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Ubundlobongela basekhaya kuxa umntu esebenzisa isimilo esihlukumezayo ukulawula iqabane lakhe okanye elinye ilungu losapho. Impatho-gadalala inokuba yeyasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, kwezoqoqosho, okanye ngokwesondo. Inokuchaphazela abantu nabuphi na ubudala, isini, inkcubeko, okanye udidi. Xa ubundlobongela basekhaya bujolise emntwaneni, kubizwa ngokuba kukuxhatshazwa kwabantwana. Ubundlobongela basekhaya lulwaphulo-mthetho.

Ubundlobongela basekhaya bunokubandakanya nayiphi na kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha:

• Ukuphathwa gadalala emzimbeni, kubandakanya ukubetha, ukukhaba, ukuluma, ukubetha ngempama, ukukrwitsha okanye ukuhlasela ngesixhobo
• Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, ukunyanzela umntu ukuba enze naluphi na uhlobo lwezesondo angalufuniyo
• Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemoyeni, kubandakanya ukubizwa ngegama, ukuhlaziswa, izoyikiso kumntu okanye kusapho, okanye ungamvumeli umntu abone usapho okanye abahlobo.
• Ukuphathwa gadalala kwezoqoqosho, njengokulawula ukufikelela kwimali okanye kwiiakhawunti zebhanki

Uninzi lwabantu aluqali kubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza. Impatho gadalala ihlala iqala kancinci kwaye iya isiba mandundu ngokuhamba kwexesha, njengoko ubudlelwane buya busiba nzulu.

Ezinye zeempawu zokuba iqabane lakho linokukuhlukumeza kubandakanya:

• Ukufuna ixesha lakho elininzi
• Ukwenzakalisa kwaye uthi yimpazamo yakho
• Ukuzama ukulawula okwenzayo okanye ubona bani
• Ukugcina ungaboni usapho okanye abahlobo
• Ukuba nekhwele ngokugqithiseleyo xa uchitha ixesha kunye nabanye
• Ukunyanzela ukuba wenze izinto ongafuniyo ukuzenza, ezinjengokwabelana ngesondo okanye ukusebenzisa iziyobisi
• Ukugcina ungayi emsebenzini okanye esikolweni
• Ukubeka phantsi
• Ukoyikisa okanye ukusongela usapho lwakho okanye izilwanyana zasekhaya
• Ukumangalela ngokuba nemicimbi
• Ukulawula iimali zakho
• Usongela ukuzonzakalisa okanye uzonzakalisa xa ushiya

Ukushiya ubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza akukho lula. Unokoyika ukuba iqabane lakho liya kukwenzakalisa xa ushiya, okanye awuyi kuba nayo inkxaso yemali okanye yeemvakalelo oyifunayo.

Ubundlobongela basekhaya ayilotyala lakho. Awunakho ukuyeka ukuxhatshazwa kweqabane lakho. Kodwa unokufumana iindlela zokuzifumanela uncedo.

• Xelela umntu. Inyathelo lokuqala lokuphuma kubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo uhlala uxelela omnye umntu ngalo. Unokuthetha nomhlobo, ilungu losapho, umboneleli wakho wezempilo, okanye ilungu labefundisi.
• Yiba nesicwangciso sokhuseleko. Esi sisicwangciso xa kunokwenzeka ukuba ushiye imeko enobundlobongela ngoko nangoko. Thatha isigqibo sokuba uyaphi kwaye uza kuza nantoni. Hlanganisa izinto ezibalulekileyo oza kuzifuna, njengamakhadi etyala, imali, okanye amaphepha, kwimeko apho kuya kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Unako kwakhona ukupakisha ityesi kwaye uyigcine kunye nelungu losapho okanye umhlobo.
• Biza uncedo. Ungatsalela umnxeba kwinombolo yasimahla ye-National Domestic Violence Hotline kule nombolo 800-799-7233, iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku. Abasebenzi kule nombolo banokukunceda ufumane izibonelelo zobundlobongela basekhaya kwindawo yakho, kubandakanya noncedo lwezomthetho.
• Fumana unyango. Ukuba wenzakele, fumana unyango kumboneleli wakho okanye kwigumbi likaxakeka.
• Biza amapolisa. Ungathandabuzi ukubiza amapolisa ukuba usengozini. Ubundlobongela basekhaya lulwaphulo-mthetho.

Ukuba umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho liyaxhatshazwa, zininzi iindlela onokunceda ngazo.

• Nika inkxaso. Umntu wakho omthandayo unokuziva esoyika, eyedwa, okanye eneentloni. Menze azi ukuba ukhona ukunceda nangona unako.
• Musa ukugweba. Ukushiya ubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza kunzima. Umntu omthandayo unokuhlala kubudlelwane nangona uxhatshaziwe. Okanye, umntu omthandayo angashiya kwaye abuye kaninzi. Zama ukuxhasa olu khetho, nokuba awuvumelani nabo.
• Nceda ngesicwangciso sokhuseleko. Cebisa ukuba umntu omthandayo enze isicwangciso sokhuseleko kwimeko yengozi. Nika ikhaya lakho njengendawo ekhuselekileyo ukuba ufuna ukuhamba, okanye uncede ufumane enye indawo ekhuselekileyo.
• Funa uncedo. Nceda umntu omthandayo adibane nomnxeba wesizwe okanye iarhente yobundlobongela basekhaya kwindawo yakho.

Ubundlobongela obusondeleyo kumaqabane; Ukuphathwa gadalala kwabayeni; Ukuphathwa gadalala kwabantu abadala; Uhlukunyezo lwabantwana; Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo - ubundlobongela basekhaya

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Iwebhusayithi ekwiNombolo yeSizwe yoBundlobongela baseKhaya. Nceda umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho. www.thehotline.org/help/help-for-friends-fam-family.php Kufumaneka ngo-Oktobha 26, 2020.

Iwebhusayithi ekwiNombolo yeSizwe yoBundlobongela baseKhaya. Yintoni ubundlobongela basekhaya? www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined. Kufumaneka ngo-Oktobha 26, 2020.

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