Ukuba nguMkhathaleli woMhlaza weSifuba oPhambili: Into ekufuneka uyazi

Umxholo

• Qala ngokwenza intsebenziswano
• Funda ngomhlaza webele ophambili
• Cela iqela loncedo
• Chonga iimfuno zakho-kwaye uzithobele
• Ziqaphele iimpawu zoxinzelelo
• Fikelela kwinkxaso yomongi

Yenye into yokuthi uyakumkhathalela umntu xa eziva ephantsi kwemozulu. Kodwa yenye into yokuba uya kuba ngumkhathaleli womntu xa sele enesifo somhlaza wamabele. Unendima enkulu ekufuneka uyidlalile kunyango lwabo nakwimpilo yonke. Ukuze ungoyiki, sidale esi sikhokelo ukulungiselela wena. Funda ukuze ufunde iingcebiso kwaye ufumane iindlela zokuyilawula yonke.

Qala ngokwenza intsebenziswano

Ukuba ungoyena mntu ukhathalela umntu omthandayo, ukule nto kunye. Ukunyaniseka, unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo kuphela kwendlela yokuhamba. Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokufumana ubuhlakani bakho kunyawo lwasekunene:

• Buza kunokuba ucinge into efunekayo. Iya kwenza izinto zibe lula kuni nobabini.
• Nikela Ukunceda ngezinto ezithile ezinje ngemibhalo yonyango, kodwa mabazenzele izinto xa befuna. Musa ukubenza baxhomekeke ngakumbi kunokuba bafuna.
• Intlonipho ukhetho lomntu omthandayo malunga nonyango, ukhathalelo, kunye nokuba bafuna ukubona bani.
• Yabelana iimvakalelo. Vumela umntu omthandayo ukuba athethe ngeemvakalelo zabo ngaphandle kokuziva egwetyiwe. Kubalulekile ukuba wabelane ngeemvakalelo zakho. Sukuvumela umntu okhathalelayo-isigulana ukuba agqithise ubudlelwane bakho.

Funda ngomhlaza webele ophambili

Xa ukhathalela umntu omthandayo onesifo somhlaza webele, kunokuba luncedo ukuziqhelanisa nesi sifo. Njengoko iqhubeka, uya kuba nombono wokuba ulindele ntoni ukuze ungabhaqwa.

Nazi ezinye zeenguqu onokuzibona kumntu onomdlavuza ophezulu:

• ukungabikho komdla
• ukuhla ukusinda
• ukudinwa kakhulu
• Uxinzelelo olungalunganga
• iintlungu ezikhulayo nokungahambi kakuhle

Ukutshintsha kweemvakalelo akuqhelekanga. Iimood ezilungileyo zinokutshintsha kunye nosizi, umsindo, uloyiko kunye nokudakumba. Banokuba nexhala lokuba ngumthwalo kuwe nakwintsapho iphela.

Zonke ezi ziindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuphendula kwimeko. Kodwa kusenokubakho amaxesha apho ungaqinisekanga ngento omawuyenze. Kulungile.

Ungumnakekeli, kodwa ukwangumntu. Awulindelwanga ukuba ugqibelele. Zithembe iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ufumane uncedo xa ulufuna.

Cela iqela loncedo

Unokuba ngoyena mntu ukhathalela kakhulu, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akufuneki ube nguwe wedwa okhathalela abanye. Xelela usapho kunye nabahlobo ukuba ufuna uncedo. Abanye baya kunika, kodwa isicelo ngokubanzi asisoloko sifikelela. Chaza ngokuthe ngqo into oyifunayo kunye nexesha olifunayo. Yiba ngqo.

Kukho izixhobo zokhathalelo ezinokukunceda wenze oko ubuncinci bempikiswano.

Imibutho emininzi ibonelela ngeekhalenda zokhathalelo kwi-Intanethi ezivumela abanye ukuba babange imisebenzi ngeentsuku namaxesha athile, ukuze ucwangcise ukwenza enye into.

Ukukugcinela umsebenzi wokugcina wonke umntu ehlaziywa ngokwamntu, ezi ndawo zikuvumela ukuba wenze iphepha lakho lewebhu. Emva koko ungathumela uhlaziyo lwenqanaba kunye neefoto. Uthatha isigqibo sokuba ngubani onokufikelela kweli phepha. Iindwendwe zingashiya amagqabantshintshi kwaye zibhalisele ukunceda. Inokuba sisisindisi sexesha lokwenyani.

Jonga ezinye zezi ndawo:

• Ikhalenda yoKhathalelo
• Iinkathalo
• Ukunyamekela iBridge
• Yenza indawo yoKhathalelo
• Yenza uLuntu lweNkxaso

Njengokuba isifo siqhubeka, cinga ngononophelo lwempilo yasekhaya kunye neenketho zehosisi ukuze ungonganyelwa luxanduva.

Chonga iimfuno zakho-kwaye uzithobele

Ukunyamekela ngumsebenzi onothando, ovuzayo, kodwa mhlawumbi awuzange uceba. Iqala ngokubonelela ngoncedo oluncinci, kodwa inokujika ibe ngumsebenzi osisigxina ngaphambi kokuba wazi. Xa umntu omthandayo enesifo somhlaza esihamba phambili, kuthatha uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo nakuwe.

Ngelixa ujongana neemfuno zabo zomzimba kunye neemvakalelo, nawe uneemvakalelo zakho zokujongana nazo. Ngamanye amaxesha usenokuzibuza ukuba uyafikelela na kumceli mngeni. Inyani yile yokuba akukho mntu unokuyigcina imini yonke, yonke imihla, ngaphandle kokuziva uxinzelelo.

Ndigqibele nini ukuba "nam"? Ukuba impendulo yakho kukuba awukhumbuli, okanye ayibalulekanga, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka uphinde ucinge. Ukuba awuyifumani indlela yokuphuma kuxinzelelo lwakho, ngekhe ube ngoyena mongi ungcono. Asikokuzingca, kwaye akukho sizathu sokuziva unetyala. Imalunga nomfanekiso omkhulu.

Zibuze ukuba ufuna ntoni, nokuba kukujija incwadi elungileyo okanye ukubetha edolophini. Inokuba likhefu elifutshane lokuhamba yonke imihla, ngokuhlwa kube kanye, okanye usuku lonke kuwe.

Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuba ukhethe le bhloko yexesha kwaye wenze ukuba yenzeke. Yiphawule kwikhalenda yakho kwaye uyiqwalasele njengenxalenye yoluhlu lwezinto oza kuzenza. Emva koko khangela umntu oza kukugubungela ngelixa uhlaziya.

Emva kwekhefu lakho, uya kuba nento entsha yokwabelana nomthandayo.

Ziqaphele iimpawu zoxinzelelo

Ukuba uphantsi koxinzelelo olude, ungaphelela kwezinye iingxaki zempilo ezizezakho. Nazi ezinye zeempawu zoxinzelelo:

• intloko ebuhlungu
• Iintlungu ezingachazwanga
• ukudinwa okanye ubunzima bokulala
• isisu esibuhlungu
• ukuqhuba kwesondo
• ingxaki ekujongeni
• ukucaphuka okanye usizi

Eminye imiqondiso yokuba uxinezelekile yile:

• ngaphantsi okanye ngokutya kakhulu
• Ukurhoxa ekuhlaleni
• ukunqongophala kwenkuthazo
• ukutshaya okanye ukusela kakhulu kunakuqala

Ukuba unazo ezinye zezi mpawu, lixesha lokuba ucinge ngolawulo loxinzelelo. Cinga ngoku:

• ukwenza umthambo
• ukuphucula ukutya kwakho
• iindlela zokuphumla, ezinje ngokucamngca okanye ngeyoga
• ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo kunye nokonwabela izinto ozithandayo
• iingcebiso okanye amaqela enkxaso yabanonopheli

Ukuba iimpawu zoxinzelelo zomzimba ziyaqhubeka, jonga ugqirha wakho ngaphambi kokuba uphume.

Fikelela kwinkxaso yomongi

Ngamanye amaxesha kuyanceda xa ukwazi ukuthetha nomnye umntu okwimeko efanayo. Abanye abakhathaleli bokuqala bayifumana ngendlela ekungekho namnye umntu onokuyenza. Banokukunika iingcebiso ezimbalwa ezincedisayo zokwenza ubomi bube lula. Amaqela enkxaso ayindawo elungileyo yokufumana inkxaso, kodwa kungekudala uyakuqonda ukuba unokunika ezinye.

Isibhedlele sakho esikufutshane sinokukwazi ukukuthumela kwiqela lenkxaso labanonopheli. Ukuba akunjalo, unokukwazi ukunxibelelana nabanye ngale mibutho:

• CancerCare-Ukhathalelo lokubonelela kubonelela simahla, iinkonzo zenkxaso yobungcali kubanonopheli nakwabo babathandayo, kubandakanya neengcebiso kunye namaqela enkxaso.
• Inethiwekhi yokuNakekela abaNtu ibonelela ngemfundo yasimahla, inkxaso yoontanga, kunye nezixhobo kubanonopheli bosapho kwilizwe liphela.

Ngaba imisebenzi yakho yokhathalelo iyakunyanzela ukuba uthathe ikhefu emsebenzini? Fumanisa ukuba uyakulungela na ikhefu elingahlawulelwayo phantsi koMthetho weKhefu loSapho kunye nezoNyango.