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• Iimpawu zomntwana imfuno ephezulu
• Kwenziwe ntoni
• Unjani ukukhula komntwana imfuno ephezulu
• Injani impilo kamama

Umntwana imfuno ephezulu, usana olufuna kakhulu ukukhathalelwa nokunyanyekelwa ngabazali, ngakumbi kunina. Ufuna ukubanjwa ngalo lonke ixesha, kuba uzelwe, ulila kakhulu kwaye ufuna ukondla iyure nganye, ukongeza ekungalali ngaphezulu kwemizuzu engama-45 elandelelana.

Inkcazo yeempawu zosana oludinga kakhulu lwenziwa ngugqirha wabantwana uWilliam Sears emva kokubona isimilo sonyana wakhe omncinci, owayehluke kakhulu kubantakwabo abadala. Nangona kunjalo, ezi mpawu azinakuchazwa njengesifo okanye isifo, ukuba luhlobo olunye kuphela lobuntu bomntwana.

Iimpawu zomntwana imfuno ephezulu

Umntwana onesidingo esikhulu sokuhoywa nokhathalelo unezi zinto zilandelayo:

• Ukhala kakhulu: Isikhalo siyangxola kwaye sinamandla kwaye sinokuhlala phantse yonke imini, ngamathuba amancinci emizuzu engama-20 ukuya kwengama-30. Kuqhelekile ukuba abazali baqale bacinge ukuba umntwana uphethwe sisifo esithile, kuba ukukhala kubonakala kungathuthuzeleki, nto leyo ekhokelela koogqirha babantwana abaninzi nasekusebenzeni kovavanyo, kwaye zonke iziphumo ziqhelekile.
• Ulala kancinci: Ngokwesiqhelo olu sana alulali ngaphezu kwemizuzu engama-45 emgceni kwaye luhlala luvuka lukhala, lufuna ithanga ukuzola. Iindlela ezinje 'ngokuyeka ukulila' ziyeke azisebenzi kuba umntwana engayeki ukukhala nasemva kweyure enye kwaye uphononongo lubonisa ukuba ukulila kakhulu kunokubangela ukonakala kwengqondo ukongeza ukushiya amanqaku kubuntu bomntwana, njengokungazithembi nokungathembi .
• Imisipha yakhe ihlala ikhontrakthi: Nangona usana lungakhali, kunokwenzeka ukuba ithoni yomzimba wayo inamandla kakhulu, nto leyo ebonisa ukuba izihlunu zihlala ziqinile kwaye izandla ziqinisiwe, zibonisa ukungoneliseki kunye nomnqweno wokulahla into, ngokungathi zihlala zilungile ukubaleka. Abanye abantwana babonakala ngathi bayakonwabela ukusongelwa ngengubo, ecinezelwe kancinci emzimbeni wabo, ngelixa abanye bengaluxhasi olu hlobo lwendlela.
• Suck amandla abazali: Ukukhathalela umntwana oswele kakhulu kuyadinisa kuba kubonakala ngathi bafunxa onke amandla avela kunina, abafuna ingqalelo epheleleyo kwiintsuku ezininzi. Eyona ixhaphakileyo kukuba umama akanakuhlala kude nosana ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha seyure, kufuneka atshintshe ilweyile, atyise, alale, azole ukukhala, adlale nayo yonke into eyimfuneko ukukhathalela umntwana. Akukho namnye umntu obonakala ekwazi ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zomntwana imfuno ephezulu.
• Yitya kakhulu: usana oludinga kakhulu lubonakala ngathi luhlala lulambile kwaye aloneliseki, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bechitha amandla amaninzi, abafumani ukuba batyebe kakhulu. Olu sana luyakuthanda ukuncancisa kwaye alusebenzisi ubisi lukanina ukondla umzimba walo, kodwa neemvakalelo zalo, ke ngoko ukutyiswa kuyolulwa kwaye umntwana uthanda kakhulu ukuncanciswa, esenza konke okusemandleni ukuhlala kuloo ndawo intofontofo apho aziva ekhuselekile kwaye uyathandwa, ixesha elide kunesiqhelo, ngokungathi ngeyure.
• Kunzima ukuzola kwaye ungaze uzolile wedwa: Isikhalazo esiqhelekileyo sabazali abaneentsana eziswele kakhulu kukuba ubuchule obukwazileyo ukumthoba umsindo namhlanje abunakusebenza ngomso, kwaye kuyafuneka ukuba kuthathwe zonke iintlobo zezicwangciso zokuzolisa umntwana okhalayo kakhulu, njengokuhamba naye ethangeni lakhe, kwisitroli, cula iingoma ezizolileyo, ii-pacifiers, ukubheja kunxibelelwano lolusu nolusu, ukunxiba ukuncanca, ukucima isibane.

Ukufumana umntwana oswele kakhulu kufuna ukuzinikela okuninzi kubazali, kwaye eyona nto ixhaphakileyo kukuba umama azive ekhathazekile kwaye ecinga ukuba akayazi ukuba angalunakekela njani usana lwakhe, kuba uhlala efuna ixesha elininzi nangaphezulu, ingqalelo, ukutya nokuba umenzela yonke into, nokuba kunjalo, kuhlala kubonakala kungonelisekanga.

Kwenziwe ntoni

Eyona ndlela yokukwazi ukuthuthuzela umntwana osweleyo kakhulu kukuba nexesha lakhe. Ngokufanelekileyo, umama akufuneki asebenze ngaphandle kwekhaya kwaye abenako ukuthembela kuncedo lukatata okanye abanye abantu ekwabelaneni ngemisebenzi ngaphandle kokujonga umntwana, njengokucoca indlu, ukuya ezivenkileni okanye ukupheka.

Utata naye ubakhona kubomi bemihla ngemihla bomntwana kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba njengoko umntwana ekhula uyaqhela kwingcinga yokuba akukho mama kuphela ebomini bakhe.

Unjani ukukhula komntwana imfuno ephezulu

Ukukhula kwengqondo kwengqondo yomntwana imfuno ephezulu kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye njengoko bekulindelekile, ke malunga nonyaka omnye ubudala kufuneka uqale ukuhamba kwaye kwiminyaka emi-2 ubudala ungaqala ukubeka amagama amabini ngokudibeneyo, wenze 'isivakalisi'.

Xa umntwana eqala ukunxibelelana ekhomba izinto okanye erhubuluza esiya kuzo, ezenzeka malunga neenyanga ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-8, abazali bayakwazi ukukuqonda ngcono oko kufunwa ngumntwana, beququzelela ukhathalelo lwemihla ngemihla. Kwaye xa lo mntwana eqala ukuthetha xa aneminyaka emi-2 ubudala, kuye kube lula ukuqonda into ayifunayo kuba uyakwazi ukuphindaphinda into ayivayo kunye nento ayifunayo.

Injani impilo kamama

Umama uhlala edinwe kakhulu, elayishwe umthwalo, esenza izangqa ezimnyama kunye nexesha elincinane lokuphumla nokuzikhathalela. Iimvakalelo ezinje ngoxinzelelo zixhaphake ikakhulu kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bosana okanye kude kufike kugqirha wabantwana kuvavanyo lokuba umntwana unentswelo enkulu.

Kodwa ngokuhamba kweminyaka, umntwana ufunda ukuphazamiseka kwaye onwabe nabanye kwaye umama akasabi liziko lokuqwalaselwa. Kweli nqanaba kuqhelekile ukuba umama afune ukucetyiswa ngokwasemphefumlweni kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uqhele ukuhlala yedwa emntwaneni imfuno ephezulu ukuba kunokuba nzima ukumka kuye, nokuba angangena enkulisa.