Ubuchopho bakho buphezu: Ukwanga kokuqala

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Nwabisa: Abantu kuphela kwezilwanyana ezinemilebe ezihluza ngaphandle. Unokuthatha oko njengobungqina bokuba senzelwe ukuba siphuze. (Ezinye iinkawu zenza nazo, kodwa hayi uhlobo lweeseshini zokuzenzela thina Homosapiens somba.)

Ngoko kutheni sincamisa? Uphando lubonisa ukutyibilika okuncinci kunceda ingqondo yakho ukuqokelela zonke iintlobo zolwazi olubalulekileyo malunga nomfo (okanye i-gal) ozivalele naye imilebe. Ikwanyusa izivamvo zakho kwaye ilungiselela umzimba wakho ukuba uyenzele enye into-leyo ngamanye amaxesha ilandela ukwanga ngothando.

Funda kuzo zonke iinkcukacha zejusi (kodwa hayi i-slobbery).

Ngaphambi kokuba imilebe yakho ichukumise

Ukulindela nje ukwanga, nokuba usonga usuku olukhulu lokuqala okanye ukwenza amehlo kumfo ongaphaya kwegumbi, kunokutshisa iindlela zomvuzo wengqondo yakho, uchaza uSheril Kirshenbaum, umbhali we Inzululwazi yokuPhuza. "Ngokulindeleka ngakumbi uziva ukhokelela ekuncamiseni, kokukhona i-dopamine spike," utshilo, ebhekisa kwihormone yolonwabo eveliswa yingqondo xa ufumana into emnandi. I-Dopamine yomeleza ingqondo kunye nemizwa yakho, kwaye ibalungiselele ukufumana amava amatsha kunye nolwazi lweemvakalelo, utshilo uKirshenbaum.

Ukulindela ukuba ukwanga kunokubangela ukukhutshwa kwe-norepinephrine kwi-noodle yakho, uyacacisa. Le hormone yoxinzelelo ichaza uvalo ohlangabezana nalo njengoko amehlo akhe efumana awakho kwaye eqala ukuthembela kuwo.

Ngexesha lokwanga

Imilebe yakho iqulethwe yenye yezona ndawo zinoxinano emzimbeni wakho, ukuvumela ukuba ubone olona luvo luthile luvakalayo, utshilo uKirshenbaum. Kwaye enkosi kuzo zonke ezo ziphelo zemithambo-luvo, ukwanga imililo ngenxalenye enkulu yobuchopho bakho, utshilo. (Yikholwe okanye ungakholelwa, enye ye-noodle yakho iyenziwa ngexesha lokuncamisa kunangexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, uphando oluthile lubonisa.)

Ngoba? UKirshenbaum uthi impendulo inokuba inento yokwenza nokugweba okwenziwa yingqondo yakho njengoko inobunzima bokuba ungazithathi na izinto ngaphandle kokuncamisana uye kwigumbi lokulala. "Siyazi kakuhle yonke into eyenzekayo ngexesha lokuncamisa kuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokwenza izigqibo xa ukhetha iqabane," ucacisa. "Abantu bachaza 'ukulahleka' ngokwesondo. Kodwa akunjalo ngokwanga kuba iingqondo zethu zijolise kakhulu ekubeni ungaziqhubeli na izinto phambili."

UKirhenbaum uthi abafazi baqhele ukuba nezivamvo ezinamandla zokujoja kunamadoda. Kwaye njengoko uncamisa, impumlo yakho ijoja iqabane lakho ngolwazi olubalulekileyo olusekelwe kwivumba. Olu lwazi luhanjiswa ngohlobo lweepheromones, iikhemikhali ezikhutshelwa ngumzimba wakhe ezixelela ingqondo yakho zonke izinto ezibalulekileyo ngaye, kuquka izinto ezimalunga nemfuza yakhe.

Olunye uphononongo oluvela eSwitzerland lufumanise ukuba abantu basetyhini banomdla ngakumbi kwivumba lamadoda aneempawu zemfuza zokuzikhusela ezingalinganiyo nezazo. Malunga nokuzala, ukuxuba iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokungakhuseleki kuya kwenza inzala yakho imelane nezifo, ababhali bophando bathi. (Umdla kwaye unxulumene: UKirshenbaum uthi uphando olungakumbi lubonise into echaseneyo nabasetyhini ekulawuleni ukuzalwa. Ukuba usepilisi, kunokwenzeka ukuba uhambe kumfana ogama lakhe lifana nelakho. Akakwazi yitsho ukuba kutheni kunjalo, kodwa yena nabanye abaphandi bakrokrela ukuba oku kungachaza ukuba kutheni ezinye izibini zexesha elide zahlukana nje xa umfazi eyeka ukuthatha inzala.)

Kuba ingqondo yakho isenza okona kungcono kakhulu ngexesha lokuncamisa kwakho ukugqiba ukuba iqabane lakho lentenetya ye-tonsil likulungele na ngokwemigaqo yokuzala, ayiqhelekanga ukuba abafazi bafumane ukuguqulwa komdla emva kokutshixa imilebe.

Emva kwe Kiss Yakho

I-Dopamine ikwanxulunyaniswa nesiyobisi kunye nokuziphatha okwenzayo, utshilo uKirshenbaum. Oku kunokuchaza ukuba kutheni, kwiintsuku kunye neeveki emva kweeseshoni zakho zokuqala (kunye nezilandelayo), ungabonakali nje ukukhupha iqabane lakho elitsha entlokweni yakho. I-Dopamine inokususa umdla wakho kwaye yenze kube nzima ukulala, uphando lubonisa.

Uphononongo lukwafumanise ukuba ukuncamisa kubangela ukukhutshwa kwe-serotonin ye-neurotransmitter, ebangela iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo. Enye ihomoni, i-oxytocin, nayo i-spikes ngexesha nasemva kokumanga kwakho. Oku kukhuthaza iimvakalelo zothando kunye nokusondelelana, kwaye kukugcina ubuyela ngakumbi nasemva kokuba inqanaba lokuqala liphelile, utshilo uKirshenbaum.

"Ukwanga yindlela yokuziphatha yabantu jikelele ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi," utshilo, esongeza ukuba yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwinkqubo yokukhetha amaqabane. Ngoko pucker up!

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