Isikhokelo sokunceda abantwana baqonde umhlaza

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• IMINYAKA YABANTWANA YONYAKA 0 ukuya ku-2
• ABANTWANA ABANEMINYAKA emi-2 ukuya kwesi-7
• ABANTWANA BANEMINYAKA esi-7 ukuya kweli-12
• ABANTWANA BANEMINYAKA ELI-12 NABADALA

Xa umntwana wakho efunyaniswe enomhlaza, enye yezona zinto zinzima ekufuneka uzenzile kukuchaza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba nomhlaza. Yazi ukuba le nto uyixelela umntwana wakho iya kumnceda umntwana wakho ajongane nomhlaza. Ukuchaza izinto ngokunyanisekileyo kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo lobudala bomntwana wakho kuya kunceda umntwana wakho angoyiki kangako.

Abantwana baziqonda ngokwahlukileyo izinto ngokobudala babo. Ukwazi oko umntwana wakho anokukuqonda, kwaye yeyiphi imibuzo anokuyibuza, kunokukunceda uyazi ngcono ukuba ungathini.

Umntwana ngamnye wahlukile. Abanye abantwana baqonda ngakumbi kunabanye. Indlela yakho yemihla ngemihla iya kuxhomekeka kubudala kunye nokukhula komntwana wakho. Nantsi isikhokelo ngokubanzi.

IMINYAKA YABANTWANA YONYAKA 0 ukuya ku-2

Abantwana abakule minyaka:

• Qonda kuphela izinto abanokuziva ngokubamba nangokubona
• Andiwuqondi umhlaza
• Ukugxila kukwinto eyenzekayo ngalo mzuzu
• Banoyika iimvavanyo zonyango kunye nentlungu
• Bayoyika ukuba kude nabazali babo

Uthetha njani kubantwana abaneminyaka emi-0 ukuya kwe-2 ubudala:

• Thetha nomntwana wakho malunga nokwenzekayo okwangoku okanye ngaloo mini.
• Chaza iinkqubo kunye novavanyo ngaphambi kokuba ufike. Umzekelo, yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba inaliti iya kwenzakala kancinci, kwaye kulungile ukulila.
• Nika umntwana wakho ukhetho, njengeendlela ezimnandi zokuthatha amayeza, iincwadi ezintsha okanye iividiyo ngexesha lonyango, okanye ukuxuba amayeza neejusi ezahlukeneyo.
• Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba uya kuhlala ecaleni kwabo esibhedlele.
• Chaza ukuba bazakuba sesibhedlele ixesha elingakanani kwaye bazokugoduka nini.

ABANTWANA ABANEMINYAKA emi-2 ukuya kwesi-7

Abantwana abakule minyaka:

• Unokuwuqonda umhlaza xa uchaza usebenzisa amagama alula.
• Khangela unobangela kunye nesiphumo. Basenokugxeka isigulo kwisiganeko esithile, njengokunga gqibi isidlo sangokuhlwa.
• Bayoyika ukuba kude nabazali babo.
• Banokoyika ukuba baya kuhlala esibhedlele.
• Banoyika iimvavanyo zonyango kunye nentlungu.

Ungathetha njani nabantwana abaneminyaka emi-2 ukuya kweli-7 ubudala:

• Sebenzisa amagama alula afana "neeseli ezilungileyo" kunye "neeseli ezimbi" ukucacisa umhlaza. Unokuthi lukhuphiswano phakathi kwezi ntlobo zimbini zeeseli.
• Xelela umntwana wakho ukuba ufuna unyango ukuze ubuhlungu buphele kwaye iiseli ezilungileyo zinokomelela.
• Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyazi ukuba akukho nto bayenzileyo ebangele umhlaza.
• Chaza iinkqubo kunye novavanyo ngaphambi kokuba ufike. Yazisa umntwana wakho ngento eza kwenzeka, kwaye kulungile ukuba woyike okanye ulile. Mqinisekise umntwana wakho ukuba oogqirha baneendlela zokwenza iimvavanyo zingabi buhlungu kangako.
• Qinisekisa ukuba wena okanye iqela lezempilo lomntwana wakho unikezela ukhetho kunye nemivuzo.
• Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba uya kuba ecaleni kwabo esibhedlele naxa begoduka.

ABANTWANA BANEMINYAKA esi-7 ukuya kweli-12

Abantwana abakule minyaka:

• Qonda umhlaza ngengqondo esisiseko
• Cinga ngokugula kwabo njengeempawu kunye nezinto abangakwaziyo ukuzenza xa kuthelekiswa nabanye abantwana
• Qonda ukuba ukuba ngcono kuza ngokuthatha amayeza kwaye wenze oko kuthethwa ngoogqirha
• Akunakulindeleke ukuba batyhole ukugula kwabo kwinto abayenzileyo
• Boyika iintlungu nokwenzakala
• Siza kuva ulwazi malunga nomhlaza ovela kwimithombo yangaphandle efana nesikolo, iTV kunye ne-Intanethi

Ungathetha njani nabantwana abaneminyaka esi-7 ukuya kweli-12 ubudala:

• Chaza iiseli zomhlaza njengeeseli "zomenzi wengxaki".
• Xelela umntwana wakho ukuba umzimba uneentlobo ezahlukeneyo zeeseli ezifuna ukwenza imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo emzimbeni. Iiseli zomhlaza zingena kwindlela yeeseli ezilungileyo kwaye unyango luyanceda ekupheliseni iiseli zomhlaza.
• Chaza iinkqubo kunye novavanyo phambi kokuba ufike kwaye kulungile ukuba woyike okanye ugule yiyo.
• Buza umntwana wakho ukuba akwazise malunga nezinto abazivileyo ngomhlaza kweminye imithombo okanye naziphi na iinkxalabo abanazo. Qinisekisa ukuba ulwazi abanalo luchanekile.

ABANTWANA BANEMINYAKA ELI-12 NABADALA

Abantwana abakule minyaka:

• Ngaba uyayiqonda imixholo entsonkothileyo
• Unokucinga izinto ezingakhange zenzeke kubo
• Ngamana unokuba nemibuzo emininzi malunga nokugula kwabo
• Cinga ngokugula kwabo njengeempawu kunye noko bakuphosayo okanye abangakwaziyo ukukwenza xa kuthelekiswa nabanye abantwana
• Qonda ukuba ukuba ngcono kuza ngokuthatha amayeza kwaye wenze oko kuthethwa ngoogqirha
• Ndingafuna ukunceda ukwenza izigqibo
• Ngaba unokuba noxinzelelo ngakumbi malunga neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezibonakalayo njengokulahleka kweenwele okanye ukuzuza ubunzima
• Siza kuva ulwazi malunga nomhlaza ovela kwimithombo yangaphandle efana nesikolo, iTV kunye ne-Intanethi

Indlela yokuthetha nabantwana abaneminyaka eli-12 nangaphezulu:

• Chaza umhlaza njengesifo xa ezinye iiseli zihamba zasendle kwaye zikhula ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.
• Iiseli zomhlaza zingena endleleni yendlela umzimba ekufuneka usebenze ngayo.
• Unyango luya kubulala iiseli zomhlaza ukuze umzimba usebenze kakuhle kwaye iimpawu ziya kumka.
• Nyaniseka malunga neenkqubo, iimvavanyo, kunye neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga.
• Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nomntwana wakho malunga neendlela zokonyango, iinkxalabo kunye noloyiko.
• Kubantwana abadala kunokubakho iinkqubo ezikwi-intanethi ezinokubanceda bafunde ngomhlaza kunye neendlela zokuhlangabezana nazo.

Ezinye iindlela zokuthetha nomntwana wakho ngomhlaza:

• Ziqhelise into oza kuyithetha ngaphambi kokuba uvelise izihloko ezitsha nomntwana wakho.
• Buza ingcebiso ngomboneleli wezempilo womntwana wakho ngendlela yokuchaza izinto.
• Unelinye ilungu losapho okanye umboneleli xa uthetha ngomhlaza kunye nonyango.
• Jonga nomntwana wakho rhoqo malunga nendlela ahlangabezana ngayo nomntwana wakho.
• Nyaniseka.
• Yabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye ubuze umntwana wakho ukuba abelane ngeemvakalelo zabo.
• Chaza amagama ezonyango ngeendlela anokuqonda ngazo umntwana wakho.

Ngelixa indlela eya phambili isenokungabi lula, khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba uninzi lwabantwana abanomhlaza bayanyangeka.

Umbutho waseMelika we-Clinical Oncology (ASCO) iwebhusayithi. Uwuqonda njani umntwana umhlaza. www.cancer.net/coping-and-emotions/communicating-loved-ones/ones-how-child-understands-cancer. Ukuhlaziywa kukaSeptemba 2019. Ifikeleleke ngo-Matshi 18, 2020.

Kwiwebhusayithi yeZiko loMhlaza weSizwe. Ulutsha kunye nabantu abadala abancinci abanomhlaza. www.cancer.gov/types/aya. Ukuhlaziywa ngoJanuwari 31, 2018. Ifikeleleke ngo-Matshi 18, 2020.

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