Uyichaphazela njani iMithombo yeendaba yoLuntu kwizeMpilo yakho yeNgqondo kunye noMzimba

Umxholo

• Amaqumrhu abantu abadumileyo kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo anempembelelo kwindlela owubona ngayo umzimba wakho.
• Nditsho nezimvo ozibonayo kwimidiya yoluntu edumileyo zinokukuchaphazela.
• Nalu uncedo malunga nendlela yokusebenzisa imidiya yoluntu edumileyo ngelixa ugcina ukuzithemba kwakho.
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Imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo ibe yindawo ekhulayo ngokubalaseleyo emzimbeni womzimba kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo, kwaye abantu abadumileyo babenempembelelo enkulu kolu tshintsho-lokuba ngcono okanye kubi. (Inxulumene: Zimbi kangakanani i-Facebook, i-Twitter, kunye ne-Instagram yeMpilo yeNgqondo?)

Kwelinye icala, abantu abaninzi abadumileyo bathumela imifanekiso ye-Photoshopped kunye ne-Facetuned yabo ebonisa umgangatho wobuhle obungenakwenzeka.

Kwelinye icala, uninzi lweeselebs zisebenzisa imithombo yeendaba zentlalo njengeqonga lokwabelana ngemizabalazo yomzimba womzimba njengendlela yabo yokunxibelelana nabalandeli babo kunye nokulwangokuchasene le migangatho engekho ngqiqweni. Kwimeko apho, u-Lady Gaga wamkhusela "amanqatha esisu" kwi-Instagram. UChrissy Teigen uchaze ukuba akakaphulukani nabo bonke "ubunzima bomntwana" - kwaye mhlawumbi akayi kuzama. UDemi Lovato wabiza intatheli ukuba abonise ukuba ubunzima bakhe yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ngaye.

Ngaphezu koko, abantu abadumileyo abadume kakubi ngokunganyaniseki malunga nendlela abafezekisa ngayo imilo yabo-ahem, UKim Kardashian kunye "nesisu esisicaba" iti-bayabizwaenye I-celebs ngenxa yokuhlekisa kwabo.The Indawo elungileyoUJameela Jamil wenze injongo yakhe ukubiza abantu abadumileyo ngokutya. Kuba nangona kukhuselekile ukucinga ukuba uKim K unomkhosi wabaqeqeshi bakhe, abapheki, iingcali zokutya, kunye noogqirha beplastiki bemnceda ukuba ajonge iindlela azenzayo, kunokuba lula ukulibala ukuba xa umntu onempawu ezibonakalayo zomntu ezithandayo esithi ifumene indlela ekhawulezayo, elula ukuba ujongenjengabo.

Lilonke, izinto zibangcono kwi-celebrity-social-media front. Sekunjalo, ukuwusebenzisa kunokuba nempembelelo kwindlela owubona ngayo umzimba wakho, indlela owujonga ngayo umzimba wabanye abantu, kunye noko ukufumanisa kunomtsalane ngokubanzi. Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uyeke ukulandela abantu abadumileyo ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ukuxhotyiswa ngolwazi lwendlela inkcubeko yemidiya yoluntu enokukuchaphazela ngayo-ngokuqonda nangokungazi-yinto ebalulekileyo. (Idibeneyo: Indlela Ukuhlazisa Ngomzimba Ngomnye Umntu Ekugqibeleni Undifundise ukuyeka ukugweba amaBhunga amaTyhini)

Amaqumrhu abantu abadumileyo kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo anempembelelo kwindlela owubona ngayo umzimba wakho.

Nokuba uyayazi okanye awuyazi, mhlawumbi uyazithelekisa neeselebs ozibona kwezentlalo. Kungokwemvelo — ukuba kaninzi akunampilo — ukuba abantu bazithelekise nabanye, utshilo uCarla Marie Manly, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo osebenza ngokuzithemba nokubonakala komzimba, nombhaliUvuyo Olubangelwa Kuloyiko. Xa iifoto "ezigqibeleleyo" zabantu abadumileyo "abagqibeleleyo" zibekwe kwi-pedestal njengomgangatho "ofanelekileyo", "abo bangakwaziyo ukufikelela kweli nqanaba lingenakwenzeka lemfezeko ngasese (okanye kungenjalo-ngokufihlakeleyo) baziva behlazekile kwaye benesiphene, Uyacacisa. (Eyeleleneyo: Inani leeSelfies ozithathayo zinokuchaphazela umfanekiso womzimba wakho)

Impembelelo yokujonga imifanekiso yabantu abadumileyo kumfanekiso womzimba, ngakumbi kwabasetyhini, ibhalwe kakuhle kuphando. Kwesinye sezifundo ezidumileyo ngesihloko, abaphandi babonisa abantwana besikolo sabaqalayo imifanekiso yabantu abadumileyo okanye iimodeli. Amakhwenkwe aqhula kakhulu ngento ekuza kufuneka bayenze ukuze babukeke njengemifanekiso, kodwa amantombazana athetha izinto ezinje 'Kuya kufuneka ungatyi' okanye 'Kuya kufuneka utye emva koko uphose, "ucacisa. UTaryn A. Myers, Ph.D., usihlalo weSebe lezeengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseVirginia Wesley kunye nomphandi womzimba.

Abaphandi bade bajonge nakwinto eyenzekayo xa uzama ukubonakala njengabantu abadumileyo: Olunye uphononongo lubonise ukuba amantombazana aphakathi esikolweni anempembelelo embi ngokwembonakalo yomzimba kunye nokuziphatha kokuziphatha ngokulawula ii-selfie zabo kunokujonga nje imifanekiso yemveli yemidiya. Olunye uphononongo lubonise ukuba ukuthumela ii-selfies kwenza abafazi ngokukhawuleza bazive bexhala.

Ukanti omnye ufumanise ukuba amantombazana azithelekisa nemifanekiso yabantu abadumileyo kwimidiya yoluntu inxulumene nokungoneliseki komzimba womzimba kunye nokuqhuba ngobunzima. (Okubangela umdla kukuba, kwakungekho njalo kubafana.) "Ke ngokubanzi, ukubukela okanye ukuthumela imifanekiso kungasenza sizive sibi ngemizimba yethu, kwaye esi siphumo sinokwandiswa kwiifoto zabantu abadumileyo," utshilo uMyers.

Kwaye ngelixa wonke umntu enokuchaphazeleka kwinqanaba elithile, kukho abathile abanokuthi bachaphazeleke kakubi ngabantu abadumileyo kwimidiya yoluntu. "Imithombo yeendaba kwezentlalo inefuthe elikhulu kwabo bangabona basesichengeni, ukuzithemba kwabo kuvela kwindlela abanye ababona ngayo okanye abaphendula ngayo kubo kwaye bafuna 'ukulingana,' utshilo u-Adrienne Ressler M.A., LMSW, ingcali yomfanekiso womzimba kunye nosekela mongameli wophuhliso lobungcali kwi-Renfrew Centre Foundation. "Namhlanje, kunye nemiboniso ebonakalayo ethandwa kakhulu, umntu unokucinga ukuba, ngenhlanhla, nabani na unokuba ngumntu odumileyo." (Molo, #BachelorNation.) Ngamanye amagama, ukuba nabani na unokuba ngumntu odumileyo, unokuziva ngathi wonke umntu unjalokulindeleke ukuba ufanelekile ngabantu abadumileyo.

Nditsho nezimvo ozibonayo kwimidiya yoluntu edumileyo zinokukuchaphazela.

Ayizizo nje izithuba zabantu abadumileyo kunye nemifanekiso ngokwayo enokukuchaphazela. Ukubona abantu abadumileyo betrolwa okanye bethotywa isidima kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo kunokukwenza ukuba ukwenze kwabanye-nokuba kuyenzeka oko yi-IRL okanye entloko. (Idibeneyo: Ezi ziNto zoLuntu zezeNtlalontle zenza ukuba kube lula ukuzikhusela kwiiNgcaciso zeNtiyo kunye nokuKhuthaza ububele)

Konke oku kubulela kwinto ebizwa ngokuba ithiyori yokufunda kwezentlalo, iingcali zithi. "Sihlala sibukela abanye kwaye sibone ukuba ziziphi iimpembelelo zokuziphatha kwabo phambi kokuba sikhethe ukuzibandakanya nathi," ucacisa uMyers. "Ke ukuba sibona abanye besenza ezi zimvo zingalunganga ngaphandle kweziphumo (okanye badumise okanye 'bathanda'), ngoko ke sinokubandakanyeka kwezo kuziphatha ngokwethu."

Ngoku, oko akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu uqhubana ngenyameko ngenxa yokuba isimilo sokuziphatha simodelisiwe (nangona kunjalounako kuthetha ukuba kwabanye abantu). Ngokunokwenzeka, abantu baqala ukunyathela abanye-kunye nabo-ngokwengqondo. Uphononongo olutsha oluphuma kwiDyunivesithi yaseMcGill lufumanise ukuba xa abasetyhini bevezwa kwimizekelo yabantu abadumileyo bokuhlamba amanqatha, baziva besonyuka kwizimo zengqondo ezinxulumene nobunzima.

Abaphandi basebenzise idatha kuvavanyo lwe-Intanethi olwalufumaneka ukusuka kwi-2004 ukuya kwi-2015, echonga iziganeko ezingama-20 ezahlukileyo zokutyeba ezenzeka kumajelo osasazo-ngelo xesha uScott Disick onentloni ngomzimba Kourtney Kardashian ngokungabuyeli kubunzima bakhe bangaphambi kokukhulelwa. (Ugh.) Emva koko, balinganise inqanaba lokuthambeka okungafunekiyo (okanye ukusabela kwabantu emathunjini kukutyeba kunye nokubhitya) kwiiveki ezimbini ezidlulileyo kunye nakwiiveki ezimbini emva kwezi ziganeko zokuhlazisa umzimba. Abaphandi baqaphela i-spike kwizimo zengqondo ezichasene namafutha kwabasetyhini emva Umnyhadala ngamnye wokuthoba umzimba, kwaye okukhona "aziwa" ngalo msitho, kokukhona inyuka ispike. Ke, amandla abo okutshintsha aguqukele ekuthambekeni ngokobunzima. Ewe.

Cinga ngale nto: Wakhe wathi kuwe, "Owu, wow, ayisiyompahla ethambileyo" ngomnye umntu? Okanye "Ewe, le lokhwe indenza ndityebe ngokupheleleyo. Akufunekanga ndinxibe le" malungangokwakho? Ezi ngcinga aziphumi ndawo, kwaye nokuba uzigcine kuwe, zinokuba nefuthe kwindlela oziphethe ngayo kunye nendlela ojongana ngayo kunye nokuphatha imizimba yabanye abantu. "Okukhona siphambi kokungakhathali kunye nobukrwada, ukuqheleka kwayo kusenza ukuba siqhele, mhlawumbi singazi ukuba kwamkelekile, kodwa ukuphindaphinda kwayo kuye kusothuse," ucacisa uRessler. (Eyeleleneyo: Iindlela ezi-6 zokuGqibela Ukuyeka ukukhalazela okulungileyo)

Ngoko kwixesha elizayo xa uzifumanisa ucinga ngezi ngcinga, zibuze: “Ndiyifumene phi le ngcamango yokuba ukuba nolu hlobo lomzimba kubi? Okanye, "Kutheni le nto ndidibanisa ixabiso lokubonakala komzimba?" Ubomi bexabiso lobuhle kunye nenkcubeko yokutya ayinakuchazwa ngephanyazo, kodwa ukubuza ubume be-quo kunokukunceda ukuba usondele kumfanekiso womzimba osempilweni kwaye uphephe ukufaka isandla kwinto yenkcubeko esebenza kuphela ukuwisa abantu ngenxa yokungajongeki. IRL yodumo.

Kwinqaku elungileyo, abanye abantu abadumileyo bathatha ixesha labo ukubiza iitrolls kwaye babonise ukuba, nangona bedumile, izimvo zabanye zisabachaphazela.

Emva kokuba abantu bethe ujonge ukutyeba kumsitho womhlaza, uPinki waqhwaba izandla ngokuthumela umfanekiso-skrini wamanqaku kwi-Twitter: "Ngelixa ndivumayo ukuba loo lokhwe ayifotanga njengokuba yayisenza ekhitshini lam, ndizakuvuma ukuba ndaziva ndimhle kakhulu, enyanisweni, ndiziva ndibahle, ngoko ke zizwe zam ezilungileyo kwaye zixhalabileyo, ndicela ningabi naxhala ngam, andinaxhala ngam, kwaye andinaxhala ngani. ndonwabe ngokugqibeleleyo, kwaye nomzimba wam osempilweni, onamandla okuziqumbela kwaye ophambene kakhulu unexesha lam elifanelekileyo lokuphumla. Enkosi ngenkxalabo yakho. Uthando, ikhekhe. "

Nalu uncedo malunga nendlela yokusebenzisa imidiya yoluntu edumileyo ngelixa ugcina ukuzithemba kwakho.

Ngelixa indalo edumileyo yemidiya yoluntu itshintsha, usemninzi umsebenzi ekufuneka wenziwe. Omnye walowo msebenzi ukuwe, ukuze usebenzise umxholo osasazo osasazo ngendlela ekhusela wena kunye nomzimba wakho. (Idibene: Le Blogger yeza njani ukuze iqonde ukuba iZithuba zoMzimba azihlali ziHola ngendlela oJonga ngayo)

Ulwazi lwemidiya lungundoqo. “Zazise malunga nendlela le mifanekiso yabantu abadumileyo eyenziwa ngayo nasemva kokuba abantu abadumileyo benabaqeqeshi bobuqu, abaculi bokwenza izinto, njl.,” ucebisa uMyers. "Kwaye uqonde indlela ekungekho ngqiqweni ngayo ukuzama ukuhlangabezana neyona nto ifanelekileyo njengomntu oqhelekileyo."

Gcina imidiya yoluntu kwindawo yayo. “Ukuba kukho into oyithandayo ngosaziwayo, phawula ukuba yintoni na nendlela oziva ngayo—uvuyo, umnqweno, njalo njalo,” utsho uManly. "Qaphela ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze okuthile ngayo, uyithenge, okanye uzame ukuba 'yiyo; unokwazi nje ukuba uyayixabisa into yobomi bomnye umntu."

Ukuphelisa umjikelo weentloni. "Yeka ukuzibiza ngamagama amabi," ucebisa uRessler. "Zibambe nanini na xa ufumanisa ukuba ungubani na." Yithi kuwe, "Asindim lowo."

Beka ukungaboni ngasonye emsebenzini. Ukungaqondani kwengqondo kuthathelwa ingqalelo iingcinga okanye isimilo esingahambelani neenkolelo zakho eziqhelekileyo. "Kule meko, kuya kuba kuthetha izinto ozithandayo ngomzimba wakho kunezinto ozithiyileyo," ucacisa uMyers. “Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba iyasebenza ngokwenene njengendlela yokulwa nokungoneliseki komzimba ngokubanzi, kwaye uncwadi olukhulayo lubonisa ukuba luluncedo nakumakhasi onxibelelwano. Mna ngokwam ndiqhuba uphando apho kukho abasetyhini ababhala ingxelo ekhangayo malunga nemizimba yabo okanye into ethile. Ngaphandle kokubonakala kwabo kwaye uyithumele ku-Instagram. Ndifumanisa ukuba naluphi na uhlobo lwengxelo-yokungaqondani iyasebenza ekwandiseni ukuzithemba, ngakumbi ukuzithemba okunxulumene nokubonakala, kunye nokuphucula imeko.

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