Ukucinga okuMnyama kunye noMhlophe kukukhathaza (kunye nento onokuyenza ukuyitshintsha)

Umxholo

• Kuvakala njani
• Kukukhathaza njani ukucinga ngomnyama nomhlophe?
• Inokonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho
• Inokukugcina ungafundi
• Inokuwunciphisa umsebenzi wakho
• Inokuphazamisa imikhwa yokutya esempilweni
• Ngaba ukucinga komnyama nomhlophe luphawu lwezinye iimeko?
• I-Narcissism (NPD)
• Umda wobuntu obungenamkhawulo (BPD)
• Ukuphazamiseka okubonakalayo okunyanzelekileyo (OCD)
• Ixhala kunye noxinzelelo
• Ubuhlanga kunye nokuzonda abantu abathandana besisini esinye
• Yintoni ebangela ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe?
• Ungatshintsha njani ukucinga okumnyama nomhlophe?
• Umgca wezantsi

Ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe lutyekelo lokucinga ngokugqithileyo: Ndiyimpumelelo eqaqambileyo, okanye Ndisilele ngokupheleleyo. Isithandwa sam ngu-angel, okanye Ungumtyholi ongumntu.

Le patheni yokucinga, ethiwa yiAmerican Psychological Association ikwabiza ngokuba kukucinga ngokungathandabuzekiyo okanye okuthe nca, kuthathwa njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kuba kusigcina ekuboneni umhlaba njengoko uhlala usenzeka: uyinkimbinkimbi, ulungelelwanisiwe, kwaye ugcwele zonke izithunzi eziphakathi.

Ingqondo engenanto okanye engenanto ayisivumeli ukuba sifumane umhlaba ophakathi. Kwaye masijongane nayo: Kukho isizathu sokuba uninzi lwabantu lungaphili e-Everest okanye eMariana Trench. Kunzima ukugcina ubomi kwezo zinto zibaxekileyo.

Uninzi lwethu lubandakanyeka ekucingeni okungafaniyo amaxesha ngamaxesha. Ngapha koko, ezinye iingcali zicinga ukuba le patheni inokuba inemvelaphi yayo ekusindeni kwabantu -umlo wethu okanye impendulo yendiza.

Kodwa ukuba ukucinga ngombala omnyama nomhlophe iba ngumkhwa, inoku:

• yenzakalise impilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo
• Ukonakalisa umsebenzi wakho
• kubangele ukuphazamiseka kubudlelwane bakho

(Qaphela: Kukho incoko kwezempilo yezesondo kunye nakwimimandla yempilo yengqondo NGOKUBA ubhekise kukucinga okungafaniyo okanye okucwangcisiweyo malunga 'nokucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe' njengoko kunokutolikwa njengombala obhekisa kubuhlanga. Ukugqithisa okanye ukugqithisa.)

Apha, sixoxa:

• indlela yokuqonda iingcinga ezikhethiweyo
• abanokukuxelela yona ngempilo yakho
• into onokuyenza ukuze ube nembono elungelelene ngakumbi

Kuvakala njani

Amanye amagama anokukwazisa ukuba iingcinga zakho ziya zibaxeka.

• njalo
• soze
• ayinakwenzeka
• intlekele
• nomsindo
• yonakele
• ugqibelele

Ewe, la magama awalunganga ngokwawo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uqaphela ukuba bahlala beza kwiingcinga zakho nakwiincoko zakho, kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba wamkele umbono omnyama nomhlophe ngento ethile.

Kukukhathaza njani ukucinga ngomnyama nomhlophe?

Inokonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho

Ubudlelwane benzeka phakathi kwabantu, nokuba babonana njengosapho, abahlobo, abamelwane, abantu abasebenza nabo, okanye enye into ngokupheleleyo.

Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abantu benamahla ndinyuka (ukuyichaza ngokungathandabuzekiyo), kunye ne-quirks kunye nokungangqinelani, ukungqubana kuyavela.

Ukuba sijongana neengxabano eziqhelekileyo kunye nokucinga ngokungathandabuzekiyo, sinokufumana izigqibo ezingalunganga malunga nabanye abantu, kwaye siyakuphulukana namathuba okuthetha-thethana kunye nolungelelwaniso.

Okubi nangakumbi, ukucinga omnyama nomhlophe kunokubangela umntu ukuba enze izigqibo ngaphandle kokucinga ngempembelelo yeso sigqibo kuye nakwabanye ababandakanyekayo.

Imizekelo inokubandakanya:

• ngesiquphe uhambisa abantu ukusuka kwinqanaba "lomntu olungileyo" ukuya kwicandelo "lomntu ombi"
• ukuyeka umsebenzi okanye ukugxotha abantu
• ukuchitha ubudlelwane
• ukunqanda isisombululo sokwenyani semicimbi

Ukucinga ngokuchaseneyo kuhlala kutshintsha phakathi kokucinga kunye nokuxabisa abanye. Ukuba kubudlelwane nomntu ocinga ngokugqithileyo kunokuba nzima kakhulu ngenxa yokujikeleza okuphindaphindeneyo kovuselelo lweemvakalelo.

Inokukugcina ungafundi

Ndimbi kwizibalo. Uninzi lootitshala bezibalo besiva esi sibhengezo amaxesha ngamaxesha kunyaka wesikolo.

Yimveliso ye- impumelelo okanye ukusilela ingqondo yengqondo, ephumayo ngokwendalo yenkqubo yokuhlela echaza ukusilela (amanqaku e-0-59) njengaphezulu isiqingatha inqanaba lokulinganisa.

Ezinye iikhosi zinento elula yokulinganisa ukufunda: ukupasa okanye ukusilela. Enye okanye enye.

Kulula kakhulu ukuwela ekucingeni okungafaniyo malunga nokufezekisa kwakho izifundo.

Ingqondo yokukhula, eya isiba yinto edumileyo, ikhuthaza abafundi ukuba baqonde inkqubela phambili eyandayo yokuphumelela - ukuzibona besondela kufutshane nokuba babe nakho ukwenza oko bezimisele ukukwenza.

Inokuwunciphisa umsebenzi wakho

Ukucinga okungafaniyo kwenza kwaye kunamathele kwiindidi ezichazwe ngokungqongqo: Umsebenzi wam. Umsebenzi wabo. Indima yam. Indima yabo.

Kwimimandla emininzi yokusebenza ngokubambisana apho iindima ziguquka, zanda, kwaye ziphinde zenze kwakhona, ukuba nemida engqongqo kunokugcina wena kunye nenhlangano ekuphumezeni iinjongo.

Uvavanye ukusebenza kwesitudiyo sefilimu saseDatshi.

Kufumanise ukuba ukungaqondani kwiindima zabantu kunye noxanduva kuye kwaba neziphumo ezilungileyo kwiprojekthi yoyilo, nangona ezinye iingxaki zavela njengoko abantu babandisa ububanzi bomsebenzi wabo.

Ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe kunokukhawulelana nendlela ocinga ngayo ngamathemba akho omsebenzi.

Ngexesha leengxaki zemali ka-2008, abantu abaninzi baphulukana nemisebenzi ababebambe ixesha elide kuyo.

Onke amacandelo acothisile okanye ayeke ukuqesha. Ingxaki inyanzelise abantu ukuba bajonge ngokungaphaya kwiiseti zabo zobuchule, kunokuba babambelele ngokuqatha kumbono ongqongqo wento abanokuyenza.

Ukucinga ngomsebenzi wakho njengoko uzinzile kwaye ucacisiwe kancinci kunokubangela ukuba uphoswe ngamathuba onokuthi ufumanise ukuba atyebisile, ngokoqobo nangokomfuziselo.

Inokuphazamisa imikhwa yokutya esempilweni

Izifundo ezininzi zifumene unxibelelwano phakathi kwengxaki yokutya kunye nokucinga okungafaniyo.

Ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe kunokubangela abantu ukuba:

• jonga ukutya okuthile njengokulungileyo okanye okungalunganga
• bajonge imizimba yabo njengokugqibelela okanye ukuvukela
• yitya kwi-binge-purge, yonke into okanye akukho nto

Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba ukucinga ngokungathandabuzekiyo kunokukhokelela abantu ekwenzeni izithintelo ezingqongqo zokutya, ezinokwenza kube nzima ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nokutya.

Ngaba ukucinga komnyama nomhlophe luphawu lwezinye iimeko?

Ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa iipateni zokucinga ezingapheliyo zinxulunyaniswa nenani leemeko.

I-Narcissism (NPD)

I-NPD yimeko ebangela:

• umbono ogqithisileyo wokuzixabisa
• imfuno enzulu yokuqwalaselwa
• ukungabikho kovelwano kwabanye

Ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe yenye yeempawu zokuphazamiseka kubuntu.

bafumanise ukuba utyekelo lokucinga ngokungakhathali lwenza kube nzima kakhulu kubantu abane-NPD ukuba bafumane uncedo abaludingayo kuba banokuthotywa kwaye balahle abanyangi ngokukhawuleza.

Umda wobuntu obungenamkhawulo (BPD)

Amaziko eSizwe eMental Health ayichaza iBPD njengesigulo sengqondo esibangela ukuba abantu babe “namava okuqumba, ukudandatheka noxinezeleko.”

Abantu abane-BPD:

• zihlala zinengxaki yokulawula iimpembelelo
• Amaxesha amaninzi bafumana amava okucinga abamnyama nabamhlophe
• Unokujamelana nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu

Ngapha koko, bafumanise ukuba utyekelo lokucinga ngokuchasene ne-polar lusentliziyweni yeengxaki abantu abaninzi abane-BPD abanazo kubudlelwane babo.

Ukuphazamiseka okubonakalayo okunyanzelekileyo (OCD)

Abanye bacinga ukuba abantu abane-OCD bahlala becinga kuzo zonke iipateni-okanye-akukho nto kuba amandla okubeka into kudidi oluqinileyo kunokubanika amandla okulawula iimeko zabo.

Ukucinga ngokukhohlakeleyo kwenza ukuba abantu bakwazi ukugcina ukugqibelela okungqongqo, kwaye oko kunokwenza ukuba kube nzima ukufumana uncedo.

Ukuba umntu unokubuyela umva, kuya kuba lula ukubona ukuba njengokusilela ngokupheleleyo kunyango endaweni yokukujonga njenge-hiccup yomzuzwana kwinkqubela phambili iyonke.

Ixhala kunye noxinzelelo

Abantu abasesichengeni soxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo banokuba notyekelo lokucinga ngokungagungqiyo.

Isifundo se-2018 esivavanye intetho yendalo yabantu abanexhala noxinzelelo bafumana ukusetyenziswa rhoqo kolwimi "lwe-absolutist" phakathi kwabo kunamaqela olawulo.

Yonke into okanye akukho nto siyicingayo inokusibangela ukuba sikhanye, nto leyo enokubangela ukuxhalaba okanye uxinzelelo.

Kukwafanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba bafumene unxibelelwano phakathi kokucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe kunye nokugqibelela okungalunganga.

Ndifumene ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe kukho xa abantu bejongana noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.

Ubuhlanga kunye nokuzonda abantu abathandana besisini esinye

Kuqikelelwe ukuba ukucinga okunamandla kunokuba yingcambu yolunye ulwahlulo lwethu oluqhubekayo kwezentlalo.

Ubuhlanga, ubundlobongela, kunye nokuziphatha kwabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana nabantu abathandana namanye amadoda bahlala behleli ngokwamaqela "kumaqela" nakumaqela "aphuma" kuluntu.

Ezi ngcamango zihlala zibandakanya ukubonakalisa iimpawu ezimbi phantse ngokukodwa kwiqela "eliphumayo".

Iingcinga ezigwenxa zihlala zisetyenziselwa ukuchaza amalungu ala maqela akholelwa ukuba awafani nawo.

Yintoni ebangela ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe?

Nangona ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kunye neemeko zempilo yengqondo ngamanye amaxesha kungofuzo, akukho phando lwaneleyo lokutsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukucinga kwabamnyama nabamhlophe ngokwako kulilifa.

Kodwa ke inxulunyaniswa nobuntwana okanye ukwenzakala kwabantu abadala.

Abaphandi bacinga ukuba xa sifumana umothuko, sinokuphuhlisa iindlela zokucinga ezinje ngesicwangciso sokulwa okanye ukuzama ukuzikhusela kwingozi ezayo.

Ungatshintsha njani ukucinga okumnyama nomhlophe?

Ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe kunokwenza ukuba izinto zibe nzima kuwe buqu kunye nomsebenzi, kwaye inxulunyaniswa neemeko zempilo yengqondo ezinokunyangeka.

Ngenxa yezi zizathu, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nengcali yezengqondo okanye ugqirha wezempilo yengqondo ukuba uqaphela ukuba ukucinga ngokugqithileyo kuchaphazela impilo yakho, ubudlelwane, okanye imeko.

Unokufuna ukusebenza nomntu oqeqeshiweyo, kuba kuye kwangqineka kuyimpumelelo ekujonganeni nokucinga okungathandekiyo.

Unokukufumanisa kuluncedo ukuzama ezinye zezi ndlela:

• Zama ukwahlula into oyenzayo kule nto uyiyo. Xa silinganisa intsebenzo yethu kwimetrikhi enye kunye nexabiso lethu liphela, siza kuba sesichengeni sokucinga abamnyama nabamhlophe.
• Zama ukudwelisa iinketho. Ukuba ukucinga okumnyama nomhlophe ukhiye kwiziphumo ezibini kuphela okanye okunokwenzeka, njengomsebenzi, bhala phantsi ezinye iindlela ezininzi onokucinga ngazo. Ukuba unengxaki yokuqalisa, zama ukuza neendlela ezintathu ekuqaleni.
• Ziqhelise izikhumbuzo eziyinyani. Xa uziva ukhubazekile ngenxa yokucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe, yithi okanye ubhale iingxelo ezincinci eziyinyani, njenge Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokusombulula le ngxaki, Ndiza kuthatha isigqibo esingcono ukuba ndithatha ixesha lokufumana ulwazi oluthe kratya, kunye Bobabini banokuba sinelungelo.
• Fumanisa ukuba abanye abantu bacinga ntoni. Ukucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe kunokukugcina ungaboni izinto ngokwembono yomnye umntu. Xa ungqubana nomntu, cela imibuzo ezolileyo ukuze ucacise uluvo lwabo.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukucinga okumnyama nomhlophe lutyekelo lokucinga ngokugqithileyo. Ngelixa kuyinto eqhelekileyo amaxesha ngamaxesha, ukuphuhlisa indlela yokucinga dichotomous kunokuphazamisa impilo yakho, ubudlelwane kunye nomsebenzi.

Inxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, kunye nenani lokuphazamiseka kubuntu, ke ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uthintelwe kukucinga ngombala omnyama nomhlophe, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe nonyango.

Ingcali inokukunceda ukuba ufunde amanye amacebo okutshintsha ngokuthe ngcembe le patheni yokucinga kwaye uphile ubomi obunempilo nobonelisayo.