Ukudibanisa nosana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa

Ukubophelela kwenzeka xa wena nosana lwakho niqala ukuziva ninamathelene. Unokuziva uluthando olukhulu novuyo xa ujonga usana lwakho. Unokuziva ukhusele umntwana wakho.

Obu budlelwane bokuqala kunye nawe obufundisa iintsana ukuba zizive zikhuselekile kwaye zilungile ngeziqu zazo nabanye abantu. Bafunda ukukuthemba kuba bayazi ukuba ubakhathalele kwaye ubakhathalele. Iintsana ezinolwalamano olomeleleyo nabazali bazo kunokwenzeka ukuba zibathembe abanye kwaye zibe nolwalamano oluhle njengabantu abadala.

Wena nosana lwakho nisenokudibana phakathi kwemizuzu embalwa, ngaphezu kweentsuku ezimbalwa, okanye iiveki ezimbalwa. Ukubopha kungathatha ixesha elide ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna unyango olunzulu xa ezalwa, okanye ukuba umfumene umntwana wakho. Yazi ukuba unganxulumana nomntwana wakho owamkeleyo kunye nabazali bemvelo nabantwana kunye nabantwana babo.

Sukuba nexhala okanye uzive unetyala ukuba kuthatha ixesha elide kunokuba ubulindele ukwenza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nosana lwakho. Oku akuthethi ukuba ungumzali ombi. Ngethuba nje unakekele iimfuno ezisisiseko zomntwana wakho, ibhondi iya kubakho.

Ukuba inkqubo yokuzala ihambe kakuhle, usana lwakho lunokuba luqaphele xa luzalwa. Thatha eli xesha ubambe kwaye ujonge umntwana wakho. Eli lithuba elihle lokubopha. Amanye amaxesha okudibanisa angenzeka xa:

• Ukuncancisa. Ukuba ukhethe ukuncancisa, usana lwakho luya kunamathela kwivumba lakho kunye nokuchukumisa ngexesha lokondla.
• Ukutya kwebhotile.Ngexesha lokondla ngebhotile, umntwana wakho unokuqhelana nephunga lakho kunye nokuchukumisa, ngokunjalo.
• Bamba umntwana wakho, ngakumbi ulusu kulusu xa unakho.
• Mjonge emehlweni umntwana wakho.
• Phendula umntwana wakho xa ekhala. Abanye abantu banexhala lokumosha umntwana. Kodwa awuyi kumosha umntwana wakho ngokuqwalasela kakhulu.
• Dlala nomntwana wakho.
• Thetha, funda, kwaye uculele umntwana wakho. Oku kuyamnceda ukuba aqhelane nesandi selizwi lakho.

Xa uzisa umntwana wakho osanda kuzalwa, umsebenzi wakho kukukhathalela usana lwakho kunye ne-bond. Oku kulula xa unoncedo ekhaya. Unokudinwa kakhulu kuzo zonke iimbopheleleko ezintsha eziza nokuba nosana olutsha. Vumela abahlobo kunye nosapho bathathe imisebenzi yesiqhelo njengokuhlamba iimpahla, ukuthenga ukutya kunye nokupheka.

Unokuba neengxaki zokudibanisa nosana lwakho ukuba:

• Unenkqubo ende okanye enzima yokuzala
• Ndiziva ndidiniwe
• Amava okutshintsha kwemozulu okanye utshintsho lwehomoni
• Bandezeleka kuxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka
• Yiba nosana olufuna unyango olukhethekileyo

Kwakhona, oku akuthethi ukuba ungumzali ombi okanye awusoze wenze iqhina. Ingathatha ixesha elininzi kunye nomzamo.

Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa ukhathalele usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa, ukuba awuziva ngathi uyabophelela okanye uziva ukhutshiwe okanye unomsindo wosana lwakho, thetha nomboneleli wezempilo. Ukuba unoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, qiniseka ukuba uzifumanele uncedo lweengcali ngokukhawuleza.

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