Kuthetha Ukuthini Ukuba ziiAromantic kunye neAsexual?

Umxholo

• Ngaba bayafana?
• Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba livumba?
• Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba asexual?
• Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzichonga zombini?
• Ngaba zikhona ezinye izazisi phantsi kwesambulela se-asexual / aromantic?
• Kubonakala njani oku xa uziqhelanisa?
• Oku kuthetha ntoni kubudlelwane obuhlangeneyo?
• Ngaba kulungile ukungafuni ubudlelwane konke konke?
• Kuthekani ngesondo?
• Wazi njani ukuba kulapho ulingana khona phantsi kweambrela, ukuba akunjalo?
• Ungafunda phi ngaphezulu?

Ngaba bayafana?

"Aromantic" kunye "asexual" ayithethi into enye.

Njengoko amagama abonisa, abantu abathandekayo abanamava okuthandana, kwaye abantu abathandanayo abanawo amava ezesondo.

Abanye abantu bachonga njengokubini njenge-aromantic kunye ne-asexual. Nangona kunjalo, ukuchonga elinye lala magama akuthethi ukuba uchonga elinye.

Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi malunga nokuba yi-aromantic, asexual, okanye zombini.

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba livumba?

Abantu abangama-Aromantic banamava amancinci okuthandana. Umtsalane wothando malunga nokufuna ukuzibophelela kwezothando nomntu.

Inkcazo "yobudlelwane bezothando" ingahluka kumntu kumntu.

Abanye abantu abathandekayo banobudlelwane bezothando. Banokufuna ubudlelwane bezothando ngaphandle kokuziva benomdla kumntu othile.

Isichasi se-aromantic- Oko kukuthi, umntu ofumana umdla wothando- ngu "alloromantic.“

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba asexual?

Abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye banamava amancinci okufumana isondo. Ngamanye amagama, abaziva isidingo sokulala nabanye abantu.

Oku akuthethi ukuba abakhe babelane ngesondo- kunokwenzeka ukuba babelane ngesondo nomntu ngaphandle kokuziva bethandana naye.

Ukuchasana ne-asexual-Oko kukuthi, umntu ofumana umtsalane ngokwesondo- ngu "allosexual."

Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzichonga zombini?

Ayingabo bonke abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo, kwaye ayingabo bonke abantu abane-aromantic abathandanayo - kodwa abanye abantu bobabini!

Abantu bobabini banamava kunye namava e-asexual kancinci ngaphandle kokutsala ngesondo okanye ukuthandana. Oko akuthethi ukuba abangeni kubudlelwane bezothando okanye abelane ngesondo.

Ngaba zikhona ezinye izazisi phantsi kwesambulela se-asexual / aromantic?

Maninzi amanye amagama abantu abawasebenzisayo ukuchaza izazisi zabo zesini kunye nezothando.

Ezinye zezazisi phantsi kwesambulela se-asexual okanye i-aromantic zibandakanya:

• Kubonakala njani oku xa uziqhelanisa?

  Wonke umntu o-aromantic asexual wahlukile, kwaye umntu ngamnye unamava awodwa xa kufikwa kubudlelwane.

  Nangona kunjalo, ukuba nobabini niyaromantic kwaye asexual, unokuchonga enye okanye nangaphezulu koku kulandelayo:

  • Unomnqweno omncinci wobudlelwane bezesondo okanye obothando nomntu othile.
  • Unobunzima bokucinga ukuba kunjani ukuthandana.
  • Unobunzima bokucinga ukuba inkanuko ivakalelwa njani.
  • Xa abanye abantu bethetha ngokuziva bethandana ngesondo okanye bethandana nomntu othile, awunakudibana ngokwenene.
  • Uziva ungathathi hlangothi okanye udikwe yinto yokulala ngesondo okanye ukuthandana.
  • Awuqinisekanga ukuba uziva kuphela isidingo sokulala ngesondo okanye ukuba kubudlelwane ngenxa yokuba kulindeleke kuwe.

  Oku kuthetha ntoni kubudlelwane obuhlangeneyo?

  Abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo banokuhlala benothando okanye ubudlelwane bezesondo, kuxhomekeke kwiimvakalelo zabo.

  
  

  Kukho, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uninzi lwezizathu zokuba ulale nomntu okanye ungene kubudlelwane- ayisiyiyo yonke into yokutsalwa kubo.

  Khumbula ukuba i-aromantic kunye ne-asexual ayithethi ukuba umntu akanakukwazi ukuthanda okanye ukuzibophelela.

  Ngaphandle komtsalane wesini, abantu banokufuna ukwabelana ngesondo ukuze:

  • Khawula abantwana
  • nika okanye wamkele ulonwabo
  • ukudibana neqabane labo
  • bonisa uthando
  • ulingo

  Kwangokunjalo, ngaphandle komtsalane wothando, abantu banokufuna ukuba nobudlelwane bezothando ukuze:

  • Umzali kunye nomnye umntu
  • zibophelele kumntu abamthandayo
  • bonelela kwaye ufumane inkxaso ngokwasemphefumlweni

  Ngaba kulungile ukungafuni ubudlelwane konke konke?

  Ewe! Awudingi ukuba kubudlelwane obunothando okanye ngokwesondo ukuze wonwabe.

  Inkxaso yezentlalo ibalulekile, kodwa ungayifumana loo nto ngokuhlakulela ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nobudlelwane bosapho - ekufuneka sonke siyenze, nokuba sikubudlelwane okanye hayi.

  "Ubudlelwane beQueerplatonic," igama eliqulunqwe luluntu olunencasa kunye nolwe-asexual, lubhekisa kubudlelwane obusondeleyo abunyanzelekanga ukuba bube sesothando okanye ngokwesondo. Basondele kunobuhlobo obuqhelekileyo.

  Umzekelo, ubudlelwane be-queerplatonic bunokubandakanya ukuhlala kunye, ukukhulisa abantwana kunye, ukuxhasana ngokweemvakalelo nakwintlalo, okanye ukwabelana ngemali kunye noxanduva.

  Kuthekani ngesondo?

  Ewe kulungile ukuba ungafuni ukulala ngesondo. Akuthethi ukuba kukho into engalunganga kuwe okanye ngumba ekufuneka ulungisiwe.

  Abanye abantu abathandana nabantu besini esahlukileyo bayabelana ngesondo, kwaye abanye baphulula amalungu esini. Abanye ababelani ngesondo.

  Abantu abathandana nabantu besini esinye banokuba:

  • Ukwabelana ngesondo, Oko kuthetha ukuba abafuni ukulala ngesondo kwaye bafumanisa ukuba ingcinga ayithandeki
  • Ukwabelana ngesondo-ngokungakhathali, Oko kuthetha ukuba abaziva baziva bezomelele malunga nokwabelana ngesondo nangayiphi na indlela
  • Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokufanelekileyo, Oko kuthetha ukuba bayonwabela imiba ethile yesini, nokuba abafumani kuhlobo lomtsalane olo

  Abantu banokufumanisa ukuba iimvakalelo zabo ngesondo ziyatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha.

  Wazi njani ukuba kulapho ulingana khona phantsi kweambrela, ukuba akunjalo?

  Akukho vavanyo lokuchonga ulwabelwano lwakho ngokwesondo okanye uthando - kwaye oko kunokwenza ukuba kube nzima ukufumana.

  Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uyalingana phantsi kwe-asexual / aromantic ambrella, ungaqwalasela oku kulandelayo:

  • Joyina iiforamu okanye amaqela - njengeeforum ze-AVEN okanye iiforamu zeReddit - apho ungafunda malunga namava abanye njengabantu abathandana nabantu abathandanayo. Oku kunokukunceda wazi ezakho iimvakalelo.
  • Thetha nomhlobo omthembileyo oqondayo ukuba yeyiphi i-asexuality kunye ne-aromanticism.
  • Joyina amaqela e-LGBTQIA + asexual- kunye ne-aromantic-friendly ukuba unxibelelane nabantu abathanda izinto ngobuqu.
  • Yenza intambo encinci kwaye uqwalasele iimvakalelo zakho malunga nokutsala ngokwesondo kunye nothando.

  Ekugqibeleni, nguwe kuphela onokumisela ukuba ungubani na.

  Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu o-asexual okanye we-aromantic wahlukile kwaye umntu ngamnye unamava akhe kunye neemvakalelo zakhe xa kusiziwa kubudlelwane.

  Ungafunda phi ngaphezulu?

  Kukho inani lezixhobo ezikwi-Intanethi ezenzelwe abantu abafuna ukufunda ngakumbi malunga ne-asexuality kunye ne-aromanticism.

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  • Amaqela eAsexual, iwebhusayithi edwelisa amaqela ama-asexual kwihlabathi liphela, njengoko kunjalo ngeAces & Aros
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