuphela kobusuku, uloyiko lokufa kunye nokufa lwashiya igumbi kunye nesifuba sam.

Ndivuke kusasa ngengomso ndisiva ubunzima emagxeni am. Ngaba yayilula kangako? Ngaba ukuthetha ngokufa ngokungafihlisiyo itikiti lethu lokusikhulula kwinto esisoyikeka kakhulu kuyo?

Ndafika kuNed kwangoko ngosuku olulandelayo. Ndandifuna ukwazi okungakumbi.

Kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ndifuna ukuba umyalezo wakhe ufikelele kubantu abaninzi kangangoko. Ubukroti kunye nokuba sesichengeni kuyosulela. Sonke singasebenzisa ezinye- kunye nencoko okanye ezimbini malunga nokufa.

Olu dliwanondlebe luye lwahlelwa ngobufutshane, ubude, kunye nokucaca.

Iqale njani i-YG2D?

Ndacelwa yi-SFSU [iYunivesithi yase-San Francisco State University] ukuba ndenze umsitho odibanisa abafundi noluntu ngobuchule. Ngo-Meyi ka-2009, ndikhokela imic yokuqala evulekileyo. Kwaye yayikukuqala komboniso.

Kodwa i-YG2D ngokwenene izalwe ngaphandle kwebali elide, elinzima ngakumbi ebomini bam. Iqale ngomama wam kunye nedabi lakhe labucala elinomhlaza. Wafunyaniswa enomhlaza wamabele xa ndandineminyaka eli-13 kwaye walwa nomhlaza izihlandlo ezininzi kangangeminyaka eli-13 emva koko. Ngalesi sigulo kunye nokufa okunokubakho kusapho lwethu, ndiye ndaziswa kukufa kwangoko.

Kodwa, ngenxa yobumfihlo bukamama malunga nokugula kwakhe, ukufa nako yayingeyiyo incoko enziwe yafumaneka kum.

Ngelo xesha, ndaya kwiindawo ezininzi zokucebisa ngeentlungu kunye neqela lokuxhasa abantu abalahlekelwe ngumzali unyaka wonke.

Eli gama lavela njani?

Umhlobo wam owayencedisa kwimisitho wabuza ukuba kutheni ndiyenza le nto. Ndiyakhumbula ndiphendula nje, “Kuba… uza kufa.”

Kutheni ugcina amagama akho okanye umculo kwindawo ethile efihliweyo, kuba konke kuya kuphela ekugqibeleni? Musa ukuzithatha ngokungathí sina. Yiba lapha kwaye unikezele kangangoko unako njengoko unako. Uza kufa.

Izinto ziqale ukuba mandundu xa…

Umboniso ubukhulu becala uthathe ubume bawo xa wafudukela eViracocha, indawo enjengebhokisi esezantsi kwindawo eqaqambileyo yaseSan Francisco. Kwakhona xa kwasweleka umfazi womfazi wam, kwaye kwaba yinto engenakuphikwa kum into endiyifunayo kumboniso:

Indawo yokuba sesichengeni kwaye sabelane rhoqo ngezo zinto zisondele entliziyweni yam, ezo zinto zichaza mna, nokuba kukuphulukana nomama nomamazala, okanye umzabalazo wemihla ngemihla wokufumana inkuthazo kunye nentsingiselo ngokuvula ukufa kwam. Kwaye kuyabonakala ukuba abantu abaninzi bayayidinga-ke sifumana uluntu ngokuyenza kunye.

Isebenza njani iYG2D?

Uya Kufa: Imibongo, iprozi kunye nayo yonke into iyaqhubeka ngoLwesine wokuqala nowesithathu kwinyanga nganye kwiCawe eLahlekileyo eSan Francisco.

Sinikezela ngendawo ekhuselekileyo yokuntywila kwincoko yokufa, incoko mhlawumbi esingasoloko sinayo kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Yindawo apho abantu bavulekileyo, babuthathaka, kwaye babenentliziyo yomnye nomnye.

Rhoqo ngokuhlwa kuququzelelwa nguScott Ferreter okanye u-Chelsea Coleman, iimvumi ezibambe indawo kunye nam. Ababekho bamkelekile ukuba babhalise endaweni ukuze babelane ukuya kuthi ga kwimizuzu emihlanu.

Ingaba yingoma, umdaniso, umbongo, ibali, umdlalo, nantoni na abayifunayo, ngokwenene. Ukuba uwela umda wemizuzu emihlanu, ndiza kuza eqongeni ndikwange.

Bathini abantu xa ubabalisela ngesi siganeko?

Ukufuna ukwazi, mhlawumbi? Ngumtsalane? Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bayamangaliswa. Kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha ndicinga ukuba yeyona milinganiselo ilungileyo yokuba Uya kufikelela kwixabiso lokufa - xa abantu bengakhululeki! Kuthathe ixesha ukuba ndinxibelelane ngokuzithemba ukuba umsitho ungantoni ngokulula.

Ukufa kuyimfihlakalo, njengombuzo ongenampendulo, kwaye ukwamkela oko kuyinto engcwele. Ukwabelana ngayo kunye kuyenza imilingo.

Xa wonke umntu esithi "ndiza kufa" kunye, njengoluntu, batsala isigqubuthelo ndawonye.

Ngaba kukho ubulumko ukuphepha incoko yokufa?

Ukufa ngamanye amaxesha kunokuziva kungachazwanga. Kwaye ukuba ayichazwanga iye yanamathela. Amandla okuba aguquke kwaye atshintshe kwaye abe makhulu ke ayancitshiswa. Ukuba kukho nabuphi na ubulumko bokungathethi ngokufa, mhlawumbi ithuku lethu lokuyiphatha ngononophelo, siyigcine kufutshane neentliziyo zethu, sicinga, kwaye sinenjongo enkulu.

Ungayidibanisa njani le dissonance: Xa isiza kuthi nabahlobo abasondeleyo, siyoyika ukufa, ukanti singaya kudlala umdlalo okanye sibukele imovie apho kufa khona abantu abaninzi?

Xa ukufa kungelilo ixesha lemihla apho uhlala khona (njengelizwe elisezimpini), oko kuhlala kugcinwa. Ikhutshwe ngomhlakulo ngokukhawuleza.

Kukho inkqubo ebekiweyo yokujongana nezinto ngokukhawuleza.

Ndikhumbula ndisegumbini lesibhedlele nomama. Babengenakundivumela ndibenomzimba wakhe ngaphezulu kwemizuzu engama-30, mhlawumbi incinci kakhulu, emva koko kwikhaya lokungcwaba imizuzu emihlanu kuphela, mhlawumbi.

Ngoku ndiziva ngoku ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba sibe nexesha kunye nendawo yokukhathazeka ngokupheleleyo.

Umntu angaqala njani ukutshintsha ubudlelwane babo buye ekufeni?

Ndicinga ukufunda incwadi ethi “Ngubani Osweleyo?” sisiqalo esihle. "I-Griefwalker" ebhaliweyo nayo inokujongana kwaye ivule. Ezinye iindlela:

1. Yenza isithuba sokuthetha nabanye okanye ukumamela abanye ngelixa besentlungwini. Andiqondi ukuba ikhona enye into etshintsha ngakumbi ebomini njengokumamela kwaye uvuleke. Ukuba umntu osondeleyo kuwe ulahlekelwe ngumntu, yiya khona kwaye ubekhona.

2. Cacisa ukuba yintoni na osentlungwini ngayo. Kungenzeka ukuba ibuyele emva, njengobutsha bakho, ookhokho bakho, kunye nento abaye bahamba ngayo kwaye abazange baphalaze ngokwaneleyo.

3. Yenza indawo kunye nokuvuleleka kwilahleko kunye nolo sizi. UAngela Hennessy wabelane ngesifo sakhe sentlungu kumdlalo wethu ngexesha le-OpenIDEO's Re: Cinga ukuphela kweveki yoBomi.

Uthi, “Khathaza yonke imihla. Yonke imihla yenza ixesha lokuba buhlungu. Yenza isijwili kwizimbo zomzimba zemihla ngemihla. Ngelixa usenza nantoni na oyenzayo, yitsho ukuba yintoni le uyikhathazayo kwaye ucacise. ”

4. Khumbula ukuba ngokufuthi ayizizo izinto zemihla ngemihla ojongana nazo kumphezulu, njengemiba nomsebenzi wakho, umzekelo. Amava amaninzi ebomini bam avelisa ubuhle obukhulu azalwa ngumsebenzi wentlungu kunye nokubandezeleka. Yeyona nto indala ngaphakathi kuwe, phantsi kwazo zonke izinto zemihla ngemihla, ofuna ukufikelela kuyo. Yinto eza kuwe xa kusweleka ukubhubha kwakho.

Ukufa kunika lo mkhuba, oko kucacisa. Xa uhlala kuloo nyaniso, iyatshintsha indlela onxibelelana ngayo nobomi. Ukufa kukhupha zonke iindawo kwaye kukuvumela ukuba ubone izinto ngokucacileyo.

Ukuba sithetha ngento eninzi kakhulu, iya kuthi yenzeke kuthi, abanye abantu bathi

Njengokuba, ukuba ndithe, "ndiza kufa," ngoko ke ndikwenzile ukufa kwam ngosuku olulandelayo? Ewe, ewe, ndiyakholelwa ukuba udala inyani yakho ngalo lonke ixesha. […] Kukutshintsha kwembono.

Ngaba zikhona izicwangciso zokwandisa ukuya kwezinye izixeko?

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