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• Musa Ukubhala kude ube noMhla wokuSeta
• Thatha iFowuni ukuba ibalulekile
• Cinga Phambi Kokuba Uthumele
• Vumela ukuThumela iiFowuni rhoqo
• Nika ingqalelo isitayile sakhe
• Musa ukudlala imidlalo
• Akuyomfuneko ukuba uphendule
• Sebenzisa loo Emoji
• Yakha iSiseko ngaphambi kokuba ungene
• Dlala!
• Uphengululo lwe

Kwiveki ephelileyo, iMatch.com ikhuphe u-Singles wayo wesihlanu esifundweni saseMelika, isinika ukuqonda okunomdla ngendlela amadoda nabafazi abathandana ngayo. Qikelela ukuba? Kukuhlanya, umhlaba wobugcisa phaya. Amashumi amathathu ananye eepesenti yamadoda nabafazi badibana nomhla wabo wokugqibela kwi-intanethi (ngokuchasene neepesenti ezintandathu kwibha), iipesenti ezingama-34 zedatha kwiminyaka yabo engama-20 balindele impendulo kwisicatshulwa phantsi kwemizuzu eli-10 (!), Kunye nabasebenzisi abaninzi be-emoji uye kumhla wokuqala kunyaka ophelileyo kunabo bangakhange balahle ubuso obunobunkunkqele kwizinto abazithandayo (52% xa kuthelekiswa neepesenti ezingama-27).

Konke oku kungqina lo mbuzo: sihamba njani ngokugqibeleleyo kwihlabathi ledijithali? Ngethamsanqa, siqokelele ezinye iingcali zokuthandana ukuze kuphalaze indlela onokuba yeyona dater yobuchwephesha unokuba yiyo. (Kodwa ungazilibali ezi-6 zokuDibana kwi-Intanethi kunye nezinto ekungafanelekanga ukuba uzenze kuKhuseleko lwe-Intanethi.)

Musa Ukubhala kude ube noMhla wokuSeta

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I-Laurel House, umbhali we Ukujija iMithetho, icebisa ukuphepha umva-na-phambili de ube nomhla wokwenene kwiincwadi. "Yinto elula kakhulu ukuba ungathathwa, ube nemibhalo eqhutywa ngokwesini, kwaye ubulale ubudlelwane ngaphambi kokuba ube nethuba lokudibana," utshilo. Kumanqanaba okuqala okuthandana, cinga ngokuthumela imiyalezo kuphela njengengabula-zigcawu kwisivumelwano sokwenyani: intlanganiso yobuqu.

Thatha iFowuni ukuba ibalulekile

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Nokuba uyenza nje kuba uyiqalile (okt online), okanye kuba ufuna ukunqanda ukuthetha izihloko ezinzima ngokuvakalayo, "akhonto ilungileyo ivela ekuzameni ukuxoxa ngemicimbi ebangelwe ngokwasemphefumlweni ngesixhobo se-elektroniki," utshilo umqeqeshi wokuthandana. Neely Steinberg, umbhali we Ulusu kuMdlalo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekubhidekeni okanye kwingqumbo (kuxhomekeke kwinqanaba lobudlelwane bakho). Ukuba kubalulekile, thatha ifowuni! Okanye bambelela nkqi ude umbone ngokulandelayo.

Cinga Phambi Kokuba Uthumele

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Kwangoko, kufuneka ulumke. Umntu othumela umyalezo ngefowuni akakwazi wena okanye uburharha bakho. Phinda ufunde, jonga kabini, kwaye ulumke: "Iitekisi zakho zihluthwe ithoni kunye nembonakalo yobuso-nokuba ungabandakanya ii-emoticons ezingakanani," utsho uNdlu. "Enye indlela yokuvavanya ithoni kukucinga ukuba uthumela isicatshulwa kuwe. Yitsho ngokuvakalayo, thabatha ukuguquguquka kwelizwi, kwaye wenze isigqibo sokuba ifika njengoko bekucetywayo." (Awufuni ukuphela njengenye yezi ntlekele zokuthandana kwi-Intanethi eziya kukwenza Uvuye ukuba awutshatanga.)

Vumela ukuThumela iiFowuni rhoqo

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“Ekubeni uninzi lonxibelelwano lwabantu lulahlekile, ndikhuthaza abantu abangabodwa ukuba basebenzise imiyalezo kaninzi kunokuba bebenokuthanda,” utshilo uSteinberg. "Emva komhla, kuyathandeka ukuthumela inqaku lokulandela. Ukuba ubambekile ekugcwaleni, mxelele ukuba ushiywe lixesha. Thumela umyalezo ohlekisayo okanye omnandi ukuthetha ukuba into oyibonileyo ikukhumbuze ngaye. " Ufuna nje ukunqanda isicatshulwa esinexesha elide emva-na-phambili kwangethuba.

Nika ingqalelo isitayile sakhe

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Indlu ithi abantu abaninzi bathumela imiyalezo ngendlela abanqwenela ukuthunyelwa ngayo-ke jonga indlela achwetheza ngayo amanqaku akhe (ngethemba lokuba uya kwenza okufanayo nakuwe!). Ukuba uyancoma ukujonga kwakho, mhlawumbi unqwenela ukuncoma komzimba. Ukuba uyigcina ngokufutshane, mhlawumbi ayingombhalo obhaliweyo. Qiniseka nje ukuba amanqanaba emidla ayalingana. Enye indlela elungileyo yokwenza oku: jonga ubude beetekisi zakhe xa kuthelekiswa nobude bakho. Ukuba uskrolela umva kwaye ubone ukuba unegama kwaye uphendula ngegama elinye, zibuze: "Ngaba amanqanaba am anomdla nawo?" Bafanele ukuba.

Musa ukudlala imidlalo

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Xa uthandabuza, sebenzisa umlinganiselo we-1: 1-kufuneka aqalise isiqingatha sexesha, kwaye nawe kufuneka uqalise. Oko kuthetha, ukuba unento yokuthetha okanye yokuphendula, musa ukudlala naye. "Umbhalo wenzelwe ukuba ube luhlobo lonxibelelwano kwangoko, ke sukulinda iintsuku ezimbini ngaphambi kokuba uphendule," utshilo u-House. "Oko kukuthumela umqondiso wokuba awunamdla wokwenene, kwaye ungumdlali womdlalo." (Kwaye ufunde iZicatshulwa ezi-6 Ongasayi Kuze Umthumele.)

Akuyomfuneko ukuba uphendule

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USteinberg uthi ubona uxinzelelo oluthile kule mihla lokuphendula iitekisi kunye nee-imeyile ngoko nangoko. Kwaye ukuba ukhululekile, yiya! Oko kwathethi, sukucinga ukuba unetyala kwimpendulo engaphantsi kwemizuzu eli-10 efana nedatha iphakamisa ukuba uninzi luyakholelwa. "Unobomi obugcweleyo kwaye awukho kule nto intsha yomntu," utshilo uSteinberg. "Enyanisweni, kwakha ulindelo ukuba uthatha ixesha lakho ukuphendula." Undoqo: phila ubomi bakho. Ukuthumela imiyalezo kufuneka kwenzeke kuphela xa kufanelekile, kufanelekile kwaye / okanye kumnandi.

Sebenzisa loo Emoji

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Izibalo zeMatch.com ziyazithethela: Abasebenzisi be-emoji abanobuhlobo banendlela ekunokwenzeka ukuba baphume ngeyona nyani, imihla ebukhoma. Uncumo okanye ukuqhwanyaza kunceda umfundi abonise ukuba unentliziyo ekhaphukhaphu okanye udlala ngothando, zombini iindlela ezilungileyo zokubhaliweyo kunye indlela bhetele kune "haha" okanye "lol," ethi uSteinberg ingacima abanye. Qaphela nje ukuba uninzi lwee-emoticons nazo zinokucinywa, utshilo. "Ngokuqinisekileyo sukusebenzisa ngaphezulu kwesinye kwisicatshulwa esinye. Indawo yokumemeza ebekwe kakuhle nayo iyanceda." Kodwa, kwakhona, sebenzisa "umthetho omnye" kwangoko kwabo. "'Ndijonge phambili ukukubona!' kubhetele kunokuthi ‘Ndijonge phambili ukukubona’ okanye ‘Ndijonge phambili ukukubona!!!’” utsho uSteinberg.

Yakha iSiseko ngaphambi kokuba ungene

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Indlu ithi uninzi lwamakhwenkwe luya kubetha ukuba uxhatshazwa ngokuthumela imiyalezo kwangoko. Oko kuthetha ukuba akukho kutshekishwa rhoqo kokujonga umntu omtsha kwaye akukho mfuneko yakukuonwabisa xa ukruqukile. "Oko kwathiwa, nje ukuba ubudlelwane buqiniswe ngakumbi, abo, 'Hee handsome ... ukucinga ngawe,' 'Ukuvuka kuwe engqondweni yam kubeka uncumo ebusweni bam,' okanye 'Amaphupha amnandi, sithandwa,' Namkelekile nonke, niyathuthuzela, kwaye niyaxatyiswa, kuba ninesiseko kwaye niyakhathalelana,” utshilo uHouse. (Kwakhona, qaphela ezi ziNgcebiso ezi-8 eziMfihlo zokuHamba ukusuka kwi-Casual to Couple.)

Dlala!

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"Ufanele udlale ngothando kwiitekisi. Enyanisweni, kuhle!" utsho uNdlu. Kodwa ayisiyiyo nayiphi na itekisi emnandi eya kuyenza. Nanku umzekelo wombhalo olungileyo, kwiNdlu nganye: "Emva kwentlanganiso enomdla kunye nomphathi wam malunga nendima yam entsha (yay!), Ndiye ndahamba ndayokubaleka ukuzola umzimba nengqondo yam. Ndinqwenela ukuba ubelapha uzipholele ngeglasi iwayine nam. Ibinjani intlanganiso yakho namhlanje? Ndiqinisekile uyibethelele! "

Kutheni isebenza: ayisiyonto nje okanye inkonkxiwe. Kuyabandakanyeka, kwaye kukho ukuqonda okunzulu malunga nomntu otyhiliweyo, onokuthi uboleke kwifowuni ende okanye kwincoko yomntu kamva, uyacacisa. "Kwaye, bekukho ukuthandana ngothando kunye nomdlandla ngala magama abhobhozayo." Ifomula elungileyo: kuqala, yabelana ngento oyenzileyo okanye oya kuyenza ukuze ubonise umdla wakhe, emva koko ubuze umbuzo. Ngoku, phuma uye ucofe ukuthumela, manenekazi.

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