Yintoni ukwahlula kwiBorderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?

Umxholo

• Yintoni eyahlula kwi-BPD?
• Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukwahlukana?
• Yintoni enokubangela isiqephu sokwahlukana?
• Imizekelo yokwahlukana
• Umzekelo 1
• Umzekelo 2
• Ngaba ukwahlukana kubuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane?
• Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokujamelana nokwahlukana ukuba uneBPD?
• Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokunceda umntu ohlangabezana nokwahlukana?
• Umgca wezantsi

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Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu ziimeko zempilo yengqondo ezibangela ukuba ucinge, uzive, kwaye uziphathe ngokwahlukileyo kunabantu abaninzi. Xa zinganyangwa, zinokubangela uxinzelelo okanye iingxaki kubomi babantu abanazo.

Esinye isifo esiqhelekileyo sobuntu sibizwa ngokuba ngumda wobuntu obungenamkhawulo (BPD). Ibonakaliswe ngu:

• Imiba yokuzibona ngokwakho
• ubunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha
• ubudlelwane obungazinzanga

Enye indlela yokuziphatha ekwabelwana ngayo ngabaninzi nge-BPD yaziwa ngokuba "kukuqhekeka kwento esasazwayo," okanye "ukwahlulahlula".

Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga nokwahlukana kwi-BPD kunye nendlela yokujamelana nayo.

Yintoni eyahlula kwi-BPD?

Ukwahlula into kuthetha ukwahlulahlula. Abo bane-BPD bavame ukuzibonakalisa, abanye abantu, kunye neemeko ezimnyama nezimhlophe. Ngamanye amagama, banokuthi ngesiquphe babonakalise abantu, izinto, iinkolelo, okanye iimeko njengazo zonke ezilungileyo okanye ezimbi zonke.

Banokukwenza oku nangona besazi ukuba umhlaba unzima, kwaye okuhle nokubi kunokubakho kunye.

Abo bane-BPD bahlala befuna ukuqinisekiswa ngaphandle kokujonga iimvakalelo zabo malunga nabo, abanye, izinto, iinkolelo kunye neemeko. Oku kunokubenza bathambekele ekwahlukaneni, njengoko bezama ukuzikhusela kunxunguphalo olubangelwa kukushiyeka, ukuphulukana nentembeko kunye nokungcatshwa.

Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukwahlukana?

Abantu abane-BPD bahlala benoloyiko olukhulu lokushiywa kunye nokungazinzi. Ukujongana nolu loyiko, banokusebenzisa ukwahlulahlula njengesixhobo sokukhusela. Oku kuthetha ukuba banokucoceka ngokwahlukileyo kwiimvakalelo ezilungileyo nezingalunganga malunga:

• ngokwabo
• izinto
• iinkolelo
• abanye abantu
• iimeko

Ukuqhekeka kuhlala kwenzeka rhoqo kwaye ngequbuliso. Umntu oneBPD uyalibona ilizwe xa linobunzima. Kodwa bahlala betshintsha iimvakalelo zabo ukusuka kokuhle ukuya kokubi endaweni yokuhlala rhoqo.

Isiqendu esahlulayo sinokuhlala kangangeentsuku, iiveki, iinyanga, okanye iminyaka ngaphambi kokutshintsha.

Yintoni enokubangela isiqephu sokwahlukana?

Ukwahlukana ngokuqhelekileyo kubangelwa ngumcimbi obangela ukuba umntu one-BPD athathe iimbono ezigqithiseleyo. Ezi ziganeko zinokuba yinto eqhelekileyo, njengokuhamba kuhambo lweshishini okanye ukuphikisana nomntu.

Rhoqo, iziganeko ezivuselelayo zibandakanya ukwahlukana okuncinci nomntu oziva esondele kuye kwaye kubangela uloyiko lokushiywa.

Imizekelo yokwahlukana

Unokuchonga ukwahlula ngokuxhaphakileyo ngolwimi lomntu one-BPD. Baza kuhlala besebenzisa amagama agqithisileyo kwizimilo zabo, abanye, izinto, iinkolelo, kunye neemeko ezinje:

• “Zange” kwaye “soloko”
• "Akukho" kunye "konke"
• “Kubi” “kulungile”

Nantsi imizekelo embalwa:

Umzekelo 1

Kudala usiva kamnandi ngawe, ngokubanzi. Uphume kuhambo lwendlela ngolunye usuku kwaye ujike ngendlela engeyiyo ekulahlekisayo okwethutyana. Ngesiquphe, naziphi na iimvakalelo ezilungileyo onazo ngawe ziyanyamalala, kwaye uzifumana uphantsi kakhulu kuwe.

Ungathetha izinto ezingathandekiyo kuwe okanye kwabanye, njengokuthi "Ndisisidenge esinje, ndihlala ndilahleka" okanye "Andixabisekanga, andinakwenza nantoni na elungileyo."

Ewe kunjalo, ukujika ngokungalunganga xa uqhuba akuthethi ukuba umntu akanaxabiso. Kodwa umntu one-BPD angahlula-hluka imbono yakhe ukunqanda uxinzelelo lwabanye ababone bengenaxabiso xa besenza lo msebenzi kuqala.

Umzekelo 2

Unomcebisi omthanda kakhulu. Baye bakunceda ngokomsebenzi nangobuqu, kwaye uqala ukubalungiselela. Kuya kufuneka bengenasiphako ukuba baphumelele kangaka kubomi babo bobuchwephesha kunye nobuntu. Ufuna ukufana nabo, kwaye ubaxelele njalo.

Ngenye imini umcebisi wakho ufumana iingxaki emtshatweni wabo. Oku ukujonga njengophawu lobuthathaka. Ngesiquphe, ujonga umcebisi wakho njengobuqhetseba nokusilela ngokupheleleyo.

Awufuni kwenza nto ngabo. Uzahlule ngokupheleleyo kunye nomsebenzi wakho kubo kwaye ujonge umcebisi omtsha kwenye indawo.

Ukwahlukana okunjalo kungashiya umntu enzakele, ecaphukile, kwaye edidekile kukutshintsha ngesiquphe kwimbono yakho.

Ngaba ukwahlukana kubuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane?

Ukuqhekeza ngumzamo ongazi nto wokukhusela i-ego kunye nokukhusela uxinzelelo. Ukuqhekeka kuhlala kukhokelela kugqithiso- kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuyonakalise- indlela yokuziphatha kunye nesiphithiphithi somntu kubudlelwane. Ukwahlula kuhlala kudida abo bazama ukunceda abantu abane-BPD.

Ukuqhekeka ngumzamo ongazi nto wokukhusela i-ego kunye nokukhusela uxinzelelo.

Abo bane-BPD bahlala bexela ukuba banobudlelwane obukhulu kwaye obungazinzanga. Umntu ongumhlobo ngenye imini unokubonwa njengotshaba olulandelayo. Olunye ulwalamano lobuhlobo lomntu one-BPD lubandakanya:

• ubunzima bokuthemba abanye
• ngokungenangqiqo ukoyika iinjongo zabanye
• ngokukhawuleza ayeke ukunxibelelana nomntu abacinga ukuba angaphela ebalahla
• Ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza kweemvakalelo malunga nomntu, ukusuka ekusondeleni kakhulu kunye nothando (ukuhlengahlengisa) ukungathandi okukhulu kunye nomsindo (ukwehla)
• Ukuqala ngokukhawuleza ubudlelwane ngokwasemzimbeni kunye / okanye ngokweemvakalelo
  

Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokujamelana nokwahlukana ukuba uneBPD?

Ukuqhekeza yindlela yokuzikhusela eyenziwa ngabantu abaye bafumana amava obomi bokuqala, njengokuxhatshazwa kunye nokushiywa.

Unyango lwexesha elide lubandakanya ukuphuculwa kweendlela zokuziphatha eziphucula umbono wakho ngeziganeko ezenzeka ebomini bakho. Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo nako kunokunceda.

Ukuba ufuna uncedo ngokujongana nesiqhekeza esiqhekezayo ngalo mzuzu, nantsi into onokuyenza:

• Zolisa ukuphefumla kwakho. Ukunyuka koxinzelelo kuhlala kuhamba neziqendu eziqhekezayo. Ukuthatha ixesha elide, ukuphefumla okunzulu kunokukunceda ukuthomalalise kwaye kuthintele iimvakalelo zakho ezigabadeleyo ekuthatheni indawo.
• Gxila kuzo zonke izivamvo zakho. Ukuzithoba kwinto eyenzekayo ngeenxa zonke kuwe kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokuziphazamisa kwiimvakalelo ezigqithileyo kwaye uncede ubeke ngcono imeko eyenzekayo macala onke kuwe. Yintoni onokuyinukisa, uyingcamle, uyibambe, uyive, kwaye uyibone ngomzuzwana?
• Fikelele. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uqhekeka, cinga ngokufikelela kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo. Banokukwazi ukukuzolisa kwaye bancede ukunciphisa ukwahlula ngelixa kusenzeka.

Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokunceda umntu ohlangabezana nokwahlukana?

Akululanga ukunceda umntu one-BPD ofumana ukwahlukana. Unokuziva unenceba yeempawu zabo. Ukuba uziva ukwazi ukunceda, Nazi ezinye iingcebiso:

• Funda kangangoko unako malunga neBPD. Kulula ukukhubekiswa kukuziphatha okukuhla nokuhla komntu oneBPD. Kodwa kokukhona uyazi malunga nale meko kunye nendlela enokuthi ichaphazele ngayo isimilo, kokukhona uya kuba nokuqonda okungakumbi malunga nokuziphatha kothandekayo wakho.
• Yazi izinto ezibangela umntu omthandayo. Rhoqo, iziganeko ezifanayo amaxesha ngamaxesha ziyi-BPD. Ukwazi izinto zomntu obathandayo, ukubalumkisa, nokubanceda baphephe okanye bajongane nezo zinto zinokubangela ukuthintela umjikelo wokwahlulahlula.
• Qonda imida yakho. Ukuba uziva ungakulungelanga ukunceda umntu omthandayo ukumelana neziqendu zeBPD ezahlulayo, thembeka. Baxelele xa befuna uncedo lweengcali. Nantsi indlela yokufikelela kunyango kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lonke.

Umgca wezantsi

I-BPD yintlupheko yempilo yengqondo ebonakaliswa ngokugqithiseleyo kwindlela umntu acinga ngayo, evakalelwa ngayo, kwaye enza ngayo. Abantu abaninzi abane-BPD benza ukubonakaliswa okugqithileyo malunga nabo, abanye, izinto, iinkolelo, kunye neemeko ngexesha leziqendu ezibizwa ngokuba kukwahlukana.

Iimeko ezinxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo zihlala zibangela ukwahlukana kweziqendu. Ngelixa kunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha, ukumelana neempawu zokwahlulahlula kunokwenzeka.

Ukufumana uncedo lobuchwephesha kunokukulungiselela ngokufanelekileyo ukujongana ne-BPD yakho kunye nokwahlulahlula imijikelezo.