Yintoni i-Bigger Orgasm Killer? Ixhala okanye amayeza aChasene nexhala?

Umxholo

• Kutheni ixhala linokukhokelela kubomi obonelisayo besini- kunye ne-orgasms
• Iimpawu zoxinzelelo ezinokuthi zifike kwindlela ye-Big O
  
• Kunzima ukungena kwimood
• Ukubamba-22: Amayeza oxinzelelo nawo enza ukuba kube nzima- ngamanye amaxesha kungenzeki- ukuya kwi-orgasm
• Indlela amayeza oxinzelelo ayenza nzima ngayo kwi-orgasm
  

Abasetyhini abaninzi banamathele kwi-Catch-22 engathandekiyo.

U-Liz Lazzara akasoloko eziva elahlekile ngalo mzuzu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, oyise ngeemvakalelo zokonwaba kwakhe.

Endaweni yoko, uziva uxinzelelo ngaphakathi kwi-orgasm ngokukhawuleza ukuthintela ukucaphukisa iqabane lakhe, elihlala lisenza kube nzima kuye kuvuthondaba.

"Nangona uninzi lwamaqabane am bengakhange bacaphuke okanye bangabi namonde malunga nendlela endiza ngokukhawuleza ngayo, abanye baye. Ezo nkumbulo zihlala zithi qatha ezingqondweni zam, zibangela ukuba ixhala lam lifikelele esiphelweni, ”utshilo.

U-Lazzara, oneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, unengxaki yokuxhalaba ngokubanzi (i-GAD) -imeko enombala kumava akhe ezesondo.

Iingcali zithi abo bane-GAD banokufumana kunzima ukuphumla, banobunzima ekuxeleleni amaqabane abo ukuba bathanda ntoni, okanye bajolise kakhulu ekukholiseni amaqabane abo ukuze bangazonwabisi.

Nangona ubomi bezesondo bukaLazzara buchatshazelwe kukuxhalaba, uninzi lwabasetyhini abanyanga uxinzelelo lwabo ngamayeza bakufumana kunzima ukugcina impilo eyanelisayo yesondo.

Ngelixa ugqatso lweengcinga okanye uziva ubugovu usenempembelelo kubomi bezesondo bukaLazzara, ukwaphawula ukuba amayeza alwa noxinzelelo amthobile kwisini sakhe kwaye enza ukuba kubenzima nangakumbi kuye kuvuthondaba.

Kuba amayeza okulwa unxunguphalo nawo athintela abantu ukuba babelane ngesondo njengempembelelo esecaleni, yingxaki enokubonakala ngathi ayinaso isisombululo.

Ngamabhinqa aphindwe kabini kunamadoda achaphazeleka luxinzelelo, uninzi lwabasetyhini ngaphandle banokuba nengxaki ekungafane kuthethwe ngayo.

Kutheni ixhala linokukhokelela kubomi obonelisayo besini- kunye ne-orgasms

Ugqirha wezifo zengqondo uLaura F. Dabney, MD uthi esinye sezizathu zokuba abantu abanoxinzelelo basokolise ekubeni banelise ubomi besondo kungenxa yemicimbi yokunxibelelana neqabane labo.

UDabney uthi eyona nto iphambili kuxinzelelo kukuziva unetyala ngokungafanelekanga malunga nokufumana iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo, ezinjengomsindo okanye isidingo. Abantu abane-GAD ngokungazi baziva ngokungathi kufanele bohlwaywe ngokuba neemvakalelo.

"Eli tyala libangela ukuba bangabinakho ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo kakuhle- okanye konke konke-ke bahlala bengakwazi ukuxelela amaqabane abo ukuba yintoni na engabasebenzeliyo yona, ngokwendalo, engabancediyo ukusondelelana," UDabney utsho.

Ukongeza, uthi abantu abaninzi abanexhala bajolise kakhulu ekukholiseni abanye kangangokuba basilele ukubeka ulonwabo lwabo phambili.

"Ubomi obulungileyo besini, kunye nobudlelwane ngokubanzi, kukuqinisekisa ukonwaba kwakho kwaye emva koko kuncede iqabane lakho ukuba lonwabe-beka eyakho imaski yeoksijini kuqala," utshilo uDabney.

Ukongeza, iingcinga zokubaleka zihlala zinxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo zinokuthintela ulonwabo ngokwesondo. I-Lazzara inoxinzelelo, kunye noxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo (PTSD). Uthi yomibini le miqathango ikwenze kwanzima kuye ukuya kwi-orgasm ngexesha lesini.

Endaweni yokuziva ulahlekile ngalo mzuzu kunye nokunye kwakhe okubalulekileyo-koyiswa yinkanuko kunye nemincili njengoko esondela kwi-orgasm-uLazzara kufuneka alwe neengcinga ezingathandekiyo, nganye nganye iyimbumbulu yokubulala i-libido.

"Ndidla ngokuba neengcinga ezibalekayo ngelixa ndizama uvuthondaba, olundiphazamisa ekubeni ndonwabe okanye ndiyeke," utshilo. Ezi ngcinga zinokuba malunga nemicimbi yemihla ngemihla, njengezinto endifuna ukuzenza okanye imicimbi yemali. Okanye banokubhengeza ngakumbi, njengemifanekiso yam yesondo kunye nabantu abaxhaphazayo okanye abangenampilo. ”

Iimpawu zoxinzelelo ezinokuthi zifike kwindlela ye-Big O

• iingcinga zokubaleka ezingena kwelona xesha lakho lokonwaba
• ukuziva unetyala ngokujikeleza iimvakalelo eziqhelekileyo
• utyekelo lokujolisa kulonwabo lwabanye abantu, hayi olwakho
• Unxibelelwano olubi kunye neqabane lakho malunga nento oyithandayo
• ukungaziva kwimeko yesondo rhoqo

Kunzima ukungena kwimood

USandra, * uneminyaka engama-55 ubudala, ulwe ne-GAD ubomi bakhe bonke.Uthi ngaphandle kokuxhalaba, uhlala enobomi obunempilo, obusebenzayo kunye nomyeni wakhe oneminyaka engama-25.

Kuze kube yilapho eqala ukuthatha iValium kwiminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo.

Iyeza lenza kube nzima ngakumbi kuSandra ukuba abe ne-orgasm. Kwaye kwamshiya phantse engazange abe kwimeko yesondo.

Uthi: "Kwakungathi inxalenye yam iyekile ukulangazelela isondo," utsho.

UNicole Prause, i-PhD, sisayikholojisti enelayisensi kunye nomseki weZiko leLiberos, iziko lophando ngesondo eLos Angeles. Uthi abantu abanexhala bahlala befumana kunzima ukuphumla kwasekuqaleni kwesini, ngexesha lokuvusa.

Ngeli nqanaba, ukukwazi ukugxila kwisini kubalulekile kulonwabo. Kodwa uPrause uthi abantu abanoxinzelelo oluphezulu banokufumana umceli mngeni wokulahleka ngalo mzuzu, kwaye bazokucinga ngaphezulu.

Ukungakwazi ukuphumla kungakhokelela ekubukeni, uPrause uthi, eyenzekayo xa abantu beziva ngathi bazibukele besabelana ngesondo endaweni yokuntywiliselwa ngalo mzuzu.

USandra kuye kwafuneka enze iinzame zokuzama ukoyisa i-libido yakhe ephantsi, njengoko eyazi ukuba isondo sibalulekile empilweni yakhe nakwimpilo yomtshato wakhe.

Nangona esokola ukuziva evukile, uthi nje ukuba izinto ziqale ukufudumala nomyeni wakhe ebhedini, uhlala eyonwabela.

Ngumbandela wokuzinika esi sikhumbuzi sengqondo ukuba nangona engaziva evuliwe ngoku, uya kuthi kanye nomyeni wakhe baqale ukubambana.

"Ndisenobomi bobulili ngenxa yokuba ndikhetha ngokwengqondo," utshilo uSandra. Kwaye nje ukuba uhambe, konke kulungile kwaye kulungile. Kungenxa nje yokuba ndingatsaleleki kuyo njengokuba ndandikade ndinjalo. ”

Ukubamba-22: Amayeza oxinzelelo nawo enza ukuba kube nzima- ngamanye amaxesha kungenzeki- ukuya kwi-orgasm

Abasetyhini abaninzi abane-GAD, njengoCohen, banamathele kwiCatch-22. Banoxinzelelo, olunokuthi lubuchaphazele kakubi ubomi babo- isini sibandakanyiwe- kwaye babekwa kumayeza abancedayo.

Kodwa loo mayeza angayithoba i-libido kwaye abanike i-anorgasmia, ukungakwazi ukufikelela kwi-orgasm.

Kodwa ukuphuma kwamayeza akusoloko kuyinto onokukhetha kuyo, njengoko izibonelelo zayo zingaphezulu kwe-libido ephantsi okanye i-anorgasmia.

Ngaphandle kwamayeza, abasetyhini banokuqala ukufumana iimpawu zoxinzelelo ezazibabeka ngaphambili ekufezekiseni i-orgasm kwasekuqaleni.

Zimbini iindlela eziphambili zamayeza amiselweyo ukunyanga i-GAD. Eyokuqala zii-benzodiazepines ezinje ngeXanax okanye iValium, ezingamayeza aqhelekileyo athathwa kwisiseko esifunekayo sokunyanga uxinzelelo.

Kukho ii-SSRI (i-serotonin reuptake inhibitors ekhethiweyo) kunye ne-SNRI (i-serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors), iiklasi zamachiza ngamanye amaxesha ezibizwa ngokuba yi-antidepressants-ezinje nge-Prozac kunye ne-Effexor- ezimiselweyo ukunyanga uxinzelelo ixesha elide.

"Alukho udidi lwamayeza olungcono ekususeni ii-orgasms," utshilo uPrause nge-SSRIs.

Ngapha koko, kwafunyaniswa ukuba ii-SSRI ezintathu ezimiselweyo, "zinciphise kakhulu i-libido, ukuvusa umdla, ubude be-orgasm, kunye nokuqina kwe-orgasm."

USandra waqala ukuthatha uxinzelelo kwiiveki ezintathu ezidlulileyo kuba oogqirha abacebisi ukuthatha iValium ixesha elide. Kodwa amayeza abaluleke kakhulu kulawulo lwexhala likaSandra kangangokuba ucinga ukuba kuya kuba nzima ukuphuma kulo.

"Ndicinga ukuba kunyanzelekile ukuba ndiye kumayeza," utshilo. "Andikwazi ukuba kuyo, kodwa ndingumntu owahlukileyo ngaphandle kwayo. Ndingumntu onosizi. Ke kufuneka ndibekhona. ”

Kubantu abangakwaziyo ukwenza i-orgasm njengempembelelo yecala lala mayeza, uPrause uthi ekuphela kokulungiswa kukutshintsha amayeza okanye uyeke amayeza kwaye uzame unyango.

Akukho mayeza unokuwathatha, ukongeza kwi-antidepressant, eyenza ukuba kube lula kwi-orgasm, utshilo.

Indlela amayeza oxinzelelo ayenza nzima ngayo kwi-orgasm

• Izifundo zibonisa ii-SSRIs zesini esisezantsi sokuqhuba kunye nexesha kunye nokuqina kwe-orgasms
• Imithi yokulwa noxinzelelo nayo inokwenza ukuba kube ngumceli mngeni, okanye phantse kube nzima, kwabanye abantu ukuba bavuthondaba
• Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba oku kungenxa yokuba ii-SSRI ziphazamisa inkqubo yeemvakalelo enovelwano
• Abantu abaninzi basafumanisa ukuba izibonelelo zamayeza zingaphezulu kweziphumo ebezingalindelekanga, ke thetha nogqirha wakho malunga neempawu zakho

U-Lazzara uzive iziphumo zokuthotywa kwe-libido ngenxa ye-Effexor, i-antidepressant ayithathayo. "I-Effexor yenza kube nzima ngakumbi kum ukuya kwi-orgasm, kokubini ukusuka ekuvuseleleni kwendalo kunye nokungena, kwaye kunciphisa ukuqhuba kwam ngesondo," utshilo.

Uthi i-SSRI awayekuyo ngaphambili yayineziphumo ezifanayo.

Kodwa njengoCohen, amayeza abalulekile kulawulo lukaLazzara lwexhala lakhe.

U-Lazzara ufunde ukujongana neengxaki ajongene nazo kubomi bakhe bokwabelana ngesondo ngenxa yokuhlala ne-GAD. Umzekelo, ufumanise ukuba ukukhuthaza ingono, izidlidlizi, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukubukela iphonografi kunye neqabane lakhe kumnceda afikelele kwi-clitoral orgasm. Kwaye uyazikhumbuza ukuba uxinzelelo ayisiyongxaki ukuba isonjululwe - kodwa ke yinxalenye yobomi bakhe bezesondo ngendlela efanayo yokufaka, iithoyi, okanye izikhundla ezikhethiweyo kunokuba yinxalenye yobomi besini bomnye umntu.

"Ukuba uhlala noxinzelelo, ukuthembela, intuthuzelo, kunye nokuxhotyiswa kubalulekile xa kuziwa kubomi bakho bobulili," utshilo uLazzara. "Kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuyeka ukuhamba neqabane lakho ukuthintela uxinzelelo, iingcinga ezingazinzanga, kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okunokuthi kunxulunyaniswe nesini esinexhala."

Igama litshintshiwe

UJamie Friedlander ngumbhali ozimeleyo kunye nomhleli onomdla kwezempilo. Umsebenzi wakhe uvele kwi -Cut, iChicago Tribune, eRacked, kwi-Business Insider nakwiMagazini yeMpumelelo. Xa engabhali, unokuhlala efumaneka ehamba, esela izixa ezikhulu zeti eluhlaza, okanye ejonga i-Etsy. Ungabona ezinye iisampulu zomsebenzi wakhe kwiwebhusayithi yakhe. Mlandele kwi-Twitter.