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Ukrwada kumncedisi wakho? Ujonga iitekisi zakhe rhoqo? Akakwazi ukuyeka ukuthetha nge ex yakhe? Yonke imiqondiso ecacileyo ukuba uyinto embi yesoka. Kodwa ukuthandana iingcali ziyavuma ukuba kuninzi imiqondiso efihlakeleyo enokuba nje ngeeflegi ezinkulu ezibomvu-ukuba uyazi ukuba ujonge ntoni. Gcina iliso kwezi zinto zisixhenxe zikhohlakeleyo kumhla wakho wokuqala kwaye uzisindise kwintlungu enkulu yendlela.

UGqiba Kakhulu

Uyazi ukuba ubukeka ushushu, kwaye ukuba "umhle" okanye ungaphantsi komoya wakhe "wow" xa uhamba emnyango yinyani. Kodwa ukuba uhlala esithi ungoyena mhle kakhulu, ukrelekrele kakhulu, oyena mfazi unomdla awakhe wadibana naye-kwaye awukasigqibi isiselo sakho sokuqala-inokuba luphawu lokuba uyakhohlisa, ulumkisa uPatti Feinstein, a. Chicago based dating umqeqeshi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uyamangalisa, kodwa akakwazi kakuhle ngokwaneleyo ukuba ukwazi okwangoku. "Usebenzisa ukuncoma ukwenza ukuba uvumele ukulinda kwakho. Ufuna ukuba ucinge ukuba unguMnu. Right, ngoko ke awuyi kuba nenjongo malunga nokuba yinto efanelekileyo okanye akunjalo njengoko ubuya kuba njalo ukuba." bendiphantsi kakhulu emhlabeni," uyachaza.

Iingcebiso eziNgaphezulu

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokubonakala kungcono kunokulahla phantsi iipesenti ezili-10, kodwa ukuba ubanezinto ezinkulu okanye ubeka ngaphezulu kweepesenti ezingama-20 kwinkonzo ephakathi, ayilunganga, ulumkisa uFeinstein. "Kunokuthetha ukuba ungumbhali wezinto zakwalizwi. Ufuna ukubonakala ngathi uyidubula enkulu, kwaye ukhathalele kakhulu indlela ajongeka ngayo kunonxibelelwano lokwenyani," ucacisa uFeinstein.

Utyhila iBar yibhloko ekude nendlu yakhe

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhethe ibha yewayini engacacanga, kodwa i-eriyali yakho kufuneka inyuke ukuba ikufutshane kakhulu nalapho ahlala khona, uxwayisa uMike Goldstein, umseki we-EZ Dating Coach, inkonzo yokuthandana eseNew Jersey. Ayisiyonto yakhe entle yokukubuyisela kwindlu yakhe (nangona enokuba unayo ngasemva kwengqondo yakhe) kukuba wenza izinto zibe lula kuye, ngaphandle kokuthatha uhambo lwakho, uyacacisa uGoldstein. Ayisiyonto inkulu ukuba yenzeka kube kanye (hee, loo bhar ibiyinto entle ebambekayo) kodwa ukuba uhlala uhamba uhamba, luphawu lokuba uzicingela yedwa.

Uyi-Regular

Ibartender, iseva, kunye netafile ecaleni kwakho nobabini niyalazi igama lakhe. Isenokubonakala imnandi, kodwa inokuba yindlela yokulawula kwakhe ngobuchule. “Ayingommandla ongathathi hlangothi, nto leyo ekwenza ube nengxaki. Kusenokuthetha ukuba iya kuhlala isenza izinto ngendlela yakhe,” utsho uFeinstein. Ukuba uyatsala le ntshukumo, kodwa usamthanda, nyanzelisa ukuba ukhethe indawo yomhla wesibini.

U-Badmouths Umphathi wakhe Wonke umntu uneentsuku ezimbi, kodwa iingcali ziyavuma ukuba kungcono ulumkele umntu ochitha uninzi lomhla wokuqala ekhalaza. Nokuba amabali akhe malunga neofisi yakhe engasebenzi kakuhle akwenze uhleke, ukukhetha kwakhe ukugxila kokubi ngumqondiso wokuba uninzi lweekhonsos ziya kwehla njani kwixesha elizayo, ukuba uyaqhubeka uthandana.

Ucebisa ngokuDutyulwa

Kunye nokuthetha nge-frat yakhe kunye nokubalisa amabali malunga nohambo lwasendle yena kunye nabahlobo bakhe bokusela, uku-odola izithonga luphawu lokuba akakakulungeli ukuzinza, ulumkisa uGoldstein. Unokuba yinto emnandi yokuchitha ixesha kunye nayo, kodwa usenokungabi bobudlelwane bobudlelwane okwangoku.

Akanaxhala

Ngumhla wokuqala, kwaye amathuba okuba, into engalunganga iya kwenzeka. Kodwa ukuba ubonakala egodole ngokupheleleyo kulowo molo wokuqala, inokuba luphawu lokuba naye ungena kuye, ulumkisa uFeinstein. "Amaxa ambalwa obunzima athetha ukuba nobabini nityale imali; ukuba nobabini nifuna ukubeka olona nyawo lwenu luphambili komnye umntu," ucacisa uFeinstein.

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